If TTC # 2 has turned you into a nut job this thread is for you! (Part 4)

[sebsmummy1]

Hey!! We have had lots of graduates from Part 3, so let's get on the TTC bus part 4 and make this place a ghost town.

Destination Pregnancy, choooo choooooo

Wishing you loads of luck sebs

Lucy which day are you on now? Don't know whether to keep DTD or stop now (I'm day 17) - last cycle was 34 days but one before was 25 so I'm struggling to know when the fertile window is firmly closed! Tbh we're both a bit weary of DTD for this cycle so I think I might now be playing the waiting game. Not hopeful at all though as I think my cycle is just too all over the place for good news this month.

Fedup, training sounds really exciting. Whereabouts are you based? Good luck with the rest of the training.

Are you doing a digi? How can he not see that line?'!

I've ordered two digis online so they should be here at the weekend.

He was exactly the same with my first pregnancy, wouldn't believe me until the line was the same strength as the control. I have a photo in my album of about 10 tests one after the other getting progressively stronger. Then one day he was all 'ok, you're pregnant lol, i believe you!!'

fed up i am going to quietly lurk around this place as i want to be one of the first to scream yes when you get your positive.

Ha ha - thanks seb but after the last one, it will be some very quiet 'yeses' if I ever get a bfp again!! I think I would only feel real til I saw something there at 6 wk scan (even tho that could go wrong my last two pregnancies there was either nothing there or a huge sac!)

Thanks cake I'm in Surrey - SW London. Baby boom zone. So hopefully a good market for it. I just enjoy it, and want to help people post baby to feel body confident again / achieve their fitness goals. It means I can be around to take My son to nursery too when he is 3.

sebs before you go, what was the dtd schedule this month? What was different?!

Great market for it fed up, there's some money that way

I think it could have just been a hormone thing as opposed to doing anything that different. They say around 14 months post partum fertility returns if you are breast feeding, and as you know I only gave up in November. I also noticed my post partum hair loss had stopped within the last 4/6 weeks, so I think my hormones might have just realigned.

Anyhow I used the fertility monitor for the first time, and as it gave me a thousand highs and no peak we may have had more sex.

I did use soft cups (I will happily pop my unused and factory wrapped second one in the post to you if you want to try it). I just popped it in after sex and it's meant to keep the sperm close to the cervix.

Nothing else I don't think xx

wow sebs, I go away for a couple of days and you get your bfp! so very pleased indeed for you. what lovely news for us all! xx

I was going to ask the same questions! I can't do much about the post partum fertility, but maybe I'll try the cups in a few months if still no luck! What cycle was it for you then Sebs?
Cake I am on cd15, think I will keep dtd but not to the same frequency. How about giving yourself a bit of a break and just doing it for fun 1/2 times a week if you can until AF is due? I am dreading the wait. I always feel relaxed and optimistic first half of the cycle, then turn into a depressed crazy obsessive person in the last week or so. I have actually been giving myself anxiety the past few cycles, constantly worrying and checking whenever I go for a wee. Determined not to go there again this month. Going to try and ignore the date as much as possible so I'm not obsessing when AF is due. Do you know why your cycles have been irregular Cake? My last 3 ones have been too, first time it's ever happened in my life!!
Fedup that sounds like a great thing to be doing, and hopefully you can do some treatments for yourself in a year or so!

From what I can see on my app it was my eighth cycle.

Although OH has announced this evening that he sees no line whatsoever on the test and to his mind I am not pregnant do doesn't know why I'm bothering to make plans etc.

I feel so tetchy that I told him to knob off so we're not really talking and I'm posting this from bed as I'm knackered. I said to him that I had anticipated this moment for so many months and thought we would be so excited together. Instead I just want to punch him.

Is everyone here trying quite soon after first child then?! Am I the only one that the post partum thing is not relevant any more?

lucy I'm mental in the last two weeks! Only time I wasn't was when I was pregnant - typical isn't it. Cd 6 here.

