Emmsys Weebles - the one where we insulate the greenhouse & pass round the mulled wine

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A new wintery thread :)

Hi Moon.
I was exactly the same when I sold my travel system. Becoming a mum turns you into a sentimental wreck! I think it's partly because when you bought it is one of the points when you really believed you were going to be a mum. If I close my eyes I can still picture my dd1 in it for the first time. Despite being a good-sized baby she looked such a tiny scrap in it. Now she's all long limbed and skinny. I swear she grows every night!
We have moved into sleepover territory. It's exhausting!
Dd2 is also suffering from separation anxiety every time I leave her. I'm finding it very draining. I know it's just a phase and I'm sure it's linked to her stating school and everything changing. It's just very difficult to leave her when she's crying, even though the logical part of my brain knows she stops as soon as I'm gone.
Still, in six weeks we will be on our school summer holidays. Yippee

I think you're right neeko. I even asked my sister to keep it in her house as I didn't want to jinx anything! And yes I am a total blubber head these days at anything!

Going through a bit of the same with j, he used to shove me out the door on work days but now won't let me go, so I understand how upsetting it is. Bedtime is the worst, I dread it every night. But I guess they grow out of these things, and by the sounds of it I have to look forward to again at some point!

Ha ha Moon. If I've learned anything through my children it's that they will find some way to rock the boat whenever you are expecting plain sailing! I love the way they keep me on my toes!

I completely agree. Just when I think we've cracked something, it changes all over again! Never a dull moment hey :-)

Exactly!

Is there anyone who can give me some advice please? What do you do with a toddler who only wants daddy? J hates me at the moment andscreams blue murder if he's left with me, then cries at bedtime when I take him up and says daddy daddy daddy the whole time. It's horrible. I work full time so dh has him all day but it's breaking my heart that he doesn't want anything to do with me. He won't even let me read a story, he'll grab the book and take it to dh and say read it. I don't know what to do or how to remedy it.

Oh Moon. That is hard. I don't really have any advice other than this is a phase and this too will pass. My dd2 did this but with DH. It got better when he was off on holiday and she got to spend more time with him. Take heart. Now she adores her daddy and picks him over me for a story. Hugs for you. Try not to take it personally.

Thank you neeko. I try to be as cheery as I can in front of him as I know, like you say, its just a phase. But I barely see him as it is so its making me feel quite upset.

It must be really tough. Any chance your DH could go away for the day and you and J could just play all day?

I'll try to get some time with him over the bank holiday weekend. Tonight was horrible, he howled for daddy. I came downstairs and cried. I think he is finally asleep now.

He's very small and doesn't realise what he's doing. He really doesn't mean to hurt you, but I understand that it really hurts. What does your DH think?

I know he doesn't mean it, I can only assume he is so used to having dh around and me being at work, so he can take our leave me. Dh tries to encourage him to do things with me, or will leave the room to cook /wash up / go outside so that he doesn't distract him, because if dh is anywhere in sight then j is not interested in me. I feel like a spare part.

You are not! You carried him and birthed him and you love him unconditionally. He loves you that way too. It's because he knows instinctively about your love that he feels safe enough to reject you. Xx

I love him to absolute pieces which is why it hurts so much. It's getting worse :-( he wouldn't eat his meals today because I was sat next to him, he won't play with me, read with me, sit anywhere near me, he kicked and thrashed when I tried to put his pyjamas on, I am at a total loss.

Sorry for being a stranger! I promise I'll have a good read and catch up asap, but I couldn't let today pass without posting on here as was such a massive part in it all coming about.....

Happy 5th Birthday to my beautiful baby girl Summer!

Thank you to all Emmsys past and present for all the support and hands held, and fingers crossed, and prayers prayed! It worked!! Twice!! Love you ladies always, will never forget any of you! Xxxxxxxxx

Happy birthday Summer

Moon- how are you feeling today? Could you start a new fun activity with DS that he could identify as being just you and his time, no daddy allowed? Swimming, going to the library, going for ice cream or to feed the ducks??

Happy belated birthday summer, wow where did those 5 years go?! I can remember your journey with summer and when she finally arrived, how far have you come since then
Neeko I think things are improving a little thank you. Baby steps. We have a busy long weekend ahead though including a wedding so we'll see how that pans out... Thank you for looking out for me when I was feeling sad. Hope all is well with you and any lurkers.

Hi all, it's Shroom with yet another namechange

Moon so sorry things have been tough with J, hope you're okay. Young children are fickle beings, I really hope it's not getting you down too much It will pass, I promise you. Sending you a big hug x

4ever Happy Birthday Summer! Where did those 5 years go?! Hope all is well with all of you!

Neeko, hope all is well too?

Well, I've started a new thread this evening and I'd love your opinions please if you get chance to look?! In a bit of shock here
What do you reckon?

Oh. My. God. Chintaria. I think big fat congratulations are in order

But instead I'll wrap you in cotton wool and pass you a spade to help bury your head in the sand.
How do you feel?

Moon- you sound a bit more upbeat. Hope the wee monkey is behaving himself.

I have a raging uti. Managed to work so far this week and got an antibiotic yesterday but too sore to work today. It's really good fun to be a woman sometimes

yup I can see a line too. How're you feeling??

Hi Rumours how are you?

This news has cheered me up no end.

Oh wow! Chintaria!!!!!! I'm so utterly thrilled for you! What an amazing surprise! Sickness too, a fantastic sign! I'm beaming from ear to ear here! Blummin brilliant news! Ditto Neeks, couldn't happen to a nicer person!

Omg! What lovely news! I see a line congratulations

Hi Rumours, Neeko & Moon! How you all doing?

Moon sorry I wasn't around for your worries over J, but echo everyone, it will definitely pass, and isn't meant, Summer and Teddy have both had phases of it with DH, and it's passed.. Your weekend sounds fun, sure it will help..

Neeko ooh uti? Ouch.. Hope it's improving and you're starting to feel better?

Rumours how's you and your gorgeous boys doing?

Sorry to have been a lurkity stranger! Been so busy! We are all good, my baby girl had a great birthday, party on Sunday, and circus on her actual birthday, great fun and I hobbled through it cos had my varicose vein operation just under 2 weeks ago, both legs, ouch, bruised to bits and v sore..! DH turn to go under the knife on the 11th, for the snip! It's with a sense of relief.. Then before we know it we'll be celebrating our little fellas 2nd birthday in 6 weeks! Where does the time go?

Sooooo thrilled for Chintaria Great news to start the day!