The Elderberry Pavlovas and the eternal hope for a fresh, springy and healthy Palace of the Child! (thread 15)

[Bunnygirlie]

Here we go again.....

The smallprint –
Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 6+months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot) and def no mention of baby dust or baby dancing UGH !!! Ooooh aren’t we strict!

feather that's a bit much! To be hit twice! Have some .

Naww, thanks barking - it was totally a bit much! to you, too. x

feather that is crappage!!!

Any storms yet?!?

Hi Berries! Just back from a busy weekend away so trying to catch up on Berry news!

Feather - bloody hell! Two for two? That would have pissed me off so much. My sympathy! Did you see the response to my question on that Q&A thread? I am so disappointed by it. I am very grateful to eurochick (from the BESH, I think?) who was in there straight away to suggest he/she wasn't quite right in saying I MUST have a 14 day luteal phase. I hope your reply was more useful?

Lady, well done on your PUPO status. Hoping very much that it sticks around for you.

Barking - I always saw myself as having two children. Now I'd be more than happy with just one. It's kind of difficult to think about without getting seriously miserable. I'm very much a 'head-in-the-sand' kind of girl.

Adding myself to the list:

Bunny - 33, TTC since June 2012, just had lap&dye, next step ivf/ICSI
Funky - 31. TTC since November 2012. A/w bloods and hycosy
Lady -34. TTC since Jan 2012. Having private IVF, cycle #1
Revolting - 34, ttc for real since May 2013 but with ishoos, AF due 23rd Oct
Yorkiebilb - 35, ttc since Sep last year. mmc last Dec. High fsh/high amh but no expert can tell me what this means. Currently on 1st IUI cycle.
mrsw - 35, ttc for real since May, endo caused by previous PID, AF AWOL for reasons none can explain, next step foot stamping for ref to FC
Happylass - 35. Started TTC Aug 2012 but currently on a break for wedding purposes. Seeing consultant for first time on Dec 19th
Birdy - 30, TTC 22 cycles, only just got referred to a FC, so at least the ball is rolling now.
PowderPuffs, 32, Cycle 12, AF on her 'orrible way any day now, 1st FC appointment in Nov
Feather - 34, pcos/no OV. One Fallopian tube. ttc since September 2011. Round six of clomid Oct '13. One more and then moving on to IUI. Probably.
Kuma - staring 39 in the eye, 11th month TTC. First appointment with FC on 27th Nov.
Boodle - 30, Cycle 28, round 4 of clomid ; no great expectations. Waiting for IVF referral.

kitty - 33, ttc since jul 2011, 10+4 today thanks to the wonders of iui
foody - 33,ttc Nov 2011, mc May 2013, 7 weeks, in self preservation denial

Evening all. Feather sorry about the double whammy

Barking I'd still very much like two children but am aware that I am rapidly running out of time seen as I'll be lucky to have had one by the time I'm 37 due to the current suspension of any TTC action! Would like to think though that once I've had 1 I could be happy with that and would be very relaxed about TTC #2

All quiet on the storm front here in Wales. Driving up to the Peak District tomorrow for a little break so hoping storm predictions are wrong

Night all!

boodle yes, saw you q but not your answer - will have a read. Not sure what to make of the answer I was given. Basically poo-poo'd iui and went on about ovarian drilling - which no one has mentioned to me before.

Yeah! Where the hell are these storms, then?! I have a BBQ blocking my hallway and all our plants are inside. Better not have been for nothing!

And thanks happy, boodle and bunny - I couldn't blv it when we bumped into the second couple and they told us. Think she saw it in my face though. Does anyone else sometimes feel that other people can tell there are 'fertility issues' going on? So ermines I feel like I'm wearing a flashing neon sign on my forehead. ANYWAY!

Night!

boodle and feather where is that thread? Can't find it.Boodle did they actually say all luteal phases are 14 days like my idiot consultant?

