TTC 10+ months part 16

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New thread for the lovely 10+ers.

Hey rabbit, do you work at a uni? Just wondered why freshers is important...? I do, freshers next week but some students are already here making life hard!

fx for you joy! No idea if 10 is a good number but it sounds promising.

Bad news on the cold lemon but taking it easy is all you can do. And obviously sound as ill as possible to get maximum sympathy and tea.

Boo to the rearranged appointment ten, did they give a reason at least?

Back to your comment a while back about wanting a biological child euro, I didn't even think I wanted kids for a lot of my early 20s. My childhood was pretty rubbish and I don't have a mum so didn't think I was really best placed to become one but that changes after about 25/26 and now I think I really want a little person that is a bit of me and DH all rolled into one. We haven't talked about adoption yet but biological child is defo what we are aiming for.

AFM - I am out for cycle 13 now. Two days early so a little surprised. Means another trip to the hospital on Monday for the cd2-5 blood test and need to arrange an appointment or the SA. I do try and be hopeful but I think having hope makes it worse sometimes.

Well done, 10 fertilised is an excellent number, joy! I'll be thinking dividy-thoughts for your embies. When will you hear from the clinic next? And will it be a day 3 or 5 transfer? Or does that depend on the whim of the clinic how they are doing?

A line, pouty, that sounds promising. I have to admit I never kept tests for more than a few hours although I might have taken the odd one out of the bin so I don't know how things develop. Either way I am rooting for Colin and no AF.

Chamomille tea and only doing the bare essentials for work here today :)

Well, massive good luck with the ivf-route rabbit. You know we're here to off-load, to menkul and to talk about bloody students. Hope fresher's week has been a good distraction, if nothing else. And talking about alternatives will be back on the sour card after this round, I reckon...

Sorry about cycle 13, dulcet, getting to the year-point and the accompagnying realisation that this might not be easy for you is horrible. We're here ready to hold hands, advice and hope for you. About 50% of the couples who fail to conceive in the first year of TTC do so in the second.

Woo hoo Joy 10 embies that's a great fertilisation rate. I can't believe Roy didn't tell you, did he think the clinic would call you as well? I'm praying for them too! Fingers crossed.

Rabbit so glad you've made a decision that feels right. And I'm very hopeful and excited for you.

Dulcet sorry about AF - they never get any easier.

Pout I have everything crossed that wasn't just an evap line. When will you test again?

Euro that sounds very cool and exciting I'm glad one of us at least has a high flying glam job. The 10 hr meeting perhaps less so.

Lemons I agree hopefully the cold will be helpfully lowering your immune system. When is test day?

Waves everyone else.

How are things with you cos? Have been thinking and hoping for quiet days and good news was it on Monday?

OTD is 30th, but AF due on 28th, so I should know by next weekend.

Hello cos, how are you doing?

Dulcet, yup. September is a killer.Hope the af blues aren't too bad.

Joy that is pretty ace news! How could Roy sit on that?!!

Lemon it is nice to know I will be hand held. I am sure I will be posting one hundred times a day.

Can I just say I'm glad it is Friday. This has been the most dire and awful week at work I have ever had in my adult life.

10 embies! That's brilliant, joy. Grrr@ Roy neglecting to tell you though!

Afternoon all,

joy ten is fabulous. It gives you lots of wiggle room to weed out the weaker embies if they aren't all perfect of course and then hopefully go for a day 5 transfer. I panicked when our eight dwindled to three by day three but one of them got me pregnant and two are in the freezer so I have very high hopes for you. How many will you aim to put back?

pout I haven't used a cheapie in so long that I don't know what they do anymore. The digi tests do go blank after a while so MrM took a photo but I kept it until it did. I have everything crossed for you. It is not over yet.

dulcet sorry about AF it is a bugger. Good luck organising tests this week. MrM found the first SA quite traumatic with the drive to the hospital in a hurry trying to keep it warm.... It took several samples before he was happy to do it on site.

ten I admire your gluten free willpower. So sorry about your mil. Mine is still with us but doesn't know us anymore. Growing old is so hard.

rabbit you will sail through ivf. I feel like we have a lot in common what with scary surgeries and troublesome wombles and I feel very positive about your chances.

lemon you and I can congregate in the snotty tent. I went to the chemist and bought a saline spray to try and deal with the symptoms. My colleagues must have hated me in our office this afternoon, sniffing away. Also dodged some kids with tummy bugs and all over rashes this morning. In my line of work staying healthy over the winter can be a challenge.

