New year, new thread, fresh start and a brand spanking new injection of a hot new batch of posifrickenity! This is the year where our wombs will be comfy and our babies plentiful! TTC after MC.

[Sal1977]

2014. The year of the rainbow baby. We pledge to be positive (most of the time). We pledge to cry less, shag more and swear lots. This is the one wannamummabees!

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Fedup after a couple of days of 'rummaging', you don't want my fingers anywhere near your mouth! Lol!

I would probably say "I'm really pleased things have worked out for YOU. Now fuck right off until I have MY newborn in my arms."

I clearly wouldn't say that apart from in my mind. Or I might do. No I wouldn't. Or would I.....

I count it as therapy imagining what we would say to this person. Just can't believe she said it in such a blissfully innocent way... I can't say ignorant as she knows about my mc.
I've known this girls since we were 3. You know how I told you about the girl who 'pretended' she was ttc with me and 'in my shoes' when actually pregnant? Yup you guessed it... This is her.

What a twattish thing to do! I'm furious for you!!

fedup, I have a friend who did that. Moaned about it all to her at christmas. Low and behold last week announced that shes due end of july - 12 weeks gone and was obviously upduffed while i was ranting. Fuming!

Thanks Parsley. TBH, the worst of the grief was when my cat was run over between MCs 2 and 3. It doesn't take a psychologist to work out where I'd been focusing all that extra unspent love :(
Anyhooo... let's keep fantasizing over all those witty and cutting retorts and wish for the day when we are those B*itches. :)

Ok last list for now, only missing a few now I think!

Watching Sun, Sex & Suspicious Parents and despairing/giggling simultaneously.

Parsley - 32, ttc #1 for 22 months, BFP 1st Oct ‘13, MMC Nov 15th ‘13
Otters - 32, ttc #1 for 22 months, BFP 26 Oct '13, MMC 25th Nov '13
Sal1977 - 36 21, TTC #1 18months, CP jul 12, BFP Jan13 MMC Mar13, BFP Jul 13 MC Aug 13, CP Nov 13.
Seasides - 27, TTC #1 for 16 months, BFP Dec 12, EP Dec 12.
JBrd - 42, 1 DS, ttc #2 for 18 months, MC Jan 2013, MC April 2013, MC Aug 2013
MissHobart – 33, ttc #1, cycle 12, 2 x mc last year (July '13 and Dec '13.) both at six weeks. Bloods being taken tomorrow!
deuscat - 30, ttc #1 for 5 months, BFP 5th December ended in mc at 7+4 on 25th December
triplespin - 35 - TTC#2 (3 months) MC at 5.3 wks - June 2013, nothing so far
Penguin13 - 33 (soon to be 34), TTC #1 for 7 months. BFP Sept 13. Mmc and ERPC Nov 13.
EnglishGirlAbroad - 29 (nearly 30...Sshh!) TTC #1, Cycle4, MC at 5+2 30 Dec '13
hollyben - 39, ttc #2 bfp 10th Aug cycle 2, erpc 11th Sept (9 weeks). Prior: ttc #1 bfp Jan ‘10 cycle 9, erpc mar ’10, bfp june ‘10 cycle 2, dd born mar 2011.
Fedupofrainydays - 32, ttc #2, bfp Dec 2012, mmc at 12 wks feb 2013, bfp nov 2013, mc dec 2013 at bout 6 weeks.
*Just - 37, TTC#1 MMC 6 and a bit weeks after hb, ERPC, Nov 2011; MMC 6 and a bit weeks after hb, ERPC x2 and hysteroscopy for retained products then HRT to heal, May 2012; MMC 9-10 weeks, good scan at 9.1 wks (discovered at 13), ERPC, Turner Syndrom. Tests at St Mary's, Uterus op Oct 2013;

I watched sunny beach last week..... Now that was special!

Can you add mine please?

Oh there really are a lot of us here aren't there.

I'm a bloody emotional mess tonight, tried to get DP to dtd tonight but apparently he's too tired. I know I can't expect sex on tap but he really doesn't understand how frustrating it is for me around ov time. So I've come to bed and can't stop crying about it. It's unfair of me but it makes me want to scream at him that I'm the one having to take fertility meds, and get dildo-cam'ed, and track this first post-mc cycle.

I feel like the fun is going out of our sex life and that he dosent find me attractive anymore. It's probably all in my head but I feel really depressed tonight

So sorry tanny, I missed your post! Have I missed anyone else?

