TTC #2 and turning into a nut job! Part 2!

[BartBaby]

Still ttc. Still nutty. Come join us

Piglet did AF arrive? Hope you are feeling OK?
Welcome marbles, wow i am very impressed that you're on number 2 already, your DC1 must an angel!

Oh how I loathe the tww. I'm doing the 'as if I'm pregnant' thoughts to try and keep expectations low, then when the old witch does arrive it hopefully won't be so bitterly disappointing.

Have a good day ladies. X

Good morning ladies. Thank you for your kind words. It's good to be on mumsnet again and have all this great support.

No signs of AF but another BFN. I've completely lost track of my cycles. .. I didn't think the copper coil would have such a big influence because it doesn't have any hormones. Since all tests have been negative I just want Af to arrive so I can start again!

marbles you are very brave. It took me 3.5 years to try for #2

I agree with fedup. if you think there is something wrong just ask your GP to be checked.

I hope you'll have a good day.

When is af due miss? I'm with you on the 2 ww.

Currently at doctors with ds - I've been to gp 3 times in last 2 weeks!

fedup hope itst nothing serious and that your ds is on the mend

Any more spotting 2be? Hope it is implantation...I always cling on to that hope before AF starts!
Good luck all those waiting and testing! Sorry about the bfns.

bart of course you can still post...don't feel like an imposter. Hope you're not feeling too rough. Hope all ok with you too abi.

Hope ds ok fedup. Dd was up all night throwing up poor little thing. Feel so helpless.

I agree that marbles has lost her marbles! It took me a year to decide to go for #2 but dd was such a high maintenance baby!

It's great to find this thread!

Am I allowed to ask what age roughly everyone is? I'm 34 and dh is 39 and we would like to be relatively youngish when #2 comes.

I don't think I would be in the same rush if I had started earlier - though my body may not let me rush in anyway!

Ds is fairly angelic- my mum says #2 would definitely be a horror to make up for it!

Thanks ladies. Ds has what's called hand foot and mouth disease (I thought was something cows got - apparently that's different). Poor chap has these horrific mouth blisters. Clearly in pain and feel pretty useless. muzzy hope dd is ok!

marbles I'm 32 next week and DH almost 34. Ds was also pretty tough ( v v bad colic for 4 months for starters!) so I think I'm due a laid back on next time!

bart of course you are welcome to post - not banishing you as you are up duffed! Even though of course we would all so love to be in your situ you are still welcom here.

I am 33 and DH is 34. DD will be 6 in January.

I got all my initual investagative test results back and everything seems normal which is great. Just have to wait for DH to get his done now and see how that goes.

I am in the 2ww again at the moment but I find myself a lot more relaxed about it now I am not really expecting it to happen. I haven't POAS for months

Hello ladies, is it too late to join your thread? Have just posted my own self-indulgent thread and then found you all here going through the same thing. I feel so guilty as if I'm ungrateful for the amazing ds we already have, but it's really getting me down not being able to have another one. Does anyone know of problems arising after having the procedure to 'clear out' after a miscarriage? I had this after I found out I'd had a mc at the 12 week scan and it's all been messed up since then. For the first few months I would bleed whenever we DTD, now that's stopped but we're talking almost a year of ttc since then? Sorry to put a downer on you positive ladies, think this thread may be what I need to stop me wallowing in self pity

Tallalime.... may I ask what's involved in the investigative procedure?! Think that may be the route for me to go down next.

Welcome marbles and ricecakes (I'm a bit of a newbie too). I think a bit of self pity is allowed.

I think I am quite similar to fedup in that I conceived DS first time and first time when I had my mc. We're now on cycle 5 of trying and each month I've been surprised that I'm not pregnant. After the mc I was really hoping I would be at the 12 week scan stage before the due date but that isn't going to happen now.

My periods have been messed up since the mc as well. It was a managed miscarriage which got quite manual at the end . Not the best experience.

We started ttc so there would be at least a 3 year gap. I would have liked a smaller gap but we couldn't really afford the childcare for 2 for a long time and also DS was a bit of a nightmare baby who didn't sleep so we probably weren't ready much sooner anyway. I'm 34 and a bit worried that age isn't on my side but I actually have lots of friends who are older than me and conceived straight away for their multiple DC.

What's difficult is I keep trying to control everything. Starting ttc in January would have meant an exact gap of 3 years and I was really sad that there would be a bigger age gap. I'm now thinking that if I stop trying and start again next January I would be on mat leave the year before and up to the first few months of DS starting school which seems practical. But there is absolutely no guarantee I would get pg quickly and you need 12 months of unsuccessful trying to get medical help I thought (though guess wouldn't get IVF as I have DS already and don't think I would be keen to go through it as we do have him.....). I think I overthink it all and should just relax! I'm hoping that now our house move has happened my stress levels will go down and that might help.

