The hot new TTC after MC thread - all welcome, bring a fish and all the posifrickentivity you can muster! Prepare to overshare.

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Thanks for your advice wise ladies!! I know there's no definitive answer. I didn't have a erpc though, it was all natural. Doctors here are all for letting the body do things naturally, which in some respects is good. But the bleeding was very light and weird. Tempted to go back to the docs next week and see if i can have some kind of test done, but i'll prob get fobbed off!

Hi guys. I have been a little quiet recently just getting used to being a mrs and have a poorly DD who has needed a lot of attention.
Lots of brill news with the BFP. We'll done fed up Delighted for you. Understand knicker watch. Not easy. I bled spotted with all 3 pregnancies - very stressful time.
sundance. Think we are both oldies. My Lp was all over place after last mc - took 6 months and has settled at 10. Conflicting information online as to whether this is ok for healthy pregnancy but my gynae is not worried at all and says that I am likely to always have been on sort side when conceived DD. Kind of thinking she is a little miracle at this point. have you looked at b6 vit complex start at small dose as I started high and it gave me facial twitches. (Not a good look).

What is all this about stuffing pillows up your bum. Need to read back on thread you mad ladies.

parsley. Enjoy the orgasms. I can just about manage the sex.

cd 15 and waiting for poss opk. Bit of ewcm today so hoping soon.

Will defo give ac a try, thanks! I'd heard about weird side effects of B6 too so have to admit I'm a little cautious of taking that one.

Welcome back mrsP, hope married life is treating you well x

Hi JBrd! (Waving madly!)

I'm so sorry about the triple post! I was attempting from my phone. Bummer.

Oh, I also read that about the big O to 'scoop' the toads up. Actually, a 42 year old at work swore by it. And she is pregnant.

sundance you are not out until AF arrives. So please don't lose hope. I am also a veteran on this thread and know exactly how it feels. I really thought I would have left in a few months but instead I am still very much here. It's hard to stay positive with the arrival of each AF. BUT chin up, I am sure your time will come. Just remember there are other veterans still around and you are not alone.

Just seen a pic of someone's scan.

7 dpo and I'm getting quite a lot of one sided cramps. Any ideas?

doctor I always like to think that's my fertilised egg on its little journey to my cosy womb.
seaside did some reAding on agnus castus and think I will try next cycle if no luck this one. Though it did say the Greeks used it to reduce sex drive when husbands were away. That would not be useful.

justone it hurts dosent it. I know how you feel. I got new I phone and downloaded all my pictures from back up. There was a scan picture. I thought it was my DD but turns out by dates it was my 1 mmc at 8 weeks when it had a little heartbeat. Had a good cry at that. Not sure whether I should delete it. Who wants a reminder.

Missp I have my scan pics (even the awful ones) upstairs in my first pregnancy folder along with the tests. I couldn't bear to throw them out. That little bean was my baby and I don't want to lose that. Slightly mental admittedly!!!

luckystar I get that. Have to say I dread the booking app at hospital where they hand you all you preg folders before you go in. That's 3 in my case. That is if I ever get upduffed again.

Hey guys can I join? I'll give you my stats:

27, TTC 11mo, BFP Feb '13, MC March 7th '13, DD 19mo

My AF is currently 2 days late, but I POAS this afternoon (sorry I broke the first rule!) and it was negative

I was thinking I was pg this time as I have been feeling really tired and really sick recently.

Now I don't know what to think! xxx

Hi amelia, sorry you find yourself here. We are always good for a chuckle and/or fish slap if you are feeling down.

I have been guffawing at the pillow up the bum. I heard it was a myth. Someone somewhere once said that their friend's sister's husband's gynaecologist or somesuch said that it is a myth and those swimmers that are meant to get there will get there despite gravity, extra orgasms, soft furnishings and the like. I always like to stay reclining for 10 minutes after just because it can't hurt, can it? and I am a lazy oaf

I am CD10 and extremely moist (TMI), but unfortunately DH is 200 miles away. Back on Friday though so will get my batter mixed.

