If TTC # 2 has turned you into a nut job this thread is for you! (Part 3)

[fedupofrainydays]

Still here, still ttc, still POAS, still symptom spotting, still counting days, still temping, still shagging and still absolutely nutty!!!

So what's the consensus on how often to dtd? I've held off charting for another month and we're aiming for every other day from about day 12 to day 22. (Period lasts 10 days and cycle is usually anything from 28-35 days.) Does that sound sensible?

With clearblue opks you can use FMU and that's when I was up!

Antoinette I'm really not sure. We've had a shagathon this cycle just because I felt my fertility indicators were so good. 5 days of excellent EWCM and my pos opk two days earlier than last month meaning a decent length LP. I am sure they recommend every other day so what you are doing sounds absolutely fine xx

Hmmmm. Had a nightmare with my trusted cb digis opks this month. Multiple false (or what I believe to be false) positives with the blurry screen thing. Don't trust them anymore... And just waiting for a temp rise to see of I actually had ovulated or not. Who knows.

They said 4 weeks 2be and having ignored the doctors advice I have had some pretty minging discharge that I won't enlighten you with the details.

We have been dtd every days since Thursday and am going to carry on til I get a temp rise having not trusted opks at all this month. First month of temping though so don't really know what I'm doing! Glad I picked this month though having been let down by the opks and my cm is all over the shop!!

Hope everyone had a good weekend and ant, every other day sounds fine - it's what docs recommend!

Fedup I know that PCOS can make opks unreliable, I assume you don't have this or anything to make you think you might?

I had a blurry screen yesterday when it was neg. today I had two beautiful clear lines, perfect positive which I have never been able to achieve with ICs.

Previous months I've been totally fine and had two clear lines always. I was just scanned for pcos and not there apparently (although I think they scanned too late in my cycle). But it's the tests not me i think... As the crazy blurry screen shouldn't happen / nor the stupid 'book' sign when I've done everything right!! Just writing this month off from an opk sense and not buying from that amazon supplier again!!

I had that blurry screen - book symbol come up last month and I complained. Clearblue customer service said they would send out a free post envelope for me to send it back but they never did and I didn't pursue it as it was only one. Still pissed me off though. They are bloody expensive.

Hello all. I just took an ic which seemed to have a line, but they always do, so took an frer which was bfp. Can't believe I'm writing that. Haven't got a clue what dpo I am ff thinks 10, I think 13. We had loads of sex this month which resulted in thrush and a touch of bv. I have done tonnes of exercise and have been majorly stressed, so not sure whether this is going to stick.

Don't know what to do! So excited. But so scared after what happened last time.

I am also acutely aware of how hurtful bfp announcements can feel. I know we're all there for each other, but each time someone dropped out of this thread, I felt sad as it wasn't my turn. I can only say I hope to god we all get our bfps soon. Thinking of you all. X

Congratulations geta that's great news!! Stress has nothing to do with sticking baby, it might delay ovulation but wouldn't make you miscarry. Neither would excessive exercise at this early stage. Good luck xx

I've been here for many months now so starting to get immune to everyone having bfps other than me! It's happening in RL too so am just waiting out my turn.

Hi, can I join please? We've been trying for 6 months now and nothing. Iv never taken this long to get pregnant before. Longest was 3 months. ( one DD and 2 mc) I'm trying to relax about it but that's not working!!

Thanks for the reassurance fedup. After last time, I won't relax until I've got proof this is a viable pregnancy. My early mc was more upsetting than I realised at the time, and I am scared of going through that again. Fedup, I'm rooting for you whatever my outcome is here. X

Hi char of course you can join. Welcome to the nutters house! I'm ttc for 8 cycles now since mmc at 12 weeks earlier this year so am with you on the waiting pain.

Thanks geta. I will be the same if / when I ever get my bfp... It's only the beginning of 12 weeks plus of insane worry! Bfp is only the first hurdle... (At which is coming to me so painfully slowly....!) try to distract yourself as much as poss and don't google!! Xx

Geta, HUGE congratulations from me xxxxx

If no one on this thread was getting BFPs it would be bloody depressing lol, so I think your news is fantastic

Does anyone know: tested pos opk yesterday morn, neg opk this morning, big temp dip this morning also. Does that mean the egg is about to be released do you think, or that it's already been released?

Welcome Charlotte xxxx

Oooh girls I would put money on the fact I just felt ovulation happen! Sharpish pain in my right hand ovary, felt stitch like. It was enough to make me think 'what the hell is that? And went off in about 20 seconds.

