Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs and Summer 2014 babies all round please! TTC after MC

[Sal1977]

Our brand spanking new thread full of luck, baby dust, BFPs and a few choice swear words.

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Good luck at the doc's tomorrow holly, you must be going mad with that wait.

We're both really into our food aly, so I reckon we'll make a list of the restaurants we want to try and tick one off each month. Being able to afford eating out is probably something else that will go once we hit pg jackpot! Also I'd like to go to the cinema more regularly, and go away walking in the highlands, perhaps start munro bagging?! Hard to do that with a tiny baby...We've got friends in Germany we'd like to visit too. What would you do?

Sorry Sundance, cross post. What an arse! At least they were sheepish about it, but what a waste of your time! And least favourite activity, being in a confined space with lots of pg strangers. Def deserve choc and , I had cookies and fizz for dinner.

hiking is deffo high on list. We have managed to do some hiking and camping with DD but they have to be more tame walks than what we would normally do.
It is more difficult to do long walks now that DD is 2 because although we have a child backpack carrier she is bloody heavy! Plus wants to walk herself too. When she was little we carted her all over the place without a problem.
So munro bagging sounds like a good plan!
What about a long distance, multi day hike like the GR20 is Corsica? That's something that's really is impossible/very difficult with a child.

I'm trying to think of other things I wish that i'd done more of pre-DD... or things that I miss... and it's all outdoorsy type activities. Oh and being able to sleep in on the weekend after a late night. Do as much of that as you can!

sundance what an absolute nightmare.

hollyben I hope the doc has some suggestions or a plan for you tomorrow. Good idea with the ov sticks. I'm currently trying to decide whether or not to order some for this cycle. i do hate peeing on them, but after last months 5-days late ov i'm nervous.

I love the list idea, gonna suggest that to DH when I get home (currently sat in car at Taunton services shovelling a Big Mac meal into my face)!

What a pain sundance. Why is nothing easy. Hope the wine and chocolate helps a bit.

I wanted to avoid ov sticks etc alyant. I tried them after 6 months ttc dc#1 and never had a positive so gave up and got a BFP the next month. Just desperate to know what is going on so worth a try.

Love the idea of a list of things to do. I have missed the boat on a pre dc list but may suggest a before next mw leave list

Ouch sundance, that isn't fun!
Af turned up Sunday night the upside is that I had a normal lp rather than my pre mc 9 days. I hope it's a new pattern. The downside is, if I get a BFP this month, my edd would be 5 days after dd1s 16th bday and 7 days before next school year not ideal timing.
Love the list of things to do pre- dc. Ours are old enough to leave alone or take out to fun things so makes a big difference.
I'm also thinking, if I book tickets for a show (thinking comedy) this time next year, I wouldn't be able to go if I got pg soon as the baby would be too small to leave. Therefore it would have the same effect as getting rid of the cot- Sod's law

So the pre conception list begins today

1/ take day off work and have a lie in (wouldn't be able to do that with a baby - DD had lie in too
2/ randomly decided to go to town for afternoon drinks and visit Christmas market. (wouldnt be able to drink if up duffed - DD at nursery then fun at granny's)
3/ going to buy pair of skinny black jeans. (wouldn't be able to wear if up duffed.)

After a few drinks this avo will think of other things to do though as in 2ww better take it easy. I generally do drink in 2ww after consultant gave me an medical journal with a study that says no alcohol passes for for first 4 weeks. I suppose there are different views on this. Having said this I do limit myself to a few. D

love all these ideas about the things you can't do when upduffed :)

My AF turned up yesterday with a vengeance, just under 5 weeks since the MMC started. Hurrah. I feel like I know where I am again, and now we can get to it this month ttc.....

Congrats daft! I can't wait to be in the same position, at least you can get into some sort of pattern now. Not nice being in this position again but things can only go up right?

It's weird that there's so many if us on here actually will in for af to show up for a change!!

Just heard that my friend went for her first scan today, all fine. I'm hitting the gin.

Hooray for AF daft Whoever thought I'd be jealous of AF turning up. Pass the gin sundance

Went to the GP today. She was very nice. Took some blood to check my hormone levels and thyroid. Get the results next week. Other than that I just have to wait

Congrats daft back to the drawing board. My af has sort of finished (day 7) but it was really really heavy, I had some leaks overnight. Still spotting now, which has never happened before.

I love the list idea. We are blessed with 2 already, so we are planning things difficult to do with a newborn/ heavily pregnant. Skiing with a two and four year old might sound impractical, but it will be easier than with a newborn added! And we are taking them biking on the Ile de Re in the summer. Hopefully I will be upduffed and all our plans will be an expensive waste of time, that's the alternative plan, anyway!

Hope you enjoyed your gin, sundance, cheers.

My Sod's law is that I'm still a stone heavier than I was when I fell PG in January. Can I use the comfort eating excuse this many months down the line? I certainly have run out of 12 week pg 'baby weight' snort excuses...

Just wondering what's happened flower after you random one day period? Hope you are ok.

Right... I'm going to go skiing too, and change my career and buy some clothes I couldn't poss wear if up duffed or breastfeeding plus do some work to our house that would be hellish to do with a new baby around ;)

Aw Sal, I am in the same boat. It really sucks! My 4 year old prodded my belly today and said "Mummy, have you got a baby in there?". I held it together, but I have this recurring image in my head of my 4 and 2 year olds with their arms around the shoulders of their 2 lost siblings. Gah. I am launching myself at Weightwatchers online with renewed vigour, which is very very dull indeed when chocolate is the only thing which seems to cheer me up any...

