Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs and Summer 2014 babies all round please! TTC after MC

[Sal1977]

Our brand spanking new thread full of luck, baby dust, BFPs and a few choice swear words.

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Congrats on the diet success, and how lovely that you have a wedding to look forward to missP.

Congrats to you too hollyben, I know it's a weird thing to congratulate on but I also know it's a relief to feel like your body is working properly again. I'm just about to enter the first shagathon post mc and feeling quite positive. Test results tomorrow so will keep you posted.

Unfortunately I had to rely on Dr alcohol to get me through this weekend, woke up with a hangover on Sunday as it's been such a long time since I properly drank. Our friends came to visit for the weekend, the ones who are 14 weeks pregnant...

I tried my hardest not to get upset and don't think I passed on any sense of jealousy or resentment even though I had to surpress the desire to kill someone when we got dragged into Mamas and Papas to share our research on prams and car seats!! That was tough.

That said, she is more than 10 years older than me, so if she can get pg then there's still hope right? I can't help but put this silly pressure on myself to get pg again before they have the baby, which gives me 6 months, but I know it could take longer.

Hoping everyone has a great week.

Oh sundance that must have been so hard for you. What were they thinking dragging you round Mamas and Papas? Have to say I would have refused. Plenty of time for no alcohol once your sticky bean comes

sundance. What a tough weekend. Can not believe you got dragged into mama & papas. Sounds like they got caught up in the moment and didn't factor your feeling in.

sal a bit of adjustment to diet and include treats don't torture yourself and you will have a stone off in no time.

Well folk DP found a spe quality test in Boots andade me go buy one today. Quite excited about it ( not sure why). I suppose it's a bit like the male version of poas. Will keep you posted on results. He says he isn't doing on demand he will wait till he feels like it.

Sperm quality test. I mean.

WTF?? How on earth does that work?? Do you have to send it off??

Note to self: don't start buying luxury mince pies at the beginning of November just because they're on offer!!

Hollyben I'm glad AF finally arrived for you., at least you can start planning again now.

I was going to agree that the CB digi tests are a bit rubbish as I've had a flashing smiling face all week too, even though they have always worked well for me before.

However this morning just when I was trying to decide whether we had dtd enough AF arrived. On day 18!!!! Before mc my cycle was always 30 days and since mc between 26 and 32 days but 18 days wtf!!! It was

Oh hit post too soon.

It was only a couple of months ago that my blood tests all came through ok but clearly my body is having a bit of a meltdown!!!

How odd! Is it full on AF? Or a bit of spotting? I had spotting around OV one of the times I was PG.

Full on AF, onto my fourth tampon change of the day! I was hoping I might have ovulated early and it was implantation bleeding but there is no chance of that! The shortest cycle I have ever had is 26 days.

My body is becoming a right old mystery to me. I had an ultrasound scan last month and it showed that I've got a couple of quite large ovarian cysts so I think it must be linked to that. I've got another scan at the end of the month that should show whether they are growing or shrinking, so that might shed some light on it.

sal. It's a ten minute test. A bit like poas.

Will let you know the results when he gets round to taking it.

suzy. You will maybe find they have popped. That's really weird to have 18 day cycle. See how it is next month. Hopefully just a once off

Well my Sister was to get her tubes out before starting Ivf but has been just advised tests show there is no egg reserve. Only option is a donor egg. Always someone worse of than ourselves. :-((((

Suzy Oh crikey, I can't imagine how your sister must feel. Utterly gutted, I should think? I have a friend who's done two cycles of IVF with donor eggs; sadly neither took. The day she found she was out of eggs, I think she cried pretty much the whole day. :-(

oh i was logging on to moan about yet another person (two actually) announcing pregnancies and how unfair it is that it isn't me (or any of us).... but then I read about your sister missp and it really does put it all in perspective.
How sad for her.

curious to hear how the sperm test goes. does it measure how many of them can swim a certain distance or something like that?

suzybean that is a very odd cycle! how strange.

sundance what an awful weekend - how inconsiderate of your friends to drag you in to mamas and papas. I'm not surprised that you had a hangover on sunday. I'd be more surprised if you didn't!

sal stay away from the mince pies! they are devil spawn!

missP, your poor sister. It really does put it into perspective. I think I would certainly go down the donor egg route if it were me. Does she have any children already?

