TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :)

[mama31]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive for a lengthy period of time who may be considering/attending further tests/scans or is about to begin fertility treatment. I hope this thread can provide information and support, alleviate fears and can help one another to remain positive during this difficult journey that can only be understood by those experiencing it.

Please join and share your story, knowledge, support, laughter and tears.

Don't be embarrassed at all, they are so used to all this I promise you, you asking to go to the loo is nothing and to be expected. Promise me you'll ask them? You mustn't sit there worrying. I know exactly how you feel. I was on my af when I went so was completely paranoid about the whole thing! And I had planned to nip to the loo and had taken some baby wipes with me to freshen up, but when I got there I couldn't see the loo and he only sign I could see said 'male specimen lab and toilet' which dh pointed me to but I didn't want to risk it incase it was just for men doing their specimens!!!! But whilst I was then starting to panic as I wanted to ' clean up' the consultant called us through! Agh!! But he was lovely, just spoke to us then said the nurse was doing the scan after so I asked him at the end where the loos were. So I know how you feel hon, but it will be fine, promise!

Thanks for sharing that with me (us) one x x

Best of luck today victoria! One step at a time. Get to the hospital. Park. Walk to the building. Etc etc DH suffered terribly with anxiety and so I understand the need to reconcile everything in your head in advance, so you feel there will be no surprises. I know you've got this down, though! :-) xoxo

mana Still testing today? I'm not sure of we should allow you due to your slip up on Friday!!! ;-)

Welcome lil there re a few of us at that 15/16 month point an so I hope you'll find lots of helpful ideas and support through this thread.

As for me, weirdo period this month. Maybe it's the AC. I don't want to get into too much TMI for a Sunday! LOL! Just a lot heavier (but with my cycle being a week longer maybe that makes sense).

Can I also just be clear, for the avoidance of any doubt, that a Jennifer Anniston movie is NEVER the answer to ANYTHING! ;-)))

Ha! Lindsay, I'll bear that in mind!! We also started to watch a clanger yesterday. Have you seen PS I love you? We lasted all of 10 minutes, worst opening scene ever and Gerard butler's Irish accent was just ridiculous. Plus they started talking about having babies, so me and dh just looked at each other and without saying anything both switched it off!!!

thanks everyone. it is nice to know there are others out there in the sane boat.

Victoria I hope it all goes well for you today. my advice would be only think about the next thing you have to do and nothing beyond. so at the moment you just have to be there for 4, just like if you were going to work! I've had a couple of internal internal ultrasounds in the post and they were very quick.

one happy bday! I'm jealous of your pancakes...I may have to go and make some!

Not sure we're in the 'sane' boat lil, more the insane!!! Lol

BFN this morning of course! It's funny how you just expect it though, I guess that's what happens after some time. Just gona wait on af arrival now don't want to waste anymore money on tests as I do know af is on her wicked way...probably arrive wed or Thurs.

Victoria best of luck for your appointment, you have received great advice/support from the ladies on here I hope you are feeling less anxious. Let us know how it went x

Welcome Lil, your in great company and I hope you don't have to wait too much longer for your little one.

Onelife....shame on you!!! PS I love you is a great film! Granted GB accent is shocking but it is a bit of a tear jerker with a lot of laughs/fuzzy feelings throughout! I say watch it again.....alone....it is not a man's movie lol x

Ps there's nothing about babies in it, maybe just the one reference you seen ;)

Lindsay I think my period was a bit heavier last month on the AC also. Could be that.

mama are you spotting? What makes you think AF due wed or thurs?

Also ladies, my appt letter didn't tell me anything other than when to turn up and that if I ultimately wanted ivf I had to not smoke or be overweight... Nothing else. Should I be calling them up?

Also guys I would like to declare that this is the first month in 15 that DH and I have dtd only when we wanted to and not to order. I have also not used opks. I feel so free... Weird. I thought I'd feel out of control but I feel free...

victoria I'll be thinking of you and be logging in insight to hear all about it. Try not worry - so easy to say I know x

Hi M33R, we did that sort of this cycle. Still used opks though but prior to the pos opk we dtd when we wanted then when I got a pos opk I panicked slightly and did once on demand!