Feeling over emotional tonight and both cats are acting weird...

Re. scan photos: I regret not asking for one of my dead baby. I went into the room with a pregnancy folder and a bucketful of naive hope, and came out with nothing. Not even a photo. It does make me a little sad, like there is nothing to say that the baby ever existed. I wish I had asked. But you don't think of these things at the time, do you? And I was scared that it wasn't the done thing.

Welcome Amelia! May your stay be short and sweet!!

PMSL at facial twitching!! I know it's not funny but just imagine DH looking at you and saying "what the fuck is wrong with your face?!!" Hahaha!

Glad to hear you're 'moist' Champers! Haha...the shit we talk about is quite frankly hilarious. Can you imagine saying that to a friend in RL (whilst trying to hide a twitchy face)? !! HAHAHA!!!

I never got a photo either, it does make me feel sad that :( I'd keep it if I were you miss
I hate when people describe cake as moist, makes me gag as I picture someone's wet lettuce shudder

I got a photo of my first, was never offered one of the second, paid for the third and had to get a refund . I have the original picture scanned in and it was ages before I could look at it. I only did in the end because I was worried that I had damage after the ERPC and I thought the picture might give a 'before' image for comparison (it didn't). The worst bit for me was finding the print outs of the 'good' scans, seeing the hb per min, size etc. I swear I have a kind of PTSD from the bad news scans - especially the supposedly routine 13 week one the last time round. Shudder at the prospect of going through it again, and yet we're all trying, anyway. Thanks for all your support, Ladies, it really helps on the down days. May all our stays here be short.

Hi amelia welcome to the funniest of tragic threads around!

I had the same thoughts after the MC about wishing I'd asked for a photo of the bean but I'm sort of glad I didn't. I think I'd obsess and weep over it constantly!

I am learning all sorts of new euphemisms here. Flower pots, wet lettuce, batter mixing. They're all great ones too!

Had pain in my right shoulder tip today and started panicking, but fish slapped myself, according to CBFM I've not even OVed yet! If I have a 14 day LP (which I used to) it should be tomorrow or Friday. Maybe it's the agnus castus that making my cycles longer??

Haha at parsley getting suspicious over shoulder pain before ovulation.

I had a brief 'oh my goodness I am DEFINITELY nauseous' moment last week. It was CD3 . Turns you loopy this damn TTCing.

Yup, I cried at something stupid yesterday, deff a sign of PG, CD10 here, I don't even OV till the end of next week!

All my results are in, and the prize for giving over 15 vials of blood?! - there's nothing wrong with me. So no answers, just back to square one and the tried and tested technique of crossing fingers.

Have felt like this All day. Meh.

Congrats, MissH, there's nothing wrong with me either. Its like the f*ing Shawshank of TTC after mc in here...

MissH Oh yes, there comes a point where you just want something to be wrong, so that it explains all the heartache and sorrow, don't you? I felt like that as well, it was almost 'Is that it'? After 3 mcs, all you can offer me is a spontaneous mutation (trisomy 2) that had nothing to do with me or DH and nothing else, other than 'Go and keep trying, good luck'.
I feel guilty, but I did wish they'd find something, something that can be 'fixed' and taken care off, so that my next pregnancy would be successful, sigh.

Hope you feel more positive about it all soon - because after all, this is a positive result, and a big one!

miss hornset. Good news you are perfect and good to go. I know we want reasons for our mc but I am of the belief I would prefer nothing is wrong with me and just shut luck.

sal. To be fair I don't think DH would notice. When I had an allergic reaction to hair dye and my face swoll up he said I just looked a bit chubby. WTF I looked like something from a horror film. Went on holiday to New York and wanted to tell everyone I am normally thinner - it's the steroids. My hair looked fab though lol.

Welcome newbies I hope you have a shorter stay than me and I leave before you