The Elderberry Pavlovas: still chasing that 'copter in the hope of a festive BFP. Thread 16 (the one where Happy was left in charge!!)

[happylass]

Here we go again.....

The smallprint –
Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 6+months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot) and def no mention of baby dust or baby dancing UGH !!! Ooooh aren’t we strict!

Sorry to hear that Sid, do you still have another chance at a pre-IVF ironidiff? Hope you manage to enjoy your Christmas break at home regardless.
I'm still on my post-chemical cycle which is getting really boring now. CD32 now and got a positive OPK again today, after getting positives on CD25 and CD27 with no temp rise. Shag-week for us is more like shag-month!

I'm not really sure, Lady, as I'm supposed to see one last specialist before we can start IVF, so it really depends on the specialist's schedule. I've been given her name & the hospitals she works out of, but have no idea if I'm supposed to track her down myself or if my IVF dr is handling it for me. I'm frustrated by it as I'm 99% certain of what she'll say and I feel like I was mentally prepared to have a start date on the calendar, and now it's all up in the air again. I think it'll prob be February.

I'm ashamed to admit it but I used to be one of those idiots who scoffed at women whose biological clocks were the source of all misery; now I am one. I distinctly remember telling an ex once (while we were dating) that given my family history I was probably super fertile. Great joke, God; I've learned my lesson and cringe looking back on my arrogance and naivete. If I'd've been around hundreds of years ago, I'd have been shunned from my village or had my head chopped off by my husband so he could move on to someone more likely to give him a son. I feel about as useful as a chocolate teapot. Meanwhile there are babies and prams and bumps everywhere and I'm struggling to keep faith that one day it'll be me.

IKWYM, also struggling, Christmas is for children and people with children. Trying to overcompensate by planning a great Christmas day with my parents and DH and buying too many presents.

If you're not sure whether you or your clinic is arranging the other appt, give the secretary of the specialist a call to find out if they've had a referral from your IVF consultant.

Our second cycle might be delayed now, my mum has just had a diagnosis of a genetic disorder so I'm now waiting for my test results before they'll start the next cycle, if I have it as well then hopefully we'll be able to genetic testing on embryos. It's hopefully not too serious but affects men more than women.

In other news, I bought a new car today.

Evening all. Sooo far behind with this thread. New Years resolution = be a better Berry.
Sid I too was under the impression I would be super fertile - my gran had 13 kids ffs!!
Lady sorry to hear you've had a delay, hope things get moving for you soon. New motor sounds good though - what u get??

Happy a kia ceed 3, I drive 70 miles a day so I'm finally changing to a diesel. (Just got to remember that at the fuel station!)

Oooh, new car lady! I did the petrol to diesel switch - I did have to think twice before choosing a pump for a while!

I'm quite pleased with myself. Went to new job Christmas do tonight and there was a big bump there (due date is tomorrow!) but it really didn't bother me that much, I was quite surprised! I was a tiny bit but not upset. All the positive thinking and focusing on my own journey, visualising myself as pg and knowing it's only a matter of time etc seems to actually be working!!

Which will also be why I laughed at my mate today instead of choosing between hitting her and running to the toilets crying....
mate : "So where are you at with it?"
me: "trying acupuncture next"
mate: "I think you should just focus on the wedding and not think about it until march, then you won't get disappointed every month"
me: fits of laughter

Morning all!

barking you asked if I was feeling better, if I had answered yesterday I would have to say no, whilst speaking to my mum about things I found out my younger cousins wife is also expecting, cue another mega meltdown The jealousy is so hard isn't it.
Today is another day though and I just have to get on with things, gonna keep busy and get Christmassy! Just 2 weeks till the jabbing starts, just have to concentrate on that

sid booooooo to possible AF

lady boooooo to shag month, a week is bad enough

It's been a tough few days for us berries then, Christmas sucks for us childless ones, woe is us!!! But and for us all

Be a better berry happy? but all the berries are fab already!

barking that did make me chuckle, I surprise myself (and DH) sometimes when I laugh at something that could also make me weep! Good on you for your positive thinking, can you send some my way

Oh Sid sounds like you are in that dark place, hope you feel more positive soon - one day, how ever it happens, you will be a super mum! (Obvs the sooner the better) Bunny sorry about all the pg news coming your way, and all those bumps that keep appearing Barking - glad you guys are keeping positive! We need some BERRY bfp news to cheer us up, preferably before Christmas! Anyway, with all the jabbing that will be starting in the new year our luck is bound to change!

Happy weekend, Berries. Sorry to all the people feeling glum. I think this time of year is particularly hard. I've always loved Christmas, but I'm just not in the mood for this one. No decorations still, and I'm even turning off the Christmas tunes on the radio. That is very unlike me!

Manlump is booked in for pre-IVF semen analysis next week and I think, taking into account the 48 hour absitinence, it's going to fall bang on key DTD dates. I know I've basically got no hope with natural conception now, but it still annoys me! However, if we cancelled, he'd probably have to wait until the New Year.

Harrumph.

Sid - hope you're feeling better. Nothing worse than when the dark cloud appears and as others have said, it is a particularly hard time of the year.

