The hot new TTC after MC thread - all welcome, bring a fish and all the posifrickentivity you can muster! Prepare to overshare.

[Seasides]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

I think so. I would phone up EPU and that way they have you on the system or also call doctor and say you had bfp and worried re bleeding. BUT am sure that won't happen but that's what I would do to get it 'on the record'

20 dpo is pretty late.....

And the doc at EPU told me next time if get bfp to phone the immediately... So I think that's her way of telling me to get in there!!! And then she would scan me at six weeks if I got that far...

Ditto what fedup says handsful. There's a recurrent MC thread on the pregnancy loss board, one of the lovely ladies on there might be able to confirm what should happen and arm you with some q's to ask - NOT that you're going to need them.

Sorry for the pessimistic post earlier, would just hate for anyone to miss out on treatment they need and are entitled to.
Short AF ladies, mine is, too. I was scanned to see if ashermans (I advise you to stay away from Dr Google... that was not a happy morning!) Ask for a mid cycle scan and maybe they will do a hysteroscopy if they want a closer look. St Marys did that for me and it wasn't scar tissue, it was a septum! Prof Regan wasn't worried about short cycles going forward, but I do go for acupuncture and I think its helping... maybe!

short AFs, I mean.

Mine's been short and weird too and agnus castus seems to be really helping. Only on month 2 of it thus far, but last af was far more normal. ov also happened on CD15 rather than 17/18 as previously. Hoping I never find out if it will help with af this month!

PMSL at the extra gravy!! (Whilst bum is on pillow after TITH)

Handsful I didn't think that what is in effect a Chrmical pregnancy would count but it does apparantly, as long as you tell your GP. I exaggerated a few days and pushed mine out to 5 weeks when talking to the RMC consultant and I even said "it probably doesn't count does it?" And she said yes it does! Straight from the horses mouth!!

Ooh er. BFP. Faint, but a definite line. Ooh er. I'm all wibbly. Just in time to not ring the gp and panic at them. As I said, ooh er. Have a lovely Friday night everybody. I'm going to be rocking silently in a corner somewhere.

Congratulations Handsful!!

Don't panic, think calm thoughts, the posifrickinity girls are right here with you

Eeeeeeek! Oh, handsful let's hope the brown spotting is a good sign! Congratulations!

deus, sorry about your shitty WTF cycle. It's crap isn't it? Hopefully AF will be just around the corner though.

Congratulations, Hands, may your pregnancy be dull and uneventful.

Got some serious ov pain maybe wind this evening. Tbh, all my ov signs seem to be more intense this month. Weird. And ouchy.

Congratulations hands. Wishing you a lovely calm, uneventful pregnancy.

Mini whoop whoop!

Get down the quacks on Moanday! Xx

Congrats handsfull so we do have a bfp this Friday after all.

Thanks parsley and otters. Yes I will definitely ask my lining to be checked as part of hycosy. seaside you should definitely ask for one. It's good to at least clear up any doubts and as the girls say, in fact may even improve bfp chances. The consultant did tell me that if there are minor blockages, the hycosy actually clears those up.

Ooh err indeed handsful! Woohoo, BFP Friday again! I hope it's a good sticky one for you this time!

Well, I have had a fun evening. My sister, who lives abroad, is visiting with niece and nephew (6 & 10), staying with my parents for my Dad's 70th.

Went round tonight for dinner firstly to find out that my Dad has invited SIL, BIL & niece to his 'party' on Sunday. All the other guests are aunts, uncles etc. from my side of the family, and none know about the MC. SIL has 'my' 5 mth bump, and no doubt all my family will be cooing over it and asking when she's due etc. I am not sure what to do, it's going to be bloody torture. Anyone got any coping strategies? (And don't say get drunk cos that makes me even more weepy!)

THEN during dinner, we were talking about doing up the utility room and nephew (who obviously knows nothing about the MC or pg) chimes in "is it for your baby?" . My mum then says "what baby?" (while I am silently frozen thinking the exact same thing but in a much glummer way).
I had to leave the room, crying in front of kids is not a good idea!

Anyway, my family have generally been great and I am not complaining, just feeling a bit woe is me. Chin up, tits out, on with the toad in the hole with lashings of gravy. :::sob:::

Yay handsfull!! Keep cool and calm, make sure your gp knows and then day each day at a time - today you are pregnant!! Whoooooop! Xx

Oh phew handsfull, at least you know now-and it's the most (tentatively) exciting outcome! Good plan having a quiet evening to digess and wobble, then the docs can reassure you all is undoubtedly fine on Mon. Hope you and your dh are ok and not freaking out too much.

parsley, my whole entire, extended family know about mine, so I've not been in the same situation, but I just have to grin, breathe deep and truck on with my sis.Good idea to limit the booze, sit next to the ones you get on best with and make your excuses at a reasonable hour if you've had enough.

Oh parsley have a hug. What an awful lot to put up with. Unless you have had a mc, you have NO IDEA how bloody painful it is and how much innocent words hurt. If not booze, then a bubble bath, bit of Jilly Cooper and a box of chocolates. Snuggly jimjams and a log fire. Go puddle jumping. Look deep inside a snowdrop. Stuff like that. And have another hug.

Thanks for all the loveliness, you lot are good at that. I think the key will be to keep oh so busy for the next 3 months.

Hello... I'm not to late to join am I? I did join another ttc thread but i seem to have hidden it somehow. Ive got 2 DC after DD1 was stillborn at 36 weeks. Then I had a mmc at 12 weeks in Nov 2013 and am now trying to ttc again. Can I ask if anyone has experienced shorter cycles following their miscarriage as mine have reduced from 28 to 23 days long and it's been worrying me.

Congratulations Handsfull. I hope that everything works out for you. I can understand your wibbliness. But don't worry, we've got the posifrickentivity!

Thanks everyone. I feel slightly better about my WTF cycle. Still got another 3 weeks before I get into "abnormal" range. I think I was most upset because I was still hoping I was pregnant. Now I'm just wishing AF would arrive. But I know she will in her own good time. In the meantime I'm trying not to think about ttc every second of the day so much and just relax

Parsley sorry to hear you've had such a crappy time today.

Welcome Teresa. Sorry for your losses. You'll find a very friendly bunch here I can't answer your question as I'm still waiting for my first AF post-mc and I'm on cd38! Hopefully someone else can help.

Yay!! Handsful! Congratulations!! Take it easy and be happy. Wishing for a cozy stay for your little bean! Xx

Sorry you're feeling rubbish Parsley, it can be a real shitter at times. People really don't know what to say. Most of my friends come out with 'well at least you know you can get pregnant'! Great! Thanks! But ok not am I! And I was! Grrr! Anyway try to do something fun this weekend and enjoy time with your family - even if they do unwittingly put their foot in it!

Congratulations handsfull :) brilliant to hear good news :) I'm off out for another driving lesson today, got my test in a few weeks, really can't be arsed with it today but do find it's a really good distraction. Can I ask you all a question, my cycles have always been completely screwed up(29 days to 86 days, only have 6 a year normally) anyone else with crap cycles pre mc, have you found they've been worse/better or just the same? Thanks x

Oh and hi Teresa, I'm new here too :)