The Elderberry Gluckschmerzers who sausage wang between the Sofa of Pity and the Pouffe of Possibility (thread 11)

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Come and join us elderly TTCers on the Sofa of Pity (SoP), Rug of Rage (RoR), the Pouffe of Possibility (PoP) or the Chaise Lounge of Limbo (CLoL) whilst trying to avoid the BubbleBath of Gloom(BoG)!

The smallprint - Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot) and def no mention of baby dust or baby dancing UGH !!! Ooh we are strict...please note your house may be at risk if you do not keep up repayments lol

Morning berries. Good luck Bunny, and glad it went ok Tally.
I'm getting impatient about the 2ww already...! I want to be at least close to being able to test!!
Looking forward to the sunshine today, anybody got anything nice planned?

Morning all

twonk bunny good luck at your appointment. I'm sure it will be fine. I think taking notes is a great idea because if you can write it down at the time then you know you have fully understood.

barking I totally understand what you mean- I've had similar things with friends saying they're trying. Fortunately for them but not for my self esteem/stress levels they've succeeded. But also there's another part of me that wants to shout -that's all well and good but its not that simple! It's like when people get their bfp- I know now that that is only the very beginning and want to say don't get your hopes up, it might all go wrong yet! But I don't because that shows he to be the pessimistic cynic that I now am.

Rant over. Sign up for the race! I'm like puppy, keep trying to jinx myself into having to ruin plans because of being pregnancy. So it's a bummer it hasn't worked but at least the plans are a consolation.

tally goodness about the appointment and its great that mil went along and was so helpful too.

Morning!

Cheers peeps, I guess I am just nervous as I don't know the doctor and my last one was lovely!

baking hope your mate isn't an instadiffer!

Thanks bunny and gilster. Booked a gp appointment for next fri (not that she'll be able to do anything, simple to shut dh up). Although got an email from bupa saying they'll do the extra tests I wanted with a letter from my gp so at least I can use that as an excuse.

tally glad you're appt went ok. My friend worried sick about her hysteroscopy and she said it was fine in the end.

barking I was actually thinking the exact same about your friend as I was reading your post!

Well still full of cold here and af has landed. Have called in sick even though I could have probably dosed up on lemsip. Don't even feel upset about af. Think I am actually finally coming to terms with never getting pg naturally

Feeling very virtuous as cycled in this morning to work after going to the gym last night. It's only 6 miles but every little helps as they say. Have also ordered the Jillian Michaels 30 Day Shred (did someone recommend this a while back?). If I'm going to go down the IVF route then I need to use the waiting time to get my bod in it's best possible state which means getting fit and ideally losing a stone and a half. Bring it on!!!

Hi berries, just a quick hello and to wish you all a lively sunny weekend.

And Barking I missed the outcome of your b6 - did your lp stay at 10 days? Sorry youre feeling all coldy!

Very virtuous gill.

bunny hope all goes well with the GP. Part of me hopes my mate isn't an instadiffer and the other part is genuinely hoping she is, or at least gets pg after a few months, as she's had more than her fair share of health related problems and is now 39. At least I'm 'only' 34... Of course best case scenario is that we both get pg with healthy babies at the same time!

goosey, my super optimistic, skipping-down-the-yellow-brick-road cycle ended with no bfp and an LP of 9 days, despite taking vit b every day and a proper shag marathon up to the morning of the day DP has his op.
Think from ewcm and frequency of O in cd19 in past cycles I'm O'ing today but we still haven't managed to dtd post his op. He said maybe tonight. Part of me doesn't want to, as it would give me that tiny spark of hope despite it being a tiny chance as I think it would be too late and as I haven't started the clomid yet given as we weren't able to dtd I'll still have a short LP which despite the consultant's dismissive tone I still believe to be a problem. I'd rather know I wasn't pg this cycle that spend the next 10 days wondering, especially as I'm not pimping or temping this cycle so I could O later and therefore think I'm late and possibly pg, but not....
It's so twisted, thinking like that!!

Morning ladies,
After months of casual lurking and the very occasional post, I feel honour bound to tell you I definitely, definitely will be getting my bfp next week, after I a) bulk bought tampax as they were on offer in Sainsburys b) Entered a marathon for october and c) got told by DP that we need to pull our fingers out and finally book our wedding for our preferred weekend 10 months from now, before someone else snaps it up
So, it is guaranteed now, right?

spare almost definitely! Come on in and tell us your story

Not much to tell!
Thirtycoughone, ttc since December-ish after running out of pills, not really having enough time to get to the docs for a repeat prescription and DP saying that is clearly some sort of sign that we need to just crack on then!
We've not been trying too hard - no OPKs etc yet, but I have downloaded a horribly twee app on my phone which gives me my OV dates through the metaphorical poetry of cartoon flowers appearing on a cartoon tree. DP has suggested that for full accuracy, a cartoon wasps nest should appear just before AF shows up!
And our mad-shagging days shall henceforth be known Chez Sparechange as 'flowery days', which will be a lovely euphemism to use in front of our children

spare 'flowery days'? How lovely! Really can't imagine me and my dh referring to it as that, although we've been ttc for over 2 years. Best advice is to carry on what you're doing and keep going with your flowery days! Ignore everything we say re temping, opk'ing, stressing etc!

