Um hello, newbie, ttc, needing a place to talk to people :)

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I've been reading the site for ages but decided to sign up as need an outlet and place to talk as ttc is quite secret and it's not something I have loads of people I could talk about it with. Plus I'm quite shy and my ovaries aren't something to bring up at social gatherings!
I'm 31, came off pill in October and me and boyfriend have been ttc since. I didn't know how long it would take to get back to normal as had been on pill for eleven years. Turns out it took four weeks, and am now on third AF since coming off, so annoyingly normal in one way! I'm getting my head round all this tracking stuff but don't want it all to get clinical with the fella as it takes the fun away!
So just wanted to say hi and hopefully share in people's stories. It's not all as straightforward as I always thought, and I'm always the one that would start panicking something was wrong with me. I'm pleased I found somewhere I can just write it down if nothing else.
So, hi, and hopefully can take some good advice away.

Kikilove that's fantastic! Such a relief for you. I was same - 4 months with nothing. It's scary! This is such a great forum - helps people to know they're not the only ones going through it. Good luck with the next step, must be a huge weight off your mind :)

Kikilove that's fantastic! Such a relief for you. I was same - 4 months with nothing. It's scary! This is such a great forum - helps people to know they're not the only ones going through it. Good luck with the next step, must be a huge weight off your mind :)

Oops bit trigger happy there posted twice

Sorry if you have already said lalanic but how long have you ttc??

Welcome kikilove

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Great news, kikilove, fingers crossed all settles down for you from now on!

Thanks lalanic! Good to hear I'm not the only one. It was scary but I am optimistic about the future! This is such a great forum, just reading your mesg made me feel so much better.

Hi laurita 42 and Lolly84, nice to meet u all ?? wishing baby dust to you all!

Been ttc since last summer but had to wait until cycle settled after coming off pill which was frustrating and scary (every other time I'd come off it went back to normal straight away so I thought something was wrong). Now been properly charting and using kits for about 5-6 months, no luck so far but staying positive. Pressure's on a bit as most of my friends have children, those who don't are going through ivf :(. It's taken a few months to get the hang of the cycle charts and to take notice of the changes in my body. I'm a scientist so find it really interesting! Don't like the lack of control though.

Kikilove I'm glad the forums helping - same here. My dh is completely oblivious so it's a great outlet for me. He's lovely but so ridiculously laid back about everything :)

Baby dust to all of you!

Lolly just read back and saw you're on cycle 3. How are you all tracking ov? I've tried different brands of opk and never get a positive apart from clear blue (which of course are the most expensive!)

Wow your a scientist. Yes defo stay positive. Sounds like your body is working hard to get itself back to normal. I don't have a great family history with conceiving and pcos but trying to ignore that. My sister conceived on first try but really put that down to her not trying very hard and having a very relaxed time on her honeymoon. They say on average it takes a year. I don't want to be average lol.

I am just using clear blue, think I will just do it for this month and then just track myself now I know more. I get symptoms most months, pain in the side and EWCM. I didn't realise these started a few days before ov so that's good to know from using clear blue. Dtd is getting a bit of a chore after the past couple of days...

I got the pains and ewcm at the start of this cycle and then no af or bfp so I think it must be possible to get it all but then not ovulate afterwards.

Cd53 today and it looks like af is finally on her way! Seriously hoping things are back to normal after this and I can crack on with cycle 3!

oh Helen- fx she's here (never thought we'd be wishing AF on anyone hey!)

Helen - I second misskgb's wishes...and also her words on never thinking to wish the witch on anyone. Anyway, I do hope she turns up so that you can get back to ttc!

Yip Helen your right. And you can get a smiley face on the opk and not ovulate. It just detects the hormone from ovulation.

When I had my polyp problems it was quite interesting as from ultrasounds and stuff they can tell which ovary you ovulate from. I predominantly ovulate from the left. Amazing what you can find out x

Aw thanks ladies! I really hope she's on her way too. Would never have believed I'd be wishing this a few weeks ago!

Yeah sounds interesting Lolly. I always get the pains on my left side. Yeah I'm not going to bother with opks next cycle for that reason. Just going to have to keep going throughout the month until I have a more regular cycle! No idea what to expect next month really! It does look like I've skipped a month. Got some yoga and reflexology booked in and also eating lots of salad and veg etc. Might not make any difference but makes me feel like I'm doing something!

Hi all, nice to see a recent thread, I am in the same situ as boumplj, decided to start preparing for TTC end Dec, have been off pill since then and so far so good, have also got an app on my phone and its pretty much on the dot aside from a little spotting in January. Have been taking folic acid (started with pregnacare but came off after 5 weeks as was giving my abdominal swelling so on seven seas now and seems fine) and have started preparing our nest so to speak :)

We have agreed to wait until June to properly TTC but working on diet and fitness atm as we need to plan as if going to get PG straightaway even though could take months or years...we have always said for years that we weren't interested in having children but reached that point at Christmas where various influences made us discuss it further and hey now have baby brain...pleased to see others have same issue...!

Like the idea of a thread where we can chat as like others on here have only told a few chosen ppl (defo not Boss or parents!) and so nice to speak to others in same position.

