About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 4)

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So, here it is, Part 4! May it bring lots of BFP's for those of us still waiting and may it bring happy healthy pregnancies for those who are fabulously pregnant.

I have been on here rather a lot today - half term!

Hi everyone, quite a bit to catch up on today! It's very interesting to hear about the different cultures and way of life for those of you living outside the UK. Me and DH would love to move to Spain one day... Well I didn't have a successful night with DS last night. As soon as I brought him up to bed he walked passed his room and into ours and when I took him back to his room he wouldn't stop crying and was inconsolable and seemed traumatised by the prospect if another night in how own bed/room. So I have in and let him sleep in our bed. I know that's a massive step back and very stupid but I can't have him heartbroken and there was no way he would have gone in that room. Same tonight (he goes up at 7.30pm so I'm giving him his bottle now). Not a clue now what I'm going to do! I've just left it too late.
Hungry - How are you feeling about tomorrow? I hope you have a really good day, I know it will be hard without your DD but hopefully you might enjoy it. Will be thinking of you.
As regards the child care issue, I agree with Morerum that it's a very personal thing and there's no right or wrong thing to do. We are all different and whereas some people love being a SAHM, some can't hack it and need to work as well for that work and family balance. It's whatever works for you. I personally didn't want to put my DS into nursery too young but am not against it when they get a bit older, I was lucky though that I was able to have 18 months off with him and then went back to work part time, 3 days a week but was lucky that my DH and my mum could look after my DS on those days. Personally I haven't enjoyed it at all, I loved work before my DS but I missed him and I now want to be a SAHM like Morerum says for a few years. I'm happy for my DS to try nursery when he turns 3 but totally up to him if he goes regularly or not. I think 2 or 3 mornings if he enjoys it will be fine. Everyone does what's right for them though.

Hi all I've been trying to catch up but so much happens on here! Ginger I just want to say I completely understand why you're feeling that way. So normal and I have two people in my life atleast who never thought they would have a baby and both have happy healthy babies now. The wait is the hard bit and finding ways to cope and enjoy life at same time is only way forward as it WiLL happen!! And for u cake!
Interesting here about all the travels. I loved travelling when I was young and fancy free. I hope to do more in the future. In fact we are taking ds to morroco in a month for a few days! Last holiday just the three of us.
Work has improved but having loved working three days I now just want to be sahm. Though I have to say by month 11 of maternity I was finding it tough. As someone else said there is no perfect solution. I think women have this amazing opportunity in life to have children and I wouldn't want it any other way but there are big compromises and sacrifices and it isn't always easy.
My bump is a real wriggler. Muh more than ds. Crazy baby on its way? We are trying to move house before the arrival but it's all going to be cutting it a bit fine! Off to watch one born every min...

Yeh me too Engels! It was a quiet day at work...

Just a quick one to say good luck to Hungry for tomorrow, hope it all goes as well as it can for you, sorry I was asking the time of your app, with everyone saying good luck I thought you were going for another scan Struggling to keep up with all these scans and due dates, it was easier when we are all just ttc!!
Sorry bedtime didn't work too well again mrs, keep with it, as and when you feel ready. There's no point letting DS get himself into a state over it as you say, hopefully one night he will just ask to get in his big boy bed and find it a novelty.
Thanks toothpaste I so hope you are right, I need to just let myself relax about it all. How many weeks are you now?

Thanks Ginger, hope you are right about DS and the sleeping situation! And I hope you are feeling a bit more positive and relaxing about TTC and just have the faith that it WILL happen for you really soon.
Hi Toothpaste - how many weeks are you? It is hard to keep up with everyone. I'm 26 weeks on Friday and my baby is a real wriggler too, but it's lovely. I have a real craving for sugar and sweet things at the moment, eaten nearly a full packet of ginger biscuits tonight straight after tea and baby hasn't stopped moving!

Mrs, I'm sure the sugar is fuelling the wriggling! Lovely sensation though. :-)

I'm getting wriggles now too. And protests if I bend over! Funny.

5.30am is bloody early. I've not missed the 6.58am train, I can tell you. At least it's only this week.

I think DD and DH will have a whale of a time without me! :-)

Hello - I'm definitely a firm advocate of there being no right way to do anything with children. Whatever works for your family, guess i'm sensitive about the nursey thing because I would love to be a sahm and that isn't on the horizon for me at the moment.

In that same vein mrs im sure it will all come good in the end, whats that one step forward two steps back! but still heading in the right direction he's not going to be 40 still in your bed!!

morerum do the crutches help with the pain? and hungry hope your enjoying work today and not missing DD too much.

I'm def on here too much but that's the main reason I put DS in nursery, so I could be a full-time mumsnetter !!!

