The Elderberry Pavlovas, sausage bouquets, one giant sofa and the Gü pots of destiny! (thread 9)

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Come on ladies, this is the one! Time for some BFPs!

The smallprint- Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, must have a special pot, NO instadiffers)

Morning all,

Currently up in Yorkshire visiting the old folks but thought I'd pop on to say hi to you all.

DH swimmers results saga still continues. Hospital have apparently now faxed results to doctors two days ago and they have not received them. DH and I are hopping mad as we have no idea what to do next. Why can't they email the bl00dy results to them?

Welcome scone to the mad house!

bunny hope you're feeling better?
thunder nice to see you again. Feeling a little bit calmer?
boom good luck with the dildocam this afternoon. Hope all goes well

barking I do not blame you in the slightest for turning to alcohol in that situation. I'm off to a cottage with a load of DH's friends and all their children next month and I'm already dreading it. Alcohol is the only way to survive me thinks!

Hello cherry Glad to hear things are moving relatively quickly for you.

hi all. currently waiting for dh to get out of the bathroom so I can get ready to go out... we are going to Ipswich tonight to seen a dance group Prodijig. dog staying with my mum and we are staying with a second cousin I haven't seen much of since I was little - really looking forward to it!

boom it might be me you are thinking of. My appointment is a month from today.

Aaah Tally maybe that's it...I was sure someone said 'fc on Saturday' this week but might have just dreamt it! Hope you have a lovely time tonight, sounds fab!

Yorkie good choice of county to hail from

Cherry thanks! I'm not worried about the actual appointment, this will be my..er..fourth appointment with said dildocam. Just hoping it finds whatever it is it needs to find this time to get this show on the road! Anyone want to take bets on which way round my uterus is today? (It likes to change position apparently. Weird).

Ah hi girls, good to see you all. Yeah I have got a bit more inner calm even though I'm outwardly a nightmare at the mo so I think I'll still be on here a bit less but will check in every now and then. Just trying to fill up my time with other distractions.

cherry im so impressed with you maintaining that diet. It's great that things are bowling along in terms of next steps too.

barking well done with both drinking the wine in the difficult evening, and then recovering from that evil hangover.

tally ooh that sounds fun- have a great night!

yorkie WTactualF? That is absolutely shocking. I'd be hopping too, and asking about their formal complaints procedure.

cherry sooooo pleased to see you. Was thinking of you this week, wondering how you were doing. So pleased diet is having a good effect. Am working up to eliminating too. Bloody awkward though! We're going t a couple of weddings next month, so it'll be very difficult, but I can do my best in the meantime. I've been readin up and am convinced that dietary changes will help with the pcos that I strongly suspect I have. It also sounds very positive about IVF options on the nhs. Im sending loads of good thoughts. Totally understand about the zen and not logging on. Do check in when you feel you can.
Good luck boom. Hope they find 'strings of pearls' of cysts and that you get a diagnosis.

Hello scone! Sounds as though you have my dream job! I'd love to run a cafe and make cakes. A few of us are teachers - people with good appetite for cake in my experience.
barking good on you for getting some sleep. Glad you've got the cottage to yourself and can escape. Don't feel bad for doing that as much as you both need. It's hard work being with other peoples' kids socially. Not so bad teaching them, I find....oddly.
blind hope you're enjoying the hols and got something nice organised for oh bday.
I have considered not logging on in the interest of reducing obsession, but I'd miss the support too much at this point. Thank you, berries. You are great!

Ps Yorkie for some reason my skim-reading meant I missed your ongoing sperm-chasing saga. Shocking! although I'm not surprised Can you storm the hospital? Or alternatively go to the doctor and demand that they phone the hospital while you're there and request urgent repeat fax? How long has it been now?? Agree with thunder, time for a complaint!

thunder thanks for the zen!

Right, off to drink lots of tea. Nothing like having your full bladder pummelled of a Saturday afternoon!

fair enough thunder if you think being on here less would help but don't forgot to check in every now and then. When is your next review on your levels?

Yep I am furious . They have a 3 day agreement with the docs to return results and it has now been a week and a half. I really don't know what to do as I don't want to piss the docs/fc off and it have any impact on how quickly we get referred etc. but I am so annoyed that I wish I could shout at them!

boom yep I'm a v proud yorkshire lady and love coming back up here to visit! I'm assuming you still live here?

okay any advice on how to deal with akward questions from nosy friends? I'm off out for a birthday meal for my friend in a few hours and last time I saw them all one of my male friends kept on making remarks about me ttc and how it will be my turn soon. As you can imagine him and his missus have just had a child no problem. Anyway, the nosy git is bound to ask me again today esp. as I'm not drinking at the moment and I'd love to come out with some great comment in response! Any idea?

Yeah yorkie I'll be back in the next day or so no doubt. And I'm here now eh?! No offence to you my lovely friends as I miss keeping up when I'm away but just not having MN on speed dial does mean I can distract myself for longer.

Next levels check is mid-June. I expect they will be good by then seeing as I'm now in the 'normal' range and have had a 50% increase in meds. Full steam ahead for a summer bfp!

yorkie re insensitive comments, I would be tempted to find a way of alluding to the truth without sounding angry. Like -you should be a bit more sensitive with comments like that, you don't know who might be struggling or suffering from miscarriages.....

boom are you making ? Yes please!