BlindKitty don't worry, it is very tongue in cheek! This app is so horribly twee, but it was the first free one I found on the app store
I only use the most basic calendar function of it, but you have the option of inputting the days you've DTD - they are recorded in teh calendar with a little heart icon and intimacy in italics underneath

This is 'second time around' for DP and I. We were both previously married, we both unsuccessfully went through several rounds of fertility treatment with our previous OHs, and we are both envisaging this being a long ol' slog, but one that we are very happy to have each others support along.
We were both also given cleans bills of health last time (and there is no way on earth I'm having another lap and dye again, ever!) so the only option is really a waiting game. We might maybe think about Clomid if things aren't any further along in a year from now, because it didn't appear to do anything too horrendous to me last time around (didn't work either though!)

Welcome spare to you and your flowery ones!

Just a quickie before I head out for drinkies with work, hoping to kill cold with wine!

Doctor this morning was lovely, feel like we had a bit of a 3some though as she poked around DHs bits and then prodded mine!!! Lol. My other doctor hadn't examined me so I guess this one is pretty thorough. She said she'd have to refer to one of the other doctors and they'd decide whether to refer us to FC or send DH to check his bits. Didn't expect to hear till next week but she rang DH and he is to have blood test next week to check coeliac as that can affect sperm and we will be referred YAY!

Sorry it's all about me have a lovely Friday eve berries!!!

spare ah I see! Well you fit the entrance criteria so come on in . Did either of your ex partners end up having kids?

bunny yey for a thorough doctor!!!

Evening ladies. Been a bit AWOL lately - busy week. Welcome Spare. Your app isn't My Days by any chance is it? If not its very similar. That's the one I used when I first started out but I've moved on to FF and Ovufriend now cos one is never enough to satisfy my obsession
Great news on the appointments Tally and Bunny. I finally got to speak to someone at the hospital today after 5 days of harassing calling them. They said not to worry about the cd3 test as I have regular cycles but I do need 2 more cd21 tests but they'll accept July and September as I'm away in August. That means I can get an appointment in September rather than waiting til October which is something I suppose. Not in too much of a rush anyway seen as we're taking a break after this cycle.
Well I'm off out for a meal with some girlfriends this eve then heading to West Wales with DP tomorrow and Sunday. Weather is gorgeous here, hope he sun is shining for everyone else too. Have a good weekend Berries!

Wondered where you were happy! Glad you're getting an earlier appointment!

hey guys!!!
as if not bad enough that FB is all bloody new baby photos I went into work today and have had to look at the white board every time I have gone in to the office to see an announcement that someone that used to work with us is having a baby the first week of Jan.
This is the week i would have been due, and to add insult to injury I got sent this info on my work email too!!!
Nearly lost it and had to walk out the office at this point, struggled to keep a grip today.
Really over emotional, but can't seem to let it out today either, need to have a good cry before I explode , but cant quite manage it. Also tired of being tired after crying.

good to see some of you have had good appt/results with professionals, shame the rest of them seem to be twats incompetent

Hello spare and welcome

What a beautiful day! Hello spare. Sorry you've had a bad day foody .
I had to hide a few posts on fb today, a mate had put up a whole album of her bump getting bigger month by month. No thanks, I don't need that in my face.
Been a lovely day otherwise though! Hope everyone gets a lovely sunny weekend .

Sorry you're having a tough day Foody . I was at the hospital yesterday getting a breast cyst drained and they sent me for an ultrasound first - yep you've guessed it, me and about 10 pregnant women in the waiting room. Great!

foody I thought you said that most people know at work? If so, that's a little insensitive really! Personally, I would gently ask your manager if you could remove it!

happy it's the same at my fc appointments! What's worse is I generally have walk past all the heavily pregnant chavs smoking outside first when all I want to do to take their cigarettes off them and tell them to count their blessings!

Morning ladies!

Oh foody I think I would have screamed in your situation

Slight headache here after drinkies last night. How are we all today? Doing anything nice in the sunshine?!?

I have 2 questions for the berries if I may -

• What apps do you use to track your dates?!? Obviously ones that you log in so it stores your dates pretty please!
• So I have been referred, how long did it take to get your appt letter? And how many months till appt? (I know it will differ from county to county)

Hi Bunny I'm off out to walk the dog now after hanging the washing and filling the dishwasher. Just finished plotting a route for a bike ride with DP when he gets back from his morning ride (it helps when cycling with me if he's already knackered, he's less impatient waiting for me then). After that off to see friends of DPs later. I want to say more but I know she fills all the Berry criteria so I'm paranoid I'd say something and she'd read it and recognise herself!!! I don't think she's a berry but you never know who's lurking!!!

In answer to your more specific questions

1. FF. Used to use WomanLog as well but after over a year of data I know my cycles pretty well so don't feel the need to back everything up by using two different ones anymore!

1. 2 months to get the tests and results at the GP, 2 months to see FC nurse & get more tests done, then 2 months to see the consultant.

Happy Saturday berries! Sorry I've been AWOL this week, Mr Boom was away and I've been running round like a blue arsed fly. Yesterday was horrible, he came home and we immediately had a fight (sigh) and then I got a pregnancy announcement from the bride whose wedding we went to the other week - diffed at the wedding

However today is good! Morning make-up shag, dog walk, and later we're meeting Spud the Spaniel!

A belated welcome from me spare, your app sounds like the kitschest ttc tool ever!!

foody sorry to hear about the in-your-face pg posters. Not what you need. Hope you're coping ok this week, I know I was a wreck around our due date.

kitty I have to walk through all the smokers on my way into work, puffing away while rubbing their bumps. Gaaaarrrgh.

happy have fun in Wales!

And hello to all I haven't name checked, on my phone and cant scroll back any more but hope all is well and we're all soaking up fertility-giving vitamin D today x

Hey all. I hope it's so quiet because everyone is busy out in the sun, not curled up in a corner feeling crap.
It's pretty warm down in Kent - got a scrappy top on for the first time this year!