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FAO all BESH - SNF for those who frequently CBATM and occasionally SADAW after G&T. LOLs and BD will not be tolerated. IDs will WTP.

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CaptainMoll · 25/05/2013 22:34

AYBESAAH? DYHIDWAP? DBDMYV? CYLTEPPC? DYLG? TTITFFY!

Anyone who can correctly translate the above messages wins a baybee.

(Or at the very least, the respect of the BESH).

OP posts:
FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn · 21/06/2013 00:00
Bearfacedchic · 21/06/2013 00:11

You do Hest. We all do.

TWinklyLittleStar · 21/06/2013 05:41
Northey · 21/06/2013 05:47

What's fuelling the menkul?

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 21/06/2013 07:32

Morning hags!

Welcome to old newbie, TTC no2, what a forrin concept Wink

I have literally sat down on my bottom at home for the first time this week. Spent a few days away conferencing and other then that been presenting left right and centre. Last night I took the first DR-stab. Noone told me it would sting Shock and am now back for IVF-ing and recovering from the excessive amount of work. I did work from Sunday afternoon (prep-at-home, checked in) til last night at 8:30pm in a faraway town...

So the first activity of this morning is catching up, a little. I looked at the previous page and can report that I am very good at laundry and cooking but man-like shite at filing and tidying. Anything else I missed, except some name changing? I like it euro.

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 21/06/2013 07:33

Tips a bucket of slightly smelly shrimp over twink!

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn · 21/06/2013 08:14

God, did anyone hear Vanessa on Radio 2 this morning? Her daughter got married 17 weeks ago - she's just had her 12 week scan . Bloody instadiffers are everywhere.

10 dpo here. My first cycle on OI had a luteal phase of 12 days and my second one (with the suspected CP) got to 18 days before droid showed up. Average is 15 days for other cycles, so I shall commence even more menkulling after the weekend.

evilgiraffe · 21/06/2013 08:24

None of that menkul nonsense required, eh?

HesterShaw · 21/06/2013 09:33

Thanks hags. However, I am actually woofling rather than between treatments. It was a couple of large glasses of white wine and a lager. I know that's not loads but I was told to "be sensible" and have no more than 2-3 units in a week. I'm not into self flagellation, but I've been very week. I know I've had a lot in the last few years months, but really should have been stronger than that :(.

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn · 21/06/2013 10:09

Alesha Dixon is diffed.

TWinklyLittleStar · 21/06/2013 10:26

I am going to give her a pass, because her ex cheated on her with her mate when (I think) she was pregnant last time.

hest don't beat yourself up love. Plenty worse things you could do.

frank nothing useful to say except roll on Monday for a proper menkul.

My menkul is coming from exceptionally large painful breasts (bad PMT), feeling sick to my stomach this morning (upset stomach), bleeding gums (thanks very much whoever posted that as an early sign) and that odd tugging feeling that I had in my womble region (overactive imagination or indigestion).

TWinklyLittleStar · 21/06/2013 10:27

Oh and thanks for all the fish :)

eurozammo · 21/06/2013 10:45

bear I can mostly organise my own time, so it hasn't been too difficult. I've had the scans and blood test in the mornings before work, meaning I have just been a bit late in. I'm not sure anyone who matters noticed. Last time, for EC, I told work I was having a medical procedure (I didn't feel they needed to know the details) and took that day as sick leave. I had ET in a long lunch break. This time EC falls on a weekend and I will do the long lunch break or maybe work from home for ET day.

I missed drunky hest, dammit. Don't beat yourself up love. You are not exactly downing a bottle of voddie a night. I shared a bottle of prosecco with my bestie when she was sure her FET wasn't going to work. She had perfectly healthy id twins from that FET. My instadiffer friend was on holiday during her 2ww and got absolutely trollied one night. I'm going for a glass of wine tonight. I fecking need it.

Can I have a moan?

TWinklyLittleStar · 21/06/2013 10:50

That's crap of your friends and parents euro. I don't blame you for feeling down about that. What's your parents' problem with the ivf?

eurozammo · 21/06/2013 10:52

My mum doesn't agree with it and I think my dad is still in denial that I have reached puberty. (I'm 37, btw.)

