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A new wintery thread :)

So sorry 4ever. Hope you are cuddled up on the sofa with your DH and DC close.
Whilst your little angel may not have been planned, try to take some comfort in the fact that when you knew he or she existed they were very much both loved and wanted.
One moment at a time xx

Agh read my letter properly before bed and says pregnancy of unknown location, now googled and realise the very high probability it maybe ectopic hence the requirements for the repeat bloods.. Was my original lovely sonographer so think she played it down to prevent me panicking but letter actually says different Never in all 9 pregnancies heard of the term pregnancy of unknown location before?! Being on the mini pill makes it high risk apparently

Sorry to hear that, 4ever. Just an extra stress that you don't need. Are you in much pain?

4ever I'm sure they're just erring on the side of caution because you'd already passed the baby and sac so they hadn't seen where it was attached to, if that makes sense. So sorry you have this to worry about too.

How are you, 4ever?

Sorry again 4ever.

Hope you are doing ok tonight xxx

Ah it's just so heartwarming having you lovely ladies here, and really understanding, thank you all again so so much.. It really does help..

Not long back from hospital and second blood test, feeling hopeful will get the all clear for ectopic, had long chat with my lovely Epu lady and she said my last blood results were quite a low level, and the amount of bleeding I've had points towards a normal miscarriage, hopefully will hear by end of the day, if not, first thing tomorrow.. Thankfully today the horrendous bleeding seems to be slowing down finally, so hoping it's the beginning of the end and I can put all this behind me.. I always find the relief of the end of the physical side, helps hugely with the acceptance and closure of the emotional side too.. Just very thankful for my 2 beautiful babies, we are in such a better place than with the other losses.. My angel babies will always be in my heart though of course..

Ah 4ever you are a very strong lady Thank goodness you have Summer and Teddy. That's positive that they don't think it's pointing to being an ectopic. Fingers crossed your results from today will be positive too.
It's good to hear your EPU lady is being lovely as always. She sounds very nice indeed!
Am still thinking of you xxx

Have been thinking of you lots 4ever hope you are all coping as well as you can.

Nice to see mls popping in, love how everyone comes back in times of need, its why I love this place, you know you will get unconditional support from lovely people.

Just realised this thread is over a year old, mulled wine from last year!

Thinking of you 4ever.

Friggin levels are the same, plateauing they called it..gotta have repeat bloods next week.. Quite freaked out and slightly feeling I've a gun to my head expecting the worst.. Just want this crap over with

It never rains but it pours eh 4ever. Sorry you have more crap to deal with, just what you dont need. What happens if levels stay raised? My sister had an ectopic pregnancy but had an emergency operation so completely different to you.
Sending you hot drinks and cake and hugs xxxx

There's an injection you can have if there's no threat of rupture, it's a cancer drug apparently called metheraxate or something, and stops cells multiplying (ie a pregnancy).. Obviously just praying levels drop and that's that, apparently my levels are low, around the 200mark,so trying to take hope from that, but a bit horrified at fact I've gotta wait till next week, cos just having momentary panics thinking what happens if it ruptures, all I can think of is my darling girl & boy

Oh 4ever that's a horribly long wait for you, I had no idea of the consequences. I'm sure they wouldn't let you go home if they were at all worried. I know it's easier said than done but please try not to think about it too much, you're in the best hands and they will look after you.

How frustrating 4ever . Fingers crossed it's just a natural plateau. Surely each body will deal with this at different rates and perhaps your hormone levels drop more slowly than average. Take care.

Just lurking...

Hello lurkyMoon. How are you? Are you looking forward to Christmas in your new home?

Hi neeko :-) all good here thanks, J keeping us amused! Really looking forward to Christmas in our proper home and for J to enjoy it all now he's older. I feel very lucky. I haven't been this happy in a very long time. How's everything in your world?

You do sound happy Moon. I'm pleased to hear it.

Everything is good here too. I've said it before but the work/life balance is definitely much better this year than last and it makes all the difference.
I have a shopping day with my best friend tomorrow. It's an annual event and I can't wait. I've painted my nails to mark the occasion!

4ever. Thinking of you lots. Hope you're coping and not offended by my flippancy above xx

Ah bless you Neeko not at all, don't be silly, it's little things like getting excited about Christmas and keeping as normal as poss that's keeping me vaguely sane and smiling through this strange old roller coaster! Am very excited about all the school stuff, Summers Christmas play is a Frozen theme, talk about in her element, on Thursday our town centre lights get switched on, also a Frozen theme, with a big screening of it and sing along (think I'm as excited as her!).. She has a panto coming to the school on the 1st, and on the 18th her school Christmas party (also a Frozen theme!). Girls got more exciting social life than me!

So what you buying shopping today? All those little extras and finishing touches? Have fun!

Moon so happy for you hun, what a blissful time for you, celebrating Christmas in your new home with little J really able to take it all in and be excited by it all bet he'll be spoilt rotten eh?!

Nice to distract myself with some normality and happy thoughts, kids don't give much time to dwell as you know, the thing that's got to me most is this limbo period, and occasional moments of overwhelming anxiety about potential rupture, and worse, of course chances are it may still prove to resolve itself and not even be ectopic, but it's made a crap situation a whole lot crappier to put it mildly.. so yes, distraction distraction distraction, much needed and appreciated!

Hope the shopping is going well neeko!

4ever I must admit that in my rough days it was the normality of everything, and everyone, that kept me going and hearing happy stories and having nice things to look forward to.

So today I started writing my Christmas cards and I got J his first chocolate advent calendar :-) ordering lots of presents online tonight cuz I can't stand doing it on the high street!

Happy weekend to everyone.

Big massive squeezy hugs to you 4ever, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Keep hugging you're gorgeous S and T

Hi rumours, hope you're all ok nice to see you popping in.

Neeko-posh-nails did you survive the shopping trip?

How are you doing 4ever? When do you go back for more bloods? Hope you're coping ok.

Hi Moon. Shopping trip was good. Feet and bank balance are still recovering. Bought myself some work stuff plus a nice little outfit for a date night with DH .
Have you worked out how you will toddler-proof the Christmas tree yet?

Hi Rumours. How ya doing? How DS2 getting on at school with the extra hours?

Hi 4ever. Hope you are hanging in there.

31 sleeps to go. The countdown is on!

Ds 2 has settled in really well, im so proud of him, and hes starting to use the potty instead of holding on all day and filling his nappy as soon as it goes on at night time.

30 sleeps xx