September bus (PART 3!) Boy we're a chatty lot

[DisneyDiva87]

BFPs so far
NannyPlumForPM
mrsmummytobe
BushPrincess

3 BFPs

Awaiting BFPs
JellyBeanDavey ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 1st
JosiePosiePuddingAndPie ttc#2, cycle2, bfp 1st
PinkHat1 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 1st
Justhayley ttc#2 cycle 5 (months 10) BFP 2nd
clareyfarey ttc#1, cycle 3, bfp 3rd
Widget88: TTC #1, Cycle3, BFP 4th
Hendricks ttc#3, cycle2, bfp 5th
Chubbykitty ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 5th
VickyVix ttc#1, cycle1, bfp 5th
Bloumermaid Ttc #1 cycle? BFP 6th
RaRaZ ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 7th
mama31 ttc#2, cycle1, bfp 7th
Positivementakattitude ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 7th
Nulanoo ttc#1, cycle1, bfp 8th
Gingerandcocoa ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 9th
GinandStripes ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 9th
Purplegeekygirl ttc#2, cycle13, bfp 9th
Flame40s ttc#3, cycle2, bfp 9th
Dontsqueezetheteabag ttc#1, cycle1, bfp 10th
MrsHende TTC #2 Cycle 11(!) BFP 10th
ScienceGeekGirl TTC #1 cycle 6 BFP 10th
Englishteacher78 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 11th
Owlie84 ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 11th
Jaykay987 ttc#1, cycle1, bfp 17th
KillashandraRee ttc#2, cycle4, bfp 13th
blamber ttc#1 cycle1, bfp 13th
CoffeeGuzzler ttc#1, cycle1, bfp 14th
Refoca ttc#2, cycle1, bfp 14th
Toffeecrispyum ttc#2, cycle1, bfp 14th
Charleslingus ttc#3, cycle3, bfp 15th
SoMuchFruit ttc#2, cycle2 bfp 15th
Snoozysleeper ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 16th
panicmechanic ttc#2, cycle10, bfp 17th
Mistyautumn ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 18th
Italianwilking84 ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 18th
Worried ttc#2, cycle18, bfp 19th
Spirael TTC#2 Cycle 1 BFP 19th
Choccywoccydodah ttc#2 cycle 1 BFP 20th
coco808 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 21st
Cupcake1985 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 21st
Fox82 ttc#1, cycle10, bfp 21st
dutchss ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 21st
chattychattyboomba ttc#?, cycle2, bfp 22nd
PinkHat1 ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 22nd
Purplegeekygirl ttc#2 cycle 14 bfp due 22nd
Bambi27 ttc#2, cycle10, bfp 24th
crazylady2013 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 24th
Choccywoccydodah ttc#2, cycle1, bfp 24th
onelifeonechance ttc#1, cycle 3, bfp 24th
NottaLotta ttc#1 c3 bfp 24th
Pocopearl ttc 2 cycle 1 bfp 25th
ImaginaryHat ttc#1 cycle5 bfp 25th
ExactlyWhat ttc#3 cycle1, bfp 25th
Leezl, ttc#1, cycle 2, bfp 25th
Wispaxmas ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 25th
cheesysmile ttc#1, cycle 3, bfp 26th
Greenface ttc #1, cycle 2, BFP due 26th
fifi669 ttc#2, cycle6, bfp 28th
Daisychain44 ttc#2, cycle7, bfp 28th
Monkette ttc#?, cycle?, bfp 28th
MrsB2013 ttc #1 cycle 2 bfp 28th
mama31 ttc#2, cycle 3, bfp 28th
gillywillywoo ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 29th
DisneyDiva87 ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 29th
Armylovin ttc #2 cycle 8 bfp due 30th
Lucyfluff TTC#4, cycle 2, BFP 30th
Willows tree ttc#2, cycle1, bfp?
Theborrower ttc#2, cycle2, bfp?
M33r ttc#1, cycle9, bfp?
Seatfor5 ttc#4, cycle5, bfp?
internationallove985 ttc#?, cycle?, bfp?
ThoraNomiki ttc#2, cycle3, bfp?
onefunkymama ttc#3, cycle?, bfp?
Rockyroller123 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp?
VJONES1985 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp?
BlueC2 ttc#?, cycle?, bfp?
Lulubelle26 ttc#1 cycle3, bfp ?
DuPainDuVinDuFromage ttc#2, cycle 1, bfp?
Pencilsandprams ttc#2, on cycle 4 bfp?
onefunkymama, TTC #3 Cycle 5 bfp ?

Well Gilly, as long as you are back on Dick this evening everything will be fine

I haven't been on Dick for 3 months now due to 2 episodes of bleeding! grr!! Getting very frustrated!!

God that typo was funny

Disney and Gilly - I had one yesterday too! (And, err, on Thursday and Friday too but am trying not to panic about that...). Fx for all of us.

International I'm sure it is difficult for you to hear everyones view and opinion on what you are doing and I do appreciate your honesty on this thread sharing that however I do feel that you need to extend your honesty in to the very situation you are in.