So I just got back from the doctors regarding the cryogenic tests done on my recent mc. The foetus tested positive for Turners Syndrome which is a very common cause of mc, and luckily, whilst it is a genetic issue, it isn't a hereditary one, which means that it was isolated and doesn't mean it will happen again.

Not quite sure how I feel, there are positives to take from it. The hospital has offered to let us speak to a geneticist for more information and possible further tests on us both to see if we carry any other problems that might need to be caught before a pg. I've also got an appt with gynae dept to have scans in my bits etc to find out where these pains are coming from...which seem to have gone away now.

Anyway, there we go, seems like we have just been very unlucky.

Hollyben great news!!

Sundance good that you have something more definitive. we had similar test results back but it was Edward's syndrome - a similar non-hereditary thing but we have opted to go for more tests on whether any chances might be higher next time around (ie if one of us has a dodgy chromosome that doesn't express itself in us, but might in a baby). Awaiting test results, appt on 19th Dec,

but yes I think your analysis is correct - it's a high probability of just being bad luck :(

.... but onwards to the future and better luck for all of us! (or something like that. you know what I mean)

So, had my appt with the consultant at the RMC unit today and all is well!

All my results are good (even my egg reserve is good which I thought was low). Sperm are at the bottom of normal but still ok (she suggested selenium, zinc and vit C). Because I have had 4 MC now, I will get a scan at 6 weeks and then can have baby aspirin and heparin (if we want to - it can carry some risks) which thins the blood plus I'll get an extra scan before 12 weeks. Got a scan booked for next week to check my uterus to make sure that's looking normal then nothing will happen until I get knocked up again.
She was lovely, so just got to keep shagging!

Missp - Sorry to hear your sisters news, how awful for her

Sal - Your rmc appointment sounds like it went really well, hope you're feeling a bit more reassured now and fingers crossed for some good luck for you.

Hope everyone is doing okay.

I am still in limbo land waiting for scan letter but I just know it isn't going to arrive and I will have to chase it up I am somewhere between 5 and 5.5 weeks. Making myself paranoid thinking I have shoulder tip pain but feel ridiculous at the thought of telling a Dr in case it's all in my head, it is hardly anything. I have zero symptoms so I have also convinced myself unpregnant in that way too...I'm just tired but I think thats standard for me. My boobs are fine and no nausea...just want to know if there's anything there/in the right place
I'm sorry I'm not complaining I know you probably think "fuck off at least you've got a BFP" which believe me I am thrilled and never expected it in a million years but I am just a nervous paranoid wreck with no hope to cling onto, I hate feeling like this.

I haven't pg tested since Thurs either (cb digi 2-3, cheapie mega strong line) I have one remaining cb digi that I was planning on doing on Thurs (a week from previous) but really want to do it tomorrow...I shouldn't though should I incase it's still 2-3 and then I panic...or should I?! Arghhh!

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hang in there over. I hope that you didn't do your poas stick and are waiting until thursday.

sal that all sounds very positive. esp about the egg reserve. Do you have to wait until 6 weeks to start taking baby aspirin? I don't really know much/anything about it except that i've heard of people taking it as soon as they get a bfp.
dh and I have been taking the pregnacare couples tablets this month - the mens ones have all those vitamins that were suggested to you sal.

sundance I think that there are deffo positives to take from the turners syndrome diagnosis. It's nice to have a reason for the mc that is unlikely to reoccur. Getting the tests like daft is probably a good idea just for reassurance, but most likely you're both fine. When you know how complicated the process of cell division is, it isn't surprising that sometimes it just goes wrong. If you do chat to the genetic councillor at the hospital they'll probably have some helpful statistics

FF has FINALLY detected ovulation. I think it's wrong. I guess I'll find out who's right (me or the computer?) when AF arrives.

Sorry for the absence, I'll go and catch up in a minute.

We've had a really shitty month, first my horse got her leg caught in a rabbit hole and broke her leg. Had to have her put to sleep as it just wasn't going to be possible to do anything for her. Then my Dad had a stroke. He's still in hospital, but making progress so we're hopeful for a good recovery, he still can't speak though.

