Emmsys Weebles - the one where we insulate the greenhouse & pass round the mulled wine

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A new wintery thread :)

All good here but I only have a few days of holiday left. Boo, hiss!

Hope you are doing ok. Have been thinking about you a lot. Hope your lovely kids are keeping you strong.

Hello lovelies.. Hope everyone's doing ok and enjoyed their hols?

Neeko I forget you ladies up there have different holiday times.. Sure the girls have been loving it though! School uniforms all labelled up, ironed and ready to go? Can't believe Summers starting year 1 Done hers last week cos we're off to Lanzorote for 11 nights on Sunday - yay!

Chintaria been thinking of you lots and lots too my lovely.. Have you been away anywhere yourself over the hols? I always used to try and get away after a loss and it definitely helps literally put some distance on it iykwim?! Sure your gorgeous 2 have kept you smiling as well.. I must put a pic of mine up!

Moon you've been quiet.. Hope all is well? Big waves to the lurkers!

Will attempt to attach a pic of my grown up pair! Teddy had his 2 yr check last week, he's 50-75th on weight, but over 100th percentile on height! Apparently he's 200% bigger than an average child of 2! He's in age 4 clothes so wasn't a huge shock to us!

Back to school today. Ds1 starts high school and ds2 is into P2. They both look lovely and smart this morning. But where does the time go???

Hey Rumours. My baby starts school tomorrow. She's so ready and I'm happy, but a little part of me is sad. I shall shed a tear or two.
Hope your boys got on ok.

4ever. Have a great holiday.

How are you doing Shroom? When are you back to work?

How's the bump Cloud?

Hello to the lurkers.

Hey Neeks, good look to your wee toot today, such a big day for you all

Hi girls, sorry I am useless, I can't keep up these days. I missed teddy's birthday 4ever I am so sorry, a very happy belated birthday to him. It's J's second birthday in just under a month too!
Things have been hard here, I constantly feel like a bad mum, J is very naughty and I feel like I shout at him all the time. Which is horrible when I only see him for 2 hours a day during the week. I know dh is finding hard looking after him in the day and between us I feel like we just about cope. I am so sad because I have all I ever wanted and I am not happy. I have missed out on 2 precious years with my boy I will never get back and I find it so hard to not be angry with dh because he gets to spend all his time with him. We have just had to take dh's car off the road for money reasons so now I worry even more how they will cope when they can't get out and about.

Being a mum is far harder than I ever imagined, and I don't think I am cut out for it. I feel selfish when I say I don't want any more but I really don't and that makes me sad too because I always wanted 2 or 3.
Does it get easier? How do you all manage? I think I'm the only one with 1 child here so how on earth do you all cope with 2 or 3? I feel like the worst mum ever at the moment. I am just so tired and I can't ever catch up with myself. I'm laying in bed crying, silly fool!

Well this isn't what I really came here to say but maybe having written some of this down will help a little. On the plus side I am off work next week, so a few little trips out and a break from routine might do us the world of good. Sorry for the outburst, I shall try and get some sleep now.

Big waves to everyone, I will try to get back soon.

Hi Moon. Sorry you are feeling so low. We all feel like that sometimes and the twos aren't called the terrible twos for no reason! Are you tired as in "I would like a long lie" tired or as in "everything- even thinking- is too much effort" tired. If it's the latter, then I think you should maybe pop to the doctors. Perhaps your iron levels are low, or (sorry if I'm overstepping here) is it possible that you could be depressed? You fought hard and painfully to have your boy and circumstances have meant that you have not been able to spend the time you want with him. These could combine to kick off depression. There's no shame in it. It's a chemical imbalance and it's not a case of giving yourself a shake and getting on with things.
Also, do you and your DH ever manage some time out together? It can be a great way of boosting your emotional energy levels. It's not being selfish, it's about keeping everyone balanced.
Don't rule out another one completely. When you get through this, you might feel differently. But remember it doesn't matter if you have one, two or sixty. It matters that they are loved and your wee boy really,really is. Sending you a huge hug.

Hi Moon I echo everything Neeko has said and agree it is hard work , and is understandable that you resent your dh for being at home when you're at work. Be kind to yourself, it does get easier, and I say that with autistic dc's. I am on medication for depression too, which obviously helps and no shame in it whatsoever. If I didn't have the medication and support then I wouldn't be able to cope.