I definitely do not judge others for their choices when it comes to parenting and I expect the same back. DD has been in nursery since she was 5 months old. She started off full time but we then reduced to two days a week and had a nanny for the other three days, that was not great as all she did was cry when she was not allowed to go to nursery. So for the past year and a half she has been in full time nursery again and she loves it. For me it has never been a difficult choice. I love my job and would be very sad if I could not work. My job does not really work as a part time job so it must be full time but I really do not mind. Still, my DD is a very happy, super sociable and confident child and I think this is because she is in nursery (but that is my view only obviously). I also give her a bottle when she goes to bed and she has a tv in her room, so I am breaching all the rules in the book but it works for us and DD had slept through in her own bed in her own room always.
I take my hat off to anyone who is a SAHM because its hard work and I certainly would not be able to do it:)

Feeling less nauseous today. Took your advise and had something to eat before I went to bed and it helped during the night.

Hi Loves - will you be a SAHM when the time comes then? I wish I had not gone back to work after having my DS but I tried it and now I know, so this next time I will be staying at home. At some point while on maternity leave I will need to hand in my notice but I'll do that much nearer the time. And Loves- I bloody hope DS is not still in my bed at 40, but the way it's going, you just never know! To be honest, I'm so tired at the moment and not sleeping well (as you never do in pregnancy) so I think I will give him a couple more days and I'll try him again in his new room at the weekend. I'm not going to give up.
Hungry - thinking of you today and hope it's going ok.

Hi all!

Quickie message while I'm at lunch.

It's going fine. I had a little cry when I left DD with DH this morning. She wasn't arsed though! Still isn't, judging by the photos.

She's just about to start crawling so is concentrating on that by the look of it! :-)

It's nice and quiet for me today, just easing me in. And I'm working at home tomorrow as they know there's no point dragging me in to do not much! Saves me the train fare and allows me to lie in a bit!

I think I'd feel a bit worse if DD was at nursery, but I'm not sure. We shall see come next time, I suppose!

Must remember to leave at 4.45 today as we agreed a shorter lunch for an early dart, so that'll be nice. :-)

Pleased works going ok hungry

I agree with the each to their own ethos when it comes to parenting, I just wish everyone else felt the same! I always knew that when I had children I wanted to be a SAHM while they were little, so it wasn't really on my radar to do anything else. I have friends who are SAHMs and love it like I do & I have friends who couldn't wait for their mat leave to end so they could get back to work, everyone's different and whatever works for you should be what you do.

I do hate the judgement I get from other women because I'm a SAHM though, it irritates me that other people can't accept my choice the way I feel is appropriate. People either suggest I'm lazy, prompting me to feel the need to defend myself & explain I had a fairy high power job in a bank, working 60+ hours a week not including the work I brought home, full of stress and still think some days being a SAHM is harder thus I'm not lazy! Or they say how mind numbingly dull they'd find it and go on and on about needing adult company etc, making me feel like I need to justify why I don't feel the same way. Or start asking how we can afford it! This comes from people I hardly know, it's just inappropriate!

I also think it's rude that some people feel like they have a right to express their opinion on this topic uninvited, especially when it's not a nice opinion. I'd never say to someone 'oh you work in such & such? God I couldn't stand that, it would drive me crazy, I couldn't think if anything more boring' it's just rude!!!

How's the nausea swede?

Glad it's gone ok today for you Hungry and that you're working from home tomorrow. I thought you might have a little cry this morning, perfectly natural x
Better - I'm totally with you. I always wanted to be a SAHM when I had kids and that's why after 12 months maternity leave with my DS, I took an extra six months as a career break. This was because work wouldn't let me go part time and I would never have left my DS to go back to work full time. I missed him every moment, even just working 3 days a week. So you can see why I have chosen to take my mat leave this time as soon as poss and I won't be going back. So SAHM buddies we are now Better! Whereabouts are you by the way? Everyone has been discussing the exciting places that they live and I wondered if you were anywhere near Leeds?

Where is everyone? It's strange, I seem to post and everyone disappears.

Just wanted to say hi, we are going to start TTC no.2 this month. The old Clear fertility monitor has been dusted down and put back into use. Feel a bit nervous and excited. dd is nearly three now and would love another dc x

I'm 23 weeks so it's starting to go fast. Also craving sweet things. I'm sure it's another boy!
Bitter - really well said!
Ian somewhere between u and swede. I enjoyed going back to work and found three days a good balance but wouldn't want to work full time. Who knows what I will do with no 2. I almost think it will be a case of can I afford to work! The cow at work made me think I def wouldn't go back but now I'm thinking I just will enjoy maternity and not make that decision right now.
My ds still doesn't eat!! Arghhh!! X

Hi!

I'm here. I'm just very tired after going back to work. Posting is a lot of effort! :-/

I'll be destroyed after a full week next week.

Bought DC2 their first / going home outfits today. Only new stuff they're getting from us! Had a little hormonal weep in Boots while choosing them. Saddo!

Argh. Teething DD tonight. After just learning to bloody sleep through this week too. Sigh.

