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'TTC after a miscarriage - heres to bouncing 2007 babies'

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pepperpots · 01/08/2006 13:05

Well here is the new thread
Here is wishing everyone all the luck in the world and i hope everyone's stay is short (meant in the nicest possible way!)

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edie123 · 08/09/2006 15:34

Just telephoned the Early Pregnancy Assessment Unit who say that I am not booked in to have anything done on Monday apart from a scan and that I may have to wait another week! I explained that I feel shaky and dizzy and keep getting really bad headaches but they said the same thing, that they have to make 100% sure that the baby has not survived, however I know it hasn't as I feel so unwell and keep having cramps.

Kind of don't know what to do now.

firststar · 08/09/2006 15:42

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andi0411 · 08/09/2006 15:50

Edie - i'm with Firststar- but it's hard isn't it- you just want to put a full stop after this painful time and it feels like its dragging.
On Monday- when they have told you the out-come of the scan and if its what you think it is then try to stress the point that this is giving you emotional and physical pain..can they not do s' thing sooner etc..
I know i'm not much help but one thing i do know is you do have to be forceful sometimes- i have always felt like the medical treatment i have received has been dictated by how forceful i am- and believe me i've become more forceful.

edie123 · 08/09/2006 17:28

Andi and Firststar

Thankyou both for your advice. Yes I am really looking forawrd to next weekend. And yes I think I will have to put my foot down a bit on Monday. I was so angry to think that this may all drag on for more time but I know it's not anyone's fault, it's just unfortunate and I know people go thru far worse every day. I just think it can't be good to let it go on inside you?

Nicki10 · 08/09/2006 17:46

Hi Girls

Well I'm back from the hospital I feel a bit tired and a bit whoozey. The D+C was a complete disaster and sine have been very teary.

They said they couldn't get anything out so they think the sac is still in there, they tried three different ways but there was still nothing. I am bleeding and in a bit of pain and just so upset that I'll have to go through it all again.

I have an appointment next Friday at the EPU for a scan and then next time they will do the op with an ultrasound for guidance.

Just feel really disappointed in my body, first it could keep the baby alive then it couldn't get rid of it on it's own and now it won't let anyone else take it out.

edie123 · 08/09/2006 19:01

Nicki

That's terrible. Didn't know that could happen. How cruel. Best of luck, guess it could just happen in the next few days on it's own? Especially as you have had that procedure anyway, maybe it will start things off, who knows. Good luck I hope you don't have to endure any more pain.

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babyfettle · 08/09/2006 21:15

Oh Nicki - I'm sorry, I haven't heard of that happening. At least in my case, they thought my initial ERCP had been successful - although it then took 8 weeks of constant bleeding, two courses of strong antibiotics in case I had an infection, before they rescanned me and found some pregnancy tissue left. My second one was done with an hysteroscope, so they could be certain they had removed everything. It was slightly more painful than the first and I was a bit more tired afterwards as you are under anesthetic for longer, but I can't really remember bleeding at all after the second one.

Look after yourself over the next few days - this part is the absolute worse {{{{BIG BIG HUGS!!!}}}}}

Smole - don't leave us until you are ready to, I don't know about the others, but it gives a sense of hope having successful BPF's around! and take every scan they offer, I certainly will be when/if I get pg again.

Edie, I had 2 scans, the 1st diagnosed my mc, the 2nd confirmed it a week later and then I had to wait a further week for a bed to be available for the op, so I can really appreciate how frustrated you are feeling at the moment. I hope you manage to enjoy your weekend away with DH, he sounds as if he is being really supportive, which is great. I'm not sure how I would have coped without my DH back in Feb when I had my mc.

Take care, everyone else - hope AF is still staying away for those waiting for it.

andi0411 · 09/09/2006 14:48

Afternoon ladies-

Nicki- I am so sorry about about this- you really just could do without it. I'm so sorry it's adding to your misery my thoughts are with you.

