Old birds wanna join the coop???

[Gingerbreadlady1]

Allo ladies! Wondering if there are any other over 35's (apparently the age of fertility suicide, who knew?) ttc for over a year wanting to chat? If so, pour yourself some virtual wine and let the chatting commence!

Morning all,

Sorry AF got you Tranquility, she got me last night aswell .

I am feeling OK now but was quite down over the weekend. It is incredibly painful this month aswell. It's odd, I get one pain-free month and then a painful month. They tend to alternate which must be a sign of something, but since I've had the lap and dye and all the tests, I'm guessing they would have picked up if something was wrong. Oh well.

24 months down, onto month number 25.

But I've made some positive steps in that I've decided that if I'm not PG by 40th birthday in June, we are going to book Lapland for DD in December. That will give me something to look forward to and if it should happen between June and when we go, I won't be too far along to travel!

Also, I'm posting some links of dresses that I've ordered for my 40th birthday party. What do you all think?

This is my first choice:

www.quizclothing.co.uk/clothes/00100002176.html

This is my second choice:

www.quizclothing.co.uk/clothes/00100002178.html

and I tried on this one on Saturday - it looked nice but then I found the first one above (but of course don't know what it will look like yet...:

www.quizclothing.co.uk/clothes/00100001862.html

I'm a size 12 (now - yay) and 5ft 8 so the longer ones definitely seem to suit my height and shape right now.

Let me know what you think.

andrelax, thank you for your story, it makes me feel a bit better about being 'nearly' 40.

Big waves to everyone!!

Hi Ladies can I join in?
Ok my story, I'm 43 partner 42 I have 3 grown up children from previous marriage all term and healthy babies. In dec 2013 I discovered I was pregnant we had not been trying so was a big shock, sadly we lost our baby (Grace) to fetal hydrops at 16 weeks I had a managed miscarriage on 27th February and all went fine. Desperate for another baby I started checking for ovulation using CBD we got a smiley face on 17th March 1 week after my bleeding stopped and less than 3 weeks after mc. I got AF on 3rd April, I felt is upset but I was kidding myself anyway I just got another positive opk in CBD this morning another static smiley face so fingers crossed I will be DTD for the next couple of days (also dtd wed, thur, sat and Sunday) so figure I may be in with a good chance!

Sorry for the huge story but I'm soooo hoping for my rainbow baby until I get my BFP I'm driving myself crazy, normaly I'm pretty grounded and sane but not now!
Anyone feel the same?

Thanks for listening!
Kerry xxx

Quick hello everyone & welcome kerry.

BRACE! BRACE! BRACE!

On way to meet somewhat insensitive new mum friend for coffee. Must. Be.strong.

Hi Kerry,

Welcome to our little group and so sorry to hear about your MC. Grace is a lovely name and is the middle name of one of my DNieces.

So I'm on CD2. It's going to be another long month...

Onwards and upwards.

Ginger, I hope you managed to remain strong hun. Insensitive new mums are the worst...

Thank you gingerbreadlady, good luck with the coffee hope you survive without too much insensitivity!

Thanks KEGirlonFire we picked her name from very early it felt only right to name her. I'm on CD12 and to be honest didn't realise I ovulted so early so I have learnt so much about my body these last few months, I sailed thorough conception and pregnancy in my 20's with ignorant bliss and had no idea how lucky I was to just fall pregnant so easily!

Last month the TWW was hell on earth I had every symptom in the pregnancy book and in the end became a poas addict, I've promised myself to not get as obsessed this month but I'm not convinced I won't be!

Good luck and baby dust to all...........xxx

Hi Kerry and welcome, sorry for your loss, Grace is a beautiful name.

Ginger, hope coffee with your friend was ok, insensitive friends are hard at times!

KEgirl, sorry af arrived. I love all the dresses, I really like the top of the second one. Have you ordered all 3 to try them?

KE - I like the first dress and the last one. They were all very glam though! Exciting!

WElcome Kerry - sorry to hear you've had such a hard time. But try going through 26 TWW (possibly 27, I have lost count) without getting diffed. Don't mean that to sound rude as I know this thread is for us 'older' ladies, but a few of us on here have been ttc #1 for a long time. And it's very depressing indeed.

Ginger - how was the smug coffee date? I have had to do a major FB cull today as there were too many updates featuring big bumps, newborns and yummyfeckinmummies.

Think I'm in a strop today because I'm on cd 15 and still haven't had a positive opk. And DH had to leave this morning on a work trip and wont be back until Friday. So this month is out too

Hello from another old bird. Not caught up with this thread for a while. Hope everyone is doing well.

