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If TTC # 2 has turned you into a nut job this thread is for you! (Part 3)

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fedupofrainydays · 20/08/2013 06:57

Still here, still ttc, still POAS, still symptom spotting, still counting days, still temping, still shagging and still absolutely nutty!!!

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3luckystars · 07/10/2013 18:57

Well its official, ttc is going to kill us! I just ordered a huge box of OPKs and the arrived, I left the box on the stairs and DH slipped on it and split his head open about 5 minutes ago.

sebsmummy1 · 07/10/2013 19:54

Omg 3luckystars!!! Is he ok? I can remember slipping on cat sick on the stairs and falling pretty much top to bottom, landed covered in cat sick, not the best day.

Well I tried to drop a breast feed this evening and replace with milk from a sippy cup - total failure. Tried bottle instead - total failure. Thing is he has no idea how to operate bottles or sippy cups and of course cows milk tastes nothing like my milk ( I assume!!!)

I am going to try him with it for breakfast instead when he is more hungry and might just take anything. Feel very deflated and destined to continue my TTC indefinitely.

2beornot · 07/10/2013 20:39

fedup I so really hope it's all positive signs. But you need to step away from the sticks. Try to have a day off. Or very least fmu only.

sebs. Hugs. Hope your plan works. We're going for a shagathon this month!!

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fedupofrainydays · 07/10/2013 21:25

Omg 3lucky is he ok???? DH has pulled a few muscles DTD but that's as close to physical injury as our ttc journey has got so far....

Stepped away from the sticks.

sebs can you get DH to do the bottle / cup feed? It might be easier for your little one to wean off the boob. Don't be around for it, go for a walk so he can see you. Or try expressessing so you can get him used to cup / bottle at least with milk flavour he's used too. You will get there!

I'm out of sticks and going away for a few days now so won't be near any sticks! Really feel af is coming though, got some pretty decent cramps going on :( so packed a stash of tampons, painkillers and only wearing black on my bottom half JIC.

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sebsmummy1 · 07/10/2013 21:47

Fed up have you tried any alternative treatments at all? I keep hearing such positive things about acupuncture, just wondered if you've considered it?

That is the plan. I'm going to let OH try and offer the feed, otherwise he uses his doidy cup happily so I guess I could put milk in that instead of water. I have made a decision not to offer boob in the morn from this point onwards. So however he takes it, he will be getting a feed from some other vessel :mean mummy:

getagoldtoof · 07/10/2013 22:15

Hey sebsmum, sorry to hear you've had a roller coaster month. That's why I tell myself I won't test early every single month, and then I do it again. I have chucked out all my ic tests as they always always have a line. I poas with beer and got and almost convincing evap! Good luck with dropping a feed, I am just trying to stop altogether as ds is 2 and I want my boobs back!

Fedup, I am so hopeful for you. Hoping af bogs off.

How you feeling 2be?

Abi - 15 weeks already?! Time bloody flies. Nearly half way!

I think I ov today or tomorrow but cba with opks, and my waking times have been all over the place, so temping not that helpful. Had ewcm today so been shagging a lot. Not at all hopeful. I am under so much pressure at work, I feel like I will never get pregnant!

sebsmummy1 · 08/10/2013 09:33

Thanks getagold. We were never told how bloody difficult getting knocked up was when we did sex ed were we lol? It was always, ahhh if you even touch a willy you'd be duffed immediately Grin

I just feel as though the very possibility of making a baby is so slim for me right now it's almost not worth bothering with. It's like the more I read about the science if it and all the pitfalls the more absurd the thought of it ever happening are. Yet there are people getting pregnant at the drop of a hat everywhere all the blimming time!!!

2beornot · 08/10/2013 09:56

Geta - if you're shagging then you've done all you can do. Keep it up for another day or two then try to relax for the next two weeks.

I'm starting to feel like it will never happen, which quite frankly is ridiculous because I'm only on cycle 4 since mmc. It took one cycle with dd and 4 with the last pregnancy so it's by no mean abnormal. I just think that if I get preg this month I'll be 12 weeks in my due date. That would be good.

fedup I hope AF doesn't show up. Fingers crossed x

sebsmummy1 · 08/10/2013 10:59

2beo that's pretty good stats there!!!!

When your DTD on peak days do you try and do morn and aft or just once per day?

2beornot · 08/10/2013 16:20

We just do once a day. For personal reasons we've never been morning people and it's not quick with us. So night times only. I suppose if dd has her nap sat afternoon......... Wink I'll put it to DH tonight!!

sebsmummy1 · 08/10/2013 17:09

I know what you mean.

When I was with my ex it would take quite a lot to get him off. Luckily with DP I can get the result I want in 5 mins if necessary lol (he he, he would hate me posting that!!! ). I think this month we are going to bd more, ,aye a bit earlier and a bit later and also try and do a few ams and pms.

