Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs and Summer 2014 babies all round please! TTC after MC

[Sal1977]

Our brand spanking new thread full of luck, baby dust, BFPs and a few choice swear words.

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Ah ok, I'm a solicitor fedup so not the same role. I work for a firm that has lot of public sector clients though. Very jealous that you find your job rewarding...the concept of enjoying my job is alien to me!

Sorry AF has arrived sal and over. Was hoping we would have some thread BFPs today! Hope your bleeding stops soon sundance. It's just a horrible reminder of what you've been through.

I cannot believe there is a Facebook group to name a child. I've had to come off Facebook since the MC. It felt like my news feed was full of babies!

Losing the will to live here, I'm TTC after MMC in June (that got dragged out by shoddy aftercare and only had ERPC early sept) this is my 2nd cycle, always 30 days like clockwork and I'm currently 6 days late, climbing the walls getting BFN! I'm blatantly not pregnant as used FR, so where the frig is AF? Why is my body so cruel to me

Agree with you on the fb front Bezza, I find it unbearable

Hello all. Ooh! a new thread.

Good luck to any of you POAS today.....

I'm still bleeding from miscarriage after 11 days, pah.... but today, after declaring myself alcohol-free forever to help with next time round, I found myself nursing a bottle of red in the supermarket in the middle of really struggling at work.

mmm, it's on the table in front of me now and might just need to be opened....

hahahahaha

Do it daft!!!

A glass won't hurt daft.. nothing to do with the fact I'm about to have a glass of red

pina being honest it's probably just your body struggling to get back to normal... Mine was all over the shops after mc. I was 25 days like clockwork before mc and now I don't have a clue.. Range from 20 to 28 days and I'm on cycle 9. Think I'm unusual with that though so don't think that will happen to you but just wanted to say that's pretty normal for second cycle post mc. But I also know how frustrating it is to have no af and bfn! Take care

Daft drink the wine! You've gone through enough in the last two weeks without depriving yourself of some alcoholic comfort! If it were me still doing it 6 months later I'd chuck in a large bag of crisps and a bar of cadburys as well!!!

I bled for just over 2 weeks after my MMC and ERPC, just lightly but enough for it to be a pain!! Everyone is different though, so it's hard to judge it!

Hi all. I am new here. Waiting on AF return after my ERPC on 11th September (over 6 weeks now). I have never wanted AF to appear so much in my life. I am tucking into a glass of red so I'd echo the others daft - go for it! Hoping to hear lots of positive stories

Hi all, just checking back in after a couple of weeks lurking. Like many others, I've been seriously lacking posifrikentivity of late.

Anxious I too would recommend counselling, have had it in the past and found it really helpful.

I'm now 5dpo and over the shagathon (thank goodness!). Started reflexology a fortnight ago, just had my 3rd session tonight. Finding it wierd but quite positive. The reflexologist is lovely, I really clicked with her, and I am starting to unwind a wee bit as a result. Hoping whatever it is she does works and I can POAS positively next Friday!

Welcome HollyBen, sorry you are here and hoping your stay will be brief.

Thanks for the advice fedupofrainydays. I feel like I'm going mad, have frightened myself to death with googling reading about eptopics. There's no chance I'm PG because I'd definitely have a BFP by 7 days late! Might just do another test in the morning for good measure...

Morning peeps.

Got another +OPK yesterday evening. Only DTD this morning though as boyfriend isn't very well. I've had a few +OPK this cycle so have tried to DTD each time just in case it means something!

pina my AF has suddenly gone awol and no BFP. For me it's probably due to PCOS so I'll have tests soon for hormone levels. I think with an ectopic you would have a BFP rather than not.

nerdy deffo sounds like pcos with the many pos opks but think you are doing the right thing by dtd with each one.

Agree with nerdy re the ectopic pina. Step away from google and it's much more likely just messed up cycle than ectopic as the latter would usually give you a bfp. Do you know when you ovulated this cycle, as may have ovulated late and af isn't really 'late' if that makes sense.

Just writing a stash of cards for 'congratulations on your new arrival'. My congrats are genuine and couldn't be happier for these people, but inside there is a heavy sadness and wishing it was me receiving the cards too rather than writing them...

Fedup the new babies thing is hard. It is horrible being happy for them on one hand but also jealous and sad. I have a friend at work who is a month ahead of where I should be and told me she was pg the day I had my MC confirmed. It is awful watching her bump grow and seeing scans etc. I am genuinely pleased for her as she has not really had it easy over the last few years but it is so hard.

I guess I am fairly 'lucky' in that we are TTC DC#2 and got a BFP straight away. POAS on Sat, started spotting on the Thursday and it was over 3 weeks before MC was confirmed. I had a previous MC in 2010 which had taken 8 months to get a BFP and I remember the crushing monthly disappointment of AF arriving. At the moment I would give anything for anything to arrive.

