Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs and Summer 2014 babies all round please! TTC after MC

[Sal1977]

Our brand spanking new thread full of luck, baby dust, BFPs and a few choice swear words.

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Thanks holly its a but crap but others have been through much worse!

On the positive note ill be able to drink at the Xmas party :)

Hope everyone's got something lovely to do at the weekend!

New tips for conception...? Hmmmm....load up on boyfriends and shag 3 times a day during fertile week? It would be like a lucky dip!

Now my 1st due date is out the way, I feel like I've turned a corner and have chilled out a bit at the mo. I don't think about it every hour of every day anymore and some days it's hard to believe I was ever actually pregnant (which is a bit sad). HOWEVER, now I've relaxed a bit, according to the world and his arse, I will fall preggers at the drop of a hat. We will see.

My crazy idea for next month if this month doesn't work is to get DH to wank in a freezer bag a few times, freeze it and then decant onto cervix during fertile week when we can't be arsed to do it every day. Following some googling however it seems that home freezing isn't effective and swimmers will just die a slow cold death next to the peas and Ben and Jerrys. Am now wondering if I can get hold of a sperm bank grade freezer to execute genius plan!!

sal you're not the only one to have had that thought. I've got access to liquid nitrogen at work and have seriously thought of using it to freeze some sperm.... I also want to look at DHs swimmers under the microscope and see what they look like but he won't let me. I might have to take a surreptitious sample

Ooh Aly, I have been looking wistfully at the sperm test kits that come up when I look on amazon for ic opks and hpts. I don't think any looking at dh's sperm will help me though as it clearly works. I just like thoroughly researching a subject (and messing with test tubes tbf!)
My change this month will be for DH to take his bloody pregnacare men tablets as he has only just finished the packet I bought him at the end of June!

Really sorry for BFNs and for AF showing up.

Not sure about the freezing sperm plan, wouldn't want to get things mixed up if cooking in a hurry!

Hi from Australia, sorry for people's bfn/af disappointment. Me too - she just arrived at least 2 days early...and she's a prankster, arrived just as I got in from big, very sober, night out. At least I'll feel perky tomorrow when everyone else feels like hell. I expected it this month, but it's never fun seeing her.

Hey all
Sorry about the BFNs and AFs. Hope everyone is having a nice weekend. How is Aus Seaside? - apart from AF obviously.

I'm lying in front of a 'The Walking Dead' box set and eating scones. It's hubby and my 1st anniversary tomorrow so out for dinner in a bit. Happy etc, but not quite the first year of marriage I'd envisaged. I prefer the version where I get pregnant immediately and am sitting here with a 10 week old baby right now. Not the version with mcs, investigations, learning about odd shaped uterus and blood clotting disorders. Oh well. Here's to the second year!

Good evening all. What a lot of afs and bfns, a hug to every one of you. Happy first anniversary to you and DH camomile, at least this year you will be armed with the facts you need to face up to the challenge (I'm scrabbling for a bright side! ) have an amazing anniversary.

nerdy, you are so right about culinary mix ups, ew!

My af has finished, so hurray, we can get started again with gusto. Any tips for reviving enthusiasm? I got a bit jaded ttc this last lost baby.

Have happy weekends.

Groan . Worth it though, had a fab time.

Hands - I find that injecting a bit of project desperate can help boost enthusiasm when its flagging. How about a glass of grapefruit juice and an evening primrose tablet from now until you ovulate (good for ewcm apparently). And perhaps some pineapple core on dpo2-5!

Happy anniversary camomile

Still no sign of af here despite being due on thurs. No sign of anything else either so no idea what's going on.

handsful I was reading a thread on here last night about people who sold there cots etc only to get a BFP. I am off to drag DDs cot out from under her bed.....

Happy anniversary "camomile". Fx an extra family member soon.

"holly" I gave my Moses basket away last month to my cousin so def a BFP for me in 10 days. Lol Or should I sell my DD cot (except she is sleeping in it as we speak).

"sal". Frozen sperm you say!!! Worth a try. Are you still a syringe advocate.

Happy Anniversary Cam! It was my 1st anniversary in September so I know shat you mean about how the first year of marriage feels like it should have been very different. 2014 had better be an improvement!

holly, the colposcopy isn't related to the mc or fertility issues...I had a dodgy smear test 3 years ago so had to get a colposcopy (scrape) at the hospital. All came back fine, but when that happens they insist on you having a smear test there every 6 months for 3 years. This will hopefully be my last one.

Still no sign of af...getting a bit ridiculous now!! My mc was in 16th oct and just want to get cracking again. Is there anything you can take to bring on a af???

Orgasms are supposed to be good for getting AF on her way!

I got AF early after a big ol'dance session this month, maybe shake that lining free Sundance?!

Happy anniversary cam, I hope you had a lovely dinner, and managed to forget about all this for a bit.

Oz is lovely, it's wonderful spending time with bf. She's got such good advice, and is the only person who's not going through this who know what to say. Had a big cry yday after getting news that my last friend who's been ttc has just had her 12 week scan-why does this news always arrive just when af does? I'm delighted for her, it had taken them a while, but that's everyone I know happily upduffed now, even those who've been having trouble, and a couple who've not even been trying...if I didn't have you guys I'd really feel I was the only one having a hard time.

Bf did have one great bit of advice- to make a list of all the things we want to do that will be harder/impossible to do once a baby comes along-restaurants we want to visit, trips to take, just having date nights and time alone etc. And then work through them- I do keep telling myself to appreciate this time, but it's so hard. I think having a tangible list would make that much easier. Could never have come to Australia, for example.