Bit of a ramble there sorry. You're a great mum, acknowledging how hard motherhood is xxx

Thank you neeko and rumours for your kind words, you are very lovely. I honestly think some extra sleep would help loads as I never seem to stop. I feel drained and like I do two jobs, my work and then coming home and being a mum. I don't think it's depression, although I guess I wouldn't necessarily know, I am generally a happy person but I have less patience because I'm always tired. I could be anaemic, my diet is rubbish lately and my appetite isn't what it used to be. Dh and I have been out exactly 3 times on our own since J arrived and they were only a few hours so you could be right there too. Trouble is, I am very reluctant to go anywhere without J as I already feel like I've abandoned him. Plus we have no one nearby to help out, so that makes it difficult too.
I need to have a good think about things. Thank you so much for replying, I feel better about things tonight, but I think that's because I am off work for a week so am looking forward to spending time with both my boys. You are both brilliant mums and I take my hat off to you.

Hope being off work gives you time to catch your breath, Moon. It can be relentless at times, but I agree with Rumours that it gets easier. I'm struggling myself a bit with gearing back up to the double role of working and mothering this week so I feel your pain. I wish I could come and babysit for you and let you out to let your hair down a bit.
Enjoy your holiday.

Hey Rumours. Enjoying the better weather? Typical that it's after the schools go back

Today has been a better day. J has been lovely which definitely helps.

Thank you for being here.

So glad things are feeling better. I'm sure a week together will do you all good.

Hey lovelies, just popping in cos 6 years tomorrow the first emmsy bubs was born

Can't believe it was 6 years ago! I still need to lose the baby weight

Hi rumours, aww and look at him now! I do love this thread for remembering our journeys. I'm still trying to lose my baby weight too, nearly 2 years on, easier said than done hey.

OMG happy birthday to your little man Rumours! I can't believe he's 6! I remember so vividly the day he was born.. He gave so much hope to so many of us.. Our first little graduate

Been watching eastenders thinking of Chintaria.. Big hugs..

4ever I was sobbing at eastenders last night, and I couldn't compose myself afterwards. Brought back so many memories. Beautifully done I thought.

Was sobbing too moon.. Catching up from being away so watched 3 back to back.. Gut wrenching, and yes, stirred up a lot of sad memories and emotions.. Was just a couple days off having to deliver our third little angel, couldn't stop thinking of poor Chintaria.. Very beautifully done.. Gave my 2 extra kisses when I came to bed..

Oh yes how was the holiday 4ever?
How are you managing with being back at work neeko?

Just popping in on the eve of my beautiful J's second birthday. This time 2 years ago I was in hospital being examined, and then being sent home to wait! I paced the floor for 12 hours then went back in around 7am, but didn't give birth until another 11 hours later. No wonder I was tired! Happy birthday to my little miracle, love you lots xxx
Waves to any lurkers.

Belated happy birthday to J Moon

Posting from the new MN app, it's very shiny and new!

And I think we finally may be coming to the end of this thread now which feels quite sad :(

I had my miscarriage exactly 7 years ago on Wednesday and you lovely ladies really helped me through the worst time in my life ...

And now next week my precious baby girl is going be 6 years old can you believe!

Waves and hugs to all x

Ahhh just thought I'd check in, yes sad feeling this thread is coming to its possible end 6 years on, happy birthday in advance to our first girl graduate sabs, I remember looking on in desperate yearning when she was born, and who was to know we'd end up being pregnancy buddies a few years later with our boys eh? It was 8 years a couple weeks back since my first ever miscarriage, feels a lifetime ago, yet still fresh, and despite the fact its coming up to a year since my last miscarriage, last November.. And of course now, definitely won't ever go through that again as DH has had the snip... A wierd culmination of events... A belated happy birthday to J moon.. I'd be so sad to see the end of this thread, as it truly helped me cope through some awful desperate times, though I think most, through my anxiety ridden pregnancies, as the never daring to believe element couldn't of been understood by anyone else but DH.. Anyway, if this is the end, you all will never be forgotten, and my babies will receive their weebles for Christmas every year, and one day, I'll tell them all about all of you... Xxxxxxxx Lovelovelove ya ladies xxxxxxxx forever hopeful is forever thankful xxxxxxxx

Please don't let this be the end, 4ever you said it perfectly, I feel the same. From the heartache and devastation, the never daring to hope, to the amazing little miracles that this lucky lucky thread brought. I truly believe I wouldn't be in this position without every single one of you and I will always be grateful for my safe haven here, where someone always listened and gave me many a kind word. My little J was willed on by so many ladies I never met, and you are all such beautiful people. I'm actually tearful writing this! Thank you so much, more than words can ever say for helping me along my journey. Xxxxx

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New thread, everyone! Find it here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2477326-Emmsys-Weebles-The-one-we-keep-going?msgid=56832913#56832913

Hi everyone, I see no reason for us not to start another thread - after all, where else will we find one another when we need to share something, remember a special date or find out how everyone's getting on? The thread may be slow, but it's still there, helping us to stay in touch across the years I may not post lots but I do try to read your posts when I can...
I have to go as it's the end of my break, but please can someone start the next thread? 4ever you're good with thread titles?!
Love to you all xxx