Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs and Summer 2014 babies all round please! TTC after MC

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Our brand spanking new thread full of luck, baby dust, BFPs and a few choice swear words.

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Thankyou for all the well wishes for my Dad. He's making a little bit of progress every day so we are hopeful for a good recovery.

A little bit of spotting this morning, but when AF arrives she usually does it with a bang. So maybe this could be a bit of implantation spotting? Argh! Symptom spotting makes you go crazy, but I'm putting off POAS as I'm terrified of getting a BFN.

Well I POAS and I shouldn't have because it still said 2-3 so I spent the first hour of my day stressing and googling...yes, I know I shouldn't!!

I never learn. X

over just popped over to catch up here and I have bought a bucket load of fish! Those tests are notoriously unreliable. I totally know how you feel but don't stress yourself out over tests or google! I barely had any symptoms until 6-7 weeks and even then they come and go. Am now bricking it heading towards my 20 week scan so I totally get it, but honestly if you must google look up how unreliable they are! Much love x

Thanks Tomkat glad all is well with you. Really appreciate the fish slaps as I definitely deserve them!! I know I shouldn't have even tested again it's just so hard when you are so anxious. I have actually remained quite calm considering and not stressing about it too much. I know I am definitely not 6 weeks yet, probably not until Saturday/Sunday at the earliest so fingers crossed...still waiting for my scan date to come though. Xx

Bless ya, I totally get it. I am so of the pregnant women and their blissful ignorance. Today you are pregnant and will remain so until proven otherwise. (On repeat) x

over I'm the same apart from its taken up more than an hour of my morning. Most of it.
I've still got blood and its actually more now but still not a period as such. And brown. Am sick to my stomach with nerves. I just can't believe this is 'normal'.

Spoke too soon, AF has arrived. Oh well.

Oh my word, what a rollercoaster of a thread this is turning out to be!

So sorry Wing, the first day or so is always the hardest too but hang on in there, and at least you can have a few Christmas drinks to help you prepare for the next shagathon.

Keeping everything crossed for you Over, I realise it's hard not to stress, but remember that you've got over the most difficult hurdle in getting the BFP at all - natural to be nervous but hopefully the time will fly before your scan date arrives.

Good luck to anyone POAS tomorrow!

Fedup - Sorry to hear you're stressing too, how is the bleeding/spotting now? X

Wing - Sorry AF got you

Sundance - Thank you for your wise words

My scan letter has arrived, it's on Tuesday at 8.30am. So scared. I am keeping everything crossed and praying every night that whatever is there is in the right place and something will be visible on the scan.

X

Hi over so pleased you have your scan date and Tuesday is not far away for you to get the reassurance you need. I too hope it's all in the right place. I can imagine you worry.
My spotting is worse but it's more like browny gunk I get at end of my period - needs a liner but not much more. Just hoping it stops soon. Im so nervous and scared and praying this one is ok and just playing a cruel game. Trying to rest and eat chocolate and pizza to cheer me up. I will need to diet quite quickly if this pregnancy doesn't work out - if I carry on like this I will be huge!

Sorry bout af wing :(

Ugh. I was stupid and did a cb digital this morn. Still says 1 to 2 weeks but should def be 2 to 3 by now :(
Trying to hold on that it said 'pregnant' so I am still pregnant today.

Good luck to any POASers xx

oh dear fedup. try not to worry too much about the cbdigi - they can't be completely accurate and maybe if you did one tomorrrow it would say 2-3.... but I can imagine that you are feeling terribly worried. Have you made a doc appt? If the worst comes to the worst at least you will have this one logged, and if not, they will probably arrange for an early scan.
I know that I've said it before, but when i was pg with DD i had quite a bit of bleeding that I really thought was AF. She turned out fine, so i've got hope for you!

wing sorry for AF. guess it was the stress afterall

over that's great that you've got a scan lined up. tuesday isn't long to wait at all!

anyone else POAS today?

fedup pls don't read too much into those tests. Just enjoy being pregnant for now. Also brown blood shouldn't be anything to worry about. It is normally fresh blood with cramping. I know you know all this already, but just trying to reassure you. How many weeks are you now? May be worth it to get an early scan via your EPU? Take care :)

Fedup - I saw you said on the other thread that you are only 4 weeks, so I wouldn't be too worried in regards to the test...I got 1-2 when I was 4 weeks, and I am approaching 6 weeks now and still getting 2-3 so who knows. X

over glad to hear you got a scan date. Tuesday isn't too long to wait. I hope that all is good and you can relax a bit.

fedup try not to read too much into the digi test. They're not perfect.

Keeping fingers crossed that we get some more BFPs, I could use some good news, feeling distinctly lacking in posifrickingtivity today.

Fingers crossed for Tuesday over. Try not stress too much thinking about it - easy for me to say I know.

fedup have you been to gp or contacted the EPU? They can do bloods to check hcg levels. Fingers crossed for you to.

Looks like my AF is gone. After my mammoth 12 week wait I was expecting her to be awful to me but apart from being slighty longer and a bit more painful than usual not too bad. I have a monster pack of amazon opks to try. When should I start using? Any hints?

CD25, 12DPO - so perhaps a little early, but I figured what the hey, it's Friday and I can pee if I want to.

And... I'm not sure if there's something there or not. It could be a very faint line, or it could be (very) wishful thinking. I've been getting some rather uncomfortable cramping the past couple of days which could be implantation, or maybe I'm just reading too much into it.