Happy where are you staying in the Peak?

Barking we are staying in Buxton. First time in the Peak District so hoping to get some nice walks in. Don't mind if it's a bit wet but gale force winds are another matter! All been quiet here through the night though so hoping the storm has not materialised!

barking I posted a link on the previous page. It's still there!

V windy in London this morning, but I was expecting so much worse.

happy have a lovely time!

Barking, the Q&A thread is here

No sign of the storm in the Midlands either. Think they misjudged how far north it would travel. (Famous last words as the large tree next to our house comes crashing through the roof...let's hope not, eh?!)

feather can you tell me which board it was on so I can find it on the app? The website is not great to load on my phone when I have 'H+'!

I'm waiting outside the town hall so we can go to our booking appointment for our wedding - all feeling a bit real!!

Sorry, x post Boodle. Heavy rain started here at 3.30am (we sleep in the attic room, I think that's what woke me up). Rained most of the night but just damp now.

Sorry barking my phone is a bit weird and that's the only way I can post a link. Exciting re wedding venue booking! Hoorah!

Been cramping all morning so pretty sure af is preparing for arrival in the next few days.

Happy Monday everyone. Had to drag myself to work this morning.

It's just the notices feather, we're getting married elsewhere, but we failed to provide sufficient evidence of who we were and where we lived so have to go back later!! It's a nightmare when everything is paper free billing - we literally do not have a bank statement in the last 3 months with his full name on it!! Driving licence doesn't count as it wasn't issued in the last three months. Other paperwork that might be acceptable still doesn't work as it uses initials, not full name. Nightmare! Think we're sorted with enough quantity if not quality - she said she appreciated it was difficult and if we could show enough bits of evidence that backed each other up we'd be ok. She's squeezed us in to go back at the end of the day!

Sorry AF is on the way feather, for the first time in weeks I'm actually hoping AF continues to stay away until at least Wednesday!!

Ooh barking very exciting!

I found the q&a - go to the list of Talk topics, then the category is Mumsnet Stuff, and within that there's a subtopic of Q&A.

Storm woke me up at 4 and I was on edge til about 7:30. Too hard to stay copacetic when there's a massive construction project next door, and the scaffolding making ominous sounds. It held! Hope everyone else came out unscathed as well.

happy barking charming & anyone else on holiday - I am so jealous!! We haven't even got a weekend trip planned anytime soon.

Anyone up for sharing their thoughts? I need to make a decision about this polyp. asking on the FB thread as trying not to out myself

Hi sid - remind me again about the polyp situation?

Feather small polyp discovered in uterine lining; not the cause of any issues but must come out prior to starting IVF so that it doesn't interfere with implantation. Have been told I can have it out privately next month (this month out since we DTD ) which would allow us to perhaps fit another monitored cycle in prior to starting IVF (hoping to start in Dec, but that might be unrealistic). Or, could wait and have it out on the NHS, in Jan/Feb (must wait for an appt that fits within days ~5 to ~10 of my cycle).

The private fee isn't insignificant but paying it wouldn't leave us going hungry. At the moment I'm inclined to just get it handled ASAP but might take the wise advice offered on FB & get my GP to write the referral letter, so that the private consultant's secretary can book me in on the NHS list, and hope for a cancellation that might bring the NHS date forward from Jan/Feb to Dec.

To make it even murkier, my GP has left the practice and I don't have a relationship with a new one yet why must it all be so complicated

Hello ladies, mind if I add myself in?

