About to start / just started TTC No 2 (thread 2)

[HungryHorace]

Part 2 this way!

We had 6 BFPs in just over a month on the first thread, so here's hoping the luck continues.

I lost you! Off to catch up now :-\

Hi Hungry - I feel ok, just the usual tiredness but hoping that will start to get a bit easier now that I'm 13 weeks. Went to my mum and dads today with DS but we didn't stay too long (a bit of family trouble between me and my sister) which always happens around Xmas, and other times throughout the year. It's a bit of a mess really. Me and my sister haven't got on for years, it's a lot to do with her partner who isn't very nice and is very antisocial, never comes to family things and if he does he never speaks etc. they've been together ten years and have 4 kids. Before she was with him, my sister was married to a guy we all loved and thought a lot of but sadly that didn't work out and when she was with him we were close and used to do things together. Anyway, over the years since she's been with her now partner and had. 4 kids with him, she has changed a lot and we really don't get on anymore. I believe it has a lot to do with him as he doesn't like families being close etc but anyway. Her 4 kids are obviously my DS's cousins and they all like to play together so on a Saturday we all often get together at my mum and dads house and the kids all play. This Saturday thing has gone on for years. Me and my sister don't day much to each other when we are there. In May we had a huge falling out and after that I decided because she had said some unforgivable things to me that I wouldn't go to mums anymore on a Saturday but she and her kids continued to go every week . This really annoyed me that she carried on as usual and for months I stayed away . Finally in September I decided enough was enough and that it was wrong to keep DS from seeing his cousins so I started to go on a Saturday and me and my sister eventually said a few words to each other . We both know we don't like each other and will never be friends bit tried to be civil. Things have been ok until this Thursday when I was at work and I got a load if nasty texts from her and she called me some really nasty hurtful things. My DH nearly sent round there as he was so angry , especially as I'm pregnant. So today she turned up and I decided not to stay long. Mum and dad are really unhappy about the whole thing and wish we could be friends. Is my DS's birthday on 28 th December and we are meant to be having a party for him like last year, a family party. Only thing is that I don't really want my sister there as I don't think we can see each other anymore as I can't forgive things she has said , but of course this means that none of DS's cousins will be there. What do you think? Sorry I realise I've gone on a bit and none of this is relative to having Babies. Just needed to rant but really don't know whether to cancel the party.

mrs that is just awful dont cancel your ds party its not his fault could your parents act like buffer and bring you nieces/nephews to the party? totally not what you need right now

big hugs xxx

Thanks Donna, I feel really sad today about it all. I suggested that to my mum today and she said she wouldn't come if my sister isn't invited as that's not right in her opinion that she is excluded. I'm not even sure if DH would come ( my sister ) but she did last year , although I don't think we spoke but we will have a houseful so she would want to come to see family. I wish it was different, I would love to have a sibling I got on well with and I have tried hard over the years with her but she doesn't like it when I'm pregnant or have a new baby, she likes to be the one with the children, she uses my mum and dad. When I was getting close to giving birth with my DS and she knew how scared I was, she purposely told me how it was the worst pain ever etc and really scared me. My mum and dad feel caught in the middle. You are right , it's not fair on any of the children but my DS only sees his cousins because I make the effort. She wouldn't. I guess I will also have to take the Xmas presents for her kids to my mums to pass on. So do I have the party and invite her, don't have the party, or have the party and don't invite her ?

Oh poor you mrs.

I would say that you have the party and invite her, because she probably won't want to come, at which point your mum is free to bring her kids instead. (I assume that your mum will do it if it's your sister's choice not to come?)

It must be awful to have fallen out. :-(

ATruth, are you PO another S tomorrow?

Good luck!

Swede, how's your willpower doing?!

Thanks Hungry. I'm sure your advice is right. x Ooh is ATruth going to poas tomorrow? I'm going to bed now but will catch up with everyone tomorrow. Night night x

Hi all. Had a lovely Saturday with DD, DH and my parents. We went to a nice farmer's market close by and then had a cosy BBQ at home. Spent the evening watching a tribute to Mandela and had a few good cries, such an extraordinary man. We have a day of remembrance today and state funeral next Sunday. Certainly a country in mourning.

Have not been tempted to POAS yet. Going to try to wait until Fri when AF is due. My tummy has been bloated for three days now (I look pg). Also feeling nauseous and my boobs are very sensitive. However thinking back two months ago I am sure I had the same symptoms and I was not pg then so I think I may be imagining things.

Morning!

That sounds lovely, Swede.

I saw the timetable for this week on the news. I'm glad they're trying to ensure that this week is for the whole country.

And that's remarkable restraint, with regard to POAS, bearing in mind I was due AF on Friday and tested on Sunday! I'm impressed.

I've not had painful boobs yet. Just expanding ones!

I hope you are feeling symptoms and not just pre menstrual things.

Hi again, just a quick update. On cd45 and still no AF or BFP. I did a clear blue non digi test on wed and it was defiantly BFN. Have not got any pregnancy symptoms so convinced its some weird cycle.
Glad to hear it going better for others on this thread.

Have you been DTD Noyou, as you could be well into your next cycle now? How long did you say they normally are?

Wtf cycles are too common round here. :-/

Oh. My. Gosh. BFP!!!!!!!!!!!!

Can I (mis?)quote hungry from last weekend? "I bloody knew I was pregnant". I was trying so hard to not get excited (especially after the bfns) but I just felt pregnant. And I am! Whoop!

It's the faintest of faint lines but its definitely a line

Your turn next swede...

