We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

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A new thread for all you lovely, crazy ladies. Here's to lots of BFPs!

Ooh sal I LIKE your style girl.
Also saggy I like the final line of your hypothetical response too. So bitchy. love it.

Thanks dildoos. Think I'm going to wait until after my holiday to see gp, that gives me one and a half more cycles before trying anything different. 6 months post mc would take me to October but I'm in a fortunate enough position to afford at least one round of IVF privately if it came to it.

I know I can get pregnant, though there were no examinations into why I mc or if there's any damage down there I need to be aware of. I know these roads are long ones hence why I'm thinking I should start looking into it now and if there is a hefty nhs waiting list I'd rather get to the back of the queue now!

Bloody hell, why can't I just be one of those women who get knocked up after one shag like they do on telly!

The sad thing is, I used to be one of those women! I had 2dcs without even trying!

Sun- I often wonder how one night stands manage it, drug addicts, alcoholics, blinking parents that shouldn't be parents and loose there children into the fostering /adoption system. All seems mighty unfair
Holiday sounds like a good idea!!
Saggy - I guess you wonder more why now?
Oh please please please give us all a bfp this cycle! Xx

I was one of those women too. 1 DD without trying, 1 MC (also pg without trying), but now....

I'm suspicious that something in my body still isn't right after the mc.
My periods have been so light since. The fact that so many of the rest of you talk about super heavy AFs makes me wonder if something is still stuck in there???

When I got PG with DS I didn't even KNOW when I ov'd and only really thought to do a PG test when I was about 2 weeks late and suddenly realised I hadn't had my period in ages. Can you imagine!? Urgh those were the days

saggy have you been trying a long time for DC3 or is a recent thing? You don't have to answer btw I'm just being nosy!! Good luck with the 2WW, they are increasingly sending me stir crazy...

Sending positive vibes to all of you, this whole business is blinkin hard!

My work takes me to a lot of places where you see parents who really shouldn't be parents. I get both sad and very angry at the same time. Sad for the children who unjustly have those parents and also sad for me as I so badly want to have another. Angry with those parents for who they are and what they represent and angry with life for being so unfair.

Aly - how long ago was your mc? Mine too were really light afterwards, but very painful. Was petrified I had some sort of scarring or something stuck that wasn't letting the blood flow. 4 cycles on and it seems to be getting a bit back to normal - still not very heavy but more than it was.

There are so many people close to receiving my fist in their face when asking stupid questions like that receptionist / or those having an opinion on what they know nothing about. Shock tactics are sometimes the way forward I agree and mean I won't get arrested and charged for GBH.

I'm in the 2 ww as of tomorrow. God help me and those around me - crazy woman on the loose.

Ps I'm not really violent or that would put me in the same bad box as those parents who shouldn't be parents. But I'm sure you will all share my feelings when you get asked why you arent up the duff or told to relax or some other really wise and insightful tip.

We have been trying since the MC at the start of February. I got PG accidentally. My youngest is 14.

Well me and DH are getting into the shagging week. Typically I'm supposed to be going out 3 nights out of the 4 (this never happens at any other time of the month I swear). But I might sack one of the nights off, supposed to be going out with a group of 4 friends but one has pulled out meaning it would only be me, one of my best friends and a friend of hers who I really really don't like (she's a proper earth mother type and has just had her second - I imagine the labour went beautifully and she just sneezed and it came out), so I'm thinking of excuses for that one.

Hello everybody - may I please join you? I've been reading through all of your threads and you are so supportive of each other on this board and I could do with some of your positivity!

My story: am 37 with one DS who is 15 months old. He was conceived without trying after missing a pill with my then very new boyfriend. A huge shock, but the best thing that's ever happened to me. I then also conceived without trying back in October. In all honesty, I wasn't best pleased because found out just before we were due to fly to Melbourne to see my DP's family. Anyway, we had a scan and I was estimated to be 6 weeks pregnant and they saw a foetal sac but no foetal pole. 3 days after arriving in Oz I started to bleed heavily and assumed I was having a miscarriage. Four days after that I was in excruciating pain and nearly passed out. I was rushed into A and E on Christmas Eve where they found the pregnancy to be ectopic, my left tube had ruptured and was bleeding internally. Anyway, I lost the tube and the pregnancy and was told I was lucky to be alive. Did not feel bloody lucky though! Over - my heart goes out to you having just suffered an ectopic - horrendous experience, but it does get easier. Physically I have been absolutely fine after the laparoscopy - fingers crossed you will be too. Virtual hugs to you (((((. )))))

I've been trying desperately to get pregnant ever since and had a miscarriage at Easter. Since then.. nothing.... I too am horrendously fed up of people asking me if/when I'm going to have another child and could literally strangle the fools who say I just need 'to relax'. Anyway, I used ovulation sticks for the first time this month and ovulated over the weekend so am now in the dreaded 2ww. TTC has ruined my sex life - after shagging like crazy for the past week I now can't be bothered to do it outside the so-called 'fertile time'. Am hoping I'm a 'one tubed wonder' and this will be my lucky month but not holding out much hope to be honest cos think I ovved off my tubeless side. Such a waste! Am so happy for all the ladies who have got their BFPs already though - hope this is our lucky month!

Ah saggy so you got PG accidentally before MC and now you have to try hard, gah makes no sense does it! Hope you don't mind my long nose nosiness.

squiggly I clear my diary for shag week as we never manage it if we have a late night. That's pretty desperate behaviour isn't it!?

Hi badhairday sorry you find yourself here, sounds like you've had an awful time, I hope good BFP days are ahead.

