New year, new thread, fresh start and a brand spanking new injection of a hot new batch of posifrickenity! This is the year where our wombs will be comfy and our babies plentiful! TTC after MC.

[Sal1977]

2014. The year of the rainbow baby. We pledge to be positive (most of the time). We pledge to cry less, shag more and swear lots. This is the one wannamummabees!

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Oh and not helped by my NCT friends moaning about lack of sleep and how they will never complain about work again. Do they not understand what I would give to be in their shoes?! Bleurgh.

Sorry - should have explained that all my NCT have no 2.

Hope you are bearing up fedup. One of my colleagues and I used to have a look that meant "do not talk to me and if you need to work only". I also echo making friends with the ladies

First day back after 2 and a half weeks off and there have been tears here too. My dd came downstairs this morning looking glum and said 'I wish I had a friend' which made me think in 3 months time you should have a sibling which clearly wasn't what she meant but was my first thought.

Need some positive thinking! Congratulations fairy long many the bfps and sticky beans continue

Forgot to say before - congrats to Fairy! Very exciting news for you

(Shuffles in)

Hi everyone, what a wonderfully supportive and positive place this is. May I join you? I'll bake y'all and everything!

I've been mooching around on the mc boards for the past couple of months and it's taken me a massive effort to come over to 'conception' again – will you have me?!

So my story: TTC first child for 18 months, finally got BFP after 5 rounds of the crazies-inducing Clomid. First scan at 6 weeks (I'm Type 1 diabetic so get an early scan) showed everything okay and a heartbeat. Scan at 8 weeks showed baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks. ERPC a few days later on 25th Nov You all sadly know what it feels like - desperately upsetting, numb, angry, hurtful… But I'm trying to move on now and miracle of miracles I started AF on Sunday (5 1/2 weeks post ERPC)! 'Tis a miracle as I've never naturally had AF, it's always been brought about by Provera or Clomid. So, I'm back to TTC officially and I'll be popping the Clomid again tonight.

As everyone else I'm surrounded by pregnant acquaintances, I'm fed-up of bloody Facebook and I can't stop looking at the calendar and thinking 'I should be 14 weeks now', 'I should be telling work now' etc etc. Fedup, it's my first day back at work since mc too and I'm finding it all very difficult. But massive congrats to those with BFPs and here's to the posifrickenity on this thread!

Welcome otters. I'm so sorry for your loss and that you find yourself here. I hope, in the nicest possible way, that you won't be here for too long.

Sorry to hear you're having difficult days fedup and Holly You've made it through half a day already. It is so hard plastering that brave face on sometimes.

I must admit, having gone through this experience I would definitely think twice about announcing my news on Facebook. The world and his wife seems to be posting scan pics at the moment.

*if I ever have news to post that is.

Chin up and tits out girls, we'll all get there this year, I just know it!

First day back here as well after a week off and first massage client of the day was a bloke making Groany sex noises. Grim. I spent the whole time praying he wasn't sporting a boner under the towel!!

Rest of the day will be spent dealing with fuzzy fanjos. Gotta love this job!!

Sal! Thanks for the giggle First laugh I've had all day!

And thanks Penguin - I feel the same about Facebook. If I ever get to that happy stage I don't think I'll be posting any scan pictures. It's like a knife to the heart although I appreciate that if you've never experienced an mc you are probably blissfully aware of us poor buggers. Sigh.

But yes, tits are out! (well, not out at work per se....!)

Hahaha @ Sal - Very Grim!

Fedup, Otters & Holly I hope your days are going a bit better now and if not, see Sal's perfectly worded encouragements up thread!