I'm not spotting (yet) and at 10dpo that is very good for me but it is the AC doing its job! If I am having a 26 or 27 day cycle af will be here wed or Thurs. I have all the usual signs: aggitated, tired, cranky, boobs very sore/full (always happens 4 or 5 days prior to af) and also I just know...you know how it is when it happens every month and you just know. depressing really!

I would love to ditch the opks this month but as it will be 3rd cycle on AC (which apparently it take 3 cycles for full effect) I just want to see if it will make me ovulate a day sooner again. It's interesting as have ovulated a day sooner last 2 cycles so if it does that again I will be happy. And I must say it definately has sorted the spotting to some degree as I'm 10dpo so that is my first undisrupted LP and even if spotting starts I got to 10dpo that is progress.

I'm trying to stay positive. Although I just wish af would come and go now. Hate waiting on it when you know it's coming. And despite knowing....there will still be tears. Hormones are crazy things!

haha I always seem to have brilliant typos!

mama its all the waiting thats the worst isn't it. waiting to ovulate, waiting for AF, waiting for drs! fx she stays away unexpectedly!

m33r that app letter sounds solo helpful! can't believe how insensitive ppl can be in this process.

as for ditching the opks I did it for one month and it was fine but I hated not knowing when AF would show. I ov anywhere between CD 14 and 25!!

as for PS I love you.... the film is crap compared to the book. but still an OK watch.

Hi ladies can I join you?

ttc for 18 calendar months, mc's at 9 and 5 weeks currently having 24 day cycles and an 6dpo today based on dates and going mad symptom spotting as having 'period' pain today

Hope you're all well

Afternoon all, not checked in for a while. I am onto cycle 11 now. Have been trying and failing to see my GP this week. bastard receptionists. At our surgery you have to phone at 8.30am for an appointment that day which would be fine if i didn't work full time 15miles away! Although some appointments always seem to be pre booked, i have yet to work out how to get one.

I've started using CB digis this month (today) first time using opk of any kind.

Happy Sunday folks. Hi to newbies lil and normal, welcome to our very supportive thread.

victoria fx that all goes well for you today. You poor thing, you really do seem to suffer from a lot of anxiety. Remember that this day will come to an end, that you can get through it and that you should have more info by the end of today. That J anistion film is truly awful! lol

onelife i totally agree, ps i love you, biggest load of dudu ever! Just awful irish accent from GB. He's lucky he's good looking, otherwise I'd never forgive him.

Not feeling the love for life at the moment at all. So much going on in my wider family at the moment that has my head spinning. Also despite being only 5 dpo, i am convinced im not pregnant. Its's like negative symptom spotting for me, my head keeps saying 'see, no symptoms, nada, nothing.' I don't even have a smidge of a symptom of anything. Nothing to obsess/consume myself with. It's kind of depressing. Also our smep didn't exactly go as planned at all, since we ended up away last weekend, we missed dtd on cd14, but dtd on cd15, but then i got my full smiley face on cd16 so we dtd that day, then on cd17, and according to smep we should have dtd on cd18 also. I was completely wiped out by cd18 and neither of us could muster any energy at all to dtd. So next dtd was cd22. Im sure my ship has sailed this month and i can't even say im depressed about it all, more resigned to my fate of a bfn. I am swimming in a little pool of negativity at the moment and im hating it, because once af hormones start to appear i know im going to be a demon again despite my awareness of my demon like behaviour.

I told my sil on friday about our ttc, shes great, very understanding and has 3 kids. Did her best to tell me not to worry. Her best advice was legs in the air after dtd, no toilet, no moving. I am definitely giving this a go next month. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

Right I'm back.... I think I'm normal... The radiologist was not exactly very chatty, just got on with her business and I'm led there in this awkward silence. She was poking this thing into my belly, frowning, moving it, frowning, tapping something onto the computer, frowning, poking some more, frowning.... I really didn't know what was happening and I couldn't see the screen or what she was typing in!
Then she did the internal one (wow it looked like something out of Ann summers!) And she did more poking and frowning. Then she eventually said it didn't look like I had pcos. Said she couldn't tell me anything about dodgy test results, that was for the GP to say. Now thinking about it maybe I should have asked more questions but I just didn't get a friendly vibe to do so. Also I'm worried she was only checking my ovaries and not anything else, she must have checked everything else yeah?!

