About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 4)

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So, here it is, Part 4! May it bring lots of BFP's for those of us still waiting and may it bring happy healthy pregnancies for those who are fabulously pregnant.

Yes, you should get some legal advice, that is out of order!

Any scan news???

So I was approached today by another department within the bank who wants to poach me! Seriously exciting opportunity (lots more money) but my work load will increase, a lot. Also involves quite a bit of traveling, I do a bit already in Africa so think I will cope but it will mean more time away from home. Not sure if I want a bigger work load though. I am struggling already with balancing work and home life and if I want another kid then who knows what life will be like. Have until Fri to tell them if I am interested or not so will have to think about it. At least it kept my mind of the 2ww for the afternoon.

metal how frustrating!! How accurate is the dating this early? Could it be possible that theyre wrong and you're actually 7+2? At least you saw a heartbeat so theres definitely a baby. I would go for a private in a few weeks too, you'll go crazy if you wait for the 12 weeks. I would say try to be positive and just believe everything is good until you have tangible proof its not but I know its easier said than done!

donna I cant believe thats what our employer said, theyre totally legally wrong to have not informed you thus given you a chance to 'improve' surely? I thought you got on ok with them? How could they be so underhand and nasty with you, especially when you're pregnant! What are you going to do? At least youre not going back there after the baby comes!

Better I've been googling since I've been back and there seems to be disagreement about how accurate early scans are at dating. Some sources say it can be out by up to 6 days, which would be a bit more feasible, so I'm a bit less panicky now. I've got my first midwife appointment on Monday so I will have a word with her and see what she says.

Ah, Metalhead. Seems it was a double edged sword for you.

I think the size differences are so minimal at that stage it's easier to get the dating wrong.

Fx your midwife is also reassuring.

I'm worried that my baby's a whole week ahead! As mad as that may seem. :-/

Swede, that's really exciting. Is it the type of thing you'd be happy doing pregnant / with a baby?

I think your employer was taken by surprise that you queried it so decided to be a twat. But please make sure you take legal advice as I'm not sure how comparable the employment laws are for you.

Good evening ladies,
Sorry I've only just managed to come on.
Metal - please don't panic or worry about your scan. In sorry it didn't go how you were hoping it would and that's so disappointing, but I honestly don't think it's anything to worry about. My midwife felt my stomach at 16 weeks and worried me by saying I felt and was measuring two weeks bigger and further on, and yet that was impossible with the dates. At my scans they have said normal size baby and not big and exact for dates. If I were you and you now I'm the worlds biggest worrier I would book a private one in a few weeks if you want to be reassured. Most scans are £80 ish under 20 weeks.
My scan went really well. I loved every minute. We are definitely having a baby boy, he was really moving about and was in the cutest position with his legs up to his tummy. Head shape looked very similar to my DS so two boys for me! Thank you everyone for wishing me luck for the scan and thinking of me.
Donna - I'm disgusted with your work! What a disgrace. I agree with Hungry and think u should get some legal advice.
How is everyone else?

thanks everyone. as I left today the wicked witch was hanging about the car park to apologise for upsetting me. th damage is done and ive worked out its about £400 that I thought I would have been entitled to so im nor going to get upset of something that wouldn't even cover my mortgage for a month! she knows shes in the wrong. I personally don't give a flying f@!k avout the money it was the viciousness in the way she said im not worth it. Very very hurtful but in the end shes the one in the wrong and everyone knows it.
perhaps ill take early mat leave you know since in shite at what I do anyway!
metal I hope that you're not too worried about your scan and im sorry it wasnt as enjoyable as you hoped. im sure everything will be fine try not to stress out xxx
mrs how was your scan? xxx

I'm so sorry Donna, how awful. On a serious note, could you take early mat leave (with me)? I know you said you needed the money, as we all do but if it's that bad and they're treating shittily?
Oh forgot to say, no low placenta! After I stressed myself out. My placenta is just posterior so feeling lots of movement which is nice as with my DS I had an anterior one like Hungry.
Can I ask a random question, does or do any of you colour your hair while pregnant? I always did with DS.