Thanks for the welcome GuffSmuggler. Good name btw. My badhairday moniker comes from the fact that my once super curly hair has gone straight after the two pregnancy losses. Has this happened to anybody else? My hairdresser says it due to hormones and will come back again. It's v weird...

Welcome Badhairdays - really sorry you find yourself here for obvious reasons but welcome.

Aly - I had the same fear too - my AF's have been totally different since the mc, a lot more painful, although they are heavier rather than lighter,but I think it's just different for everyone. So long as they are coming on time and lasting as long as they should, I figured it must just be normal.

Clearly I'm having a very desperate day, I opened up a new packet of digestives and ate several! Had to fight myself to put them back in the cupboard, I wouldnt mind only I've been doing well with weight loss, 7lbs in just over 2 weeks. Hopefully feling fat will take my mind off feeling so broody. grrr

fedup my mmc was in feb. extra erpc in march to get rid of retained products. It's been 4 cycles since and a really light AF for all of them. The first one i assumed was light because i'd had a medical mc (with lots and lots and lots of bleeding due to something being stuck on my cervix - sorry tmi), followed by extra erpc so had been bleeding for pretty much 6 weeks of the previous 8. But they've all been the same since so that's obviously not the reason.

don't worry fedup I completely understand that rage!

welcome badhair what a horrific experience. What an awful christmas you must have had.

Not at all Guff.

BadHair - Thank you, it is reassuring to hear that physically you were okay. It's a week tomorrow since my Op and I am gradually becoming more mobile/less sore. So sorry you went through that awful experience too. Fingers crossed for a BFP for you soon. Just out of interest when did your hcg levels drop to normal/your cycles become 'normal' again? x

I do worry about my future fertility and how much my one tube is going to affect me. 3 months wait to Ttc again also seems like a lifetime. Wish I had a clock to fast forward time.

Good luck to everybody heading into the 2ww, and those still dtd!

Sorry to those who AF got

x

So AF arrived today. A bit of a surprise seeing as only 6 days ago I still had pregnancy hormones in my blood according to the hospital. And only 5 days ago I was ovulating according to my bbt. Truly a WTF cycle!

Hi Over , you poor thing. Yes, I can say that I recovered physically really quite quickly. The docs in Australia terrified me by saying I couldn't lift anything for 6 weeks so I arranged to have my mum down to stay to help me with my DS who was 9 months at the time, but I was fine after 10 days. I had a C Section after having my son and that was a million times worse to get better from.

And - I was told by the docs that I only needed to wait one cycle to TTC again. Standard advice is to wait three months, but different docs say different things. I had a blood test at 6 week's check up which i assume means no pregnancy hormones were left. Mind you, I miscarried after 3 months although I was reassured that it was just 'bad luck' and due to my being old(!) which I think it probably was. I stopped bleeding after the op on 1st Jan, then had my first AF on 2nd Feb. My periods have always been heavy and irregular, but they aren't any different than they were before. Have you looked on the Ectopic website today? There is some good news for us one-tubed gals. Wishing you a speedy recovery and lots of magic for all of us ttcers! X

Hi newbies. . Sorry u all find yourself here.
Well AF is over after 7 days and as its day 8 tomorrow we start the SMEP. I am tired even thinking about it. Though DP and I keep giggling about it. It's like our little secret that I share with u guys too.
My periods have been really horrible since last mc. Lots of spotting before and after and very big clots (tmi). Hoping it just because of mc and not my endometerosis misbehaving. Does anyone else have endo? I don't seem to have problem conceiving with it just mc. Anyway acunpuncture on thurs so hopefully that will help.
penguinta am sure you are glad AF is finally here and you can get on with the job in hand.

alyant are you doing SMEP this month? Need a buddy.
over. Natural to worry about having one tube but only take 1 egg to conceive so try not to worry. Did you ask how the other tube looked when they operated. I am sure they would have looked and you can ask at your check up.

badhair welcome. Sorry you are here but I must say the thing with your hair is so random! I hope you have ovulated from the working tube this month.

Penguin glad af has arrived - it's good to get that first af out the way. My cycle was very weird the first one. I don't think the body has a clue what it's doing. I too think I ov'd a day or so after first neg preg test and the af pretty soon after. Was weird! But was pleased to have af as felt like it was flushing all the other funny hormones out that I didn't need any more. If that makes sense!

aly to be honest, after that ordeal I'm not suprised they are a bit light... Two ops and all that bleeding may mean it will take some time to build up again. I'm no dr though so haven't a clue. If its worrying you though I would go see the dr. Although when I asked mine, she said "I think it's just you". Another really helpful dr response. I was explaining how everything was heightened since my mc and erpc. Like I had sore boobs and nausea for pmt and generally cramps from ovulation onwards til end of af. None if which I had before mc. Basically I have less than a week each month without cramps. She didnt seem bothered. Which in a way is a good thing but not in others as didnt give me any answers to what's going on!

ooh penguin that is a surprise. So how long did you have to wait for it to show up in the end?
Great that she's here, now you can get to it with gusto.

Not sure about SMEP missP. thinking about it. The alternative option is going for every second day over what i think is the critical week and a half (not entirely sure when i ov). Will see what our enthusiasm is like. I've already decided that if it doesn't work this month we'll just take it a bit easy for a couple of months and see if magically the "relax" method works. I want the fun to come back.

thanks for the ideas fedup. I guess i'll wait a couple more months and then if nothing has happened and they are still light i'll go back to the dr

missp You have to start SMEP on day 8 I don't think we've got the energy for that!

Some days it starts to feel better, but today I cried on the Metro (mortifying), not sobs, just eyes wouldn't stop running. Missing what we didn't get to have x