Parsley - 32, ttc #1 for 22 months, BFP 1st Oct ‘13, MMC Nov 15th ‘13
Otters - 32, ttc #1 for 22 months, BFP 26 Oct '13, MMC 25th Nov '13
Sal1977 - 36 21, TTC #1 18months, CP jul 12, BFP Jan13 MMC Mar13, BFP Jul 13 MC Aug 13, CP Nov 13.
Seasides - 27, TTC #1 for 16 months, BFP Dec 12, EP Dec 12.
JBrd - 42, 1 DS, ttc #2 for 18 months, MC Jan 2013, MC April 2013, MC Aug 2013
MissHobart – 33, ttc #1, cycle 12, 2 x mc last year (July '13 and Dec '13.) both at six weeks. Bloods being taken tomorrow!
deuscat - 30, ttc #1 for 5 months, BFP 5th December ended in mc at 7+4 on 25th December
triplespin - 35 - TTC#2 (3 months) MC at 5.3 wks - June 2013, nothing so far
Penguin13 - 33 (soon to be 34), TTC #1 for 7 months. BFP Sept 13. Mmc and ERPC Nov 13.
EnglishGirlAbroad - 29 (nearly 30...Sshh!) TTC #1, Cycle4, MC at 5+2 30 Dec '13
hollyben - 39, ttc #2 bfp 10th Aug cycle 2, erpc 11th Sept (9 weeks). Prior: ttc #1 bfp Jan ‘10 cycle 9, erpc mar ’10, bfp june ‘10 cycle 2, dd born mar 2011.
Fedupofrainydays - 32, ttc #2, bfp Dec 2012, mmc at 12 wks feb 2013, bfp nov 2013, mc dec 2013 at bout 6 weeks.
Just - 37, TTC#1 MMC 6 and a bit weeks after hb, ERPC, Nov 2011; MMC 6 and a bit weeks after hb, ERPC x2 and hysteroscopy for retained products then HRT to heal, May 2012; MMC 9-10 weeks, good scan at 9.1 wks (discovered at 13), ERPC, Turner Syndrom. Tests at St Mary's, Uterus op Oct 2013;
tannyLoo - 41, 2 DSs, age 14 and 2, TTC#3 for 15 months, MC @ 5+5 weeks in Dec 2012, MMC @ 11+4 weeks but measured 6 weeks in April 2013, MC @ 6+2 weeks in Oct 2013, MC @ 6+4 weeks in Dec 2013 (Blighted Ovum) Diagnosed in Jan 2014 with Super Fertility and taking Aspirin, Progesterone and tons of supplements. Also having acupuncture.

Hang in there Otters, sorry you're having a crappy time. Happier times ahead, hopefully.

otters that's totally understandable. I've had similar arguments and subsequent tears with DH over the last couple of years. If your DP is anything like my DH he might not be very good at 'verbalising' but after last one of these disagreements we had he admitted to worrying about the effect continuous ttc was having on me emotionally and thought a break was needed. If only he'd said that instead of "I'm tired!".

Maybe have a chat in the morning? Sleep well in the meantime

otters I think men find it quite hard to get their head round the timings and that we must have sex now. My husband gets annoyed when I suddenly spring on him 'oh not sure I have ov'd yet so must keep going'. Ttc just turns into a hard slog. No matter what people say its impossible to remain normal about it and not stress / demand sex at ov time. My DH (and me) longs for our old sex life back - doing it when we felt like it and were in the mood, not cos FF, my cm or some smiley face sticks 'told us' to.
I hope you managed to have a good sleep xx

Aw Otters I really feel for you. It def becomes a struggle when you're dtd with a cause. We almost abandoned 1 dtd session this time midway as it was the least sexy thing EVER. We did finish well he did but never has dtd felt more like a chore. As far as attractiveness goes, I bet there are times you don't feel like dtd but it doesn't mean you don't fancy your partner any more so that goes both ways. Chin up, boobs out and hope you feel a bit better this morning.

Otters I really feel for you, and can empathise. My dh and I haven't had fun sex for its own sake for ages.

I hope things feel better now, talking things through sounds like a plan.

Thanks Parsley, I think my work paranoia was starting to make me feel a bit paranoid everywhere!

Note to self: chillthefuckout

Otters, as the others have said, try not to let it get to you. I know it's hard. Last night after a DTD I was thinking at what point did sex lose it's appeal. It really is like a chore at this point. I long for my fertile period to be over just so our sex life can re-gain spontaneity! I'm in the middle of a six day stretch and could tell DH was not particularly enjoying it!
Have a chat with him, explain how you feel. It might help him see things differently.