Lady - I'm in a similar boat. Post ectopic, I'm now "CD" 36 - no sign of af either. Impatient for it to arrive as want to get two af cycles under my belt so I can have my HSG.
Grrrr.

Boodle - we don't even have a tree this year. We both keep saying "we should get a tree!" And then we don't. No idea what that's about.

Pathetic story alert: was Christmas shopping yesterday and we have four babies to buy for. Was feeling particularly strong so stupidly we went into that shop Mamas & Papas (who we're having a sale). First sight of a little cardie and I welled up and ran out like a nutter. Hmm. Maybe not so ready after all.

Happy Sunday all! We've got friends (and their one year old) coming round for Sunday lunch. Wish me luck.

Feather at the moment I couldn't even contemplate going into a shop like that, so my hat goes off to you - at least you tried. How's the lunch going?

AF :(

So I now know that I will not be pg in 2013. Feeling a bit shitty. Going to go and wash the walls to make me feel better

Well, sid, my mum always said "hell is other people's children" and she's right. The one year old is a cutie, but was so hyper it drove me a bit nuts. And he mashed olives into a cushion and his parents said nothing.

rp sorry af got you.

We're all not having a great time right now, are we? Onwards and upwards in 2014! We will be victorious! X

Marking place, you fell of my I'm on list

Naughty merk

Morning all! Wishing everyone a good week!

2014 will be our year!

Hello all. Also fell of my list like Merk.

Hear hear Bunny - 2014 will surely be our year. Sorry to read about tough times people are having. I'm lucky enough not to have seen any bumps or bfp announcements for a looong time. Hoping there won't be any in my ward for my Op

Talking of which, what would any of you seasoned hospital go-ers recommend I take to hospital with me for my op this wk? It's on Weds. Just a day-case, so dont need a lot. So far I have: loose trousers, glamour mag, mobile phone, sanitary appliances. Oh and my mum. ??

Aquarius I always take headphones/music to hospital. I have been on wards with ill people when waiting for ops and I am grateful to be able to block out the noise

Aquarius I was told to pack pyjamas and slippers and basic toiletries. I didn't need them but it was more of a just in case measure. In terms of slippers I took my Birkenstocks to walk to the theatre in. Make sure you have plenty of reading material as you could be waiting a while if you're not the first op on the list. Good luck!

Ooh good call on both counts - would'nt've thought of slippers or headphones - thanks you two.

Evening all. Good luck for your op Aquarius, is it TTC related? Sorry if you've already said. My memory isn't what it used to be!!
DP bumped in to his ex today, who told him she's 4 months pg. He is slightly to say the least. I'm guessing those kind of pg announcements are the worst!?
On a positive note we finally get to see the consultant at the FC this week. Hurrah!

Good for you happy :)

Been awol all wkd due to lurgy . Need to catch up....

Boodle if you can dtd 48 hrs before the appointment (or if that's in the middle of a school day maybe in the morning rather than while you're in the classroom) and then dtd as soon as is practical after the appointment you should still be able to hit the target as it were. e.g. dtd monday morning, abstain for 48 hours, appointment is on Wednesday, dtd wednesday evening. Bingo - still ticking off EOD best practise .

feather well done for just entering the shop at all! I struggle just walking down the baby isle in the supermarket!
Totally sympathise with AF not arriving, other than my provera induced 'withdrawal bleed' I've not actually had AF since July!! unless you count two random days of spotting 8 days apart.

birdy no chance of a Christmas bfp here I'm afraid, not convinced AF actually arrived and even if the clomid that I took at the right time actually makes me ovulate this month FF predicts it won't happen until Christmas Day (and I'm not even spending Christmas with DP so the best we could do is dtd 3 days before!!)

rp sorry the old hag got you.

happy that's a horrible slap in the face .

I've been reading 'The Baby Making Bible' by Emma Cannon and I'm trying the positive thinking and the visualisation. I do agree that the mind is a very powerful thing and if you repeatedly tell yourself something won't happen you're actually making it less likely. I'm hoping the acupuncture on Wednesday will help convince me that I can get my cycles back. When I can start seeing that possibility I think everything else will simply slot into place .

I had some good news today when I got home, I posted on a mumsnet sponsered thread and I've won some fertility friendly lube

That's great news, lady!

barking great to hear you are in a better place and headed towards the world of positivity! I've got my acupuncture appointment tomorrow and hoping that she can help get my cycle back on track - have a feeling tomorrow will just be a talk through my history though and not actual needles.

aquarius hope all goes well on Wednesday. Wet wipes and hand sanitiser are things I always pack for hospital visits!

happy brill news about the FC appointment! Yay!

In other news, pregnant colleague told me that her 12 week scan is on Friday. My 12 weeks should have been on Xmas day. Trying to not let it sadden me. Trying!

Feather I hope you've got something nice and relaxing planned for Christmas to take your mind off it.

I've also decided to try acupuncture, the lady I've contacted seems to have a Christmas rush on though so I'll be going in January.

Aquarius hope the op goes OK, agree with the recommendations above although in our day case unit dressing gowns and slipper sox are provided.