The hot new TTC after MC thread - all welcome, bring a fish and all the posifrickentivity you can muster! Prepare to overshare.

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

When I lived in London I also got the commuter RAGE! I never got used to the fact that no one queued for a bus and there was just a general scrum to get on. I was always In Edinburgh everyone always strictly queues in order and there is genuine and much muttering under breath if anyone fails to acknowledge the correct bus etiquette! And WTAF is with people reading books as they walk along a street?!

Morning! things move quick on this fred - got to keep up!

Thank you for the warm welcome - lets hope non of us are here too long

I have been getting savage PMS symptoms post miscarriage (I only ever had a few cramps the day before previously). Now I get sore boobs, ovulation cramps, cramping from ovulation onwards, bloating, tiredness, headaches, night sweats..... although this month was better than the first. I think it must be to do with the rise in hormones. I had read somewhere that its because of high progesterone and that is why the symptoms are so similar to PG symptoms (obv your progesterone is kept up high after implantation). at least now I am used to it and wont think I am miraculously up the duff cos my boobs hurt.

I feel for you Londoners - my DH worked in the city for a while last year and I bloody hated it. There are too many people and most of them are bloody slow (I walk everywhere at max speed), I spent most of my time speed walking in the gutter just to get some pace on, avoiding getting run over by taxis. And people can be so RUDE. It did not do my blood pressure any good!

so here I am back at CD2. FFS.

Well still no sign of af but just POAS and bfn! Getting more cramps so will expect her to make an appearance at some point today. Damn it

It's ridiculous that I spent so long waiting to see a second line on an hpt and now I'm frustrated that im still seeing then when I want then gone! Life is weird sometimes.

Sorry for the bfn sundance. Get the vino out (maybe not right now tho) and enjoy a week off

Right, about to leave the train. Ready did some penguin/English style pedestrian raving!

Or racing even!

penguin your commute sounds awful! We have been lucky and were not so affected. Despite all this I do like London. What I dislike the most is the commuters with backpacks refusing to take them off and shoving them in your face.

sundance rubbish about the bfn. How many dpo are you now?

sebsmummy I felt exactly the same - it seemed to take forever before I got a BFN (actually only about 3 weeks) but I started getting PG symptoms and thought it could be a new preg. Really messed with my head. Fx it all sorts itself soon.

Penguin Parsley good luck with your commute!

sundance sorry about you BFN. Fx for any others that are POAS today

Any other lucky pee-ers?

I'm picking up that we're all Michael Schumacher walkers, and not the casual, relaxed strollers who should get their own walking lane...maybe this is what people mean when they tell us to relax!

sundance Sorry about the BFN, hope you can chill a bit over the weekend!

Good luck to everyone else who is POAS today! Hope to see you all in the pg thread soonx

Sundance - sorry about the bfn but enjoy some tonight.
Parsley actually laughed out loud at the thought of pedestrian raving! Glow sticks at the ready!!

Triple - I'm 10 days po - which I know is not a lot, but since the 2nd mc, it's been an 8 or 9 day luteal phase on average. I'll be relieved if the luteal phase is just getting back to normal - it used to be 14 days exactly.

Going out tomorrow for brother in laws birthday, last time we went out with them I was pg (and had my mc 3 days later) so I couldn't drink...will be making amends tomorrow if af doesn't arrive. But you just know the old hag is going to be late!!

Have a gynae appt in 2 weeks and they told me not to get pg before hand so they can do some proper checks...so Im not overly disappointed on the bfn this time.

Good luck to anyone else POAS today. Anyone...?

Never did I think the term luteal phase would spark such dread in me. It's funny the things you never thought or heard about pre TTC that now are so all encompassing.

I had a short LP for a long time after my son was born. It eventually settled at 12 days, I have no idea what it was before then as I have it no consideration whatsoever!

Am dreading it going back to 9 days again.

Sorry for the bfn anyway Sundance- it'll be good to get a gynae chat in to get some answers. Hope the witch at least turns up on time to allow for the .

Btw do doctors need to know about mc if it's your first one? I assume it will be updated on my medical records once the EPU confirm it.

