The Elderberry Gluckschmerzers who sausage wang between the Sofa of Pity and the Pouffe of Possibility (thread 11)

[Bunnygirlie]

Come and join us elderly TTCers on the Sofa of Pity (SoP), Rug of Rage (RoR), the Pouffe of Possibility (PoP) or the Chaise Lounge of Limbo (CLoL) whilst trying to avoid the BubbleBath of Gloom(BoG)!

The smallprint - Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot) and def no mention of baby dust or baby dancing UGH !!! Ooh we are strict...please note your house may be at risk if you do not keep up repayments lol

Berries, I need some advice...

Have finally found a job that doesn't make me want to rip my hair out or have a nervous breakdown, actually pays me for overtime but perhaps not as stimulating as before.

However.. on mon 2 jobs (same pay) will be released at my dream hospital. I stand a brilliant chance of getting it especially as my friend has already bigged me up to the head if service. However, it's likely to be stressful

What should I do? If I wasn't ttc I prob wouldn't even have to think about it!

If you think it's a job that would make you happier overall then I'd go for it kitty, ttc or not. Life is too short to make decisions based on unknown future events - go with what will make you happiest given your current situation!

woah, that was deep

Kitty, I agree with boom. Take ttc out of it when making decisions abc go with what is best for you.

boom September is soon! So excited for you. Do you have to do exams before you finish. Shift work is ok, it's just working all the time like you seem to do which is not so cool!

Kitty what's your instinct? And how easy is it to change jobs, would you be likely to be able to get job at dream hospital in future, and would taking the easier job now put you in a less strong position career wise if you do decide to move on again? Personally if you thought i could go for more exciting job in future with good chance of getting then I would choose the less stressful now. But I deal really badly with stress so that wouldnt be the same for everyone.

Sorry obviously I meant 'if i thought i could'

Also Im not ambitious work wise, quite content to pootle along which it sounds like might not be the case for you. Its a really personal thing and I'd go with your gut instinct - if have one of course!

kitty I agree, remove TTC from the equation and make the decision using your gut instinct!

Hangover better now. Just bad back instead as been hunched over baking and hoovering etc!

Thanks guys, the other job will DEFO be stressful! Basically I'll be dealing with extremely anxious parent with very poorly children, as opposed to drinking tea with little old ladies who don't eat as much as they used to!

Oh so bored of painting! Normally quite enjoy it but dint think mixes well with tired hungoverness!

Pip definitely yes to another sermon! Lines keep coming to mind and making me laugh out loud much to the puzzlement of those around.

pip we need a part 2!!!!

Where is everyone??!!!

I'm here blind. Alright chuck? x

Ello! Just got in from a friends BBQ, nice to catch up with peeps but fertile friend bought the baby. She sat down with him in the other room and I felt like the bad friend as I didn't go and sit with her like the other ladies but I just couldn't!

Tomorrow (or is that today) is going to be tough, the christening!!!

Morning! Gosh, you lot were quiet last night - was everyone out on the razz?

Bunny sorry there was a baby BBQ-crasher. Inescapable isn't it! I was working at the pub last night and there was a woman just behind the station where I was standing announcing to her family that she was pregnant and giving them all the details from her midwife appointment and that nearly set me off (again)! Hope you survive the christening today x

Am having a fight with DH this morning (already!) because he's just refused to go to my cousin's wedding in July. I've already RSVP'd for us both and booked us a room but he's now decided he can't take a day off work for it. This is an ongoing theme, I always end up going to weddings/christenings/parties alone because he's an antisocial git and doesn't see why he should go to my friends' do's or why I would be upset that he never comes. Bearing in mind that I've been with him nearly 7 years, some of my further-flung friends have never even met him. It's embarrassing, especially when I have to make grovelling apologies 3 weeks from a wedding date because he's suddenly changed his mind. GRRRRRRRRRR. Why are men so frustrating?? (We're also arguing because he won't wear a wedding ring, and last time he refused to come to a wedding he said he'd get one if I never forced him to another...so I tried to lighten the mood by saying 'ooh we'll have to get you that wedding ring then' which he immediately said was nagging. SIGH)....

Grumble over! How's everyone else? We're meant to be going to a picnic today but given the gale force winds and black skies (not to mention frosty atmosphere) I suspect we'll be giving it a miss!