Is there anyone else on here who has always been in the 'no, never' club and then swung 180 to 'hell, yeah'? The way I explain it to be BH is that we talked when we first got together about family (I was 19, he was 23) and we weren't interested so any maternal urges that were deep down were then further boxed up and put to the back of my mind. Then starting discussions December opened the box and hey presto out pours baby fever....We are 90% certain it is the right thing for us, just been discussing all the ins and outs/scenarios etc to make sure when we get to June we are 100% certain...would love to hear from others in similar situ....Anyways, keep TTC... ;)

^ I'm a a bit like you Shelley, I was 19 & (now) Dh was 23 wehen we got together so we had a loooong period of "no way" while we finished university, started careers, travelled, bought a house, renovated. We finally got to the point in Decemeber where I guess we had run out of excuses! We have been together 12 years!

I am pretty sure yesterday was O day (+ OPK the day before yesterday) so we DTD yesterday and the day before - might try again tonight if I can be bothered. This will be cycle 3 TTC and if there's no BFP this time I might not try too hard next month - it would mean a Christmas baby in high summer and I really would rather not! (Sounds terrible I know).

Hi Gennz, Thanks for your response, forgot to say we are now 31 and 34 no like you 12 years. I think for some it is a switch once you've ticked off those essentials you mentioned. We have both sat down and discussed the reasons why we want to start a family and it is the hardest question to answer (a bit like defining love I guess) but reached our peak at wknd when we had discussed our jobs and families and I had got it in my head it would be too difficult to coordinate and then out in the middle of a carboot car park had an emotional cry and hubby said he was pleased (not the crying but the reason behind it) as it shows us both how serious we are about this so we have now started talking childbirth (his biggest fear) and our options so guess we've turned the corner now. He even said the other day in a park that he can now visualise it (we saw a father and daughter) but he admits he probably wont get the babyfever like I have ...is it just a female thing?....Really want to experience it all and so keen to get TTC ;)

Lol Gennz we must have similar O days. Think I ovulated today and also having the if I can be bothered tonight thought too. Hubby has a big presentation for work tomorrow so is in the study working away. Not sure if he will be bothered too haha. This ttc really takes it out of you.

Welcome Shelley, not on the same boat as you but its great to hear another story. The only similarity which I am sure most couples go through is the 'are we ready??' chat. My career is pretty full on and so is Hubby's so one of us would have to step back as not much family around us. Financially having kids would be challenging but so worth it. I never thought that work would ever become a lower priority but it has and am pretty comfortable with that now. Xx

Ps anyone watching one born every minute? I love it! Xx

It's really good to read everyone else's stories. Shelly in answer to your question I've always known I wanted to be a mum but worked on career first and it took a long time to find the person I wanted to have children with. We had 'the talk' a few years ago and decided we wanted to get married first. Finally started trying last summer. My friends are mostly on their second, I'm 33.

I'm sad - I am 3 days late so got excited and tested, pfn. I should have waited...

Really interesting reading your stories about ovulation. It's one of those things that you don't notice, but once you start paying attention you can tell. My pain is always on right so I must ovulate that side.

Watching obem just now. It's brilliant!

Hi Lolly84, yes the 'are we ready' convo is often discussed altho from what I've heard you'll never be ready is the common answer to that one so guess it's just ensuring we have our affairs in order - financial, work etc and like you say work out who will take a step back, which for us will be Hubby as his work is less regular (electrical contracting/ going self employed). My earnings cover the main bills but he would have to earn sufficient to make up difference for a child and enough to pay childcare when he's working so it's all a balancing act I think and the difficult think is as his work isn't regular its difficult to plan by it - happily working and saving now but can all change pretty quickly but then as he says at least then not paying childcare as he would be home with LO. I keep hearing the 'so worth it' response and I guess that makes us feel better but we can't put it into perspective as it is the unknown and so won't know for sure til go for it lol.

Think I saw a bit of that show but not all the way through, have watched the baby bomb and bringing up baby - both are interesting shows/documentaries....

Hi Lalanic, thanks for your comments, I guess that's what we're scared of, we haven't always had the burning desire and coming from divorced/remarried parents who had me too young, its difficult to find a role model lol.... I have experience with my step sister and brother when they were babies/toddlers and also have some very recent teenager/young adult experience with Hubby's niece so know what is involved....P.S. I'm also a right side gal!

Im from a family of kids (6 nices/nephews) n dh doesn't have any kids on his side so all new to him but we've been together for 8 years, married for 18 months n spoke about it a lot before we decided to ttc

The biggest thing was coming off the pill n would my body be ok as af hadn't visited for 10 years!

Now 5 weeks pg n he's starting to talk about our little one as a baby n child birth n being parents which is lovely to c :-)

On the OBEM front-love it although I must stop holding my breath when they actually give birth! Have cried lots the last couple of episodes-beware of the hormonal pregnant woman!!!! Haha

Misskgb that's lovely :) you must be very excited.

I always wince at obem when they show too much - ow! But it's such a great show, really well done and focusses on the stories of the people which I love.

They say normal couples will conceive within a year so onwards onto cycle 7! Can't afford any more opk so going to just dtd every 2 days and wing it!