Glad you're sounding well cos. When is your scan date?

Two interesting TTC discoveries for me this week. Saw a woman today who was cycling at the same time as our first cycle and she has a noticeable bump so obviously worked for her. I've been trying to catch glimpses of her stomach for quite a while . We have never acknowledged the fact that we were in the waiting room at the same time with our give away drug bags and I just don't know her well enough to bring it up. The second discovery is that my sister in law has also been trying for a while. MrM has confided in her a lot over the past six months about our situation but she only just told us. They have been referred to the same clinic as us. We were convinced that they were going to be childless by choice. Just goes to show that you should never make assumptions!

I'm much better thanks - no more bleeding or panic attacks at this end. Sorry for the freak out - but great to have some hand holding. I've just never had bleeding that wasn't AF if you know what i mean so very hard to imagine that all was well but scan is next thurs so hoping i will coast till then. I've been feeling queasy most of today so that is cheering me up!

Sorry Ten i think i missed you - very sorry to hear of your MIL, how sad. Hope you're ok.

Mad how are you, when is scan day? Do you know i think i do the opposite these days, i imagine everyone has been trying forever!

Oh cos it is good that you are queasy.

Mad, thank you. The op seems a while ago now but I think about it every day when I look in the mirror as I get dressed. My scar is still quite pink and annoyingly above my pubes! It is hard staying well in some lines of work where it is literally germ soup. I am an obsessive anti bacterial gel person! It is true that the more I go through this shite journey, the more I find out that I am not alone by a long shot. I confessed to a lovely work colleague yesterday who I had thought would think we were just not into kids but she replied by saying that she had wondered how that was going. She then went on to tell me her sister had tried for a long long time which is odd as I saw her sister very pregnant in my first year of trying and was awfully jealous. I just presume it is only me. In my workplace of around 30 people, 4 have adopted and 2 tried and never got there. I don't especially like knowing this! But, that was a long time ago. Maybe science has got better!

I have conveniently made the weekend arrive by frittering time on mn. Happy weekend!

Dulcet - sorry about the 13 month mark. We are here to support you.

Mad - did you have a day 3 transfer?

Cos - that's great you are feeling queasy. That's a great sign. Although plenty of people don't get sick, I know I would want to feel as rough as possible!

Lemon- the big man will decide when to have them put back. My preference would be a split transfer (if i get to blasto) and I think they won't risk taking them all to blasto after last time. I hope you are suitably calm in the horrid 2ww.

Mad/rabbit - so weird how people come out of the woodwork. I am always convinced we are the only ones with problems so I was quite surprised to hear my cousin had ivf twice in her 40s and it worked both times. Out of our friends though , I still think we appear to be the only one with big issues and having to go down ivf route. I can't think of anyone who might have to do this.

Roy said 10 fertilisation is good and I was like "not as good as last time". That sounds ungrateful but I know last time they self destructed after day3 and I may have got pregnant but not one was viable. Just hoping Roy's nutrition has made his sperm super so they can make up any defects in my eggs.

You will have some good ones joy. I have faith!! I did have a day three transfer - they needed more than three good embryos to be willing to wait for day five and we had just three. One didn't look great so they decided to be cautious. both of the spares made it to the freezer by day 6 though. With just one embryo to show for the first round I think I'm evidence that your previous attempt isn't necessarily a clear indicator of how this one is going to go. Will be willing those embies on!

cos can you send some of that nausea my way?? Really pleased things are looking up.

Joy hope the little embies keep growing . But stop worrying about things that haven't happened yet. I know it's easy to say (and I'm not exactly one to listen to my own advice) but there is no reasons to have the same thing happen again. I am so very very hopeful for you and will keep everything crossed that it works.

Mad and Cos I'm glad things seem ok so far, and I obviously especially happy to hear of no bleeding and some nausea

Gotta go (to a 3yr olds birthday party). Wish me luck .

Oh bloody app. In my second sentence I had put the words Stern Voice in the sideways arrows to show an element of lightheartedness. It doesn't show on the app so now it reads as I'm an interfering cow!!

Joy, 10 is an amazing number. I really do have a good feeling about this round for you. I understand why you're waiting for things to go wrong though, that's very much my own attitude for myself but I'm able to think positively for other people. When will you get the next update?