Hollyben, I'm so pleased the GP took you seriously - when will the test results come back? Sending AF vibes your way.

fedup, yes, clothes is another great idea. Wear things that you could not possibly breast feed in without getting totally naked - dresses without buttons down the front? What will your next career be? (Do not recommend law for anyone wishing to be a mother!)

I had a similar thing bit from my neighbours daughter... "My mummy has a baby in her tummy, have you got one too?" Awkward.

New career TBD but I would add mgt consulting to the list of crap jobs when a parent!

Yep - everything impractical with pregnancy - heels, tight, no buttons at the boobs etc! Not a pair of leggings in sight!

Thanks handsful results early mext week. Still no sign of AF and a week of new baby pics and pregnancy announcements.

My sods law is to apply for a new job which would be a promotion. Between being offered the job I do now and attending an assessment centre fot it I got the BFP that is DD. I am hoping it'll work again

Sniff sniff 8dpo and my temps took a nose dive this morning. Been cramping for a couple of days. No spotting yet but have a short luteal phase of 9/10 days so pretty sure AF is on its way. Feeling really gutted this month - cant understand what is wrong DP is great and says what can we try next month???

On the plus side. I won't have a bump in my wedding dress

So sweet of DP missp, sorry for temp drop :-(

Scan pics came through from my sis today on whatsapp. So relieved that all is well for her, but it's awful, I had to delete them. My phone rotates all my photos as a screensaver, and I just couldn't deal with seeing them every time I unlock it. I hate that this is tainting my sister's first pregnancy for me. I'm doing my best, but I cant help being jealous. It sucks.

oh no missp. at 8 dpo it is still possible that it could be implantation, but probably better to prepare yourself for the worst.

seaside of course you feel jealous. How could you not?? completely agree that deleting the scan pic was for the best.

CD7 here. should be starting to gear up for shag fest but just dont' feel like it at the moment. So tempted to give up - not sure how much longer I can withstand this not-getting-pregnant for. Not give up in the sense of start using contraception, but give up actively charting and monitoring etc etc, forget everything I know about fertile days and not care for a few months....... I've decided that if i'm not pg by the new year then that's what I'll do.
Have just heard that a friend of mine is pg. She had been trying for 2+ years and in the end had given up because she couldn't handle the stress anymore. Not entirely sure how long she tried for after "giving up" but think it was still a few months - but a few months of less stress and more emotional happiness. Tempting...

I really hope it's not af missp, but at least your DH sound nice and supportive.
I think it's totally understandable that you find it difficult seaside. You are being really strong where you need to be (to her face) and sensible where it doesn't matter ( she will never know whether you keep the pic so it would be causing you pain for nothing).

I feel a bit like I should give up this month as the dates aren't great but know I'd regret it a later date.
On the positive side, I really love my tiny car and each month without a bfp means another month I get to enjoy it.
On the negative side, I have been completely sidelined at work due to my mc and won't be able to progress even if I don't get a bfp so I'm rather annoyed

seaside. Totally understand how you feel. It's hard and I know you want to be an excited supportive auntie but you def don't need to look at a scan picture. I live on the same road as a big maternity hospital in Belfast I constantly see people walking around with green maternity folders. Make me so sad.
fairy. Ever since i had my mc I have been put in the - must be trying for a baby bracket and totally sidelined. It's crap but our time will come again
alyant have to say my few months break from TTc did south good for my head and our relationship. I felt quite free and not bogged down with it all though there was a niggle in my head and I was wasting cycles lol.

Seaside - I know what you mean about it being upsetting that this experience taints what should be happy moments for you. Totally there with you. As Aly said I think it's fair to deal with it however you need to. I hate scan pics.

Ooo, MissP - I know I'm doing that 'I'm Irish' thing but my parents are both from Belfast and I bl00dy love the place! Had our mini-moon there (in the premiere inn in titanic quarter, I'm classy me!).

I'm hitting BD week soon. Yippee.

Morning

BFP for me this morning (and 4 yesterday) but extremely faint. Feeling extremely anxious, refusing to believe anything right now. I am due on tomorrow so I suppose a faint BFP is expected but I never thought I'd see a second line. Even if this doesn't work out at least I know something has got through my remaining tube because I was starting to think I was only ovulating from my tubeless side. I am terrified its going to be another ectopic. DH being very sensible refusing to even acknowledge positive test and telling me to 'forget about it for now' hmmm yeah right haha.

Got a digital test in my drawer but trying to save it as long as possible...fingers crossed for some more BFPs today.

X

How exciting overanxious That sounds really positive. Fingers and toes and everything thing else crossed for you xx

overanxious. Hooray. Great news. Fx it sticks.

cam. Nothing wrong with a bit of premier inn. The city has come a long way. I love nights out in Belfast now. There is a different feel about it.

Well after my temp drop yesterday it went back up a bit this morning. Still crampy but no sitting yet. Will be on knicker watch today lol. Too early to test for me at 9dpo. FF says test Sunday so if nothing happens tomorrow will go for it. No doubt I will start spotting today:-((