I'm sorry noyoucant - is it worth a trip to gp to see what's happening? Do you know if you ov-d?

mrs - I'm sorry you're having a tough time with your sister. I'd be tempted to make it a party for friends instead of family and not bother inviting any of them.

Atruth! Congrats I'm delighted for you how far along do you think you are? xx
Noyou id go to the drs just to get some kind of clarification xx
Mrs send an invite to the kids from your ds and see what happens, by the sounds of it they won't come anyway and you have nothing to feel guilty about xx

Just under four weeks donna. Still a long way to go and I won't relax until I see a heartbeat on a monitor. How many weeks are you now?

I knew you were, ATruth!! And that's a direct quote too. :-)

Well done. xxx

Photo on Facebook please!

We will be due really close together! Come join us on the August thread when you're ready. :-)

Congratulations atruth .
No idea if I have oved recently. Have been having a lot of CM for weeks so it is difficult to tell.
Not DTD as DH shifts have not been compatible.
Convinced I'm not pg as with DD I had BFP at 17 days post DTD so surely a BFP would of showed up by now if itwas going to?

It does sound like you maybe didn't OV last cycle so went straight into this one. Perhaps. It's normal to have a couple of cycles a year where you don't OV.

If you've not had OV in the next few weeks I'd go to your GP I think.

Yay atruth!! That's fantastic!! They are coming in again now. One a week up to Christmas I reckon?! How many days post ov were u when u got the positive?
Mrs - def invite your sister. Be the bigger person and let her be the petty one. If she decides to come u can just talk to the kids and if she doesn't u have done all u can. U don't want to be the one that cuts contact but u might have to grow some thick skin! She is obviously jealous.
Swede - must be fascinating to be in SA now. Very historic.
How are Lucy and metal? I believe are u back dtd??
My checking in appt was yesterday. The hosp so much nicer (so far) than where I had ds. Scan in 12 days. So want to fast forward! Christmas party at work this week. Need to get my non drinking excuses at the ready...it's going to be so obvious! X

Oh my gosh!!!!!! That's brilliant news ATruth, I'm so so pleased for you!! So you should just sneak into the school year with your friend's baby? That's really perked my Sunday right up, I did a little happy dance for you!

Mrs, I'm sorry you have such a strained relationship with your DSis. I'm one of 3 sisters and we all get on fabulously, but I can sympathise as it hasn't always been the case. My older DSis was once in a very abusive relationship with an abominable man who drank and was very violent. I tried to help her but constantly got threatened an abused for it. It was a dark period for our whole family, and one which I wish I could have been more supportive through. Sadly I lost my patience with DSis and we didn't speak for a long time. When she finally saw sense she came to me and she lived with us until she got back on her feet. We haven't looked back since.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that this situation might not be forever. If her partner is so awful, maybe she's horrible to you because she resents your happy relationship (does DH get on well with your family - I bet anything if he does she is probably a bit jealous of that). I'm not justifying her behaviour in anyway, it all sounds very hurtful, but if you can find the cause of her resentment you might find a solution? Either way you shouldn't cancel DS's birthday. Can you invite her but tell her that if she comes you don't want her ruining your DS's day?

ATruth that is fabulous news!!! So pleased for you!

Just found out that my best friend who has had 3 unsuccessful IVFs finally seem to have been successful. They have been trying to get pg for 5 years so this is excellent news.

Me I don't feel pg at all so settling in for another weeks wait until AF arrives. Not feeling at all positive about a BFP at the moment

Good morning ladies.
Firstly, ATruth - Massive congratulations! Xxx what wonderful amazing news! I knew our thread was lucky , we have really picked up the pace now with Hungry and ATruth, two BFP's close together . Let's hope more are to follow this month.
Swede - your day sounds lovely yesterday.
Donna - can u just say thanks did your advice re my big sis. That's exactly what I'm going to do, send invitations from my DS aha I think she would probably come for him but her partner wouldn't come which is fine as he doesn't go to anything. Thanks everyone for your comments re the situation with my sis and sorry for bringing it up on here, I was just needing to have a rant about it. I think a lot of it is jealousy especially as Toothpaste rightly says, my DH gets on with my parents etc and we all do see a lot if each other. I hope one day in the future we can be friends but at the moment I don't see it, which is a big shame when children are there. Anyway enough of all that, what amazing news to start the day from ATruth!
How is everyone spending today? We are getting ready to go to a Christmas fayre/market in knaresborough if anyone knows it. Knaresborough isa nice place and I love xmasy things like that. Hoping to find DS some extra bits for his Xmas stocking. I hope everyone has a nice day xx
Windy - it's nice that you get on with your sisters and all have a good relationship. I wish I has that too. x your story gives me hope though that things might change one day as I doubt she will be with him forever.

Atruth im 14 weeks today and I can defo feel it bobbing around un wmt tummy its quite amazing I dont really remember dd at this point.
We are off to 2 birthday parties this afternoon so dd will be in bed early tonight!
Still not done any wrapping . . . hope Santa's elves cone and give me a hand lol xx

SPECKS DONNA SPECKS!!!

Congrats truth

Going to get out the opks tomorrow to start testing.

Hurray Atruth!!!! Big Congratulations to you!! So happy for you. What cycle was it for you then? What did you do differently (or the same!) this month? Do you think you will tell family before christmas? It's a good job we didn't sit on your hands to stop you from POAS, you'd still be in limbo land! They do say good things come in threes....so who is next?? Someone soon hopefully! I'm not due until 21st dec, not that I'm bothering this month so it will be a next year BFP for me. I'm still recovering today from my weekend away, had so much fun, it was so good to just enjoy myself and feel like a normal person again, not constantly obsessing over ttc.