Bunny - 33, TTC since June 2012, just had lap&dye, next step ivf/ICSI
Funky - 31. TTC since November 2012. A/w bloods and hycosy
Lady -34. TTC since Jan 2012. Having private IVF, cycle #1
Revolting - 34, ttc for real since May 2013 but with ishoos, AF due 23rd Oct
Yorkiebilb - 35, ttc since Sep last year. mmc last Dec. High fsh/high amh but no expert can tell me what this means. Currently on 1st IUI cycle.
mrsw - 35, ttc for real since May, endo caused by previous PID, AF AWOL for reasons none can explain, next step foot stamping for ref to FC
Happylass - 35. Started TTC Aug 2012 but currently on a break for wedding purposes. Seeing consultant for first time on Dec 19th
Birdy - 30, TTC 22 cycles, only just got referred to a FC, so at least the ball is rolling now.
PowderPuffs, 32, Cycle 12, AF on her 'orrible way any day now, 1st FC appointment in Nov
Feather - 34, pcos/no OV. One Fallopian tube. ttc since September 2011. Round six of clomid Oct '13. One more and then moving on to IUI. Probably.
Kuma - staring 39 in the eye, 11th month TTC. First appointment with FC on 27th Nov.
Boodle - 30, Cycle 28, round 4 of clomid ; no great expectations. Waiting for IVF referral.
kitty - 33, ttc since jul 2011, 10+4 today thanks to the wonders of iui
foody - 33,ttc Nov 2011, mc May 2013, 7 weeks, in self preservation denial

BecauseIsaidS0, 40 in December (eek!!! ), ttc since May 2013, already despairing due to old age and resistance to go to doctors

Welcome Because

Barking you're right it is a nightmare giving notice! When we went I accidentally picked up the wrong bank statement for DP and it was about 6 months old. Fortunately the registrar was happy with that as everything else was in order. Bit of a waste of time anyway as all they do is pin your names to the board for 15 days and if no one objects then you get permission to marry. Can't see how anyone could object seen as we didn't really tell anyone we'd been to do it!!

I'm the idiot who went to register for marriage and gave my (now) husband's wrong DOB. Given that he is British and I'm not, you can imagine what that looked like!

Ooh Because that sounds like the sort of thing I'd do! I've been in this funny country for over a year now and I still have to double-check my day/month/year vs month/day/year! Welcome to the thread. This is a horrible thing to say but it's nice to have someone else on the thread panicking about old age I felt the same about going to the dr, but in the end the worry was much worse than what followed. I think I just hated admitting that I felt there might be a problem....getting pg was never supposed to be this hard, and by making that appointment, I felt like it was an admission that I'd been beaten before the game ever really began.

For me it's a funny feeling - I had accepted that I'd stay single forever and never have kids. Made peace with it all and then I went and met my husband . So when we decided to try, being the overachiever that I am, I thought I was doing all the right things and it would happen in a month or two. Soooo not the case .

I think for us it is going to be a case of "if it happens, it happens". With all due respect and admiration to all the lovely ladies doing IVF and such, right now we won't be going down that road (although I fully admit I might change my mind at any minute). I guess if I had gotten used to the idea that I would never have children, maybe I can do it again?

Hi Because!

Barking I had wanted four DC's (finances permitting) or at least three. According to 'The Grand Plan' that i had mapped out years ago, I should be expecting my second by now Also previously would have preferred not to have twins, though as NHS only fund for first child, kinda hoping that does happen now. (If it ever happens!)

Feather that sucks - why is everyone else pregnant but us!?!?! My SIL just announced she is expecting again - and we were TTC before she had announced her first. DH doesn't understand why i think it is 'unfair', but i do and i cant help how i feel. I've fully embrased the bitterness that tends to consume me whenever I'm near a bump or a baby. I need to feel angry and cry for a bit, guess that's just how I deal with these things.

Well the dog was howling last night (until DH snuck her upstairs) and there were a few leaves in the road, otherwise - what storm?

Hello because

I always said I wouldn't want to go as far as IVF if we didn't conceive naturally. Both of us from the start were clear that we'd go for adoption if we couldn't have our own. A year in I was still of that mind. 23 months later I'm desperate to experience to have my own bump and am hoping my recent mc (after clomid bfp) won't knock us back 5 months in the IVF queue we were due to join in December!