I get that perhaps you feel you haven't met the man you want to be with forever and that you desperately want a baby and feel you are running out of time to become pregnant and to be a mum again. But there is a whole other side you must also consider. This man should not be left in the dark about this...he may not want a child right now and this could potentially be quite devastating for him. Also if this is a new relationship and you do quite like him (you obv are attracted to him and there's passion) he may already be "the one" for you and in 6 months time things could be getting serious between you both where you could be discussing having a baby because its what you "both" want.

Or if you think it prob won't work out long term between you both...then there are other options...adoption, fostering and sperm donation from a clinic. This way no one gets hurt and a child becomes part of a family for all the right reasons without the messy situation of potential custody/contact battles in court, lies and decietfulness and of course that little person who may grow up feeling "my daddy didn't want to be part of my life" when in fact their daddy had no choice whether he wanted to or was ready to become a father and has perhaps felt overwhelmed by this news. Or if he is a good decent man, he might be a great father but he will have bad feeling towards his childs mother wondering if she tried to trap him or get pregnant on purpose.

International they are just a few scenarios that could happen. I'm not judging you and I am a very open minded person but I know something for a fact "honesty is always the best policy" and sometimes things backfire in many ways making life very difficult when you are not honest, especially about something so huge. I just hope you have thought this through rationally as it is much much more than being about you just wanting a baby.

BFPs so far
NannyPlumForPM
mrsmummytobe
BushPrincess
Hendricks
KillashandraRee
Clareyfarey
Snoozysleeper
Coffeeguzzler
onefunkymama
Italianwiking84

10 BFPs

Awaiting BFPs
JellyBeanDavey ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 1st
JosiePosiePuddingAndPie ttc#2, cycle2, bfp 1st
PinkHat1 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 1st
Widget88: TTC #1, Cycle3, BFP 4th
Chubbykitty ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 5th
Bloumermaid Ttc #1 cycle? BFP 6th
RaRaZ ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 7th
mama31 ttc#2, cycle1, bfp 7th
Positivementakattitude ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 7th
Purplegeekygirl ttc#2, cycle13, bfp 9th
Dontsqueezetheteabag ttc#1, cycle1, bfp 10th
MrsHende TTC #2 Cycle 11(!) BFP 10th
blamber ttc#1 cycle1, bfp 13th
Toffeecrispyum ttc#2, cycle1, bfp 14th
panicmechanic ttc#2, cycle10, bfp 17th
Mistyautumn ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 18th
Worried ttc#2, cycle18, bfp 19th
Spirael TTC#2 Cycle 1 BFP 19th
Choccywoccydodah ttc#2 cycle 1 BFP 20th
Jessieagain ttc#2 cycle 1 BFP 20th
coco808 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 21st
Cupcake1985 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 21st
Fox82 ttc#1, cycle10, bfp 21st
dutchss ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 21st
chattychattyboomba ttc#?, cycle2, bfp 22nd
PinkHat1 ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 22nd
Purplegeekygirl ttc#2 cycle 14 bfp due 22nd
Bambi27 ttc#2, cycle10, bfp 24th
crazylady2013 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 24th
NottaLotta ttc#1 c3 bfp 24th
Pocopearl ttc 2 cycle 1 bfp 25th
ImaginaryHat ttc#1 cycle5 bfp 25th
ExactlyWhat ttc#3 cycle1, bfp 25th
Leezl, ttc#1, cycle 2, bfp 25th
Wispaxmas ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 25th
Breakingbadaddict ttc # 1 cycle 3 BFP due around 24/25th
cheesysmile ttc#1, cycle 3, bfp 26th
Greenface ttc #1, cycle 2, BFP due 26th
onelifeonechance ttc#1, cycle 3, bfp 26th
mama31 ttc#2, cycle 3, bfp 27th
fifi669 ttc#2, cycle6, bfp 28th
Daisychain44 ttc#2, cycle7, bfp 28th
Monkette ttc#?, cycle?, bfp 28th
MrsB2013 ttc #1 cycle 2 bfp 28th
Millymolly01 ttc#2, cycle 3? bfp 28th
GillyBillyWilly ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 29th
DisneyDiva87 ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 29th
Armylovin ttc #2 cycle 8 bfp due 30th
Lucyfluff TTC#4, cycle 2, BFP 30th
Refoca ttc#2, cycle1, bfp 30th
Willows tree ttc#2, cycle1, bfp?
Theborrower ttc#2, cycle2, bfp?
M33r ttc#1, cycle9, bfp?
Seatfor5 ttc#4, cycle5, bfp?
internationallove985 ttc#?, cycle?, bfp?
ThoraNomiki ttc#2, cycle3, bfp?
Rockyroller123 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp?
VJONES1985 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp?
BlueC2 ttc#?, cycle?, bfp?
Lulubelle26 ttc#1 cycle3, bfp ?
Pencilsandprams ttc#2, on cycle 4 bfp?
MundayCakes85 TTC #1, cycle 2, BFP ?

Gilly congrats on pos opk :) shame you can't get off work but you should just jump DH soon as he gets through the door tonight! I find this helps as I think I've been quite good lately dtd a lot (pat on the back for me :)) as if I leave it til bedtime I'm too tired and just want to sleep. But lately I've been...let's say...ready and waiting ;) for DH soon as he gets home and this has been very successful! (I hope) you might even be able to squeeze in twice tonight!!

