We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

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A new thread for all you lovely, crazy ladies. Here's to lots of BFPs!

Hormones..,what's the deal post MC?! I seem to only be 'ok' in the fertile window...otherwise I'm a miserable ol cow! Can't work out if cd 1-7 ish I'm anxious about ttc, then go for it and then this 2ww I'm like a bear with a sore head! Really snappy and low.

I don't remember feeling this bad before MC. And I'm absolutely boiling. Can't sleep beyond 4am either. Bleurgh.

Yeah floweroct, that's the spirit! All of us with AF visiting should make the most of it tonight and party - I'll join in with you

Oh, flower, sorry AF got you. Enjoy your vino, onwards and upwards, and all that. I am dreading the arrival of AF, 15DPO today, or maybe 14, and no pregnancy symptoms spotted. But haven't the guts to do an HPT (and none in the house).

Flower, sorry about AF!
Over, HCG falls at roughly the same speed as it rises, so halviing every 2 days or so. Itll be down really quickly. {{hug}}
MrsFinch its not over till the aunty flows!
I have been working at a food festival today. There have been PG people EVERYWHERE! Tonnes of twins and huge bumps everywhere. Sometimes I hate my job!

Just checking in, sorry to hear no other good news since Guff...I am feeling ok now my 'window' is gone and we defo haven't DTD during it - how sad is this though, we did 5 days before I got a positive OPK and I then started googling sperm survival rates! I am actually a loony.

I agree with the pregnant people everywhere thing saggy just found out someone is at my work, she is 20 weeks and has kept it quiet till now. I don't think it has been easy for her reading between the lines, so I am happy for her of course but still have that jealousy in the back of my mind, my heart sinks when I think about seeing her at work everyday with a bump.

I am just focussing on the positive (hollow laugh) like being able to drink myself silly at the weekends and during the week if I can cope with a tiny hangover whilst teaching and being able to diet like crazy to lose a few more pounds, plus not having the stress of the 2ww, if we keep on avoiding the fertile days. Bloody difficult though, hormones being what they are that is all I want to do!

I agree with the moodiness, I am fuming the majority of the time it feels like. I wish someone could give me a pill to stop me thinking about it.

Hi everyone, so my two month Not Trying is over and we've had one round of TTC again, in the evil 2ww now. Been catching up with everyone's posts over the last few days - what a busy thread!

Fab to read the great news, and heartbroken for those who have gone and returned since I left. So so sorry.

Those talking about acupuncture - I've been at it for a few months now. Crucifyingly expensive, but she's said to be a miracle worker, so fingers crossed - and I'm feeling much calmer now, whether as a result of her work I don't know.

It's been really poignant reading posts from those of you who've been through ectopics - over and badhair (sorry if I've missed anyone on this huge deal). Emotionally, I started collapsing after a couple of months TTC again; I think it was only then that it hit me what I'd lost, and that it would be harder to get it back minus a tube. So comforting to read that 30% of pregnancies happened from the tubeless ovary though, thank you.

So, it's POAS day on Friday. I'm not expecting anything, though we have been at it during the appropriate times this month, so it's theoretically possible. I had pains on the left side though at ovulation time, which is the side I lost the tube on, so I'm thinking it's unlikely. I'm away for a long weekend though, so I'm holding on to the fact that I'll be able to drink for it! I've been off the booze since end of last AF, and DH has sooo kindly joined me on my booze-free time. Misery loves company and all that. So, basically, gagging for a ! to you all for being here, for what you've all been through, what we're all going through, and for being so great and supportive.

Ill be POAS with you Seaside.
I've been working today. The thermometer in my van said 35 degrees!!!
Just once, for a tiny wee moment, I was relieved that I wasn't 7 months PG today in the awful heat. Then I felt really bad for thinking that!

Well, my temperature took a bit of a nosedive this morning, so AF will be here tonight or tomorrow Cried like a baby. Then put on a happy face and went to the naming ceremony, which was lovely and not at all full of pregnant people

missmakes, re. googling the sperm survival, that little teeny tiny minuscule hope is such a killer, isn't it?

I am exactly the same. My BBT has dropped below the coverline, a sure sign that AF is imminent, but some small part of me is still thinking 'yes, but maybe, just maybe....'.

It seems that no matter what glaring, klaxon-blowing NOT PREGNANT signs I get, no matter how hard my head is saying 'not this month', a little piece of my heart is always whispering 'maybe...'.

I am an optimist though, which is good I suppose. It's a bloody rollercoaster. My BBT has dropped, but I do have wine. Hoorah!

FFS! I'm spotting. A fucking whole SEVEN DAYS EARLY!

Looking forward to it saggy - your shagathon this month has been monumentally impressive, particularly after 12 hour working days! All fx that your...hard work...is productive.

I'm finally coming to terms with the fact that I am definitely not in tune with my body. I've been sure I have all the symptoms, then AF swoops in on her broomstick. Even the 'boobrometer' has let me down. Was positive they were bigger, but no. The time I was pg they grew noticeably (they've got a lot of catching up to do!) so that was my failsafe clue, and not even that's reliable any more. So I'm just giving up, and trying to look forward to having a glass of wine to cry into ...

NO saggy! Awful cross post timing, sorry! Not implantation? Argh, fucking fuck.