Evening everyone, Mrs don't worry it's not you! We have moments of quiet and moments of chattiness.
Hungry are you glad it's the weekend now? How did the first two days go? Any crawling updates?
Gosh toothpaste, 23 weeks already, another boy would be sweet. I think that's a good idea regarding work; just see how your maternity goes.
Better very well said indeed. It got me wondering how many times I have said something inappropriate or put my foot in it though, on here and in RL!
If I'd known what I do now I wish I had taken another 6 months or so off of work too Mrs, hindsight is a bitch.
I had a revelation moment today, DD has just been so funny and sweet recently, I am so lucky to have her and I am just enjoying every day with her (except for when she throws yoghurt all over the floor). I get to have sweet little cuddles and kisses when I want, and engage in ridiculous 2 year old conversations. Today in the supermarket she was dancing to the song on the radio, wiggling her little bum around whilst holding on to the fridge doors! Don't ask me where she learnt that but I was wetting myself laughing. I'm sure I will change again in another week when AF shows up, but for now I am just enjoying spending time with her and appreciating that when AF does show her evil face at least I get to tickle and cuddle a sweet little girl. Please remind me of this when I am crying in a weeks time!!
Well tues and wed I got positive opks, then today no smiley face, so that is good in that it shows at least my LH surge seems relatively normal. Blood tests next tuesday, which will only be 5 dpo though.
loves and engels hows the baby making going?

Cross posts Hungry! New outfit sounds lovely, is most of the stuff you have from DD unisex? Although I do think you're having another girl
Hope you get a good nights sleep.

Yes, we got unisex stuff as we didn't find out with her either. DC2 deserves new first and going home outfits though!

I'm kind of thinking girl too thanks to slow growing leg hair. Of all things. :-)

I lay awake for about an hour at 4am this morning. Glad I was working from home today.

Your DD sounds adorable, Gingerbread.

Good luck with the blood test next week.

Toothpaste, I agree. Wait until near the end of your mat leave before worrying about work. :-)

Hi all! So glad that its weekend. Have been so tired this week after my illness. Also DH has been away on a business trip so been alone with dd which takes a lot of energy. Very glad that I have my cleaning lady otherwise the house would look like a bomb site! Today we are going to test drive another car, who would have thought it would take this long to buy a bloody car, sick of the whole thing already. Not long until Monday now. My scan is at 9 am and I am starting to get rather nervous. I still am worried that there is nothing there but I know I am being stupid. My boobs have increased at least one size, my belly is so bloated that none of my trousers button up any more and this nausea is just not going away. So if i am not pg then my body is acting very strange indeed. Anyway, going to get dressed now as taking dd to her ballet lesson. Have a lovely Sat everyone.

Glad it's the weekend too for you swede, hope you manage to get some rest! Test driving sounds like fun, did you manage to persuade DH to get the one you wanted?
It sounds like everything will be just fine for your scan on monday, how many weeks do you think you are?
hungry haha to slow growing leg hair! Love the ridiculous symptom spotting

Just realised my blood test is on monday, not tuesday, so if I count yesterday as 1dpo it's actually 3 days earlier than it needs to be. I'm such a dope hope it won't affect the results too much....

Right, best be off to work....hope everyone has a lovely day.

It may be ok, Gingerbread. You'll have to make sure you tell your GP when you discuss the results though.

Swede, I'm not surprised you're tired. Don't do too much this weekend. Haven't you been buying a car for about 2 months now though?! Long winded!

And yes, I'm going by leg hair growth...same thing happened with DD. :-) It's an unusual one, but there you go!

Better, is your scan this week or next?

Welcome tatty !

gingerbread that's excatly what I tell myself - every month I'm not pg is another month to spend with ds.

Still no ov here yet, expecting today or tomorrow.

Hi everyone! Got my AF this morning. At least, I think it's that. I have had lots of migraines and now feel very sick which made DH wonder if it was an implantation bleed. Think that's unlikely though...this is my first bleed since I stopped the pill on 13 February. At least I know where I am now...

Hey everyone. So sorry I've not been able to post for about a week! Haven't had the chance to write a msg due to tiredness and now having the flu :( how's everyone doing? I've just read quickly through all the pages I think I have missed, so firstly gingerbread sorry you were feeling down about it all, I do hope this is your month, and glad things are happening with tests etc! Good luck. :) hingry glad your first few days back at work were ok :) it is horrible leaving for that first day back, but your lucky its just for 3 months ;) how long will you have off for mat leave this time? mrs sorry bedtime isn't working with your DS in his room, I think you've just got to be persistent with it and not give up, it's hard but you will get there! We still have times where DS won't go to bed in his room, and we sometimes let him watch something on the iPad, bit similar to more with the tv, we know that way that at least he's relaxed, and will eventually fall asleep! Also what about playing some nursery rhymes or songs on a iPod or cd? Or not sure if they still do them now I remember when I was younger you used to be able to buy the cd/tape where it told childrens stories? I hope things improve for you!
swede good luck for your scan On Monday, I'm sure everything will be fine :) what time is it? Sorry If Ive missed anyone out will try have another read when I have a bit more energy!