Huge welcome to you too Otter, I was also 18 months TTC before we got our BFP only to lose it at 11 weeks (MMC, only got as far as 6 weeks). Sounds very promising that your periods have been kick started, so to speak, so I hope the clomid and the posifrickintivity (quick aside, does anyone else resort to one finger keyboard pecking and multiple attempts just to spell that damn word?) you will acquire here means your stay will be short and sweet! is always appreciated, especially if served with

Sal OMG at the boner possibilities. I guess it must happen? That just reminds me of that episode of Friends! hahaha!
I am thinking about making myself some kind of motivational poster or screensaver of that little saying!

So, after all our SMEP-ing today is rest day, tomorrow is bonus day and then it's 2WW. TBH I am pretty sure I ov'ed Sun/Mon so it's really starting now but what do i know?!

As for Facebook everyone, I've made major use of the 'hide from newsfeed' over the last few months! Brilliant! Though it does make it appear that I have no friends!

Woohoo congrats fairy! Any wise tips? Did you follow smep?
Sorry to hear that some people are not having a good day at work. It was my first day back after the holidays, but all ok here. Most people are single, so we rarely discuss kids!

This I think describes my relationship with Facebook just now quite well!

Posted this in the old thread as I didn't notice there was a new one. Whoops! So, here we go again...

Hello everyone. I'll go and have a catch up in a bit. Hope everyone had a good Christmas and that there was good news for some of you.

I managed to survive Christmas and the funeral despite my sisters and their complete inability to lift a finger. AF arrived on New Years day as if she wanted to make it clear that a new year doesn't necessarily mean a change in luck. I'm finding this month really hard to cope with. I think I had it in my head that the New Year would bring a BFP and that was what was keeping me going. The fact that it didn't was a bit of crushing reality and I kind of collapsed. In many ways I think it was a good thing, I'd been so busy organising everybody that I hadn't had a proper chance to grieve for my Dad. The tears have probably been a mix of grieving for both losses.

I'm still feeling a bit wobbly, I'm back in work now and the routine seems to be doing me some good.

Do any of you feel like thumping you DH/DP for being too sensitive? I know this sounds completely daft, but my DH is driving me up the wall. I know that he lost a baby as well, but how can he possibly know what it is like to be feeling every little twinge and wondering/worrying about it? And how can he possibly know what it feels like to be losing blood every month and have that reminding you of MC. I know I should be grateful that I have a very loving DH, but sometimes I wish he would stop being touchy feely. Him being over understanding is making me feel very alone. I need someone big and strong to give me a hug, not someone to cry with me.

Oh, wing you have had such a lot of sad on your plate. I know just what you mean about the blood reminding you every month of the loss. It is grim. My dh has been stoic and optimistic throughout. That has irritated me too, I have felt guilty for monopolising the grief. They can't win, poor loves!

otter I like that post about Facebook. That blog articulates some of what I have been feeling, especially the daft comments trying to cheer me up "but you already have two lovely children" "now you can drink at Christmas". The only one that has slightly worked is "when you hold your next baby, you will only be holding it because you lost the earlier one". But now I have the gloom and have decided it isn't happening. I'm doing other stuff instead. I am now the conductor of a children's choir!

I know I can rely on sal to make me chuckle. The sex groans made me laugh!! Poor you.

So have left the office with my chin up and tits out. Made it.

wing nice to see you again. And does sound like you haven't really had a chance to grieve for you dad as just being in organising mode whilst rest of your family take a back seat :( Sorry for your loss and hope you get a chance to grieve properly.

Welcome otter sorry you find yourself here but we are a good supportive bunch.

It's weird as I complain about how annoyingly upbeat and positive my husband is, and kind of feel he's dismissing my sadness and sense of failure as pathetic and I should just get on. But I can see how someone over sensitive to it all would be annoying as well as someone who doesn't appreciate how shit it is.
My husband does get it I think, it's just his way of trying to keep the posifrickintivity up - BUT he doesn't get the monthly rollercoaster, analysis of every twinge, painful periods and sodding hormone crash!