Looking to hang around in Berry HQ if thats ok?!? Happy to have a good ole chat over (brew) or (wine)

Had yet another person at work say she was preggs this week (so easy, happened so quickly- grrrr) and a friend who is frustrated after 3cycles!!

Lullahbear- 30, TTC since July 2011, MC Jan '13 6weeks, LP 6-8 days, DH works away a lot (sad)

Hi Lullah good to have you with us (although you've knocked me off the youngest TTC'er spot, booo!) Sorry to hear about your mc. Are you having any investigations at all? I think we've got another couple of short LP-ers who enjoy a good B6 fix... barking?!

bunny kinda know what you mean. It's not a problem getting him to weddings but is for bbqs, christenings, dinner parties, etc (unless if course it's one if his friends!). He can be quite rude at times as well, for example, if he doesn't like someone, he'll just tell them!

I had the complete opposite prob with the wedding ring! He lost his (it was on top of the fridge) so just went out and bought another! Clearly the lovely engraved ring that I had given him on his wedding day had so little value!!!!

Ha Kitty I'll assume you mean me when you say bunny Aren't they just bloody useless - and you're right, if it's their friends it's all hunky dory! On the other hand, you've made me chuckle at the thought of Mr Blind stopping someone in mid flow and saying 'sorry, I can't go on - I just don't like you' hahaha! Maybe I'm better off keeping Mr Boom safely out of the way after all...

Hi lullah. I'm sorry you are having so much trouble. there are a few of us in the mc boat too, so don't worry about moaning to us about stuff, we all have an angle.

Off to sisters new house for a Peruvian meal soon. it was going tho be BBQ but they decided against it yesterday. unless one of my sisters makes an announcement today, which is highly unlikely, today should be baby free, yay!
The place I volunteer at seems to have baby obsession, despite most of them already having had them years ago. any mention and they get all gooey, and there are now crafters making 'nappy cakes' for bs presents and everyone coos over them. I can't even run away as the place is so tiny there's no escape.

Good morning!

boom yep you can't beat a baby party-crashed for a fun evening ?!???? Sounds like yours was crashed well and truly too Sorry to hear you and DH are arguing, it's family he should be going!!! Naughty Mr Boom!1

is that a newbie I can smell?!?

Shall we instigate a 'one in, one out' policy? We have a newbie, therefore it must be time for a BFP!

Oh god do I smell of 'no baby'??? Bunny and boom Baby parties are the worst, however mistakingly walked into Baby Ralph Lauren yesterday, swear there was tumble weed and heads swivelling all the way round when they saw i was sans baby- made a quick dash out before being rammed by buggies!!!

boom can't say it's fun being the single-yet-married one at weddings/ parties, especially when you feel the need to make excuses for DH not being there!!

Hey lullah or is it bear I have a feeling we may all just smell of desperation i think I do!

Ugh I am dreading today, about 30 adults and 15kids, I wonder how many of the ladies will be barren like my good self

Don't worry Lullah, I think we probably all have a distinctive whiff of B6, folic acid and desperation! except me because I ran out of folic acid weeks ago and still haven't bought any more

Ugh, baby Ralph Lauren. Purgatory, glad you made it out alive!

Really am going to go and get dressed (in a stroppy manner so that Mr Boom is aware of my continuing displeasure) and go for a walk now

Have a lovely Sunday berries!

Ps crossed with you bunny - not barren, just taking your sweet time! Hope it's not too bad, fingers crossed that all the kids are horrible little brats and make you glad that they're not yours. is always the answer

Trying very hard to stay cross with DH but he's singing loudly and tunelessly along to Pink 'so so what, I'm still a rock star, I got my prop moves, and I don't neeeeeeeed you' and for some reason this makes me a lot less angry

Ooops boom yep meant you! Perhaps decaf re first thing isn't right! Once, he told a complete stranger (that I was talking to in a club) to 'go away and die'. I think he thought it was funny but the girl just looked at me in disbelief! Oh and I still haven't forgiven him for going into the lounge to read the paper mid one of my dinner parties as he was bored of my friends! 'One in one out' sounds great! Oh and have been so laid back lately I've just forgotten to take my folic acid this last week

tally I hate to say it but you've just given me cake ideas for my friends bs that I'm organising lol. Enjoy your Peruvian meal!"