I am onto cycle 12 now. Been thoroughly miserable in the days leading up to AF arriving on thursday, which is as good an indicator as any that I wouldn't get a bfp.

Yet to see a gp. Keep trying for appointments but the damn receptionist is determined to keep me away. bitch

Cd 5 here so will be poas tomorrow i think. I got a + cd 8 last month.

Fankletastic thanks for the welcome. I can only imagine what 26tww are like I'm grateful I have children, but then I suppose until you have been through a miscarriage and have had to give birth to your baby and see her it's hard to imagine the pain of that too if you've not been through it. Perhaps another thread is better for me to gain some support from I'd not want to offend anyone.

Oh kerry please don't think you've offended. I can't begin to imagine what a MC at 16 wks must have been like.

I'm on cycle 12 now and it can be hard sometimes to keep up the cheer and enthusiasm. The buses can be esp hard when folks seem to get upduffed in an instant!

These threads are very supportive and a lifeline at times when the craziness threatens to take hold, i hope you stay herre but if you don"t you will find one that suits you.

Thank you Nottalotta, losing my baby was quite possibly the hardest thing I have ever had to go through and at 43 I've had some ups and downs in my life but never imagined the pain a misscarriage can cause at whatever stage it's heartbreaking, I suppose I'm selfish in that I fell pregnant very easily and dismissed the fact that so many of you have not been so lucky. I just thought that my story could also give hope as it's possible to conceive in your 40's it's just a lot harder and the worries are intensified.

Good luck to you all I send you lots of good wishes for your BFP
Kerry xx

Forgive the quick post (at work, covert messaging).

kerry I can only reiterate what notta said. Of course you've not caused offence, my heart went out to you when I read your post. I can't imagine how horrendous the whole experience was and know you will grieve for your Grace forever.

I'm on I think month 24/25 (I've lost count) ttc. But this thread is for all older ladies ttc. There are no rules/or criteria (when I started this thread think I said ttc for a year but quickly realised this is a hard journey regardless of circumstance so that's been ignored for some time & will be removed (can't edit) when we go on to a new thread)..

Please stay with us as we have all sorts, some been ttc longer than others, but that doesn't matter, it's not a misery contest but hopefully somewhere to find some support & talk about it as much or little as we like. Yes, the longer you ttc the more it grinds you down. But we all have good days and bad days.

Fuck work!!!!

Rebel posting!

notta welcome back. I'd go in person to drs & kick off. Can't you make an appointment for next free slot, even if its in weeks time? Bloody drs receptionists, think they take a course on how to be awkward...

spinning hope you catch that eggy.

fankle, you okay girl? You seem very down. Any chance you can meet up with dp for illicit shag?

kegirl sounds like you are making some really positive steps. Lapland is great idea. I think it's really important that life goes on & planning nice things has helped me cope, very easy for life to become all about ttc so when it's a bfn it's even more devastating. I like that last dress best, will flatter waist & bust (I have no boobs) but all 3 are beautiful so you'll be stunning in any of them. Prob come down to how they look on. Let us know which one you pick.

Coffee was actually ok yesterday, good to see friend. Even if I had to keep studying some speck of dust as my eyes kept filling up, embarrassing!

Kerry, please don't leave us. You've been through an awful, traumatic experience and after two MCs I can certainly sympathise with how you're feeling. At the end of the day, we all want the same thing and I know that I wouldn't be as up-beat as I am, if it wasn't for the support of the girls on here (I refuse to admit I'm a Woman - I still feel like a girl!! ).

Fankle, are you feeling any better today? Any sign of the +OPK? I'm hoping that it stays away until at least Friday!!

Ginger, glad you made it through the meet-up with your friend yesterday. Well done you!!

Notta, definitely agree with what Ginger said. Don't tell them why you need an appointment, just tell them that you need one ASAP. Don't let the witch fob you off!!!

Spinning, good luck for this cycle hun!!

Thank you for all the views on the dresses, I'll definitely let you know which one I go for, hoping that they will arrive today or tomorrow!!

Boo hiss!!

My dresses arrived and both are too small. I had a boob-job about 10 years ago and because the style of dresses that I've ordered, it means that the back doesn't quite do up in the size 12, even though the rest of it fits fine.

I've ordered a load more different styles from Next to see if there are any that I like.

I can just reorder in a size 14 but it's still annoying!!

Sorry for de-railing the thread - although it makes a change for me to be worrying about something other than TTC!!!