I was wondering how you were getting on Wing the other day. It's kind of a relief when the funeral is over I guess. And thinking positive for you, your womb was having a good new year clear out ready for the new year. New Year, new cycle and baby not conceived during the height of tradgedy (not that its not tradgic for you now sweet iykwim).

Just got back from seeing the RMC consultant to get result of innards scan and all looks good! She has recommended I take an aspirin a day now have been for last couple of weeks anyway and when I get upduffed again, if 6 week scan shows bean in correct place, daily heparin injections. Gulp.

She then added that if I fail to get preggers or if i have another MC, we are to go straight to ICSI. In our PCT you get one go at it and then it's £4-4.5k a pop! She said that as DH has a low morphology (2x4% normal and 1x1% normal) it could be his fugly swimmers causing the MCs.

She also said that 70% of girls having 3+ MC go on to have a normal pg.

Otters - love the Facebook thing! Ours good to know we're not unique in our feelings!

I'd see it like that too wing-your body flushing out the sadness of 2013 ready for a happy 2014 baby. Glad you've survived the funeral, though I think the grieving starts after all the busy bit dies down, I hope you're ok.

Hilarious about the sexy groans Sal, all I can think about is Friends too! I always wonder what it must be like to see fannies all day, do you just get used to them or is it always weird seeing other peoples hoo-has?! Good news that you're physically well and being taken seriously, you must have been crying out for answers.

Dh and I have a ny resolution to eat scrambled eggs and fish for brekkie each morning, and it's making SUCH a difference. Not hungry until lunch, energy's so much better,not slumping mid-afternoon-wish I'd tried it before. Making me feel much healthier.

Off to be a pin-cushion for a while at placebo acupuncture.

sal great to hear that everything is in working order and that you have been given some good advice. I hope it doesn't come to ICSI and you get your sticky bean soon. Aspirin has been known to work for many. Fx.

wing glad to see you back here. Hope you can now look forward to 2014.

Not much going on in our household. DS is back to school tomorrow so no more sleeping late for us either!!
Just cd9 right now. Will wait for a couple of more days before poa-opks. Since mc I have ovulated on cd 17, 18, 17, 24 and 15. So lets see how this one goes!

wing I am so sorry for your loss.

I had managed to convince myself I was updiffed this month but have just started spotting. I suppose it could be a breakthrough bleed but that's clutching at straws a bit... I'm due on Saturday.

sal how were the fannies?

Can't moan about fannies really Beets, they pay my mortgage at the end of the day! Weirdly, Brazilian and Hollywood waxing is the side of the business I want to push further this year as it's bloody good money (£40-£50ph). Bring the fuzz on!!

I have a challenge for you luscious lot:

With your next comment, add in an old wives tale for getting upduffed. You never know, one of them may work,

Eat pineapple (inc core) for 5 days after ovulation

Sal that did make me chuckle. Got my chin up and my tits out Good to hear about positive RMC appointment too. I love your positive outlook despite all you've been through.

Hi Wing glad you found us again. I hope that 2014 brings you wonderful things after all the sadness.

My H is definitely in the posifrickentivity and optimism camp which can be frustrating at times but actually I can see that the reverse might be be harder to deal with.

Anyone gymming it tonight? Need some motivation to get off my bum and go to zumba and as I am horribly competitive perhaps hearing other people are going will give me the push I need!

congrats fairy! great news! first of the NY! hope there's many more of us to follow....

fedup - it's horrible being back at work isn't it. Two days in, and all the bloody rain doesn't help. Hang in in there it's January..... (or that's what I keep telling myself)

thanks for all the lovely notes about the bleeding thing. It's now seamlessly merging into next AF I think. Doctor really unhelpful, scan appt sounds like it will take weeks, and I am trying not to worry. I think my body might have just thrown a post-miscarriage-wobbly, so I'm trying to focus on getting stronger and balancing out. Maca, Bowen technique, anyone?

in the meantime I think I may run out of blood, a girl can't bleed this much for this long without getting low or becoming prune-like or something.. pah!