So. It's still Schrodinger's pregnancy here. AF will be due on Sunday, so I guess if it hasn't appeared by Monday I'll test again.

Anyone else poas today?

I phoned my gp earlier this week. She just said there isn't anything they can do. I just have to wait til 6 weeks when can see on scan. She didnt offer bloods. My doctors are stingy with everything. But even if bloods weren't ok would they do anything or just wait til you mc naturally? I don't feel at all pregnant today. But trying to stay postifrickintive.

ark sounds exciting!! Will be impressed of you hold off testing til Monday!!! Was it am ic or another? Superdrug picked up my line the fastest, before FR too. And much cheaper.

Just an IC. I've got a twin-pack of CB digis in the cupboard but I'm saving them until I get a BFP on an IC first. I've always gotten the fastest responses from ICs, to be honest; they detect HGC at 10mIU, whereas the most sensitive FR is 12.5mIU. The CB digis register at 20mIU.

It'll be easy enough to hold off I think - I have an incredibly busy weekend lined up so won't have time to obsess over poas!

Superdrug is 10 miu too. I have issues with ic as gave me false bfps before.. Horrible!! And def not evaps, big pink lines! Good luck to you and hope af stays away!!

My hopes are up for you Ark! Good luck with the self-restraint until Monday.

So sorry to hear of so many worries - Wing, my dad had a stroke two years ago now, it's just so worrying. He's fine now except for some numbness in his leg, I really hope your dad makes a speedy recovery.

Fedup, you poor thing. How stressful - but it is great that you have a bfp, I just wish your doc could offer you more reassurance. F tightly X for you, and for you on Tues Over, gosh I know how nerve-racking waiting for that scan will be. Just remember there's a 90% chance it's in the right place - those are really good odds.

Been quiet as things aren't great here either - my mum's very long-term partner died yesterday, so I'm over with her for a few days as she starts sorting everything out. His daughter is due to give birth in a week, I feel so sorry for her. My mum's remarkably ok though, which is a relief.

Not sure where I am in my cycle this month. Got lots of CM in Australia so was quite gutted I'd missed out this month, but then my OPK showed LH on Tuesday, so hopefully we haven't missed the boat as managed well-timed shagging then. Maybe jet lag's just screwing my body clock up - that will mean my luteal phase is only 10 days this month as AF due on the 14th, which is a bit worrying. Anyway, WTF cycle it is.

Oooh, what an emotional thread - hugs to all. Lily, so sorry to hear about your mum's partner, how terribly sad. Ark, fingers crossed for you. Fedup, those tests are so unreliable, today you are pregnant and will remain so until proved otherwise. Hollyben, yay! Back to it girl, gogogo!

I am sitting here sobbing because I might be getting my period. No blood, just cramps and a little pinky wipe. FGS. I guess I have been comforting myself slightly with the innocent hope that a BFP will be along soon to cheer me up. Since it appears no BFP is imminent, that comfort has gone. Blimey, it's all flooded back. I guess things will take a while to get going again. It's only 6ish weeks since the m/c, after all. Fishslaps please, if that's what I need. I definitely need to get a grip. It sort of underlines how important it is to recover from the m/c independently, without pinning hopes on another pregnancy. How do you do that then?!

DH has gone out for curry. That is definitely a cheery thing. Have lovely weekends all. We are buying the Christmas tree tomorrow, I am so picky we usually have to go around 3 farms to find the perfect one!

Oh so sorry handsfull, af always blows but the first after a mc is just awful. Just take care of yourself, try and keep busy doing fun things, with people you love. I find a glass of wine doesn't go amiss either...Just remember it will happen again-sorry it wasn't this month though.

Just realised I've got to the stage where 'good news' success stories are making me feel worse. Did a quick google for success stories after EP, and they're full of people saying, "finally, I got pg again after 4 months", and (literal quote) "After unexplained infertility for 7 months..." well, this is month 7 for me, and I hadn't thought of terming it 'unexplained infertility". Have I got to the stage where I might have other problems than being a unituber?

Also, despite having 6 other siblings who could come up, I'm apparently the only one who has the time to come and comfort my mother. My little sister's even pulling the pg card on me. Generally disappointed with life right now.

Seaside - Sorry you're feeling so shit at the moment, wanted to send you a hug and and x

I totally know what you mean about 'success stories' making you feel worse sometimes. I know how horrible it feels to have a mc...and I also know how utterly terrifying it is to have a tube removed and have the further worry of reduced fertility playing on your mind. How long have you been trying for since your EP now? I really honestly was starting to think i was infertile and that it was never going to happen. I still don't know that I'm not currently carrying another ectopic, but at least a BFP tells me that the right things have happened somewhere along the lines. I am positive it will happen for you too, just don't give up and keep on trying - which believe me I know is easier said than done. But the only alternative is to stop and I don't think that's an option is it? Certainly isn't for me, as draining as it is.

Me and my DH have been trying for 18 months up until now...that does include a 6 week Mc and an 8 wk EP...but it's been 6 months since my surgery and I am '6 weeks pregnant'. I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone, and there is definitely still hope for you...it is obviously just taking its time to happen. I am keeping everything crossed for you my fellow unituber and really hope you get your BFP soon. I might end up back to square one again anyway, or even squareless completely if the worst is revealed on Tuesday...only time will tell. Xxx