AF buggered off today so I am back on the SME plan GrinGrin

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fedupofrainydays · 08/10/2013 18:46

Omg I've been on excessive knicker watch today. Keep thinking af is here and the run to the loo and no. It's painful! I think she will rock up overnight knowing my luck.

Like hearing about everyone's DTD action! Our problem is DH is morning person but I'm an afternoon one. If we do it in the morning, DH is quick but if its evening sometimes I takes a bit longer if he's tired! And depends if I want to enjoy myself or not if you know what I mean!!

Oh I long for a normal sex life that is sex when we want and feel like it and not dependent on dates, ovulation sticks and cervical mucus!! Ttc is so bloomin unromantic in our house! We do laugh about it though which is a good sign

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fedupofrainydays · 08/10/2013 18:47

Ps sebs your af is very short! So lucky, mine drags on for a week. Is it normally that short?

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sebsmummy1 · 08/10/2013 19:19

Well I say gone, I'm still getting some spotting. Sunday and Monday I was bleeding so heavily. Half filling my moon cup every blimming hour, so I think it just gushed out of me and there's not much left now. It was very thin and bright bright red, whereas last month it was dark and slimey (nice lol)

sebsmummy1 · 08/10/2013 19:30

ooooh fingers crossed AF stays away Grin

misshoohaa · 08/10/2013 20:58

Fingers crossed for you Fedup! Hoping its your month x

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fedupofrainydays · 08/10/2013 23:06

It's not :( she's here :(

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2beornot · 09/10/2013 07:07

Fedup - sending a big giant bear hug. Sad

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fedupofrainydays · 09/10/2013 07:13

Thanks 2be. I'm heartbroken. Cycle 8 now since mc. Over a year ttc. Fed up of hoping, coping and being broken every month :(

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sebsmummy1 · 09/10/2013 08:33

Fed up, is there anything you could try differently this month? I don't know, some reflexology, do a spell or something like a cosmic ordering ritual, change your diet a bit, regular gentle exercise?

I know in going to sound like a silly cow but I am a great believer in mixing things up a bit, shuffling the cards if you will. When I was in a total rut years ago and Noel Edmunds kept banging on about cosmic ordering my whole family did a ritual thing where we all wrote down our hopes and wishes onto little hits of paper and hung then from a wind chime outside the front door so every time the bells rung it would remind us what we had wished for.

Unbelievably many of my wishes did come true, may have been coincidence or it may have just concentrated the kind, but I am a huge believer of PMA and feel like during the TTC journey our belief in another baby slowly diminishes. It's always good to get a massive rise of positivity back.

Big hugs xx

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fedupofrainydays · 09/10/2013 10:39

I'm going to temp. Diet overhaul was last month and not really into alternative stuff - just not my bag. And probs do more exercise to help with endorphins and the like.

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2beornot · 09/10/2013 11:13

Do anything that makes you feel good. So yes exercise, eating properly (I really need to take my own advice on these) but also painting nails, massage etc. just going for a walk will makes a difference.

I'm really sorry fedup, I wish it had been your month this month. I know how hard it is waiting and wishing. If only you just had to want something enough to make it happen. Fingers crossed it'll be this month for both of us x

sebsmummy1 · 09/10/2013 11:26

That's cool, as 2be says, anything that makes you feel good xxxx

getagoldtoof · 10/10/2013 08:42

Hey fedup. I'm so sorry to hear about af. That is just so upsetting. I cannot cannot recommend excercise highly enough. I started doing gym classes three or four times a week a few months ago. I have bags more energy, my body feels great, I'm stronger and I've met some really lovely people. I can't say whether it helps with ttc as I've had no luck either, but it can't hurt. I wish I could scoop you up and give you a hug. Hope your dp is being mr supportive right now.

I agree 2be, pma just hurt me last month. I was convinced inwas pregnant. Af didn't come until 15 dpo, so something was different - I think my body was playing tricks on me and I don't want it to happe n again.

I still haven't ov'd. I do not know how anyone ttc without temping. I would gladly give up shagging now. I'm actually sore as we have had sex every day from saturday (I must be getting old - it's just too much!). Still, must continue until I get the temp rise!

Hope you're all ok. X

sebsmummy1 · 10/10/2013 09:04

Well I guess it hurt me too getagold as I was totally convinced I was pregnant too!! I don't think I've ever had a cycle so long, but I guess that's the way these things go. It's a learning curve.

Had a really good night. Sebby went down 7.30pm-6.30am without waking which means I only breast fed once in 24 hours. That's got to be good for my hormones.

Feeling pretty good about this cycle. Will start using the opks at around day 12 and will be monitoring my EWCM. This is the second month of monitoring my temps, so will be interesting to see if I can get an exact handle on when I ovulate to be able to see how long my LP is.

I'm a bit cross with my mother who went and asked her psychic friend when I would conceive. She said in May or June. I know I should be pleased but now of course I have it fixed in my mind and if she is right thAt feels so far away!!! Grrrr.