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Trying to conceive thread .....4

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bunny2 · 20/02/2004 20:20

Hope you all find me here, t'is a bit lonely.

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Kay1 · 28/02/2004 16:53

Hi bunny, my ds is now 5 - started school full time in jan, so it suddenly seems as if he has really grown up and i have more time on my hands. I work pt now - 3 days a week, and one think i do not want to do is to work full time! Would like to do something 'creative' - not too sure what yet...still want another baby first too, but have started thinking of alternatives in case it never happens.

bunny2 · 28/02/2004 16:58

Hi Kay, Im shirking again! Ds is 4 in May and will go to school in September. I dont want to go back to work or to study until I have another baby. It is really hard to put ttcing to one side and get on with my life. It's like everything is on hold. Last night my dear old friend suggested we relax about it and it will happen. That old chestnut! She has 3 babies in three years so obviously no idea what I am going through. If anyone else tells me to "relax and it will happen" I WILL SCREAM!!!

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Kay1 · 28/02/2004 19:44

That's what GP said to me last time i went to see her last Sept! - i have been doing loads of 'relaxing' but it hasn't happened yet. The other thing i think that happens when you're ttc, is that suddenly everyone you know (and loads you don't) get pg and you have to be all happy and positive when they tell you. I have perfected this sort of manic grin and 'oh, how lovely' speech that i use for just those occasions!!

bunny2 · 28/02/2004 19:47

I had to use it last night - a bit like this

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Mum2Ela · 29/02/2004 08:41

Morning everyone!

Well CD ?50-something? today - am losing count fast!

PipB - that is a lovely story. I conceived DD as soon as I came of the pill too. Still unsure as whether I want to go back on it to 'kickstart' ovaries, but perhaps I should try it for a month.

I think we definitely need some good news on this thread soon!

Off to take DD swimming now, so hope everyone is well and happy BD'ing!

x

bunny2 · 29/02/2004 20:28

Gosh, it's quiet here today. I suppose you are all bding! Well, I'm not as still no lh surge on my OPK.

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futurity · 29/02/2004 22:01

Same here Bunny2. Bought new pack today..well first pack I have bought as other pack was given to me by a friend. On day 16 and no surge yet.

PandaBear · 01/03/2004 09:23

Morning all - hope you all had good weekends. After a bit of advice really... as you know I've been feeling a bit nauseaus for about 7 days now, also have had extreme tiredness and tender breasts. Now I don't know whether I'm just imaging these symptoms, because I would so love to be pg, but I've also had some light bleeding. I think what I'm asking is, should I do a HPT now? AF is not due until Wednesday at the earliest, but my head is constantly full of am I/aren't I and if I am why I am bleeding? What do you think - should I test or should I wait?

ChaCha · 01/03/2004 09:29

Good Morning to you all,

Still no sign of AF although have had cramping on and off for a while now. BFN this morning too, that is CD28 (according to OPK would be DPO 15). Usually AF arrives CD24-27.
Bunny - did the clomid affect your cycle in this way (late AF etc..)
Am worried, where is AF?? Why BFN?

BeckiF · 01/03/2004 09:29

Morning All ... woke up feeling very depressed today. Sposed to be seeing one of my docs at the hospital tomorrow just for yet another 'how-are-wegoing' appt., but I'm not going to go. She put me on the max dose of Metformin before Xmas to help me try and lose weight but I've been off it more than on and haven't lost a pound. Still no AF, neg pt on Saturday. Haven't felt THIS low for an age. I am in fact embarassed to go to the hosp if the truth be known ... Jeeeez, this is no way to start the week

Azure · 01/03/2004 09:49

BeckiF - sorry you're feeling down this Monday morning. It's not suprising given what you're going through. I would encourage you to go for your hospital appointment even though you don't feel up to it - please don't feel embarrassed. Could you discuss your feelings about Metformin with your doctor? Big hugs.

BeckiF · 01/03/2004 09:55

Oh yes she's very open and informative, there is nothing I couldn't tell her, and DP is always with me. I just feel as though I've let me, DP and the docs down not even losing a pound. It's so hard as we all know and its's not as though I haven't got a good enough reason, it's just that, well it's just another thing to ge stressed about .... I know, I'm a waste of space

twiglett · 01/03/2004 09:57

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Azure · 01/03/2004 10:07

You are certainly not a waste of space, and it sounds as if your DP is wonderfully supportive. If it were easy to lose weight, you would have done it. Is losing weight that critical? Is it a reason why your CD is so prolonged? Life's stressful enough.

BeckiF · 01/03/2004 10:13

I've got PCOS, which is one of the reasons why I find it so hard to lose the weight and why my cycles are so long. So not only am I childless and fat, I get the glorious other side effects of PCOS such as a beard and other excess body hair.

Azure · 01/03/2004 10:15

PandaBear, a First Response test can sometimes show a positive a few days before AF is due - but only sometimes. If you can bear it, I would wait another day or two to see what is happening with the light bleeding. Best of luck to you and ChaCha - it's such a nerve-racking time, isn't it?

Azure · 01/03/2004 10:20

Oh BeckiF - listen to yourself. You will have a child. You have a medical condition which means it's a lot more difficult than for other people and may take a lot more time, but it will happen. What a lucky baby it will be too, to have a mum & dad who have been through what you have for him or her to be there.