Kerry, bless you - don't go away! I think you will find great support here as there are a few ladies, who, like you, already have one or two children but would still like more. The thing we have in common is being a bit older (although I only recently turned 35 so hoping I still have a few eggs in the basket so to speak)!

I cannot imagine how painful your experience of losing your daughter must have been. I have experienced miscarriage too, at 8/9 weeks (over 2 years ago) and I hope I will never have to go through it again. For me, the pain is only exacerbated with the failure of each and every month. I sometimes wonder if I would still be in this much pain if I had gotten pregnant again soon afterwards. But that was clearly not to be...so I am now in the process for assisted conception and hoping to get started in the summer.

I didn't mean to offend you and hope I haven't. We are all in different situations on this thread so you can't always relate to everyone's experiences.

Still don't think I've Ov'd but haven't tested today yet....need to get some more tests (I have spent a bloody fortune on these buggers)! I am now hoping that ov will be majorly delayed until after Friday but that seems too much to ask for! There's no way I can arrange a 'meeting' with DH this time....at least I think there's no way.

I am a wee bit deflated at the moment girls. Thanks for noticing and checking up. Think it's cos I know this month is out.

Hi Fankle,

I think it's almost worse when you know you've got no chance, so I totally understand why you feel so deflated - it must feel like a month long 2ww with no hope at the end of it. I really hope that you OV late.

I'm looking out at the lovely sunshine and wishing I was out in it with DH and DD. But we've had to split our holidays so that we can cover childcare. We've got the half-term week in May off together but that's all this year.

Talking about buying more tests Fankle, I am going to buy some more HPT tests aswell. I use the IC ones and every month when I use one, I swear I see a really faint line. I need to get some better ones because it builds up my hopes every month - I think it's the die underneath showing through but I find myself taking them out of the bin and staring at them, convinced that there is a line... Then AF comes to prove that it's my eyes fooling me...

Anyway, back to it.

Catch you later ladies. x

Tell you what, exercising as an old bird is almost as horrendous as ttc.......

Thanks ladies, im sorry for your loses and as you say we are all here for different reasons and I really do understand the emotional roller coaster we all seem to be on.

When I discovered I was pregnant in December it was a big shock, my partner had fertility tests done some years back with his first wife and he had a low sperm count, so we never used protection, I was diagnosed with fibroids in 2010 so for 3 years we just assumed it never happened due to all of those reasons plus our ages, then the shock in December came we were so happy as my partner has no children so thought he would never get the chance, sadly it was not to be hence my absolute obsession with actually now trying. The good news is we know it can happen the bad news is I don't feel I have another 3 years left for it to happen plus I am also very scared of another miscarriage not to mention the other worries us older mums face, however my overwhelming need for another baby outweighs everything and I will give it my best shot!

So here's it hoping we can help one another along the way on our ttc journey.
Kerry xx

Sorry girls had a little break from it all for a few days. Back now and off to catch up with the other posts x

Hi andrelax lovely story :)

kegirl sorry to hear she got you too. Onto next month together eh?

To add insult to injury I've had a really painful, heavy AF so far too. :( I didn't want to be 37 before having no. 3 either bit will be now, silly but I had it in my head that I wanted to be 36!

Hi Kerry welcome to our little group. I hope you get your rainbow baby soon, you so deserve it. Stay here, you're v welcome.

Fankle notta and spinning good luck with ovulation, I really hope you all see signs soon xx

Do I have a cycle bud this month to share the madness of the 2ww? AF due a week on thurs....

Hi everyone I'm popping back! Haven't been on here for a couple of weeks, buried beneath job hunting madness thanks to recent redundancy.

Ginger I'm your 2ww buddy again this month :) AF due a week on Thursday too. Are you symptom spotting yet? :) Bizarrely I've been so wrapped up in job hunting I'm really relaxed about it this month.

Waving a friendly hello to all the new people who have joined in the last couple of weeks. Having had a chance to read all the recent postings yet but looking forward to doing that later when I've finished yet another job app.

I had my second acupuncture appt on Saturday with a fertility acupuncturist, not sure if it will do anything but hoping it will. As a newbie to acupuncture I'm loving it!

Morning all,

Welcome back ladies who have had a break from the thread for a bit! Big waves!!

Tranquility, my AF hasn't been heavy but has been really painful for a lot longer than it normally is! Horrid. Also, I feel the same way as you about age, but mine is 40!! Yuck...

Hope everyone is feeling Ok today.

x

PS: Kerry, glad you decided to stay with us hun. Hope you're feeling Ok today.