I get knocked down, but I'll get knocked up again, cos you're never gonna keep me down... The big fat posifrickintivity thread for people TTC after MC.

[SaggyOldClothCatPuss]

I thought I'd start the new thread and earn some brownie points with the posifrickintivity Gods...

oh saggy I'm sorry that's so shit on all counts Lurk away we don't mind you joining when you need to, it can send you a bit crazy this whole business. Hope work isn't too hard today and helps take your mind off things.

vix there's a link near the top of the page for mumsnet acronyms, it really helped me when I joined as there are so many!

Welcome missmake hopefully you'll get a BFP this month and will be gone soon (in the nicest way )

I've got a third day of flashing smiling (high fertility) on my sticks today, I really really hope I ovulate tomorrow and get peak fertility as that means at least another 3 days of consecutive DTD and I will think we're going to struggle. Arrrggghhhh!!

Is anyone else only DTD during shagweek? We just haven't got the energy the rest of the time and are thankful for some time off but then it's 'right go go go!!' and go from nothing to everyday! It's just all so weird and I really hate it

Morning peeps

Hope you're resting up mummy

So sorry saggy that not better news for you this month. Really is such an emotional rollercoaster!

My AF arrived with a vengeance yesterday. Exactly 1 month since ERPC. I was expecting it to be heavy but this is ridiculous. MIL has new light blue sofas and I had to sit on a bag! How embarassing.

Welcome missmakes sorry you're here - hope things work out for you very soon.
Really sorry your cycles are misbehaving saggy that's rubbish.
mummy hope you're resting up & not feeling too bad although I remember feeling so much more down after my erpc as there wasn't all the hospital goings on to distract from what had happened. Thinking of you.
Pretty fuming with my MIL who asked DH this weekend if I am pregnant! She knows all about the MMC which was exactly just 2 months ago. Apparently she wants to know so they can plan holidays but they never plan more than a few mth ahead. I just think it's really insensitive & surely it's up to us to tell her if it happens when we are ready to.
Am I being oversensitive here?

Hope all having gd weekends. I may have to break rules & poas later on or tomorrow morning as still no sign of AF. Preparing myself for fish slapping!

Well I caved & poas. BFP the IC line was pretty faint so tried a digi too. Told DH the 1-2 was an indication as to how many embryos - brief look of horror before he realised.
Not really sure how I'm feeling. Obv over the moon to have a BFP again so fast - 4 months to the day after my last one. But scared about whether we're just gearing up for more heartbreak. Just have to take it a day at a time & might try & have an early scan. (if we get that far).

Hope you don't mind if I linger here for a while as it sinks in & hopefully see lots more BFPs.
Sorry for breaking the Friday poas rule but couldn't wait!

Welcome missmakes!

Congrats alicebear! Thats really fab news!

Hooray for Alice!!!

Well done and huge congrats alice x

Congratulations alicebear!

Yey alicebear....think positive x

alicebear congrats. Great news
saggy. Hope your ok. That's crap about letter from gp. I would fish slap the gp for that.
missmaje welcome - can take a while for your cycle to settle after mc. Some people click straight away and others takes months. Sorry you find yourself her but you will get lots of support.

I have forgotton. Who is testing 21 (or before for a fish slap). My symptom watching has begun. 5ulcers which in fairness might mean I have caught hand foot mouth from my DD ( she is so good to me!!!!). I ly on 3-4 dpo. Twinges and heavy feeling in pelvis that might mean early AF

vix. Just wanted to thank you for your honest post. It really touched me. I generally tend to be a bit of a cold fish rather than talk about my feelings. Alot of the things you said I too experienced. It was a private moment when I passed my baby in sac. You could make out the features. My DP was at work and he didn't want to look. I understand why but I suppose now I have no one to share that with. He did take it to the hospital and handed it over to a lady ( when he came back he said he hoped she worked there, I was like dear god are you mad???). It's a northern Irish thing to have humor at the most inappropriate times it's away of protecting yourself prehaps.

I won't forget my little blob but it is time to move on. I often think my body is doing its job ending pregnancies that would not be good so at least something is working.

Congratulations Alice!!!

