All that she wants is A baby! The Berries searching for the 'sign' but never symptom spotting (honest), possibly using a vagina jack and trying to get a FUFC before boarding the IVF train (thread 18)

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The smallprint –
Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 12+months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot and def no mention of baby dust or baby dancing UGH !!! Ooooh aren’t we strict!

tiger sorry the birth hit you, I'm waiting for colleague's announcement, she was due yesterday...

otters I'm being antisocial tonight as well, on the sofa with a mate's dog we're looking after while DH has taken our dog to the pub! My mc was now 6 months ago and it still hits me in waves when I'm not expecting it. I was feeling very down this morning and was wallowing a bit as DH had left early for a big race I was supposed to be doing with him but haven't been able to run since injuring myself at Christmas. On top of the spotting, rubbish cycles, and the bad googling of my results I was spiralling down quickly! I texted a couple of friends and ended up going out for a nice walk with four dogs between us, followed by a pub lunch. Got none of the intended jobs done for today, but I think it was a better idea!

I really should pick up the knitting I started in December and haven't had time to finish, but I'm at a tricky bit and I'm too tired to concentrate!

I didn't drink for a year when I started ttc, and now I drink on occasion, but not very much. No-one tried to get me to drink at my hen do or wedding, but then pretty much everyone knows I'm trying and quite a few know about the mc, so I think they just wouldn't comment as I've been drinking little or nothing for over two years now, with only the odd splurge (when I might drink three glasses of wine and wake up with a stinking hangover )

Gillster I used to watch OBEM but I just can't face it now. I can't even watch Call the Midwife anymore, and I used to be ok with that. Hope you get somewhere on Monday - it's infuriating when you just can't get through to the people you need to speak to to get things sorted.

That's crap Gill. Hope they manage to sort you out asap. All this waiting is pants! I pained myself watching OBEM last week so gave it a miss this time round.

Sorry to Rp and Happy that AF is in the house.

Barking- stop reading the web and just fling loads of questions at them when you go to your appt next week.

Tiger- Feeling for you with the birth of your friends baby. I'm sure you're delighted for her but it really does hit home.

Otters - chin up chuck. I'm with you on the anti-socialness. Fobbing off offers to go out in favour of staying in is my cup of tea.

Tiger sorry about the birth announcement, it's always hard but at least if you can prepare yourself it's easier. My friends 3rd is due shortly.

Otters hope you feel a little better today.

Gill that is so frustrating, I hope you get through tomorrow & get a date.

Barking, not long til your appointment, I'm a googler too so I know how hard it is not to, but stop! At least til after your appointment my FC app is a week on Wednesday. HSG tomorrow too. Fx for clear tubes!

Hope everyone else is ok and having a lovely Sunday. I''m visiting the in laws which (stops me googling) at least takes my mind off things despite being surrounded by tons of kids!

Wow! Very quiet in berry HQ! Everyone must still be out enjoying the sunshine still. I was out for a nice long walk but now back to doss around on the internet do some planning for school.

Boo!

Hi all, hope everyone's been enjoying the gorgeous sunshine and feeling a bit more positive for lots of spring BFP's. I don't post often as we've been going au naturel since Dec'12 (GL diet & acupuncture, Zita West vits etc ) and not had a huge amount to contribute, but we passed the tic 12 month mark, had a blood test and a chat with the GP who agreed it was time to refer us to the FC back in Jan (bloods seemed ok according to Doc). Checked FC website who said they aim to respond to GP letter within 4 weeks with an appointment but we didn't hear anything and it was getting on for 6 weeks. I chased it with the Dr's surgery who said the letter was written the same day by the GP (same day =impressive :) )but FC has no record of receiving it (bugger). Surgery then faxed letter & I received an appointment letter in post the next day (impressed again). So our first FC appointment is this Tuesday (eek). I know lots of you lovely berries have been in the same position so just wondering if any of you have any pointers?

Is it just me or has the lovely sunshine seem to have brought out a plethora of bumps and babies?-even just round the supermarket yesterday there was no escaping,lol, and both me and OH have been fending off multiple questions from different sources about us having children whilst out separately last night. I'm sorry but when did our choices/timings etc of us starting a family become everyone's general business?I would never dream of asking friends/colleagues about if and when they were planning on having children.

Also just been hit by a friend announcing her (bit of a surprise to us) 3rd pg, we'll be holidaying with them in a few weeks and OH & I had hoped to be pg ourselves by the holiday so we feel v.happy for friend & OH but a bit sad for us, but my friend is so lovely & even offered to cancel them coming on the holiday as I think she knows we're ttc but with no success yet. She totally deserves it though as she is the loveliest person I know.

Funny old game this ttc malarky ;) x

Hi Snow - nice to hear from you, but sorry you've had no luck so far.

I hope your FC appointment goes OK. My first one was actually with a registrar, rather than the FC herself, and all that happened was they asked a few questions and then got me booked in for an HSG. Everyone's experiences are so different though, so it's anyone's guess really!

Hi snow .
Ditto what boodle said for my experience. My first appointment was a nurse who filled in forms and booked me in for a dildocam and hsg.

I had a pootle on the bike in the sunshine this morning and then did school work fell asleep on the sofa this afternoon.

so still got the lesson planning to do and there's nothing I feel like doing less right now

Hi snow I guess I was lucky, my first FC appt was with the main consultant and she went through blood tests, did dildocam and then explained what was next, laparoscopy and hysteroscopy in my case. Hope you get a good doctor

Evening all! I hope everyone is suitably sunburnt - what a beaut of a day!
Back from our weekend at the seaside and feeling very relaxed, got peak days on CBFM too so hopefully relaxation will help

snow my first appt was similar to Boodle and Barking. After doing forms with the nurse we did get to see the consultant, but she was a bit "meh, everything's working, what do you want me to do?". Rubbish.