Luckily I have booked a day off today so no commuter raving for me . Cooking for 9 people tonight so wanted some time to laze around prepare. 5 of the 9 are about to discover my SIL is 5 months pg like I should be and they don't know about the mc so I am slightly dreading any potential light-hearted 'you next' type comments.

Sundance sorry it was a BFN it's such a horrible feeling each month. Chin up tits out and do something fun and non pg friendly tonight

Sebs I know how you feel. Took me 5 weeks to get a BFN which felt like an eternity, especially as I was desperate to make the most of the mythical post-mc extra fertileness I'd heard about. It's easy to say this now I'm through that stage but looking back I think I needed those 5 weeks to incessantly google when will I ovulate after mc process everything. The best thing that happened during that time was finding this bunch of lovely ladies.

Sebs Yes, you should tell your GP so they have a record of it. My GP had no idea I'd even been pregnant let alone mc'ed when I saw her last week. Even though I'd had an ERPC at hospital in November

Cross post cause I take so long to type anything! Good luck with the gynae appointment. Hopefully they can provide some answers.

What is it with pregnant SIL's at the same stage of upduffedness as us Penguin and Parsley? Like we haven't gone through the mill enough. We will be masters of the grin and bear it approach in no time.

Sorry for the bfn :(
Love the pedestrian raving, I'm sure I've got a whistle somewhere.... Mumsnet flash mob anyone? Ha.

I know, right? Luckily my SIL is lovely which makes it simultaneously easier because she's quite tactful and caring and harder cause I feel even more like a selfish bitch when I'm having a 'why not me?'moment. That's compounded by their 3 years ttc followed by successful IVF. Most of h's side of the family doesn't know about my mc as we didn't want to ruin things for SIL and BIL but I have this irrational fear that if I get pg again everyone's going to think we chose to have a baby cause they did. Ludicrous I know.

Pmsl Penguin. How you are managing to make me laugh at the moment god only knows!!

I'm starting to feel pretty glad I've stumbled across you lot on here too, shame the circumstances are so crap. Maybe one day we will all look back at these times and they won't hurt anymore as we'll be holding chubby bundles of shit-smelling loveliness.

My sister can hardly even remember her miscarriage now and it was only a few years ago. She fell pregnant with her second child 2 weeks after and went full term. Goes to show these mythical post-mc fertile times can happen, just probably not to me lol

Pmsl Penguin. How you are managing to make me laugh at the moment god only knows!!

I'm starting to feel pretty glad I've stumbled across you lot on here too, shame the circumstances are so crap. Maybe one day we will all look back at these times and they won't hurt anymore as we'll be holding chubby bundles of shit-smelling loveliness.

My sister can hardly even remember her miscarriage now and it was only a few years ago. She fell pregnant with her second child 2 weeks after and went full term. Goes to show these mythical post-mc fertile times can happen, just probably not to me lol

Hope it goes well tonight Parsely!! Massive pat on the back for cooking for 9! Sod that!
When people mention me and dh having a baby, i just want to scream; I WAS FUCKING PREGNANT, BUT MY BODY'S AN ARSE AND COULDN'T HOLD IT. Think that might shut people up?!

We're off out with some of dh's work colleagues for dinner tonight so going to indulge in some ah-mazing cocktails whilst I can! Work tomorrow should be fun.....Waxing fanny whilst hanging is not nice! Vom!

Love the image of commuters sporting glow sticks and whistles as they body barge people out of the way

I don't think you ever forget an MC but, in my experience, once you get your BFP and sticky bean you become less fixated on it. I had my first MC then BFP with DD 2 cycles later. When we started ttc#2 I didn't consider I might have another MC, but I did and that quickly brought the first time back.

We failed to get SMEP kicked off last night. Although I was feeling better I was exhausted by bed time. I am consoling myself with the fact I haven't ov'd until cd17/18 last 2 months so plenty of time. I am considering kicking off tonight and doing every other day until positive OPK as per SMEP just a day off? That also gets round DH being away overnight on cd14