New year, new thread, fresh start and a brand spanking new injection of a hot new batch of posifrickenity! This is the year where our wombs will be comfy and our babies plentiful! TTC after MC.

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2014. The year of the rainbow baby. We pledge to be positive (most of the time). We pledge to cry less, shag more and swear lots. This is the one wannamummabees!

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

In case I missed posts and news. Sorry I dropped I phone and screen smashed so can only see a quarter of it. Sniff sniff

Sorry about you gm hands full, I lost mine a couple of months ago (just after mc) and it was all too much. I hope yours pulls through.

I had constant bleeding a few years ago daft but that was a reaction to my contraception so easier to sort out. I hope they find an answer for you soon.
Penguin - I have been on a mission planning distractions and so far have: booked 2 weekends away in jan and feb, bought theatre tickets, timetabled (but not booked) dance class and Pilates, written a long list with DH and explained about needing to plan to not be pg iykwim and been headhunted at work so waiting to see what they have to offer.
This seems to have worked as I had cramps on Saturday eve, followed by nausea sun and mon am so couldn't resist an ic with fmu today- vv faint line but left for too long.
A pack containing frer and cb digis was delivered just before I came home for lunch and got another faint (within the time) on the frer. DH felt its best to be honest with dds (we asked after the mc and they would rather know) so I had to do a cb just to make sure I wasn't mis reading it
It's worth all the fish slaps

lol fairy , last time we decided to 'give up' and 'move on' with our lives I was head hunted and found out I was pg in the same week. Sadly it didn't last (the pg; the job was/is great), but it was crazy while it was all going on. I bet it will take ages now that I am peeing on opks and doing a shagathon! Isn't life funny!? haha :/ Better book a holiday or something...

Wait wait wait WHAT? fairy!!!!!!!!!!!

I need clarification stat fairy!!!!! Are you saying what I think you're saying?!!

If what you think I'm saying is that I am naughty but upduffed penguin, then yes, you are right

congrats fairy

Congratulations!!!Hooray! I am so chuffed for you! That is amazing news

Congratulations!!!Hooray! I am so chuffed for you! That is amazing news

Is it wrong that I am also quite chuffed for myself to realise that I am genuinely 100% happy for fairy and not

Woooohooo! First place prize for you Fairpants, the first BFP of 2014!
Brilliant news, massive congrats and may it be the first of many on this thread!

Yay! Congrats fairy!! Hurrah! First bfp of 2014 for our thread!

Can I ask how many dpo you were when tested pos (if you know!)

Better get booking that holiday...

Thanks guys, you're making me all weepy. You are allowed to feel though- we've all been there.
I'm 10 dpo today which is the first positive and I'm sure about the dates. Last time I got faint positive at 9dpo so I do show up early.
I really thought I was kidding myself with the ic this morning as it was so faint and not clearly a colour so I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you still fed up.

Now, I'd like to think of myself as a trendsetter so lets keep 2014 going in the right direction.

Congrats fairy. That's great news. May it be the first of many BFPs for 2014.

Fairy that's fab! Of course I'm a bit but it is great news, and is a sign of things to come!

fairy congratulations

Oh help me ladies. I feel so shit. First day back in the office today after Christmas and after mc. Sobbed through the wind and rain to the train. Tested this morn and bfn. So miserable :(

fedup it does get easier. Hang in there.

Just feel like I'm going to cry as soon as I walk in office and when anyone talks to me. (Already cried my mascara off :(

Fedup I know exactly how you feel. Don't push yourself too hard today, and don't expect too much of yourself. If you're able, just get up and go out if you start feeling tearful, go for a coffee or a walk or something. is there anyone at work who know what's going on that you'd be comfortable talking to? I ended up only doing a morning my first day and went home at lunch, it was too much. Thinking of you x

Thanks Parsley. Only one other here so far and held it together. The chief exec, MD and my mentor all know but I think that's it. For some reason the big guns need to know (well am working closely with the MD on all my projects at the mo so he needed to know). All male so a bit difficult. I think I will be ok if no one asks me if I am ok if that makes sense? They all know this was my second mc too.

I just wish this wasn't the case. I should have a 4 month old baby on mat leave but no, I'm hiding behind my laptop drinking ridiculously strong coffee and trying to make my eye make up look deliberately smokey eyed and lie that I've got a cold to allow for bloodshot eyes and snuffly nose :(

I do actually need a holiday. Somewhere sunny and warm. Totes getting on the case tonight.

Oh fedup, I'm sorry you're having a difficult morning. I think all you can do is take it easy, don't expect too much of yourself and see how you go. I had a difficult first day back at work yesterday and nearly went home at lunch, so I can imagine how you're feeling

Fedup, that was exactly what set me off! A well meaning colleague who did my know why I was off asked me if I was OK and I just lost the plot. You just have to let yourself feel what you feel, make the ladies loo your best friend and definitely go with the cold excuse, that covers most outward symptoms. It is bullshit tho isn't it, I really struggled with motivation the first few weeks back at work, it all seemed so piffling and inconsequential compared to what I'd been through. Tough it out best you can then go home and have a good vent, here, with DH or however makes you feel a bit better. Hope the day goes quickly for you!

Sorry you're having a tough morning fedup, as the others said just take time out when you need it and don't force yourself to stay if you need space. Difficult that it's all men too, I hope they're sympathetic ones. I try to stay away from 'what if', that way madness lies, but it's not possible sometimes. Mine would be 5 months old...

So pleased for a 2014 bfp a week in! No fish slaps from me as we all need at least a vicarious one, so thanks for obliging fairy! Fx for a smooth 9 month run for you.

Thanks so much girls. It's good to have you guys who understand how hard this is and how shit it is. Whilst I was making another coffee I got talking to someone new and it was about kids. Somehow I managed to hold it together. My logic is that these people don't really care about me in a personal sense, just professionally - ie will I do a good job so not sure I want to expose myself emotionally to them if that makes sense. So trying very hard to lock that up until I get home / leave the office tonight.