Hi ricecakes you are most welcome here. And your story is like mine, i feel immensely guilty about wanting another child so badly. The bleeding isn't right though, but as thats stopped at least its a good sign.
i had an ERPC in Feb and since not been able to conceive. Its really tough. i was obsessed with googling about scarring but the surgeon poo poo'd that idea. however, i still worry about it.

i had a scan on monday too, but that wouldn't see if there was scarring. they didn't find anything obvious, maybe a clot but didn't seem too worried about it. Perhaps go and ask a Dr for some help seeing as its been a year now. Take care.

me too talla i've got so much going on the next two weeks i'm hoping it will keep me from POAS early, and feeling a bit negative about this cycle anyway, as i had a UTI and infections can affect ovulation etc etc. i cannot say the same about not POAS for months - as last cycle was at least 4 hpts! oh the shame

boxed this cycle is my last chance to get pregnant before due date of miscarried baby :(

allboxedup - Same here! Can't understand why I got pregnant so quickly each other time and now it's just not happening. When I had my mc, we had actually only dtd once in the month that I got pregnant. Think that's why I've been a bit blasé about ovulation testing etc. Need to get on it now though.

The due date passing was horrible - not least because it was my birthday and also AF due - just to rub it in!!

Going to become a sex pest at my poor dh next month!!

Thanks fedup, I was thinking of going to ask them but they didn't mention any of the side effects or anything at the time (that I remember anyway). Thought it must be coincidence, just a weird one. Think I'm going to make an appointment to get some tests done though, at least it will rule out anything obvious.

Is everyone doing these ovulation test thingies? Haven't done any, was more trying to go on the principle of dtd every couple of days... clearly hasn't been working so far!

yeah ricecakes i use the ov thingies. Although hasn't helped me get preggers either! But does satisfy my POAS addiction for first part of my cycle

oh help... need a rant.

Dr just rang me about the scan i had on monday. They want to re scan me about the clot / rule out a pregnancy sac. but it cant be one as i lit ov'd just the day before. Or its still something leftover from erpc... or is it just a clot? oh FFS, i was being remotely sane this month too!

your poor ds fedup sounds painful.
Shame you had a student at the first scan otherwise you might have got some more answers. At least things are moving forwards now for you.
Welcome ricecakes to the nuthouse.
I cant remember who asked and i cant scroll back but im 33 and DH is 40. Im not really worried about age...yet.
and yes i use the opk thingies too.

I've now cracked and POAS. Thanks Doctor. Staring at it trying to imagine see a line. How can someone mention the word sac to you when they know you are desperately ttc and of course would have tested like mad if you knew there was potential to be pregnant. Annoyed with it all as i was being quite 'normal' this month so far... and that's totally out the window and in flies nut-case extraordinare.

Afternoon ladies!

AF is def here now. Not her usual self (too light), but its def her. So I'm out

muzzy hope your poor dd feels better soon.

marbles both DH and I are 32, dd is 2 1/2. If I hadn't had mmc then there would've been a 3 year age gap. I also have an angelic dd and keep getting told #2 will be a monster!!

fedup it's been a really shit day for you, hasn't it. I hops DS recovers soon - that sounds horrible. Fingers crossed it works this month so your preg on what would have been your EDD. Rubbish timing from docs but lets hope it's good news.

tallalime good news about results. Fingers crossed your DH are good too.

ricecakes sorry about your mmc. I have heard that's there's a small risk of prob afterwards. I've had one normal AF and this really light one. I don't use OPKs either. I think if it doesn't happen in two cycles ill prob crack!!

hi everyone. can I join this thread?

I'm a complete ttc nutjob at the moment. on the verge of obsessive. need to get another hobby.

been trying since feb, had a mc in June, first full cycke since mc and af arrived yestetday we dtd pretty much everyday!!

fedup you are being completely normal given the circumstances and not being nutty at all. They are really putting you through an emotional roller coaster aren't they.
I hope they can re-scan to put your mind at ease. In the mean time be kind to yourself tonight- chocolate? Glass of wine? Trashy mag?

Welcome pizza You dtd every day? Wowzer! I cannot find the energy for that!

I'm on day 17 and hallucinating/symptom spotting already- like every month. "oh I'm tired- must be preggers* no, just tired with a 2 yr old!

Nutty nutty nutty!

kp well 9 times in 11 days, so nearly every day. I don't think we can beat that this month. especially as I work 9-5 and DP a 3pm-11pm so we don't see much of each other weekdays.

I'm a crazy symtom spotter too.

I had a mc in early May (11 wks) and I think it took my body a while to get back to normal. Had what I thought was a little period then another "real" one 28 days later then last month it was 35 days later and really heavy and painful. So it may be that your body is still adjusting pizza. Don't be despondent after one cycle.

thanks kp i think i might treat myself to pizza - something about pizzaqueen name thats got me on to that! And some red wine! But i also love rice cakes too thanks to ricecake for reminding of those, the marmite ones are amazing! DS loves them too.

day 15 here and have done 3 cheapo hpts. which is bonkers as only 3 dpo! it was the whole sac thing... its turned me into a total weirdo.
I too have felt sick, cramps and tired today and randomly just one sore boob - my left one!

Got to be off work tomorrow to look after DS as he's gotten worse. He literally clung to my neck for 20 mins (doesn't EVER do that as hes such an independent one and so squirmy) before bed time tonight. Poor little man.

Have a good evening ladies - i've got to do some serious work catching up before i can crack open the wine!