Thanks sebs sounds like your body just needed some time to get itself back in baby making gear. None of this premenopausal stuff you were stressing about!!

Thanks zippy, was thinking if you today xxc

It's his way of dealing with it sebs. You said he did the same with your son so go with it... He prob just doesn't want to get too excited too early. He will get there. Xxx

It's his way of dealing with it sebs. You said he did the same with your son so go with it... He prob just doesn't want to get too excited too early. He will get there. Xxx

He said he could see a line with my son!! He obviously has selective memory as that was definitely not the case.

I will piss on a digi at the weekend and throw it at him lol

Haha I can picture that Sebs! Sounds like a good plan! I agree with fedup though, he probably just doesn't want to get his hopes up too soon. He will feel soo guilty come the weekend when you get your big fat strong positive line!
No fedup, it's not relevant to me anymore either. I wanted a 2.5 year age gap so started trying last july, when DD was 1 year and 7 months, and I stopped breastfeeding her when she was 1, so I have none of the hormonal excuses. my periods came back when she was about 10 months and they have been as regular as clockwork up until about 3 months ago - when I started getting really worried about ttc some might point out! -

Ah sebs, I am sure it's just his way of not getting too excited just in case. But you will be throwing that BFP at him at the weekend, do come back to tell us all about the look on his face

Lucy yes I think we need to just try and relax now and dtd if we feel like it, I'm pretty sure I'm past the magic fertile window now. Like you i tend to start off relaxed then turn into a crazy lady for the 2ww! Cycle is irregular as I only came off the pill in oct, so really not been long, it just seems it. Cannot believe I'm such a nutter after such a short time TTC!

My dd is 2, in terms of age gaps all i was sure of was not TTC before she turned 2 so I have my wish I guess!

ha, sebs, there is a bit in that book "The Impatient Woman's Guide to Getting Pregnant" that says something like she will advise every woman not to tell their husband until they have the digi that says Pregnant, every man in the history of home pregnancy tests has looked at a faint line and declared they can't see it, somehow they need the words rather than the line! My kindle is out of charge or I would get the exact bit but she is quite amusing about how it is likely to cause a row I seem to recall.
Perhaps if so they should have a warning like on cigarette packs "Not suitable for husbands as they are not sufficiently equivocal"

Don't let this minor issue bother you sebs, we're all hugely pleased for you and so will he be very soon. x

PMSL zippy, I love the idea of warnings on preg boxes.

Well we really aren't talking!! He has disappeared off to work without asking me if the further test is darker or whether the witch has stayed away. Totally bizarre.

Anyway, it will be fine I'm sure.

Loads of love to you all xxxx

Some people just deal with things in different ways. He clearly doesn't like the uncertainty of early preg!!

Did you test again this morn, darker? (We want to know even if your husband doesn't yet!!!)

Oh and had the pink cm stopped?!

It is marginally darker, but nothing to get excited about. He texted me to ask if id tested again and if so would he be able to see the line. I said no.

This line game is very depressing, particularly when the one person you want to see it the most claims he cannot see it at all.

No sign of AF, no more blood. Only thing ive noticed is more mucousy cm which i think is normal.

Sebs that sounds v promising indeed! Keeping everything crossed for a lovely clear BFP in a couple more days and your DH can get excited at last.

Zippy, love the idea of a warning on the packs, genius!

Well I think I'm officially playing the waiting game now - AF due anytime from 24th depending on what my crazy cycle is up to this month. Not feeling at all hopeful tbh, but then have moments of ridiculous symptom spotting that get me excited. Really really silly as I don't honestly have any and when I was pregnant first time around I didn't even know until 6 weeks + so clearly my body isn't very good at talking to me!! Now the hard part will be when to test is AF doesn't show her stupid face.

Girls a digi has just confirmed it in WORDS. He has apologised and I no longer want to punch his nose

Amazing news, congratulations sebs

Woohoo!! Congrats Sebs :-) Sending you lots of baby dust and praying it is a sticky one!