Trying to conceive thread .....4

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Hope you all find me here, t'is a bit lonely.

cha cha - fingers crossed for you - you'll laugh at this (really it's true) AF started a few days ago and even 2 days into it I was trying to convince myself that it was maybe a heavier than usual implantation bleed.........
what do we do to ourselves?!
it's high time for some happy faces
lots of luck to everyone
love hana

Good luck ChaCha!

Still nothing on my OPK... Day 14 ..so the waiting continues!

Me too Hana. I was also trying to delude myself that it wasn't really AF at all, just the bleeding some people get when pregnant.

Bugger, just wrote a really long message and lost it. Will have to catch up with you all later cos today I really should do some work.

x

Azure and Hana - I do the same. It takes till about day 3 of AF before I give in !

I did that yesterday - cramps last night and spotting but despite this (and blinding headache and temp dip!), went to bed thinking/hoping i would wake up this am, temps having risen, spotting stopped etc etc and planning when i would do pg test.......instead got woken up at 4am with very bad cramps and full on AF!! Why does it always start in the middle of the night?

I always feel really stupid - even sneaked a look at pg threads yesterday...am now feeling ok (ish), but wondering how much longer i can keep doing this to myself. Have GP appt in a couple of weeks time as i want to know if there's any particular reason for not conceiving but i don't want to have to wait months to get tests etc, and don't even know what to ask for apart from blood test, sperm test. Any other ideas?

Kay1 really sorry to hear about AF Why is it so damned difficult to conceive? Will there ever be another graduate from this thread?

sorry about AF Kay - I don't know what tests you should ask for but I'm sure there are others who will.
I think what makes the whole ttc business so much harder is just not having any control over it at all. I'm a control freak ( small 'f' though!) and I hate that I have no power over ttc
ho hum, where are those positives?!

don't mean to be jokey- I know how awful it is -
love hana again

Kay 1 . How long have you been ttc?

Come on girls - I know its hard, but think of the positives. Mine are:
~ by the time no. 2 comes along I won't need a double buggy.
~ DD should also (fingers crossed and a lot of hoping) be (just) out of nappies.
~ If I am only ever going to have one other ababy and thus be pregnant one other time, perhaps I shoudln't wish it away like I have been doing.
~ If I was PG now, I wouldn't be able to go out tonight and get wasted (I am having de'ja vu from last Fri).

I know, it is hard, but focus on the good.

x

kay1 - thats where you start - day 3 and 21 bloods....

Bigbird - You know the blood test to show you are ov'ing, and the do the test on day 3 and 21, do you know what they do if (like me) you are irregulsr and may not ov til, say, day 38?

M2E: They might simply take bloods on day 3 and 7 days
after ovulation.

I think ideally the 'day 21' test should be 7 days before AF is expected so you could prob work that out if you had a good record of temping and you could see how long your LP usually is. Then once you ovulate you should be able to calculate what day you need to get the test. I think a day or two either way doens't matter really anyhow.

hope this helps

chacha - did u test ?

yes! Here are my positives.....

• won't need a double buggy
• dd will be potty trained
• she will (hopefully) be sleeping in her room!
• she will be at nursery a few mornings a week and maybe understand a bit better about having a little brother or sister
• I can ride on my bike with her on the little seat for much longer and get our money's worth
• finish those diy jobs much faster
• enjoy being a family of 3!!!

what are your positives girls?

Hi again everyone,
BFN this morning (dpo12). AF has not arrived yet. This is the worst part.
Am away for the weekend - need a damn break from work and TTC.
Am sure AF will be well and truly here on my return or during weekend.
Hugs to all of you who got the bedreaded visit!

Why is it so bloody hard!

oh, what a great idea, will make my list of positive over the weekend, here is one: Go away on weekend breaks whenever the hell i feel like it and think about me, me, me! Sleep when i want, eat when i want, shop when i want!!!!!!!
Yes!!!!! Roll on Saturday night.

Positive:
If AF comes on time - next Saturday - I can do the thyroid test and find out if I've got an underactive thyroid or am just a fat knacker!