ChaCha · 01/03/2004 10:29

BeckyF - Totally agree with Azure here..what a lucky baby it will be indeed. Please go to your hospital appt, you may not feel like it now but if you don't go you will feel worse. We are all supporting you here, Please Go!!!

BeckiF · 01/03/2004 10:30

Azure - thank you. Choked me up to read that. DP and I are just SO in love that a baby would have a fantastic life. He is the best man ever. We have talked a lot about surrogacy and adoption but I have decided (for now at least) that I want to have HIS baby. He is against me TTC the IVF route at this weight as he worries about the complications you can get if you are obese and pregnant. I look at the bright side though as I have several very obese girlfriends who are beautiful and gorgeous, conceived naturally and had problem free pregnancies. One even had twins! My mum never had any trouble and there is no family history of problems, so I may just try to persuade him some more. Our IVF is just waiting for us! Could of started in December.

bluestar · 01/03/2004 11:21

Beckif, sorry you are feeling down. I'm sure there are many people that think they are too fat, too thin, the wrong age, etc. but at the end of the day, mother nature disproves alot of theories.
I'm now on 8DPO and suffering with a bad cold but trying to hang in there and hopefully get that positive this month. Good luck to those of you that are testing now!

M2T · 01/03/2004 11:31

Just popping in again to say Good luck.

BeckiF - Wanted to tell you about my friend to hopefully make you feel a bit more positive. In 2002 she started ttc. Nothing happened after 6mths then her periods began getting really irregular. At the end of the year she hadn't had a period for 4months, but was getting negative pregnancy tests every week. She was due to attend the fertility clinic when she got a positive test! A scan revealed she was only 7wks pregnanct. So, despite no AF for nearly 18wks she had conceived! Very strange, but true. And as for the weight issue.... she is about 8 stone overweight. Please please please keep you chin-up, I'm sure it'll happen for you soon.

jellycat · 01/03/2004 13:23

Hello everyone! Sorry to see so many of you are feeling down. I can really empathise there. Every time AF arrives I just feel sooo bad, particularly this month when I was really hopeful (having had my O' on Persona). This last week I've really been trying to think positively though and I'm feeling a lot better. For e.g., BeckiF, I'm always thinking what a waste of space I am too - but then I force myself to think, No, I'm not' and that stops the negative feelings in their tracks. It takes a bit of doing but it does help me. And, really, you're absolutely not a waste of space, you sound such a lovely person and your DP obviously agrees.

As for the metformin, can I ask why you haven't been taking it? Did you have bad side effects? IIRC, most people find the side effects subside after a while so if it's that it might be worth persevering. Is there anything else you can take for this condition? I agree with the others, I think you should see your doctor anyway, it sounds like she's sympathetic and I think if you go you'll probably feel as though you did something positive, whereas if you don't you might feel as though you let yourself down (IYSWIM). I hope you don't mind me saying these things, it's just that the way you write about yourself reminds me of the way I feel about myself. I would really dread the appointment but afterwards I would feel better. And you could discuss all the options with her and maybe move forward a bit too.

Having said we wouldn't try this month, we couldn't resist after all ( ) so we'll see what happens in a couple of weeks - on CD12 ATM.

Good luck everyone and keep smiling !

bunny2 · 01/03/2004 20:09

Day 13 and no lh surge. Futurity and Jellycat, we are the waiting to ov group - shall we have abet who ovs first?

Pandbear, I have 2 words for you 'implantation bleed' - it could be, we desperately need some good news here. Lots of luck to you.

ChaCha, on clomid, first month I had a 28 day cycle, second month I expected af on day 28 but it didnt come because I WAS PREGNANT! That was last year and as you prob know I m/c at 10 weeks. So, back on clomid last motnh for a 28 day cycle (ov day 17 and had 11 day luteal phase). So, in answer to your question, no clomid didnt make af late EXCEPT when I was pg. Good luck again. xx

BeckiF, so sorry to read how crap you are feeling right now. Pls dont say you are a waste of space, you are not. It is terrible misfortune that you have PCOS and all the associated grief. I think you should attend your appt, come clean about the Metformin not being suitable and ask if there is anything else you can try. I have read about lots of herbal/nutritional remedies to help PCOS, I have no idea if they are effective at all but it's worth investigating.

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Kay1 · 01/03/2004 20:26

Beckief, so sorry you were feeling bad today - like everyone else, i think it would be good to go to appt tomorrow and use it as an opportunity to talk honestly about what's going on and how you're feeling. Also to talk to dp about how you want to start IVF. It all sounds very stressful and must be very hard to keep thinking positively but you are definately NOT a waste of space xx

Chacha and pandabear - good luck, all the signs are looking positive!!

ChaCha · 01/03/2004 21:45

Evening everyone,
Looks like AF is finally here (but in saying 'finally' it isn't really late, just the 2WW seemed like a whole year). CD28 today!
Am doubting that my ovulation date really was CD13..maybe the OPK gave me a positive due to medication etc..must ask my doctor. Ovulation could have been CD17 (which i thought was dpo4) and would explain the slight bleeding.
This TTC lark really teaches you about your body, I am amazed!
Well, I am not disappointed or sad
I will be postive (even if pissy sticks never are) and look fwd to a new, long, cycle!

CD1 everyone, any cycle buddies (CD1-5?)

Babydust and hugs xx