Geta - fabulous news. As much as someone's else news can be upsetting, I really am overjoyed when it happens for someone else. Even in real life I don't let my own jealousy stop me being happy for them. I just hope I'll be making the same announcement next week! Fingers crossed it sticks!

Welcome Charlotte and Antoinette!

Sebs - that's pretty amazing!!

He he me too 2be cxx

Sebsmummy, that is amazing. In your mind you can visualise the egg yoh just felt pop travel down you fallopian tube and meet some sperm in waiting!

When are you poas 2be?

Hi charlotte!

It's never happened before but I've never known the exact time I am ovulating before, it was such a different feeling to those every day tummy feelings we get depending on food etc.

Anyhow, successfully bded tonight, will try tomorrow night as well and possibly the night after, I'll see how I'm temping.

I tell you if I don't fall this month the universe is against us lol!!! It's been a textbook cycle with opks and bbt graphs plotting the same. Lots of sex at the right time, preseed, mooncup, legs in the air, orgasms!!! . Ha ha it's been quite fun actually and very enlightening. I now know how difficult it is to get knocked up! It's going to make going back on the pill seem like a ridiculous notion.

Baby dust everyone xxxxxxxx

One more night then our shagathon is over for this month. I've been doing this for months now so have concluded its always against me no matter what I do!
Joke is the two other times I've been pregnant it took not really trying and bam!! Before you say 'well don't try again' we did that after my mc for a couple of cycles and nothing so now full blown ttc every month and its a tiring long hard slog when fitting it around two busy jobs and lives and a crazy toddler!

I too wonder why I bothered with the pill (and morning after pill a couple of times) for all those years!! Seems so daft!!

I think my shagathon is over too this month as OH is like half the man he once was lol. Not helped by the fact that he suffers from frequent night waking so often only gets 6 hours sleep if that. I actually feel quite guilty for making him BD quite so much!!

Fedup it's interesting you say that as my sister, who is in her 40s, only had sex once and managed to conceive her second a few months after an early MC. She couldn't believe it!!

I was looking at quite a few successful pregnancy charts on FF and was amazed how few times many of them BDed to then get a BFP. Gives me a bit more hope.

So I guess we are about to embark on this 2ww together?

Geta - huge congrats to you

Sebs - you must be super in tune with your body these days.

I had a down day today. Met a mum who I hadn't seen since our DDs were 6 weeks old, and saw said DD playing with her little sister. I know its daft but it's another marker in the 'falling behind' for me

Plus I've had a horrid sickness bug since Fri morning. Still getting waves of nausea all the time, just like morning sickness, how cruel. Actually tested because even though had AF 2 weeks ago, was very light and short, unusual for me. Was bfn though. And we've missed our window of opportunity this month due to us both being ill. Rubbish!
Sorry to moan, hope everyone is doing ok.

We sure are sebs. God I hate the 2 ww. Refusing to obsess this time. I can't do it to myself again!
I'm still to dtd tonight. We don't get a chance to do it til late and then I don't get much more than 6 hrs either!! Dtd week is just exhausting in more ways than one!!
I think I'm the abnormal one to be honest. Most people i know who miscarry are pregnant again pretty quick. Like the second month of trying. Then there's the much smaller group that takes forever - sadly that's me!

I don't know when I'll POAS. In all honesty (and it sounds dramatic) but I don't know if I can face the failure again. I've looked at the stats for frer and I think fri is the day when it becomes unlikely that I'll get a bfn but actually be preg. (Hope that makes sense). Might wait til AF inevitably arrives though.
Fedup - I know what you mean. Everyone told me how quickly I'd fall after my mmc and ERPC. Shows what they know - that was 4 months ago!!

2be I totally understand. It's the staring at faibt line things that totally does my head in. You convince yourself it looks hopeful and then the next day there is nothing. I can't even rely on my period either as it was two days late last month so I have no idea when she might show up. I'm just going to base it on 14 days.

Hey everyone can I join too? Having a total nightmare with this baby malarky. In cycle 6 now been to dr today about unexplained bleeding and got loads of tests done. Don't feel like this is my month again. Told myself I would be totally chilled this month but starting to freak. Dh can't be doing with all the fretting and sex on demand which is causing tension which makes sex a chore for him. Was feeling so positive until this random bleed I'm only on day 9 of cycle. Pissed off.

Hi everyone i'm new to this site and had to look at this thread :)

i am going crazy trying to have no. 2 i've got a beautiful boy 2 + 1/2 years and really want a girl!

it feels rubbish planning when to BD rather then going with what we want to do. any ideas how to make it more fun without going into to much detail :)