Hi ladies, sorry I've not been around for a while. I've mostly been sleeping! Hope everyone is well x

thanks mrs my dh is saying to leave earlier and so did my physio today as they cant fit me with the support belt as I stand up sit down to much so im stuck wirh a tubigrip! I seem to have one leg longer than the other as one side of my pelvis has slipped
glad you had a good scan I hope metal has a better one at her 12 weeks. xx

Well even more reason to leave early I think! You want to be enjoying this time and could do without the stress. Just realised I keep calling you Donna sand forgetting!

That's such shocking behaviour rum! Absolute appalling and I expect she will be regretting it big time. I can't even imagine a conversation where she could say those words!! Was it very much said in heated argument? She does sound like a witch!
Metal I'm so sorry u are feeling confused. I reckon it will just be the sonographer getting it wrong. With my sis they had her down as a two weeks ahead of me and now it's down to five days! I agree re booking a private in two weeks.
Mrs - did they tell u it was a boy to is that a feeling? How exciting! I can't wait for mine.
Really feeling the little wriggles now which I like. Makes u feel properly pregnant rather than just chubby!
I'm over work at moment too. Think I'm starting to get tempted to not go back this time. But in reality not sure it would work...

Hi Toothpaste - we were told a little boy today and could clearly see his little bits and pieces. Very pleased to be having another boy and totally agree, it's lovely now feeling the movements. I love putting my hand on my tummy and feeling him move particularly on a night when I'm laid in bed. When is your scan? How far are you now?

How are you feeling today metal?

I wouldn't worry about you being a week ahead hungry you thought that could be the case anyway didn't you? I was put 5 days ahead, just pleased its 5 days less to wait haha! How are you?

Congrats on good scan news mrs and on boy #2, I think it's nice to have 2 of the same when they're close in age. Have you told ds yet?

Is early mat leave an option donna? I'd do it if it is. She obviously knows she's been horrid if she waited for you, too little too late though, sounds like a disgrace.

toothpaste how far along are you? Do you think it would be an option not to go back? How old is dc1?

Hi to everyone else!

It just seems weird based on the OPK, Better. But I wasn't doing them the week before, and we DTD at the right time, so maybe it's right! Maybe the OPK picked up pregnancy hormones not LH.

Anyway, I gained a week of pregnancy and lost a week of waiting, so all us good!

I'm not too bad. Felt grim yesterday after a bit of a walk to the shops in the morning and then pram shopping in the afternoon. It was exhausting! Not so bad today, thank god.

How're you doing?

I'd still look at suing morerum, but I do it for a living so wouldn't think twice about banging in a small claim for what I was owed! Failing that, definitely see if early mat leave is an option. You have to give 8 weeks' notice of the change of date, so need to think carefully about it.

Work still hasn't responded to me regarding my appeal or my due date. An acknowledgment would be nice. I also discovered that my recent pay rise means my 90% calculation needs redoing! even though it only came into force on 14th Jan, thanks to something called the Alabaster ruling. I emailed HR about that too. Guess what? No response! But I'm making a nice nuisance of myself...come on work, just pay me off! :-)

Swede, how're you feeling? You too, guinnessgirl?

When are you buying DS his new bed, mrs? Good luck!

Yeah I'm fine, ironically in seem to be getting the odd bit of morning sickness & terrible headaches but my tiredness has finally gone. Like you yesterday though, if I over exert myself it hits me hard.

Pram shopping!?!? Exciting, what are you going for? You'll need a double won't you, with dd being a littley still?

Better I'm ok today, thanks for asking, though still quite anxious. I just know that, even given that I ov'd a few days later than thought, I must be at least 7 weeks. Have just booked another scan for 19 Feb, a couple of days before my parents are coming to visit. Part of me feels really silly for doing it, but I just know I won't be able to relax until my 12-week scan in March.

Thinking back to DD actually I'm sure I thought her scan date was out by about a week as well, and lo and behold she came 5 days early, which was much closer to "my" EDD!

Great news about your scan mrsm, glad everything was ok.

Sorry some of you are having trouble with work, that's just rubbish. I haven't told my boss yet but last time they were really good, so hoping it won't be a problem this time round either. I'm all for taking ML as early as possible, it's nice to have some time off before the madness of the early days post-birth kicks off!