Have any of you Berries used, or do you know anyone who's used, the services of Lucy @ Catching Rainbows?
I've relied on her site quite a bit for vits advice, but am wondering about trying her £40 personal plan. Is it a bit woo? Am I wasting my money? I just feel the need to do something, as nhs aren't any help at the moment and am reluctant to pursue full on fertility clinic stuff for a bit longer.

Hi snow, my appointment was much like the others. A student took our details and then a very brief chat with the consultant who was rushed because they were running about an hour behind. Take a list of questions so that if you do get the opportunity to ask them then you can be sure you have covered everything. I forgot to ask half the things I had thought of beforehand.

beaky hope the hsg goes well tomorrow. Mine was fine last week - its over fairly quickly. I'm impressed that your follow up is in a week, ours is in May which seems like an age away.

I know what you mean parsley about needing to do something that helps when the nhs isn't doing anything.

What a gorgeous day! Lovely sunny walk and then pub beer garden for a few soft drinks with friends including a pg friend. It certainly felt like bumps and children were everywhere here too.

Curiosity got the better of me parsley and I had a look at the personal plan. I can see the appeal as it would feel good to get all the concerns off my chest that the FC and gp don't seem at all interested in. My only concern would be that spending the 40 quid could lead the a response that compels you to spend a load more cash....

I also read her blog piece about oestrogen dominance - sounds a bit like me. I had a sudden hormonal shift it seemed a couple of years ago, and starting having awful periods and a few other symptoms of those that she describes, including terrible tiredness all the time. The only recommendations she makes are dietary and doing a detox, and I'm already pretty good with what I eat. If I had cash to burn I'd go and do a 7 day juice detox and completely clear out my system in lovely surroundings.

Hi Snow, my first appointment was much like the majority, I saw a fertility nurse who was really good and she explained my blood tests that I had at the GPs (I took copies of mine and dhs sa results so they had them there and then) which the GP didn't really do. She took loads of info from us both then requested a dildocam and HSG and progesterone tests. Hope your appointment goes well.

Tiger, my first FC appointment was in Jan and HSG was supposed to be early feb but didn't go ahead so this is why it's so close to my follow up. They do seem relatively quick though.

Parsley glad you had a lovely weekend and fx for you this cycle. I've not heard of Lucy/catching rainbows but can it hurt to try? I will have a little google I'm not averse to a bit of woo as I struggle to be positive sometimes and frankly I'll try most things. I also need to feel like I'm doing something proactive!

parsley you've just given me another site to read obsessively ! I don't think it sounds too 'woo', but I'm also a bit cynical in terms of cash as tiger said - I doubt the £40 would be it, you'll probably be guided towards something else to buy! Which isn't to say it wouldn't work. I'm forking out £45 every bloody week for acupuncture and chinese herbs and a couple of years ago I'd have laughed at the idea....

parsley Lucy is amazing - she did my personal plan a while back and it was so worth it. Mentioned it in my post a few days back. Her clomid assistance relaxation mp3 is very good too and was my only piece of sanity the whole time I was on the drug - and they're not that long either, which is great!

Hope everyone's had a lovely weekend in the sunshine.

Ps. Lucy doesn't try to flog you anything after buying the plan. The only reminder I have from her is the blog mail out once every so often which are a great read.

Now you've got me wondering about the plan feather. Is the questionnaire really thorough? Would I be able to get advice on my wonky cycles and the chances of them being a contributing factor to the mc?

Yep, barking - it's v thorough. Can't remember exactly how long but it ran into several pages. I paid her via paypal, she worked on my programme for a couple of days and the.
emailed it over. She was more than happy to answer questions I emailed her afterwards, and months later when I emailed her to ask her something about one of her blog posts, she got back to me. I only have good things to say about her, really.

Hello all! Had a lovely day today, going for a long walk on Dartmoor. Gorgeous!

I have also discovered - although hopefully none of you will actually need to use this - reusable sanpro! Well I've always used Mooncups but I've started with washable sanitary towels. They are lush! So cosy and not at all like normal horrid plasticky pads.

Also stupid Q - should I wait for the fertility clinic referral to discuss my bloods? I just automatically made an appt with the GP.... I figured she might want to suggest something first.

rp I rang my gp for the results of my bloods. As they requested the tests I think they would expect to discuss the results with you or at least report them back.

feather you have really sold the personal plan . Have been reading through her blog posts and some of them are very interesting. I like her approach!

Now I want that personal plan too! Where is she based? (the website doesn't say)

Ooo I want a personal plan too! Feather you should get a commission for her upcoming berry sales! What did the plan involve? Was it supplements/food/diet recommendations etc?

RP, I went in to discuss my blood results but all she said was they were fine, she didn't do numbers or specifics. Later when I went to FC they went through them in detail with me.

Think she's based in Dorset. Yep, plan is all about diet and lifestyle changes and she's got a great, non-pushy approach!.... I really should be getting a 25% cut!

I need to dig my plan out as when I got it done last year, I was in the middle of all the clomid stuff and any really remember what she said...

Oh, and she also writes you personalised affirmations and stuff. She's a bit hippy, but as I said before, I don't mind a bit of that - it's a nice break from all the science and cold hard facts!

Thanks for your experience feather. I decided to go ahead - she wrote me a lovely email last Fri totally tackling my hidden worries head on without having even completed the questionnaire. At the very least it's just a chance to be listened to properly.