Oh Moomin! Even if your thyroid test comes back neg I'm sure you aren't a 'fat knacker'!!!

And how could I not have put this one first -
lots and lots more sex!

Don't want to but in and you might already have heard of this one, but here goes anyway.

Three years plus with no signs of anything. Diagnosed with early menopause and tried fertility treatments until I was totally absorbed by the need to be pregnant.

In the end I gave up and my specialist said there was nothing more he could do for me. For my own sanity and my marriage I had to call it quits.

My specialists parting gift was, hey have you tried going on the pill. Follow confused look. But as it turned out I was getting a bit fed up with the useless periods that led to nothing so I started taking the pill. My GP said that it was dangerous to go for more than three months without a break so I took the pill for three months, no break and then decided to stop taking it. That very first month after my period, I got pregnant. My little miracle is three months old now. I still don't know how it happened!

Day 15 and nothing still. No wonder I did't get pregnant the last few months as I thought I should (!) ovulated around this time of the month. Good job my friend gave me the 5 free tests..they run out tomorrow. I bet I buy new ones and then Monday they work and I don't need the rest of the pack..hope so anyway!

futurity, I was all prepared to buy at least 2 packs of OPK this month and keep going until I did get a surge and then the final 2 sticks of the first pack showed the surge. And I went to buy the 2nd pack a few days before surge but Sainsburys had none left! Perhaps the shop knew something I didn't and was willing me not to get another pack! Now on 6DPO, still got sore boobs and also a cold too which is not much fun.

Hi all, ChaCha, so sorry abou the BFN, leave it a couple of days and try again (it sounds so easy doesnt it?!). 12 DPO is still quite early.

Hana and Kay, . It's a real bugger isnt it? At least you can start counting the days till your next ov. I'm another one convincing myself af is just a heavy implantation bleed. Do it every time.

PipB, what a great story. Mum2Ela, perhaps the pill is what you need.

Positive thoughts:

1. It is easy to get around with one kiddie in tow. We went to London for the day twice last week.

2. No point in starting a diet when conception is imminent (I've used that one for years)

3. A big age difference (ds is nearly 4) means lots of time to spend on new baby when ds is at school.

4. Ds has had the benefit of my undivided attention for 4 years.

Still no positive OPK, day 11. Damn.

I went out with one of my oldest friends last night, she lives abroad and I rarely see her so I was really looking forward to it. She told me she was pg again and it just about ruined the evening for me. I even bought a packet of cigarettes and smoked 3 of them. I am really happy for her but cant believe how jealous I am. She has a dd of 2, a dd of 1 year and now she expecting her third in August. Why are some people so lucky?

PipBeckett - what a great story.
My positives: much easier to have one child than two, much easier to continue working, much cheaper childcare costs and (should there never ne a #2) school fees. In fact, I don't quite know how we can afford a second child with the mortgage from hell we now have (so we could afford a big enough house to have two children - hmmm, the irony). Second the point about not going on a much-needed diet because conception is imminent.

Hi all, feeling much better today - mainly because i've just got home from lovely walk by the sea - very sunny, even warm (sun on face - body wrapped in layers of fleece!)- and discovered tree surgeons in next doors garden removing the leylandi tree that i hate and which has cast huge shadows over my garden for years! Yippee!! I did actually jump up and down for joy until dh thought i better come indoors as i might upset neighbours

So positives.........

• can now take 2 completed cycles of temp charts to GP for advice! (This will now be my 15th month of ttc, but only just started temping).
• whilst ttc have been looking after myself more - eating better, vitamin supplements etc
• have had lots of quality time with ds and he is now at school so if do get pg will also have similar with 2nd.

If don't get pg, also lots of positives..

• can go on mega family holiday which i am semi-planning for my 40th next year
• will have more money, time etc etc.........
• can start doing all those things i always wanted to do but no time........think i'll stop now before i really do convince myself it's time to stop!

Kay, good to hear you feeling better. I am compiling a list of things to do once my child-bearing days come to an end. I want to do a medical degree (hate blood though so dont know about that one), also want to foster children and get really fit and slim. But I do want another baby first. How old is your ds?