Martie sounds like you dtd plenty of times hun x

Victoria glad you survived! Ann summers indeed, especially dodge when they use a condom on it! hope u get more info from go soon.

notta can you ask for our gp to call you, then if you phone back after speaking to Dr and Dr has told you to make an app they should give you a prebooked one. seems to be how it works at my surgery as I can prebook when I come out of GPs room back to reception.

martie I know what you mean about being resigned to AF and a bfn. I have the odd day like today now where I think "is that a symptom" but then I remind myself its ridiculously unlikely. I guess its a coping mechanism, if we don't hope we can't be disappointed. im sorry i don't know your story, but try and stay positive, the bus has to stop sometime

Victoria glad you got through your appointment, despite the frowning lady! Some people have no empathy at all, it's so disappointing to see when you are seeking support regarding something so sensitive! Yet get no sensitivity at all!

Well spotting has started, later than usual which is better and knew it was coming. So 3 days of spotting then af! To be honest my cycle is not that much better than when I first started ttc as I would have had 3-4 days spotting prior to af arriving, it's only recent months that it got worse with 5-7 days spotting. So I guess it's just gone back to the way it was. I might up the AC after af clears off to 2 tablets a day again to see how that goes.

Feeling a bit blue today, but that's because I have spotting and Monday blues! I know by the weekend I will be fine again. Just have to get through this week, let af arrive, keep busy and then motivate myself for cycle 11.

Hope everyone is having a better Monday.

6/7 dpo and have a bit of spotting/cramps. Would have been excited if it wasn't for the fact I was probed yesterday :-( anyone else get it?

Hey mama. I had a fantastic weekend but am now struggling a bit with Monday too... Need to perk up and reflect that this is NOT ttc blues but Monday blues and just get on with it but am finding it tough today... Mind you, 1 week to my appt.

And I may or may not be in 2 ww ... Not sure if I'll start to regret not doing the opks...!?!

m33r I'm now a day behind you. found out this morning that my app will be next Tues. feeling nervous and no idea what to expect. hope ur Monday picks up. the weather is awful here, that doesn't help the mood. I've just had a sausage sarnie to try and lift my spirits! might hit the chocolate next!

I'm now 7dpo and had another day of 'period' pain so I'm keeping everything crossed.

DH has been complaining that he hates being made to feel he has to have sex and that the romance is going from it for him which is making him want to stop. He's never been a man who likes a quickie either so it's been a very difficult process for me to say the least!! I have politely pointed out to him that yes it sounds like a prescription but yes we really so need to be having sex more than once or twice a week right now. He's having none of it.

So frustrating!!

How do you ladies keep the romance Alive? (Tbh I Cba with romance these days, the kids put paid to that long ago!)

victoria excellent news that everything seems ok, can't believe the attitude of some people though, I don't care if you see people wanting a baby all day everyday and have run out of empathy, to us it is everything and all of these tests can make a world of difference! Is it really so hard to put up a sympathetic ear and a smile for 5 minutes!?
I have heard about people getting spotting after smears etc, so I guess it could have been the probe causing it, but at least you know it's not due to an early AF? Also you sound just like me with your anxiety! I am terrible for fear of the unknown, I like to know exactly what to expect whenever I go anywhere. I have just been discharged from physio appointments and am so glad because I used to panic every time I went about where to park, would I be late, what should I wear, what would he make me do...I'm such a head case

Lindsay how is AF going? (Hows that for a weird question!) I guess the AC will make some difference, but if it lengthens your LP it's got to be worth it! I'm intrigued to see if the VitB has made a difference this cycle, on cd11 today, not got a +ve opk yet but it's still early days.

mama sorry for your BFN, and spotting. I too wish I could ditch the opks but am going to have to keep it up for a few months yet to see if the BVit makes a difference. Hope you feel a bit better tonight, cheeky bottle of wine??

My GP is also random, you have to ring in the morning for an 'emergency' appointment, but that is the only way to get an app! I somehow managed to book to see a female GP 10 days in advance, but I think they change the rules everyday!

Hello to everyone else, and welcome to the newbies! Sorry can't reply to everyone, desperately need to go and get on with some housework.....