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The Elderberry Gluckschmerzers who sausage wang between the Sofa of Pity and the Pouffe of Possibility  (thread 11) 

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Bunnygirlie · 18/06/2013 08:30

Come and join us elderly TTCers on the Sofa of Pity (SoP), Rug of Rage (RoR), the Pouffe of Possibility (PoP) or the Chaise Lounge of Limbo (CLoL) whilst trying to avoid the BubbleBath of Gloom(BoG)!

The smallprint - Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot) and def no mention of baby dust or baby dancing UGH !!! Ooh we are strict...please note your house may be at risk if you do not keep up repayments lol

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Tallyra · 23/06/2013 11:17

I have to say that the phrase 'nappy cake' just seems so so so wrong. and weirdly, the ones she makes are actually made out of nappies, bibs, toys and other stuff rather than being edible. they look quite useful as a present actually.

Foodylicious · 23/06/2013 11:36

Hello

thanks for your thoughts guys. Got myself off the sofa on friday and went to my sisters(the 1 with kids) so I could get out the house and to borrow her sander. ended up staying for bbq and OH came round too after work, was a good distraction.
Did the 10k yesterday with my other sister but had to walk/limp it because of my knee. have a very sore hip today from compensating I think. My sister manged to talk about herself non-stop for an hour and a half, thankfully she had to shut up while we were eating lunch after (love her really but omg!) it is part of what she does when she is stressed though so just let her get on with it. She thinks she will hear more about the security of her job this week.
Soo tired had a nap (for 3hours) when we got back then watched rubbish t.v. an hours worth of crying hysteria this morning as should be 12wk scan tomorrow, but feel better and like I might get through the day as I have got it out of my system for now.
Todays mission is to finally pack up and empty the dinning room so I can get on with the bloods sanding I keep banging on about.

kitty not sure what I would do about the job, would probably apply for both, go for both interviews then would have a better feel for what I actually wanted.
boom sorry mr boom is being pants
bunny good luck today, will there be communion wine?? have a good gulp
tally how was the meal??

BlindKitty · 23/06/2013 11:39

tally hmmm not quite sure what to think of it now. Maybe I'll just stick to cupcakes with icing nappies or something! Still can't believe I'm organising it tbh. Please god let me be preggers by then!!!!

SidneyBristow · 23/06/2013 13:16

I think the nappy cake thing is a pretty popular BS and/or new mother gift - Blind you can probably get some fantastic pictures to copy from by searching for them on Pinterest. Actually you could probably plan the whole thing by getting ideas from Pinterest but prepared to have hours of your life sucked away

Hi Lullah, agreed, we all have a funny whiff about us, but at least there's no baby sick in our hair (sob)

Foody glad you feel better after a good cry; sometimes that's all you can do and it's enough to be able to get on with the day Flowers

Berries, is FF VIP plan worth the cost? My temp this am was the lowest it's ever been and I've just spent an hour looking at charts. Seriously considering handing over the $ if it'd mean more specific instruction/suggestions on timing/chart interpretation. If this cycle's a bust, I'll be at the GP's in 1.5 weeks which means we start the referral path, and since DP has children (here 1/2 the time, random days; someone asked upthread), at some point NHS will quit us and we'll have to go private. I dread to think of how much it'll cost. So buying books, thermometers, monitor sticks, poss VIP plan is easier to justify. I'm 38 & any babies born will be when I'm 39+ which is also freaking me out. I feel simultaneously that I need this to happen, in a visceral way which I never understood before TTC, but also that I'm sick to death of the whole process, but not so sick that I'm ready to give up, or go to a private IVF clinic in 2 weeks. Conflicted, me.

happylass · 23/06/2013 13:40

Afternoon all and welcome Lullah. Boom sorry your DH is being awkward. Mr Happy has said that he doesn't want a wedding ring as 'real men don't wear them'. Wtf? He's having one as I'm not standing up in front of our nearest and dearest and saying 'with this invisible ring I thee wed'!!
Sid how low is your temp and when is AF due? I've not got FF VIP so no idea what the extras are but I'd be interested to know too. If we're going to adopt a one in one out policy I'll volunteer to be first to go. I really don't mind, honestly!! Am 8dpo so wouldn't have long to wait!
Was at a hen do last night and was sat down for food in between 2 people who were complaining how difficult having kids is as how they don't have a moment to themselves. If only!