DDMF i'm sorry about your temp going down, I know just what you mean about clutching at straws. Even after AF leaves I usually think, ooh, maybe it was just a implantation bleed. Stupid.
missmakes i know you don't need any encouragement for hopeful thinking, but if you dtd the day before your positive ov signal you really do have a chance.
good to see you back seaside

i've had a lovely day hanging out with friends, including a few preggos. Everytime I see them and their bumps are bigger it's like a kick in the guts. But then i try and forget about it and just have a good time. A few glasses of wine helped with that.

today i got a faint band on my opk, right on schedule. guessing that tomorrow will be even stronger. not sure whether to do the 3 nights in a row that smep calls for from tonight or tomorrow night. but tonight is meant to be on anyway, so i guess it's academic. we'll go for as many nights as we can! prob just one

oh saggy what?!?!?
could be implantation? 7 days is a LOT early

of course seaside it's not good that you're here instead of being up the duff, but you knew what I meant, right?

wine in the sunshine might have gone to my head

fuck knows!

Hello everybody - saggy - I am spotting too, one whole week early and am trying not to think it might be an implantation bleed. But it might be, mightn't it?! Am keeping fingers crossed for us!

I just went to a lovely BBQ but was v abstemious and didn't drink. Am sure all my pals will think I'm already up the duff. Am also consoling myself with the thought of wine next weekend if the dreaded AF shows up on schedule.

Hello to seaside - thanks for your kind thoughts towards us post-ectopic, unitubed gals. Over - hope you feel a bit better today.

We had a niceish day at the beach today (even though we encountered three accidents on the way there and back) and DD did make me feel really happy for a bit, she let us have a lie in this morning and has been mostly lovely and funny all day, sometimes I do think do I really want to do the newborn thing all over again - then I saw a tiny baby at the beach and remembered how lovely it all is. Mostly.

Alyant we DTD on the Friday, I did have symptoms of ovulation but didn't get a positive OPK until Tuesday, then again Weds, which ties in with my cycle - so I don't think we would have anything but a tiny chance from that. We did try Sunday but DH (ahem) wasn't up to it...TMI but I think losing his job has really hit him for 6, he is very worried. I did sit down and work out that by really tightening our belts and only spending what is absolutely necessary we could get by on the money he was given for redundancy and my wages for 6months, we also have some savings - but he doesn't seem convinced still.

I am kind of the mind to wait another month or so, then try to persuade him to start TTC again.

Dearly You're right, The hope thing is a killer, even though I know there isn't a chance this month and I know that when I got pregnant the last two times I felt it practically straight away, sickness and sense of smell etc, but I still will be symptom spotting in a week or so, you betcha. Glad I am not alone...I am also an optimist. However trying my best to be a pessimist, as I just spend my life constantly disappointed. Pessimists probably get a nice surprise every so often, surely?!

Probably best I am not allowed out in polite company. So even though we are officially Not Trying can I stay?

of course you can stay missmakes!

Well my spotting appears to have stopped. I don't care right now though. Just got word that a friend has been missing since Saturday. She's tiny, and not always physically well and we don't have any details. Really not sure what to do!

Fingers crossed for badhair and saggy

AF got me this morning, but up until late last night I was still thinking 'perhaps that thermometer is faulty...'. Silly really, but hope has to be a good thing surely. And I'm sure I'd be gutted by the arrival of AF even if I had been more realistic of our chances. A little bit of optimism makes the 2ww less of drag, does it not miss makes? Maybe.

Any way, CD1 for me now. I might even get serious and give up the booze. What does everyone else do re. alcohol? Abstain all month, or just during the 2ww all the better to drown your sorrows when TRTOD arrives

Oh saggy, that is awful. I have been in a similar position and it is a terrible place to be. We were at the other end of the country and completely helpless really. (and in our case, the news, when it came, was not good )

All you can do l guess, is stick with your mobile in case she is trying to get in touch. Hope you get some good news soon.

Thank God. Friend has been found safe and well. -

Oh thank goodness saggy

Phew Saggy - and how awful about your friend DearlyD. On the booze front, it's one of the only things I actually do towards Project Desperate, other than pee on OP sticks (though DH still thinks I'm obsessed by it - he would flee to the hills if I suggested the syringe!). I drink during AF (something to look forward to/drown the pain) and then abstain the rest of the month. I know it's irrational, but after the ectopic a tiny bit of me thought 'was it the drinking?' - not that I drink a lot, or that it could have made much difference even if I did, but I just want to know I've done everything I could to encourage S to meet E, and my remaining sodding fallopian tube to shifts it's tiny arse and waft the thing in the right direction. I mean, it has one job, how hard can it be?!

What's TRTOD?!

Aly I knew what you meant, of course! Good luck with the next few days of SMEP - I'm going to do that next month...if we can.

missmakes so sorry to hear about your DH's job, what a blow. I hope he finds another one soon, it must be a real knock to the confidence. Know what you mean about pessimism - I feel like I've achieved it this month. But on the other hand, I keep thinking about athletes improving their performance through positive visualisation and belief - and we're baby-making athletes, so maybe it can help!

Urgh, sorry about the apostrophe in 'its'. Set my own teeth on edge!