Edie- how're you today- have you got yourself prepared for Monday- mentally i mean- if so just try to relax this week- end. it's hard i know. I really do.

Hi to Firststar and Babyfettle- how're you?

Hi to all others..I'm cd11 today-so this is the interesting bit, then the dreaded wait.....
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edie123 · 09/09/2006 18:04

Andi

Don't think that anything other than a scan is happening mon although other people on here have said to be a bit forceful about waiting around as it's too hard. Went and bought loads of new clothes today which was good apart from seeing lots of pregnant people or people with babies in town! xx

babyfettle · 09/09/2006 21:25

Hi everyone - temps still down, no sign of anything. Off at 6am with work for 5 days, then DH is back on Monday am of the following week, so hopefully TTC will be possible that week, but I'm sure I've read somewhere that late ovulation is never successful and I'm on around CD21 now, before mc generally ov on CD 25-28, so think I'll be too late for DH annoyingly. BUt hey ho!!

At least I'm not thinking negatively about due date on Monday - now that my friend at work is a grandmother, I no longer feel she is counting down to my due date and I feel fine about it - sad still, but not tearful!

Take care all - hope I cope without you for next 5 days. x

Uki · 10/09/2006 09:33

hello all
Niki i hope you are doing ok?
so sorry it's all going so poorly, is it a good hospital/doctor? i only ask especially in light of what you said before about infections. I was also trying to say before, but failed that If possible i would wait naturally, as at least that way you cannuse D&C as backup if you need to you can test this by ultrasound or standard preg test to see if hormone levels have droped. I mainly say this as I only found this out recently that if D&C is not done properly it can leave you infertile, i.e if they scvra`pe to much, i guess tha's why they stopped with you. sorry but i think that's rather scary!!!

Hope everyone else is doing ok. Sorry to hear your news Edie,

congrat's smole- if you have a nuchal you wouldn't need another 12 week sacn that one is pretty through

I am back to normal now AF did arrive. So i guess i'll TTC next cycle if brave enough. I also have specialist appointment this week at reccurent m/c clinic.

Uki · 10/09/2006 09:35

sorry for the lazy spelling that loooks like spanish
I meant to say scrape away to much- TMI really

andi0411 · 10/09/2006 18:56

Hi to everyone..

Nicki and edie- how are you both- thinking of you at this time, it's hell i know. Let me know how you're getting on?

Good luck to everyone else- we need some good luck news soon i think..I'm keeping it all crossed for one of us to be lucky and successful in this ttc nightmare very soon.

Love A

edie123 · 10/09/2006 20:43

Andi

Thanks for asking, Im not too bad although like others say it's a rollercoaster isn't it? Going to hospital tomorrow for another scan which Im not looking forward to.

How are you?

andi0411 · 10/09/2006 21:58

Hi edie- I'm ok thanks. I'm on cd12 today and this is my 3rd proper cycle after my last m/c so i'm hopeful again. I still had hcg in my body for 8 weeks after my last mc so i guess that could have been preventing my getting pg again, however it went below 5 on the 13th Aug so like i said, i'm hopeful again now.

Are you going to try to press them to address your issues tomorrow? I really think that if the u/s scan shows what we fear it will then they should give you your treatment this week- i know you're going away next week-end and it would be so much better if you had some resolution wouldn't it?
Is there really no hope though- i know you have said you're in pain- but could it still be poss you're pg- strange things happen and i've heard lots of good stories on here...Either way I'll be around tomorrowand will be thinking of you.

rubles · 11/09/2006 08:42

Sorry I've not been around for ages but my pc at home isn't working so I have had to wait to come into work.

Nicki - that's so terrible for you. I'm so sorry it's all drawn out for you when you just want it over.

Edie, hope you're OK today. Let us know how it goes.

Big hugs to both of you.

Has anyone 'seen' Ruthlouise around recently? I am wondering how she is.