Just got a positive on my cheapie OPK, how long do I need to keep DTD for now until it gets to just being for fun? Only ever used them once (the month I fell pregnant) and didn't really pay much attention, I only used them that time to make sure I was ovulating! It's much earlier than I expected, CD13 today whereas last time I didn't get a positive until CD17 (of a 27 day cycle).

rock. Next 3 days in a rowthen hAve a day off and then once more just in case you ovulate late. Have fun. I am just recovering.

Rock - what miss said. Good luck, fingers crossed. It's exhausting.

So, it looks as if I will be poas next Friday! Anyone joining me?
6DPO here, but appear to have ovulated really late this cycle, on CD18, which is very unusual for me. Hoping that it's just a one-off, and not a sign of something else...

Congratulations alicebear! Fab news. (And I think your MIL should stop being so nosy, honestly, give it some time at least! )

Hope everyone had nice weekends.

saggy your GP needs a good talking to.

Can I ask for some advice? My temp chart is seriously all over the shop and I'm beginning to get a bit worried about it. One random high temp I think was because of drinking quite a bit the night before, and the rest maybe a combination of being a bit ill (cold/sore throat, nothing major) and erratic temp taking because I keep waking up at different times. But am beginning to worry I'm not ovulating at all - also my cm seems to go from watery to creamy and back again and I don't know how much of this is due to DTD and how much is actual cm! Sorry for tmi. I'm carrying on temping - think I'll try not to drink at all (or almost not at all) and keep trying to be more consistent with temp taking - but anxious that ovulation is nowhere in sight. I'm 31 so presumably it's not menopausal...has anyone else had similar worries? Or really long waits for ovulation after mmc? This is cycle 1 for me, and I'm on cd20.

jbrd I'm 8dpo today. I don't know if I'll POAS though. But at least my bbt has dipped yet this cycle. Last one, my bbt dropped below the coverline at 7dpo and that got me really worried about my luteal phase. I just pray I can make it till 10dpo this time.

alice huge congrats. All the best you'll have a sticky bean this time.

rockchick the LH surge is usually 12-48 hours before ovulation. Your egg lives about 12-24 hours. So your fertility window is only up to one day after the surge disappears. But you need to keep doing it as often as humanly possible until that OPK positive disappears. It's your peak fertility window now. (Sperms live 3-5 days, so you are more fertile before, and not after ovulation). HTH.

I mean my bbt hasn't dipped below coverline yet at 8dpo.

i'll be POAS next fri (21st) if AF doesn't come first. I think she will. missP i'm also getting funny feelings in my pelvis which i think are signs of AF rather than anything else. Think i'm about 3 or 4 dpo (CD18).
Not feeling very hopeful for this cycle. Was so convinced that last cycle was going to be "the one", but since it wasn't I'm now convinced that it's going to take months and months.

aliceb woohoo!!!!!!

tomkat i'm sorry that AF arrived but I had to laugh about the bag on the sofa

guff did you finally get the peak smiley today? I hope so, you must be getting shagged out! We pretty much only dtd during shag week. maybe one other time if we're lucky. I also hate the stress of it and am going to try and take it easy next cycel (i say that now.... but i'll probably go mad again)

Thanks all, we DTD last night and will try SMEP over the next few days :)

Birds have you had AF since miscarriage? If not I know that it can be a bit of a WTF at first, could that be why? If not, what day of your cycle are you on?

birds i'm sorry i know nothing about temping, never done it

rockchick i see you know about the SMEP. It matches with what I say. I think it asks you to do it one last time two days after ovulation or something. It's a very aggressive plan though. To maximise sperm coverage. Good luck on it!

birds do you have a proper bbt thermometer? Is your period very regular normally? My bbt were all over the place until I got a proper bbt thermometer. Then it's very much text book, with about 36.2C before ovulation, and 36.4C after.

Yes I do have a bbt thermometer - but no my periods aren't that regular normally - range between 35-40 days. So it's completely possible that I ovulate really late as a matter of course and all this weirdness with my temps is just because of funny sleep patterns and other factors. (Less optimistically maybe I'm not ovulating at all and everything I think is a period is actually an anovulatory bleed! Although obvs I must have ov'd at least once to get pg...)

rockchick I've had one AF since my erpc so this is first 'proper' cycle, and the first that I've charted (ever).