As you can imagine all of this has meant that we haven't been DTD much at all (once or twice over the whole month). So naturally AF is now 5 days late with absolutely no sign of making an appearance. I'm holding out to friday to POAS. I suppose it only takes once at the right time, but I don't really believe that there is any real possibility of getting a BFP. I'm sure it's probably stress making AF shy or something like that.

Hi ladies. So I want to tell you, slightly nervously, about my bfp. Yes fish slaps please.
I had what I thought was the beginning of my period but never got going, so tested and bfp. Still spotting though which is scary and hoping its not a chemical pregnancy and is just bedding itself in tightly.
So I guess the usual for any of us on this thread... Happy but absolutely shit scared and knicker watch at an ultimate high.
10 months since mc, took a lot longer than I thought and only worked when I through elements of project desperate out the window!! It might not last but at least we got pregnant, that's my thinking at the mo.

aly as my twin, I expect nothing more than a bfp from you this month

over hang in there, And please don't test early than a week after, will just panic you as you say she says having po4s

wing it could be. I conceived my mc baby with have sex twice in one month! Sorry for all the rubbishness of the month

missp very interested in the sperm test result!! Sorry about your sister though, that's really tough.

sal glad the clinic went well. Sounds like you are in good hands for when you get up duffed again which am sure will be soon! Stay away from the excess cheese and mince pies though!!

sundance glad you have some answers on your mc and they are helping you / offering further tests. I think I would take them!!

Hi to everyone else - sorry I can't scroll back any further to see the news...

Wing - Sorry to hear you've been having a shit time, dtd once is all it can take so fingers crossed you get some good news...POAS!!

Fedup - Congrats hope your spotting is just super keen implantation, really hope it sticks for you.

Aly - Thanks for wise words...I did manage to restrain and haven't tested so will be POAS-ing bright and early in the morning...it's been a long test free week.

Still no letter, what a surprise. As I turn '6 weeks' over the weekend I will be chasing it up tomorrow as need it sorting ASAP, the longer it goes on if it is ectopic then the more likely it is to cause problems. I got to 8 weeks last time when I ruptured.

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Hurrah for the BFPs girls!! Mega happy for you. Will keep fingers crossed they get stuck in and stick for the next 9 months!!

Wing what a horrid month you've had! Sorry that its all happened to you, you must be proper fed up!! Hope your pops is on the men's, it's bloody scary and makes you realise how precious life is! Hopefully AF is late for the best of reasons! Xxx

fedup massive congrats. Very excited for you!! So how many around ov period did you dtd?

aly I know what you mean about not trusting FF sometimes!! I have questioned it on many occasions.

over agree with the others' advice. Best not to test for a few days, I know it is tempting and easier said that done.

sundance sal glad to hear you have some positive results and hopefully it is just a matter of time when you get a sticky bfp.

As for me. I have been lying low. Been very busy with work. Which is good as I have had less time to focus on my obsession. I did finally manage to see the GP and she has recommended the usual pre and post ov blood tests. So I will be getting those done next cycle. This cycle my 21 day progesterone test would fall on Xmas Day, so will not be able to get it done then lol! I also got a fertility scan and blood done privately. Seems like my antral follicle count was good and they expect my ovarian reserve to be normal too (will get results in a week fx). So I hope everything comes out ok.
I have also started taking pregnacare. Bought some for dh but he has barely touched them (thinks he doesn't need them!).

Sorry if I have missed anyone. Fx for Friday!

Thanks ladies! We went for the every other day approach from day 7 to 14 and then once more on 19. I'm usuay an early ovulator, and was away between 14 and 19!

oooooh fedup!!! that's fabbo news and I really hope that it does stick.
Counting down the days until my own bfp now, since my twin got one :)

wing i'm sorry that you've been having such a rubbish time. My mc baby was also from just two lots of sex in the month so i've got high hopes for you.

triple that's good news from the fertility clinic. excellent!

Your news gives me hope!! And fingers crossed aly that you will get a bfp soon (maybe in 2 wks).

wings so sorry to hear of your rubbishy time. My dad had a stroke too this year and is making recovery. Hopefully it will be the same with yours.

I am on cd5 now after a marathon 38 day cycle. So long to go. I have already started investigating IVF options. If I am not upduffed by March, think I am take the plunge and go down the fertility clinic route.