hello all, sorry for the length below but...
after the 13 week scan I was so emotionally drained by the stress followed by relief that just flopped out. thanks again to all of your for the support and good wishes. then went on holiday to Cornwall with DS, BF and her two kids. Exhausting, but great fun and a good change of scene, then I was so delighted to get back and find two BFPs while I've been away - congratulations Sky and Nicola. I was jubilant to see Nicola on the pg after mc thread. wonderful news, I went and told DH all about it, realised how you are just as much friends as in RL . I wish similar good news for you all, very soon.
LittlePolly, I saw your post and questions about anti-depressants and pg, and I agree with what Babyfettle had to say, especially about St. John's wort not being a soft option. I'm on citalopram (a forerunner of prozac, fairly similar), have been for 3 years. I hit a really bad patch, unknown to me this is the time that DS was conceived, went on citalopram, then panicked when I found out at about 10 weeks that I was pregnant (I mistook what must have been an implantation bleed for a period, didn't do much bd'ing, thought there must be no way I was pg) in case the anti-depressants had harmed the baby. My GP (who is great) said that I would be amazed how many babies are conceived and born on anti-depressants, not to worry. BTW, my son is a very happy camper! nothing wrong with him! I've been in great mental health since then, but still keep taking a low dose. As Babyfettle said, I see it as no different to taking tablets for bloodpressure or some other long-term medical condition, I've had a couple of episodes of depression, they were absolutely appalling, I am obviously prone to it, but I think now less so because of counselling, I understand my own reactions/anxieties now, but don't want to risk it again, particularly because I need to be on good form to cope with job, family, etc. I've read that CBT with anti-depressants are about the best thing for breaking a depression cycle. I've been seeing a wonderful counsellor on an off for a few years and have really benefitted - if you find someone good, that can help too. Fabulous that you have medical insurance and can get treatment straight away - I was told there was a year wait for CBT locally, but had a good chat for assessment with the consultant and she suggested I read some books about it, that as I was coping so well with counselling and anti-depressants, just knowing the the principles might help. Good luck - and sorry I was away and this response comes so late. Glad to answer any questions on this, or chat more about it.
Oinker - bad luck with the scales etc. if you arefinding ww not working for you (are you on any hormone treatments - might be significant) then try GI Diet. Everyone I know on it has done really well. I just didn't get on with WW - not enough food on offer plus I wasn't keen on the way they push their diet foods - a low-calorie chocolate bar just isnt going to cut it! Losing weight is a real pressure, I feel for you, especially with such an important motivation ahead. big hug to you,
I realise I have stayed a long time on this thread - the mc seemed much more real than the pregnancy - but at last I'm taking my steps more confidently after the 13wk scan, so I should make the break and hop on to the pg after mc thread. Hope to see you all there soon: I will pop by from time to time, to see how all are doing.
I want to say a big thankyou to you all, for your kindness and compassion. and to Oinker for all the info (you're my guru!)and the big laughs!