BlindKitty · 23/06/2013 13:57

sid oooh let me know how it goes! I'm a bit ff obsessed too but haven't gone VIP yet! Must admit I'm quite sick to death to, although I am thinking of private ivf... Well might just go to the next open evening anyway just to get more info

SidneyBristow · 23/06/2013 14:15

happy I'm 8 dpo too; I discarded the one temp that made FF think I o'd on cd18 rather than 15. Trying to get better at temping at the same time every day; it's tougher than I'd expected! Temp sank from 36.5 to 35.9 today so well below the cover line. I'm superstitious enough to think that buying a 1yr VIP pass will jinx me so if I do it, it won't be unless AF shows up on the 29th-30th.

Maybe 1 in, 2 out? :) are we the next ones up?

SidneyBristow · 23/06/2013 14:17

blind had never considered an open evening; are they done very often? (I know there are lots of clinics but would each hold 1 or 2 a year, or more frequently)? I might join you!

happylass · 23/06/2013 14:25

Oooo yes Sid let's make it 2 out. We are both due AF on the same day too. Not sure what to say about your temp drop, it's a very big one! It could of course be an implantation dip but don't want to symptom spot on your behalf! Just looked back over all my charts and noticed that my post OV temps are always at their lowest 8dpo (though only once have they dipped below the cover line) and they then go back up again until falling off for AF. No idea what this means, if anything! I think you 'll need to persist with the charting for a few months yet before you get to see a pattern.

BlindKitty · 23/06/2013 15:12

sid my temp is often erratic, even taking it the same time each day before I've done anything Confused
The bupa in brum have an open evening every month but we've not managed it yet.

BlindKitty · 23/06/2013 18:03

Question girlies ...

Which of you have had your amh tested? If you did, did you get it on the nhs?

MrsB00Mbastic · 23/06/2013 18:57

Not meee! Suspect given the stinginess of the doctors around here in ordering tests, I wouldn't get it on the NHS if I wanted it though..! Someone had it a few threads back, was it BookTart?

I've just realised how many berries have fallen by the wayside since those days! Did she get diffed? Hope so! (goes to investigate) aaah yes she did, she's on the grads! How did I miss that?! maybe because it's so long since we had a BFP that I've forgotten

Bunnygirlie · 23/06/2013 19:00

Helloooooooooo I'm back! I survived!

It wasn't too bad actually, I got through it with the help of cake and lots of my marvellous macaroons!

How are we all? Have I missed anything?

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MrsB00Mbastic · 23/06/2013 19:06

Ooooh macaroons Grin

BlindKitty · 23/06/2013 19:33

boom had to lol at 'the horrible husband', i think tou should throw some macaroons at him! you're right, we haven't had a grad for ages, I'd forgotten about book tart too! Blush

bunny not missed much I know because I clearly have nothing better to do on a sun

Bunnygirlie · 23/06/2013 19:35

So is that HH instead of DH then boom ?!?!?

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Bunnygirlie · 23/06/2013 19:41

What?!?!? Are you saying somebody graduated and didn't say goodbye?!?!? Confused

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MrsB00Mbastic · 23/06/2013 21:27

I think she did say goodbye, but it was back about four threads ago - which was the last time we got a flipping BFP apart from the lovely frog!

HH is not allowed any macaroons. He's mostly forgiven but he's definitely not getting treats thrown at him Grin

BlindKitty · 23/06/2013 21:32

Speaking of dh's, mine has just landed a fab job! Same pay but reeeeally good bonuses! Maldives here we come!!!! Grin

On my job front, I'm too scared to risk any stress atm with my imminent iui, so I've decided not to apply for those jobs I mentioned!