Yep, DD will be 13 months, so a double is definitely needed.

We think an Oyster Max if we can get a decent second hand one. My mum has said she will buy it for us. Thankfully!

Will you get a buggy board for your DD?

Hungry, it's all quiet ATM - am symptom-spotting obsessively, but nothing of note. I didn't have a clue before POAS with DS, so am keeping an open mind! This next week is going to really drag...

sorry to hear your work are still being difficult, but it sounds like you're almost having fun responding! Here's hoping they just get sick of it and pay you off sooner rather than later

I'm keeping fingers firmly crossed for you, guinnessgirl! :-)

And I am kind of enjoying it...when I get ACAS involved at the end of the process I'll enjoy it even more. Can't beat making a totally legal nuisance of yourself. :-) Especially when they're not allowed to make your life difficult because of it!

Hi everyone,
Hungry - your work need to to pull their finger out and let you know what's going on! I keep forgetting how young your DD will still be when your new baby comes along. What prams have you looked at? I went for a nice classic Silver Cross one for my DS so going to re use that as so expensive. I'll need a new Moses basket and play mat and other things. I can't wait to go new baby shopping actually.
How's everyone doing?
Going to try get DS a bed at some point before end of feb when I finish work. Not looking forward to trying to get him in it though. He might think it's a new bed for me and him. Bless him x

My work are crap, mrs! I'm dreading going back. But at least I know I won't be going back afterwards, unless I'm desperate!!

We've looked at all the doubles thereabouts and discounted a side by side as they're huge. A lot of the tandems aren't right either, hence plumping for the Oyster Max.

Baby shopping is fun, mrs. We need to sell our Silvercross as we won't need it with two and the Oyster Max can be a single too.

Fingers crossed your DS takes to his new bed better than you're anticipating!

Hi everyone, new name for me (Lucy) Hopefully a change in identity is what I need!! Lots to catch up on...
Hungry - your mum is pleased with the news then if she is going to buy you the pram? That must be such a weight off to be able to share your news finally! Was she ok with it? It does sound like fun being able to mess with your work, especially when you have all the knowledge that you are doing it right! I have just managed to swap the days around that I work as it works better for my mum in terms of childcare, annoyed that it has taken this long and I have been working around everyone else who don't have children, but it's all settled now.
Metal such a shame you haven't come away from your scan feeling better. they think you are 6+2 where would you put yourself? I would say don't listen too much to what she said, it is just the opinion of one woman, I'm sure it will change again with further scans.
Rum wicked witch is brilliant! It sucks to have to go through things like this with work. it makes it so hard to come into work everyday and get on with it when you are put in awkward positions and don't get on with people. Counting down the days for you!
Mrs hurray for the scan! Bet you have a great baby bump now Very exciting about baby shopping! Will you have to try and refrain yourself from going ott though seen as you are having another boy!? I love buying clothes for my DD but she has got so many good quality hand-me-downs from her cousins that I feel a bit ridiculous buying her anything!
Better go anyway, just finishing up my lunch break x

Hi Gingerbread - hope your new name brings you luck!

I would have thought I was 7+2 at the very least, and even that would mean I conceived 5 days after dtd. Just doesn't add up. Anyway, nothing I can do about it now but hope that I will a) measure more in line with my dates in three weeks' time, or b) still be in line with the scan date but baby is healthy nonetheless and just growing a bit more slowly.

Thanks Metal! Hopefully baby will have a bit of a growth spurt! Feb 19th was it you said your next scan is booked for? It's encouraging that she said everything was looking fine though.
I am off work today as my mum is busy today, not sure what to do with DD as I'm not normally off on thursdays. Got a few errands to run but the weathers not particularly great!
Swede what are your latest thoughts on the job offer? Congratulations by the way! What does DH think?
Where is everyone today?

Hi Gingerbread! Great name! :-)

I've heard from work on one count: I'm owed an extra £103 SMP. Yay! Useful as my last payment is lower than the others have been. It'll pay for train journeys to work in March, anyway.

Just two other issues to hear back on now!

Rang and sorted tax credits this morning too. Not that we get a huge amount, but we should be due some arrears. The joy of dropping £11k in pay this year. :-/