HesterShaw · 21/06/2013 10:58

Ah Euro, what a load of arse. Sorry to hear that. It's a very fine line to tread with parents isn't it? Some of them can't deal with it because it means their children are indeed having sex, and having lots of sex in order to try and win a baby. Some people for some reason find infertility embarrassing :(. And others like my mother are determinedly bright and breezy and "nothing is embarrassing and I'm going to tell everyone about my colonoscopy, my stoma, and my recent mammogram whether they want to hear it or not" and they can't understand why anyone would find anything awkward.

Are your parents religious? What's your mum's objection?

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn · 21/06/2013 11:04

I like Alesha too really. I thought part of the issue with her husband's affai was that he got OW pregnant, despite telling Alesha he didn't want kids yet? I might be making that up!

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn · 21/06/2013 11:07

Sorry Euro, I hadn't refreshed the page when I posted my last comment.

Sorry about your friends and parents. It is rubbish when the people you rightly expect to support you fail to step up.

It's not much comfort, but you have a delinquent band of Hags to hold your hand and stroke your hair whenever you need it.

evilgiraffe · 21/06/2013 11:39

euro :( I have nothing helpful to add, but can echo frank's sentiments.

JethroTull · 21/06/2013 12:18

Ah Euro people have odd reactions to IVF don't they. I told anyone who would listen ( Hest you would find me really annoying!) but some people just don't want to know that some people just don't get diffed at the drop of a hat. I found that often the people that I thought would be there for me the most were the ones that distanced themselves from me but on the plus side I've made some really good friends, on here & in RL, as a result of all the shit.

TWinklyLittleStar · 21/06/2013 17:29

frank you are right about Alesha and I am just making stuff up. I could have sworn she had a child but it was the child of my imagination. He's still an utter ballbag though.

RaspberrySnowCone · 21/06/2013 18:25

Oh Euro, some people can be shit about things. Disappointed that your friends have let you down and even more so your parents. What in particular are your parents against? At the end of the day it's a medical procedure, nothing more evil than that!

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 21/06/2013 20:54

So sorry your support network is not doing its job euro. GRRR about the ivf-friends, who should know better I'd love some myself, but I just have the failed one as far as I know. I am just appalled by your parents. It is you, their daughter, going through something you hate to get something you don't just want, but desperately long for. That requires support. And love. And tea cooked for you on demand. And distance when you need it. Etc. Etc. GRRRR. What can we do for you? If you fancy post-cards and cheer up parcels, PM me and I can see what I can do :)

On other news DR-ing makes my head hurt but does NOT make me suicidal yet one stab down, only 27 to go

Nokkie73 · 21/06/2013 22:35

Hello gorgeous fish fiends

Scan was all ok. I got dildocammed FOUR TIMES ( I shit you not - I was really chuffed) because the sonographer couldn't see all she needed to and the nipper was being badly behaved and sodding about. To top it all, even DP blurted out 'oh you can see so much more with the dildocam'. Fucking potty mouthed blabbergob.

zammo your friends are being shabby. I have to say, throughout my barren years and ivf, some of those who I expected to be right by my side were nowhere to be fucking seen. One of my so called best mates knew exactly what treatment I was having and when, because I told her. I had no contact for weeks until she texted on the 2ww and made a joke about whether or not i was still on the menopause drugs. That made me feel utterly shit and like what I was going to meant nothing to her. Doubly galling when other mutual friends inconsequential goings on were very important to her. She also was quite negative when I said I was finally having ivf. To be honest, I felt like I had become dinner party conversation and the troublesome friend who cried a lot. I only fucking cried at the sheer frustration of trying to explain how I felt to people who weren't bloody listening.

You have us lot. We think you're fab and we're willing you on to get your bfp. Have a fucking bear hug and a posh prawn cocktail of comfort.

Hello to everyone else.

Norks x

eurozammo · 21/06/2013 22:47

They're not religious at all hest. They just read the Daily Mail, in a non-ironic way.

At times like this, I'm very grateful for the online support.

drizz let us know when we need to come round and remove all sharp objects from your reach.

noks I'm glad the scan was ok. Does it look like a baby now?