Urg. Lots of 'helpful' advice on getting pg from my sister last night. 'Why don't you just go to the doctor and get ivf?', 'I know you're thinking of adopting, but it's not the same, is it? Nothing's like having your own baby.' Yeah, thanks for that. Hadn't occurred to me...

Sorry, couldn't get thread to refresh before posting for some reason. Welcome holly, sorry for your loss.

I got an emphatic bfp with my ectopic pina, straight away, so I wouldn't worry. Having said that, I'm slightly worried about a 2nd one now coz af has been really light, so I'm going to waste my money poas soon. Am really paranoid now.

Thanks for all the advice guys, really sorry to hear you've been through an eptopic, everything is just so scary. I'm glad to hear eptopic would give me a BFP. I didn't bother OPKing this month because I got a bit obsessed last month and it ended up taking the fun away but now I wish I had because I have no idea what's going on now. Another BFN this morning and I'm not wasting any more money on them now. I've been a right bitch to DH with PMT symptoms today so pretty sure AF will show in the next few days!

Hey all

Re. Fb friend. She's just excited, and to be fair doesn't know. Can't put my hand on my heart and say I wouldn't have been ridiculously insensitive if I'd just gone down the path of blissful ignorance myself. She's due next week, and a pretty heavy fb user - so am bracing myself!

Seaside - how ridiculously thoughtless of your well-meaning (I assume) but totally unhelpful sister. I've looked at the adoption route myself and its a possibility I feel quite positive about - I figure that if its this painful to be 'a parent' with no kids it must be a million times worse to be a kid with no parents. So while its not "the same" I'm sure it would be a wonderful experience of motherhood, should we end up down that path.

I'm totally bouncing between posifrickintivity and complete despair these days!

Welcome Holly and hope you enjoyed the wine Draf.

Just marking my place on the shiny new thread. In the middle of DTD week (which, given my random ovulation pattern, will probably have to go on for two weeks just to be sure), and too knackered fed up to write a long post! But fingers continue to be crossed for everyone.

Morning all.
Well I've managed to dodge going over to a friends house to congratulate them on their new baby who arrived the day after my mc. Still a bit raw and everyone was understanding about it, especially when when realising it was my 2nd. Apparently one mc is bad, but the reaction of hearing I've had 2 is as good as saying I'm f**d!

Just wanted to chime in on the adoption thing - I'm all for it, and luckily have a DH who has always wanted to adopt as well as having his own, so I know that is something we will do at some point.

Right - off to get some fresh air with the dog, enjoy your Sunday everyone, keep posifrickintive!!

Hi all. Just checking in to the new thread after my big sulk about AF turned up managed to last right into the 2ww! Hope everyone is managing to keep much more posifrickintive than I am - I think DP is getting fed up of my miserable face! (Although he'd never say so). After yet another fb pregnancy announcement I'm tempted to deactivate my account...

Sundance - we'd always planned to do both too. Two biological kids, wait for them to grow up, then adopt an older sibling pair. Aren't plans grand! As I'm 31 I'm not entirely sure where I'm finding the time for all this but hey ho.

I also completely identify with the: one miscarriage = sympathy and declarations of how its terribly common, you've just had bad luck, and it'll be fine next time, versus two miscarriages = averted eyes, change of subject/questioning whether the doctors are looking for reasons/ talk of IVF/adoption being options. Your comment made me laugh out loud! (I refuse to type lol - but that is effectively what happened).

I'm very blue this week - I think it was precipitated by being away during O on my first month back on the TTC saddle. I'm also dreading Christmas even more than I dreaded the due date. I was pregnant last Christmas and was so blissfully happy and excited (and so f**king naïve).

Grrrr.....anyone else's FB filled with people moaning about how their children and babies have woken up an hour early and how awfully tired they are now??? I've started just just commenting with "Poor you!". Hehe

Sal - right there with you. Grrr

Aww , big hugs camomile. I've just hit 32 and no children as yet, which sort of adds to the panic if the ticking clock as I would like more than one child but struggling to stay pg has set us back a year so far.

Fingers crossed we will all get preggo by Xmas though - you never know, it might happen.

Sal, sometimes a break from fb can be a help, I haven't touched it in 2 weeks tbh as I know there will be lots of new baby pics on there from our entire list of couple friends who all seem to have had babies in the last few weeks. I was also really hurt to see my sil saying how hard her kids were being and how difficult and busy her life as a mother is knowing our situation. I don't expect peoples' lives to stop because of what has happened to us, but she's definitely getting a shit Christmas gift this year.