Aww otters. Not more I can add to what the others have said. We have all gone through it. It's the same for us every cycle. Dh has a very intense job with long hours and when I just spring on him that I have a smiley and we must dtd next few days, it hardly helps the case!! We have had several fights over this :)

parsley I wish the prerequisite for getting pregnant was being organised. I would have long been upduffed if that were the case. That is one if the reasons for my going for the fertility investigations as I really feel the need to be doing something about this.

Oh Otters, I hope you're feeling a bit better this morning. It's totally understandable how you're feeling.

tanny 2 days till we poas. I'm so scared!! It is so hard to work out what is happening due to it being my first post-mc cycle. If it's all gone back to normal then I'm due BFP af at some point over the weekend. But I might not be! So frustrating!

Hello all, what a busy thread!!! Work for me is horrific at the moment and I've just about had chance to read everyone's posts.

I'm still waiting for AF here, day 35 and no bfp. Longest cycle ever (particularly after my last two were 18 days and my usual Cycle is 30 days!). I'm guessing that the second lot if ewcm I had was late ovulation. I think my body is still sorting itself out after the ovarian cysts that I had.

My details are

Suzybean. 38. 1 Ds 4.5. Bfp dec 2012. Mmc feb 2013 at 10 weeks. Both pregnancies conceived first month, since mc ttc for 11 months and nothing

Otters I know exactly how you feel. There were times when I could have screamed with frustration at DH, when we didn't manage to dtd as often or efficiently as I wanted to. I hate what ttc has done to our sex life, it really is just a chore now. My DH really tries, bless him, but he doesn't understand how I feel about it all (because I've never told him, too scared that this will then end in performance anxiety...). It's a lonely battle

CD12 here, and my temps are still staying up... Roll on POAS Friday!

Oh girls - thank you all so much for your support. I feel much better this morning. I really hate these over-emotional moments that TTC brings with it. In my non-TTC life I'm extremely rational and level-headed and so it really scares me when things get a bit out of control.

I feel for DP, I know I'm being a bit irrational. But it is very hard to talk to him sometimes, he's a very sensitive person and quick to be hurt. And like you JBrd I don't like talking about it all too much as I don't want our whole life to be only about trying to conceive. It's a very difficult balance and one that us women are burdened with trying to strike.

I'm going to just write this cycle off and focus on not letting my emotions overwhelm me. I have an appointment at the fertility clinic next week and I've been told I can have six more rounds of Clomid. I think that I'll sit down with DP (and some wine) after the appointment and just tell him how important it is that we make the most of these meds. Because after that we get into IVF territory and that terrifies me.

So again, thank you all. It's invaluable having somewhere to offload all the TTC madness and to know you're not alone with all the accompanying craziness!

Chin up and tits out you fabulous women!

Do you mean 12 dpo jbrd? Exciting! FX for friday!

Yep, I join in the chorus of dull sex lives. We're usually so shellshocked by the end of the fertile workout that we don't touch each other again until 1/2 way through AF (not actual sex. Not into that). DH and I did have some spats about it, which made him feel awful because he hadn't realised he was turning me down right at the opportune moment. Now I put the relevant dtd days in his diary!

Think the witch has left the building, on that note...on we go. I'm pinning a lot of hopes on Conceive Plus this month. I feel like this or next month HAS to be my turn!

X-post - so glad you're feeling better otter. My DH is super sensitive too, and sex talks are hard enough at the best of times. So does that mean 6 months more of clomid, a round a month? Yes, my thoughts have been turning towards IVF too. I can get referred if nothing doing by August - can't believe it's becoming a possibility. It WON'T be necessary though, because we'll be long gone by then!

Yep Seasides, we get six more months of trying with the Clomid. I don't ov without it so next step would be more invasive procedures. Also can't believe that might an an option. But we WILL stay positive and it will NOT be needed!

Next month I'm going to be more open with DP about the fertile window. My tactic has been to not tell him and just seduce him into bed at the right times (he has guessed my motives though). Hence me getting disproportionally upset when he hasn't been in the mood. Oh dear, I think I've been rather unfair on the poor sod. Although I could've bloody slapped him when we got our first BFP in October. When I asked the shell-shocked bugger how he was feeling whilst brandishing the pee stick he replied 'at least sex can become fun again' (disclaimer, DP is a wonderful man whom I love very much, he's just not great at saying the right things!)