Evening ladies!!

I'm sorry to hear so many are still waiting for the evil af to arrive! I'm still on my 2ww and it's frankly killing me this month!!

I have stomach issues following my miscarriage that are causing nausea (despite being on omeprazole) but the nausea coupled with sore boobs are really winding me up this month!!

I know it's not a competition sundance but my wait since 11th September trumps yours I am willing to try anything so it might be an early night for us...

Keep thinking of the positives seaside and enjoy your holiday. Your bf sounds so lovely. Glad you are getting this time with her.

Fingers crossed for you norma

Or you could go and have a few sessions on one of those flabelos machines ! Shake the old witch out!!!

I went to visit my sister today (the one who's had 3 kids & 6 miscarriages) and we had a chat about how I just seem to be having no luck with ttc. She pointed out to me that each of her successful pregnancies was preceded by 2 miscarriages. I had no problems with my eldest two, but I did have 2 mc before I had DD3, and I've since had 2mc after having her. DS reckons that means I have a good chance of keeping the next one I conceive - which is a comforting thought, but we've been trying since Feb and thus far I don't seem to be getting as far as even getting pg again!

I've been charting my cycles on mymonthlycycles.com, and just for fun and fancy I got it to generate me a bar chart comparing follicular and luteal phase lengths for all my cycles since the last mc in Jan. They're all over the place; follicular phase length has been anywhere from 8 days to 21 (though mostly around 10), and luteal has been anywhere from 9 to 19. Something very weird going on there. Last cycle I didn't ov until CD22, whereas I'm only on CD6 today and ewcm has appeared.

Anyone got a crystal ball I can borrow to try and work out WTF is going on?? Because I'm buggered if I know!

Could do without the "feeling weepy at the drop of a hat" lark as well. One of the little girls in Reception at DD3's school spotted her mum at the end of Assembly on Friday morning and got into a right state crying and begging for her, and by the time mum got to her to give her a cuddle I was practically in tears myself - and I've never been a tearful sort in the past.

I've been feeling the same weepiness ark, it's a right pain-not normally like that either. Well up at anything involving babies just now-sodding Pampers adverts even. It's like my hormones have taken over and shut my brain off.

Sorry your cycles are all over the place, I got worried because af arrived 2 days early, so can understand your concern.

I can so identify with the excessive weeping. Any mention of child protection, fostering and adoption and I'm off. Just can't believe how people can mistreat children, just can't fathom it. And that Johnsons advert too also sets me off and thank god one born every minute isn't on at the moment as think I would just dissolve if I watched that at the moment!!

Hope everyone had a good week. I think I'm about to the dreaded 2 ww.

Oh no holly, that's insane! If af still not here in a week I might visit the docs. I wondered whether digging out my old contraceptive pill and taking those for a few days might bring on af once I stop. I realise that's also probably insane but I'm running out of ideas here. The other alternative is to book a beach holiday as Sod's law that's when the old witch makes an appearance.

I'm also a pro at the spontaneous crying, though at the moment I'd say I'm more just massively jealous and slightly bitter of anyone who is pregnant.

Did anyone watch the one born every minute 'what happened next' last week? It's still on 4oD. It had that young fashion couple on there. They mentioned that they had had problems conceiving their first, and then she had 2 mc's followed by a successful pg. They made me cry but also I really admired the way they spoke about it. It gave me a bit of hope anyway.

Just waiting to go off for my colposcopy appt...I get to sit in the same waiting room as the ladies waiting for their US scans! Joy.

oh god I'm a bucketfull of tears at the moment too. Managed to cry at Grand Designs of all things the other day
We started our his and hers pregnacare tablets this morning, so heres hoping that they do something.

sorry for AF seaside, but at least you can enjoy some nice glasses of wine with your bf.
fairypants any news for you yet? af or bfp??

I like the idea of selling a cot to get bfp. We're planning on selling DDs cot but not for another month. Can't do it yet, but hopefully just the thought of selling it will be enough

ark that is very strange about your cycles. how annoying for you. Is it worth investigating further do you think?

seaside I think the idea of making a list of things to tick off before baby comes is a wonderful one. Have you started it yet? What's on it?
I would put going to see live music quite close to the top. festivals can be fun with a kiddo, but late night gigs? not so practical.

I have a GP apt tomorrow sundance so I will let you know what she says. I don't really hold much hope but at least I feel like I am doing something. My massive bag of ov tests arrived from Amazon on Saturday soil might start using those see if I can work out whether I am actually ovulating. In hate feeling so helpless.

I have always been a bit of a crier so no real change for me there, but more programs have been added to the banned list (as I get so upset at them). Supposed to be meeting a friend from NCTM classes today. Her DC2 is almost 3 months and I was starting to dread it. She cancelled last night so feeling relieved but also really horrible as she is lovely and I do like spending time with her and DS

I cannot wait for this year to end, roll on NYE!

So just spent over an hour waiting in the hospital, right next to several ladies coming out of the ultra sound rooms flapping their little scan pics excitedly....

Only to be told when I do get in to see the doc, that they cannot do a smear test on me because it's too soon after my mc and I have to go back in January. FFS !!

To be fair the doc was really apologetic and lovely and has asked to see me herself in jan to avoid any further fuck ups. I'm not holding my breath.
On my way to supermarket to buy a lot of chocolate...and wine.