W

BlindKitty · 23/06/2013 21:32

Wonder how frog is????

barkingtreefrog · 23/06/2013 22:03

I'm being very rude as I haven't read and caught up, will do so in a second, but can anyone help me? A friend on fb who's obviously a MNetter linked to this thread on fb saying 'this is hilarious'. I dutifully clicked on said thread, and missed most of The Hobbit that I was 'watching' with DP, not to mention failed to get an early night as I have a lesson observation first thing this morning and have plenty to do before I go to bed....
Anyway, I read the whole bloody thing, all 1000 posts of it, and it doesn't come to a conclusion, and I can't find a thread that continues it!!!! Did anyone else see this and can help me out?!? This is why I never stray from just reading the berry threads, it takes over your life!!!!!

MrsB00Mbastic · 23/06/2013 22:26

Try this barking

barkingtreefrog · 23/06/2013 23:01

And before I catch up with everyone else (I've now moved to the laptop as I was getting frustrated with the phone so, as the washing is still in the machine and needs hanging up but not until the dry washing has been moved, it doesn't look like that early night is happening for me at all) has anyone seen this thread? It's full of women like us trying to explain why other people's bumps are so difficult to cope with.

I actually got quite irrationally Angry with DP's pg-friends-due-in-July yesterday (on the inside, I didn't actually say anything!) as we were out walking with three other couples who were staying with us for the weekend (hence me not being on here all the time, too busy baking cakes and playing hostess!) and we'd stopped for a drink in the pub. I was just thinking how nice it was to have 8 of us all hanging out, most of us in our mid thirties, and absolutely no baby talk, when 8-month-bump walked up and said hello and as if the bump wasn't enough, they were there having a meal with friends and she was holding their baby!!. Felt like I'd been slapped round the face with a wet fish Sad.

Hi Lullah I tried the vit b6 for two cycles, first time LP increased to 10 days, second time 9. I've now got clomid, waiting to start next cycle, so not trying again. Is it working for you?

Glad the christening went ok Bunny

Boom the refusing to attend weddings with me would pi55 annoy me as well. Is there any justification in having to work? Would he be using up valuable holiday he could spend with you in other ways, or it it just a transparent excuse?

Kitty I made a similar decision to you on the job front. I decided that extra stress wasn't going to help ttc, and I might be on the IVF waiting list soon, so didn't need any extra disruption. Also, if I tried to steer myself back to my yellow brick road of positivity (if I could be arsed building it again after you've all finished playing jenga with the bricks) I was thinking that I wouldn't want the extra stress when pg either. I think I'm just going to stick with the status quo for at least another year, and if I'm not upduffed by then I'll reassess. Having said that, there will be opportunities available in two terms, when pg collegue's maternity leave ends and there's another staff reshuffle. So might be rethinking sooner than a year, but definitely not before next Easter.

It's now 11, I still haven't sorted the washing or got my stuff ready for the morning, and I was so determined to get a nice early night before my lesson observation in the morning. To pass my performance management it needs to be graded outstanding. No pressure then Sad.

Tallyra · 23/06/2013 23:23

hi guys. back from sister's house and sorted ferrets out, now in bed while dh tries to sort out a mess that his boss's 17 year old little brother has made by not doing any work since half past 3 (perks of being the boss's brother, no fallout of being an idiot).

Peruvian meal was nice, a lamb casserole type meal. no baby talk at all, and the boys were obsessed with the cricket, so we got some good silly chat going. the dog wouldn't settle but then he never does in a new place - next time should be better.

Sorry I haven't caught up tonight, I'm a bit tired after the drive back home from London. night all and I'll see you all tomorrow xxx

barkingtreefrog · 23/06/2013 23:25

Ta v. much for the link Boom Grin Thanks