First cycle trying after MC. AF/BFP due Wednesday 15th....too nervous for words!

[angelgabe]

I started this same thread in December and was lucky enough (after 7 months!) to get pregnant with our first. Unfortunately I had a mc just before Christmas at 5 weeks. Cycle was a bit erratic at the start but looks like I ovulated at my normal time and BBT has risen. I'm almost certain I won't be lucky enough to get pregnant straight away after mc but I thought starting a thread like last time might help!!

[SwedeAway]

So we dtd yesterday and the day before. I am sure I Ov'd yesterday, could really feel it which I usually do. Not going to dtd anymore this cycle, think we have done enough considering this WTF cycle and think my gyno is right when he says the swimmers can get lazy if you dtd too much. So I am officially in the 2ww, it's going to be a long wait. If my cycle behaves like normal (wishful thinking) then AF/BFP is expected on the 4th Feb.

[Tutti]

I got a positive opk !!!!!!

Here's to a busy few days!!!!!

[angelgabe]

Baxter, Swede and Tutti....OMG all the signs are so good!! Brilliant news!
Please remember to keep us posted on here.....

[Tutti]

Definately angel xx

[Baxter2014]

Will do. On the day off before DTD one last time. Managed to stick to the SMEP so far so done all we can.
Really pleased for you and you positive OPK tutti looks like it's all settling down and getting back to normal.

Here's to a wonderfully fertile month and plenty of BFPs all round come Feb! Xx

[SwedeAway]

Yeay Tutti!! All systems go for you then!

Baxter, looks like you are putting in the effort. It will pay off, I am sure!

Angel, when do you expect your BFP?

[Tutti]

morning!

so I just managed to delete my whole month of data on fertility friend!!!

Oh well I know we are doing it 'right' but what a mare ...I will just have to redo it.

So according to the app and it predicted I would ovulate around now...I can expect bfp or af 6 feb....

but we got a whole lot of fun before then I had better get my bfp!!!

[SwedeAway]

Tutti - We can have the 2ww together then. I am due AF/BFP on the 4th and you on the 6th so perhaps POAS around the same time:).

[Tutti]

sounds good to me swedeaway

never done a 2ww...

[Baxter2014]

SMEP told me to test on 3rd Feb so looks like we are all around the same time!

[SwedeAway]

Hurrah, we can have a POAS party then Baxter and Tutti!

Tutti- 2ww is usually looooooooooooooooooooooooooong but easier when you share it with others for sure.

[Tutti]

lol swedeaway

well I have got a very gripey belly...hoping its that lovely egg getting ready to pop and meet its new friend!!!

I can't believe how badly I want to be pregnant ...if you had asked me 3 months ago I would have looked at you like you were a loon!!

[SwedeAway]

It's like that, once you start ttc it becomes an obsession!! Fx for an egg for you today.

[Tutti]

I am having a mild panic tonight ....

Am I not too old ... I am 40 ....

Are my eggs not all wizzend (sp)

Am I not 'past it'

Am u completely mad to think of ttc when I have (luckily)a fit and healthy 8yr old ds

Are we being selfish .. Just his it's what WE want ....

[angelgabe]

Tutti....I'm 40 as well!! I'm definitely not past it....well not just yet anyway! That might be because I don't have any kids unfortunately so I can't afford to allow myself to believe i'm too old.
Stick with me....you're not too old!
You are lucky to have a healthy boy but there's no reason why he can't have a healthy brother or sister. You're not being selfish! Don't think that!!
As for your eggs....who knows....i'm hoping mine aren't all wizzened up (don't know what that is but it sounds bad!).
Be positive and think about the joy another little bundle will provide you all.
xxx

[angelgabe]

If you're worried about your fertility ask for some blood tests....day 2/3 and day 21. That'll answer a lot of questions. Although given our recent MC's somethings working!