Cos, it sounds like you've had a worrying time. You do not need this at all. The ten plussers deserve an uneventful 9 months. The 3+ digi sounds like good news.

Pout, I'm still hoping for good news for you too.

Pout - am thinking about you. Any news?

Nelly - I need a stern voice telling me not to worry about things that haven't happened.

Mrsd - ah yes am always predicting the things that will go wrong. Can be on the money though sometimes.

In a bit of a tizz as they have decided to take me to blasto and not have a split transfer. Roy took the call and doesn't really know what they said about quality (he's a bit hopeless at all this!). A couple were doing ok apparently. I think some others had petered off . Think I am overly emotional and scared because my embryos didn't seem to like the dish last time and it is always a worry. Also seem to be really uncomfortable after EC again. Was struggling yesterday. Did any of you ladies have this?

Joy, hand hold. Can't offer post ec advice but hope it settles quickly for you. Could you phone and ask for clarity? It makes me think you must have some really strong ones in there. Can you have an easy rest up day?

Also thinking of you pout.

I have had a lovely lie in and today we are going for a long walk and lovely pub Sunday roast. Trying to distract self from the grand reveal of exactly what state my geriatric ovaries are in tomorrow. In my head there will be no follicles, an amh of 0 an fsh of 100, cysts and a fibroid and terrible blood flow. So hopefully I am prepared for the worst!

Or maybe I'll just stay in and make loads of money working from home

Joy, I guess you have yo trust they know what they're doing. The embies must look good if they want to get them to blasto. Are there still 10?

Rabbit, do you have clinic apt too tomorrow? I'm preparing myself for the worst, I'm going to be devastated if they say I can't cycle in October. I've waited far too long and need to get on with this. I've convinced myself I'm no longer ovulating and the evil cyst has returned. What if they say I need another lap? I'm also worrying my hormones have gone crazy, the last week I've had an awful spot outbreak on my chin, shoulders and upper back. Not had this since being a teenager. Something is going on and I don't think it's good. Gah, wish I wasn't such a pessimist.

I do den and I feel very similar to you. If I'm asked to have surgery I fear that will be the end of our ttc journey. The trouble is though, even if someone said everything is great, I'd still panic the next time I was tested that it had all gone to shit. However, the not knowing is also poop. So we can both go tomorrow knowing someone else that we (kind of) know is going through the same. I am sure you will be good to go den and that it will be all ok. I've been slightly told off for being pessimistic on what is supposed to be a nice treat day. It was entirely deserved!

Joy that's great news, they must be looking good and enough of them or the clinic wouldn't risk it. I know its impossible but i say let the clinic do the worrying for you - all you need to know is there's too many of top quality to choose the best ones from today! Big hand hold. I'm sure you want them back inside as quick as possible but hopefully this will help get the best ones.

Rabbit I did lol at the working from home earning loads of money. There are some odd things going on with the thread aren't there, it keeps disappearing from the main list. Are we being turned into a secret cult I wonder? . Good luck with the appointment tomorrow - it really can't be as bad as you imagine so hopefully will be a pleasant surprise! Is this an appointment at the clinic about Ivf? Are you going to mention the big liver like clot month? Do they go in for immune testing do you know?

MrsD you must be itching to get going. Sorry for the worrying about hormones - hopefully its a seasonal change blip?! What clinic are you with?

Nelly you definitely don't come across as an interfering cow! How was the party did you survive without too many annoying conversations?

pout Thinking of you my lovely :)

joy I would call the clinic and talk to them about what is going on, put your mind at rest, sorry about the uncomfortableness after EC

rabbit and mrsd I hope things go well tomorrow for you both, remember that your AMH, FSH and LH can all change, even for the better :)

Rabbit/Mrsd - I didn't realise you both had clinic appointments tomorrow. It is horrible how our imaginations think the worst and go in to overdrive. But you will be both fine. No evil cysts or fibroids.
Rabbit - didn't you have all the big results a while ago or have you had some more tests? And I was petrified something had happened to my hormones too which would prevent me from starting because Mrsd I had a huge outbreak of spots all over my chin and I never get spots. But all was ok. It could just be something you are eating.
But I hear you on imagining the worst. I am terrible at that.

Mrsd- there were 9 yesterday. Not sure how many today. I have got to trust the clinic although they are just guessing at the end of the day. I must go and do something productive rather than worrying about them! (Weirdly I think of them all as a babies, even at this stage!)