Ps gilly sorry to hear you were off dick lol hahaha! Too funny!!

Disney so sorry to hear your DH is not making the effort! Hugs!!! I think you need to find yourself a temper (I could lend you mine, its awesome!! Lol) and tell him he needs to step up to the mark! A very frank, stern convo re ttc seems neccessary followed by a day in bed ;)

Haven't dtd at all gilly not since last weekend. Irony of it is, he is the one who has been going round telling everyone we are trying.

Are you 100% sure he wants to TTC?
What do you honestly think the problem is? X

Mama has spoken words of wisdom there, international, and I agree with everything she said.

Disney - sorry to hear about that. I think he definitely needs talking to about how this is making you feel.

Sorry Disney that's rubbish!
Try and dtd today.. There's still time if you got your positive OPK yesterday!

Disney, I feel for you. I got upset with oh for having a couple pints after work with coworkers on the day I got my +opk, because he was too knackered to properly do his husbandly duty but that was nothing compared to your situation. Surely he wants it too, especially if he's been telling world! Could you try talking to him about it? Does he realise that there's only this tiny window, or does he think his super sperm are strong enough to live for weeks on end in your hooha?

I did ask him writer and said I'd rather just go back on the pill if he changed his mind and I'd understand but be was all affronted. He does suffer depression and anxiety so I can understand why he maybe wouldn't be in the mood all the time

Yea I said to him and he told me to let me know when the best time was so I did and he got pissed instead.

I'm too upset to even be in the house with him just now. I'm out with the dog so I'm not hopeful for dtd today

I had a boyfriend a few years ago who suffered with depression - trying to get him to open up about his feelings or trying to 2nd guess what was going on inside his head was very difficult. It just seems there might be a deeper reason, after all, if he wants to have a baby why won't he have sex during the days leading up to when you are fertile? It sounds like a really difficult situation for you, you must feel so upset and frustrated x x

OH DISNEY

How rubbish I'm sorry.
I know you're pissed off but I still think you should jump him at some point today... There's still time for you this month.

And you can shout at him afterwards!

Awh disney that's so tough for you :( I understand that he might not be in the mood all the time coz if anxiety/depression but he should have prioritised dtd over drinking as alcohol obv has made dtd even less likely. Just explain to him when you get your pos opk that there's to be no drinking and a nice relaxing, romantic night should be planned so that dtd is the priority above everything else. I'm sure he really wants to be a dad but its important that he realises that priorities need to change now. Hope your ok Disney and I hope you both can talk things through so he can realise how he's making you feel. HUG.

Ps making up sex is always the best....I think shout first then make up :)

We'll see gilly I'm sure ill feel better this afternoon anyway. A long damp walk down the beach is very refreshing. Sorry to get you all down. Good luck to everyone else still waiting. Especially you gilly. I'll be back on 29th to see your result. You have to get a bfp for both of us now

Hi everyone. Looking for some reassurance that I'm on the right lines with opks...

So I've been working with a 40 day cycle but hoping it would settle down to give me more tries. So this month I started opks REALLY early - 10 days before app said - and absolutely delighted to get a smiley on Friday and yesterday. I thought that would make my ideal days would be everyday until Monday but when I'm reading threads it seems like it should've last week ...

Advice appreciated... Really hoping that as well as my cycle settling, this'll be our month - trying since December and can get a bit frustrating as we all know!!

Mama is so right international... Please read her post...

Disney - sending you all my hugs

Oh Disney massive hugs am so sorry he did that.

Would have to look back over the thread to know who made each comment, so I will give a general reply.

I want and deserve this baby as much as someone in a loving relationship does, my baby will be just as loved and precious to me. Just because I do not live like you (who made the comment, does not mean I am/ will not make a good mum.
I may be a prick but at least I'm an honest prick. (On here at least).

There could be people on here do exactly what I am doing just not admitting it, hey, who'd be any the wiser. It's very easy and convenient for people to make out they have perfect lives, when no-one knows what goes on behind closed doors or in R.L. Like I said the only difference is I tell it how it is.
I did notice some none judgemental comments, thank you.
x

International I def wasn't judging you and I'm sure you will be a great mother...I was just stating that there is a bigger picture and a lot of things to consider rationally so that no one gets hurt.

Big hugs Disney. So sorry it's been tough going.

I don't think that international is any less deserving of a baby than any of us. There's nothing to prevent her from being a good mum. I think the issue here is the dishonesty with the man and his possible reaction when she does get a bfp. Having said that, it's her life and who is anybody to judge?

You have chosen a rather unconventional path international, to say the least. If you wanted to be a single mum, could you have not used a sperm bank? That would entail much less complications and a stable environment to bring a baby into. I hope you know what you are doing, for your baby's sake.

Take care disney, I hope you get things sorted and get back on here soon with some good news! We will miss your humour! Good luck! X

Hi Mama. I know you weren't judging me. I read your prior comment and did find it to be very non judgmental. x