Smole - do keep posting here. I'm with Babyfettle on this, I like to hear about the 'graduates' on this thread.

Babyfettle - it's really disappointing about dp coming back when he is. It's very bad luck.

Hi to everyone, sorry if I haven't replied to everyone's posts here.

edie123 · 11/09/2006 09:00

Morning Andi

Really don't think there is any hope for today but whatever happens, I haven't even thought that it all might be ok so at least I won't be disappointed. Yeah I do just need it done now. Family have suggested that I lie and say im going away for 2 weeks so need it done this week or I won't get it. Other option is the medical one I guess, if they can do that today. Although have heard some scary stories about it hurting. Wish I knew which one will cause less harm, I know hosp will say that none of them do but im so worried about my future fertility. How are you? xx

Angsthase · 11/09/2006 11:02

Edie - Hope you're appt will be ok. My EPU gave me the option to get it done same day or next after my second scan confirming the m/c. Push for what you want.
All invasive procedures involve risk. It's just a case of weighing them up, knowing the liklihood. I chose the ERPC because I didn't want to "see" what came out or endure the pain. I was more scared of that. My thoughts are with you luv, it's a crap time

Nicki - oh poor you. How awful for you having to go through all that. Give yourself a couple of days to rest up and consider your options. Hope you get good advise and care.

Uki - hope your appt goes well and you get more info.

Firststar - how are you?

Smole - you're our inspiration. Please stay around as long as you like.

Rubles - how you doing today. I'm in the same boat as you no internet at home. Driving me mad

Babyfettle - sorru the timing is wrong for you. Know how frustrating that is

Andi - Hope you're enjoying the fun bit

firststar · 11/09/2006 13:31

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edie123 · 11/09/2006 15:26

Got to wait another week before having the d and c. We even asked if we could go to another hospital!
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firststar · 11/09/2006 15:55

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andi0411 · 11/09/2006 16:10

Hi ladies,

Oh Edie I'm so sorry you have to wait another week now- really you'd think that they could get this done for you this week wouldn't you? Did they give you a reason or not? Also did you say you were going away? I wonder if there's any way you could get this sorted out earlier- or are you ok now to just have your week-end away and then get the procedure (sorry crap word i know) done. Thinking of you- came on earlier but my pc kept booting me off every 2 mins..let me know. xx

Hi to Firtstar, Rubles Angsth and Nicki- and anyone else of course- how are you all? Esp Nicki at this awful time- how are you today?
It's so nice we have each other - and we know what each other is going/ has gone through. I know it's hell mis-carrying but -after 3- I'm still trying to be pos. I have a fertility appt in Oct, so if nothings happened this month then hopefully I'll get the help i need.
Thinking of you all.

edie123 · 12/09/2006 08:49

Andi

They just don't appear to have any beds in the Day Procedure Unit. I was soooo angry and even typed a letter of complaint to the director. As I said on the mc thread I just keep imagining that I am behind somebody waiting for something like an ingrown toenail to be removed.

By the time it is removed it will have been inside me, non viable (again a horrible word) for 7 weeks.
Disgusting.

firststar · 12/09/2006 09:13

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Uki · 12/09/2006 10:54

Hello and good morning ladies
it's evening here but i thought i might post before i have an early night, I am emotionally drained.

I had my appointment at recurrent m/c clinic, but didn't even get to see the professor i booked with, his offsider instead she was very through with my history and tests, and then showed the prof, but they had no answers for me and no real treatment!!!
I feel guttered. Had to sit around waiting an hour with lots of glowing bumps and just thought why me stuff. I should be finish having my family by now. it's been 3 and half years of ttc and m/c's. I know some of you feel the same and have had more m/c, but i just can't live with another, in fact i think i'd like to give up but dh wants another child.

I am really winging, how is everyone else -andi,eddie,josie.
It was nice to read the positive threads at the start of this thread.
How and what are pepperpots, trace2, time4tea and desperate2bemum doing?

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