[Tutti]

thank you angelbabe

I think I was having a 'moment'.....

but am having another now...I am being pathetically stupid I know..but we are following smep..and so are supposed to be doing our stretch of 3 on miss a day and then again...except last night dh couldn't 'do it'....and I just feel so upset I know that if I don't get a bfp I will always wonder if that was cos we missed last night

I know I am over analyzing,i know ,and we will dtd tonight But I actually cried

I never realized just how terrible a miscarriage can make you feel..how ignorant I was ...

that's what gives me faithangelbabe that we 'can' get pregnant at 40 ... I just hope it's soon

[SwedeAway]

Oh Tutti, you are not too old. I am 38 so not far away from 40 I refuse to think I am too old. As for DH, don't be too upset. It's difficult for them to understand how we feel. Oh and performing after a schedule, never popular i guess. We all understand you so please feel free to off load whenever you want!

[Tutti]

Thank you swedeaway

My logical side knows it's unrealistic to expect dh to be able to just perform on demand but my emotional sidewell that's another story

We will try tonight ... Just sometimes the emotion of the past few weeks catches up I guess

[Baxter2014]

I think regardless of what plan we are following it is better to have relaxed and enjoyable sex than forcing it. I know in all my months of TTC we were sort of doing it to a schedule and I wouldn't put too much effort in. The last cycle we actually started enjoying it (and me too IYKWIM) and it was when I got my BFP.

Try not to put too much stress on each other. People on here always says it can mess with your cycle if you stress too much and plus, you need each other more than anything during this shitness so try not to get too frustrated. Easier said than done I know - I have raged at DH a number of times when he wasn't in the mood.

Of all of these plans and stuff, people always say relaxing is the best method. As enraging as that is I would probably say it is the truth. I think maybe thats one part of this whole plan I am not following properly!!

Hope it goes well tonight! Make up for missing last night and really enjoy it - it may make all the difference in more ways than one xxx

[SwedeAway]

Anyone else busy symptom spotting Have had pain in my ovaries all day and this faint crampy feeling in my uterus area. Obviously know what I would like this to be but also sure that I could be totally imagining things. 2ww is starting to drive me nuts!

[Tutti]

So ... I am confused ... I got a positive opk stick the other day .. Defo was as dark as control line ... And have had 3 more the same ....?!?

Yesterday had ovulation pain and today just horrible aching pain the same .... We missed Dtd last night and night before (as you know) but we Dtd this morning .. And plan to do tomorro ... Do you think that will cover us?

Or are we too late D'ya think ? And how comes my test stix are dark... They weren't .. I have kept them all to compare and check they were going dark or not.

God it's stressful this ttc lark

Dh said earlier god I hope you get pregnant straight away ... Else I have to go through this next month too

Swedeaway ... Did you get symptoms early before?

[SwedeAway]

Tutti, I did have symptoms quite early last time but I think implantation happens later than 5 dpo? It sounds like you are in the same position as me as we got positive opk's around the same time and now the ovaries hurt again. I think you have done enough for this month but if you can dtd once more it can never hurt I do remember that my ovaries hurt quite a bit during my last 2ww when I did get pg so I am keeping fx that this is a good sign for both of us.

[noitsachicken]

Hi, can I join in?

Were some of you on Sept 2014 thread?
I just m/c at 6 weeks.

Will I ovulate before next AF ? Should I wait for AF before trying?

Scared to try again, I keep forgetting I'm not pregnant anymore.

[SwedeAway]

Hi Noit, of course you can join! Sorry to hear about your mc. It's a horrible thing to go through.

My mc was end of Dec. I counted my mc bleed as AF and I Ov about 20 days after (being 4 days later than usual). We are ttc again as I have heard that one can be more fertile just after a mc. But it's not the same for everyone. Lots of people wait ages for Ov and AF after a mc.

My only advice is that you try to keep track of your body. When you think you should be Ov then use opk's to track. If you feel up to it then start ttc immediately when you Ov. If you are not sure then maybe waiting a cycle will do you good.