Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs and Summer 2014 babies all round please! TTC after MC

[Sal1977]

Our brand spanking new thread full of luck, baby dust, BFPs and a few choice swear words.

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Yep, I'll get a new thread going on the basis that we don't post on it until tomorrow!

Any new rules we'd like to see?

Penguin, also weird to say - glad to know the witch showed up! Funny the love/hate relationship we all have with her!

Anyone got any final words for 2013? Mine are, the highs were as high as mountain tops and the lows were deeper and darker than the greatest abyss.
I've learnt this year that my unexplained infertility is not infertility at all, and while it was spectacularly cruel to be robbed of my pregnancy after waiting so long I am not sorry to be seeing the back of 2013 at all because I know 2014 is going to be my, actually OUR, year!

Glad you've got a fresh slate penguin, and thanks Sal.

Has anyone heard of false unicorn root or crampberry? Apparently they help prevent mc and regulate periods.

Not doing my last words yet, think they'll come after a glass or two of wine tonight! But agree wholeheartedly parsley, but with less of the mountain highs. They're due in a month or two I hope...!

Oops, it's crampbark apparently.

Right, I have a new thread ready to go. I won't put it up until after midnight in case we are tempted to taint it with 2013 shitfucktardwankiness bad luck.

Love a good swear. Sorry if it offends anyone.

Had a looooong chat with DH this morning about everything and said my MN buddies are the only ones that get it! He was grateful that I have an outlet for my dark side! Lol.

Right, off out for a walk (from house to car) then a nice lunch somewhere.

I'm with you Sal !

Thanks for sorting sal

I burst into tears on way back from shops over the shittest year ever. Couldn't be happier to see that back of fucking 2013! I'm relieved its over! Now off to drink as much booze as poss! might will be healthy in the NY!

Enjoy saying sod off to 2013 with me tonight ladies and see you on the new thread for a fab 2014 for us all!! Xx

I pissing well hate NYE anyway. It just reminds me of being another year older and looking back at what's happened throughout the previous year. We're going to a friends house tonight who just got engaged on Xmas eve so they're full of love and happiness and she just put on FB about it being the best year ever. I must resist commenting on it and saying it has been the worst year ever for me. I always seem to be pissing on someone's chips or wanting to so must paint on a smile and get shitfaced!!

Parsley I've just been reading your thread about your SIL. Have you net up with her yet? I had the same situation with a close friend who gave birth on my exact due date. I'm meeting her on Friday for the first time. Her baby is 10 weeks old. It's got to the point where they've lost sympathy with us and her arrogant husband has been giving mine a hard time about it saying he should 'man up' and carry on seeing them without me. Horrible situation. PM me if you want to chat about it. Xxx

Already one large rum and coke down, uh oh!

Seaside not familiar with that one, are you trying it? My AF has always been pretty regular so not sure it's for me, but would be interested to hear what you know!

fedup huge un-mumsnetty HUG for you today. I sort of feel like driving out to the woods tonight and just screaming it all out, meet you by the giant pine tree at midnight?

Sal I have PM'ed you!

Spent today shopping with my bestie, who is due to be induced in 3 weeks. I can happily say that I had no sad or resentful thoughts At. All. I am so glad because I love her to bits and she's been a real rock for me throughout the MC. Hers is the only baby currently brewing that I am genuinely excited about meeting in 2014. I did however find out only today that she had a MC herself about 5 years ago. She said she didn't tell me at first in case it upset me more (as it was unplanned and unwanted at that time) - silly mare! We had a good blub in ASK - waitress thought we were mental!

It might be the rum talking but I just wanted to add pre new year bollocks that it's been so amazing to know you lot are here to listen when I need it. People want to help IRL but like Sal said, you lot are the only ones who really 'get' it. Crazy warts and all!

Now, let's all go and get shitfaced and kick 2013 out of sight for good!

Sal I hope you manage to enjoy the night a bit even with the loved up newly engaged types making you nauseous! I will also be painting on a smile as we're spending the eve with my pg SIL amongst others. She is completely lovely and would never say anything thoughtless but it's still hard since we were due within a week of each other :-/

My plan is to make the most of my last night of drinking alcohol for a considerable period and if possible eat my own body weight in every non pregnancy friendly food going. Mature non?

Have a good night everyone and hope we all have at least some good things that happened to us in 2013 to be thankful for if not the one thing we all hope for. I have a feeling 2014 is going to be our year.

Happy nearly new year all. AF just arrived, to round off a horrid 2013 in horrid style.
Having small sprogs and friends with small sprogs, we partied hard with tea and cake for 12 at 3pm, so off to bed and bye bye 2013 v soon, yay! Not before I have had a nice cup of tea though. We sure know how to party...

May 2014 be much much much better than 2013. Thank you all for understanding.

Good point handsfull

Big big BIG thanks and love goes out to you girls, this year would've been a much harder journey without you lot!!!

Here's to the next (hopefully shorter) stretch being a happy one! Xxxxx

Should probably be posting on the new 2014 thread (the one where we all get the happy ending) however as I don't know where it is yet.... happy new year to you all! I am sorry for the circumstances which have brought us together, though I am glad I found you. Last year was one of the worst I have been through. It is over now. Positive thoughts from on. I am rambling (too much wine) thank you for listening

Happy new year all-it's going to be a good one for us! This thread is more of a support to me than I've realised, I don't know where I'd be without you all. I know I'm not alone because of you lot, you make me laugh in the most unlikely of moments. Thanks very much all, and I hope in the nicest of ways not to see you here for much longer at all! XxS

Ok so rather drunk and can't really read all the posts but happy 2014 ladies. It's our year and thank you for your support and empathy - love you!! See you on the new thread. Shed too many tears tonight dressed as a tiger dancing to Gary Barlow.... See you tomorrow. but never forget was ace!!

Here we are ladies!!!

Abandon ship and follow me.....

NEW 2014 THREAD

Hello everyone. I'll go and have a catch up in a bit. Hope everyone had a good Christmas and that there was good news for some of you.

I managed to survive Christmas and the funeral despite my sisters and their complete inability to lift a finger. AF arrived on New Years day as if she wanted to make it clear that a new year doesn't necessarily mean a change in luck. I'm finding this month really hard to cope with. I think I had it in my head that the New Year would bring a BFP and that was what was keeping me going. The fact that it didn't was a bit of crushing reality and I kind of collapsed. In many ways I think it was a good thing, I'd been so busy organising everybody that I hadn't had a proper chance to grieve for my Dad. The tears have probably been a mix of grieving for both losses.

I'm still feeling a bit wobbly, I'm back in work now and the routine seems to be doing me some good.

Do any of you feel like thumping you DH/DP for being too sensitive? I know this sounds completely daft, but my DH is driving me up the wall. I know that he lost a baby as well, but how can he possibly know what it is like to be feeling every little twinge and wondering/worrying about it? And how can he possibly know what it feels like to be losing blood every month and have that reminding you of MC. I know I should be grateful that I have a very loving DH, but sometimes I wish he would stop being touchy feely. Him being over understanding is making me feel very alone. I need someone big and strong to give me a hug, not someone to cry with me.