Morning Afternoon all!

Hi Scone - I've joined this thread recently too. Everyone so welcoming - thank you Berries. I chart in F and it gives me pre O temps below 98 and post O above 98 which I find clear on the chart. But it's harder to buy the F thermometres in the UK I think. Probably you get used to whichever one you go for. I'm in the dark ages and temp on paper, which isn't good if you want to share charts online of course...

Hi Cherry too. I've got a close friend who had situation like yours a couple of years ago, so I have an idea of how tough it is, but also saw her deal with it well despite the inevitable ups and downs, and it sounds like you are doing that too. I'm just about to start Clomid (I hope) and haven't had ovarian reserve, but I'm 38 so am wondering if I should ask for one.

Boom it's me with the FC appointment today, thanks for the good wishes. So Barking I'll ask all about Clomid dates obviously and report back. Not surprised you had 3 , I probably would have had twice that! Glad you've managed to sleep it off though.

Berries do you cut down alcohol to 1 occasional glass throughout cycle or just post O? Reading how good you all are is making me worry I'm not doing my body any favours!!

Boom good luck with the dildocam, hope they find out what they need to this time!

Good luck today goosey

sorry posted too soon and then computer crashed.

Meant to say thanks thunder for your suggestions and loving your positivity - bring on your summer bfp!

Thanks Yorkie. Can't believe the admin nightmare you're having - seriously, have they not even told you the results over the phone given the ridiculous delay getting them to the GP? Agree re email, surely its all on the system anyway, why the need for faxes?!

Well berries, back from my date with dildocam and feeling a bit rubbish. Apparently I have one normal looking ovary and one that's very oversized (21.7cm sq where under 10 cm sq is normal) with lots of follicles but not 'typically' pearl-necklace in appearance. And I also have a bicornuate uterus, which nobody has ever found before despite several scans - the sonographer had to go and get one of her colleagues for a second opinion and said it was pretty rare.

I'm a bit thrown really, I went in there hoping they'd find PCOS and came out with a 'maybe' for the pcos but also a totally new thing to worry about. I know bicornuate uterus isn't a definite fertility issue but Dr Google says it could increase my risk of another mc and my ability to carry a baby to term if I do get diffed (apparently increased risk of cervical incompetence and early labour). Got to wait until June 21 to discuss any of this with a real doc so will probably drive myself mental in the meantime.

Thank god we're going out with some childless friends for dinner and wine tonight!

Anyway. Will stop grumping now.

Yorkie yep, I'm still here - tried to move to London but my Yorkshire genes weren't having it so here I am again..

With the awkward comments, to be honest I just go for 'we're trying and it isn't happening'. I don't really do pussyfooting around! Maybe something along the lines of 'just because you did, not everybody has babies straight away even if they want to'? Or is that still a bit harsh?

Let us know how today goes Goosey!

And hello charming!

boom so sorry to hear about you about your frustrating appt. Did they give you any suggestion of what your enlarged ovary might mean?

I think you need to step away from dr google or you will drive yourself mad. I've heard before with a bicornuate uterus they will monitor you during 2nd trimester, put a stitch in the opening to your cervix to minimise the risk if necessary and deliver the baby through cesarean if need be. These are all options for managing if there were any possible risks. If you wanted to why don't you ask on mumsnet about any other women who have been pregnant with a bicornuate uterus rather than scaring yourself silly on google? I know I would be the same in your situation but just trying to be your voice of reason.

P.s enjoyed the non pussy footing around suggestion to awkward ttc questions boom Good Yorkshire woman response!

Boom, someone started a thread on bicornate uteruses/uteri here the other day. I remember because I hadn't actually heard of it before!

Hi Scone - I didn't acknolwedge you last night when I logged on to hat-tip Cherry, very rude of me, sorry! (And welcome!)

Goose - I hope FC appointment has gone OK. I'm back to counting down the days to my next one - it seems so far away at the moment.

Thanks Yorkie, I needed smacking away from Google! To be fair, I've looked after women with heartshaped uterus..es before and know they can have no problems - just upsetting to find something 'else' not as it should be if you know what I mean! Had my little self-indulgent weep and back on track again.

Boodle that's great, I'll have a wee squizz at it!

Oh ps yorkie enlarged ovaries can be a sign of pcos, although it's only one-sided so I'm not sure what it means! Will have to wait until consultant appt to find out...!

Quick visit while its quiet downstairs. Waves to everyone, hands out scones and runs out again.

scone the ff ap is loads easier as you can jyst grab your phone from your bedside when you've temped rather than log on.

bunny went to get some cash and guess what was displayed right in the middle of the screen? Yup, another baby bump even on an atm screen!!!

Bad food night!!! Ordered crab but they didn't have any shell breakers. Ordered fries so got rice. Sent it back, so got more rice. Finally got chips but they were horrible. Ordered a lime juice but couldn't drink it because they'd put salt in it!!!!

Hellooooo, been busy busy busy, so much to catch up on!

Yep I think I should avoid Facebook and all the baby announcements/photos but it's tough, it's an addiction lol

Welcome to the gang scone

Good to see you cherry hope you are doing well, still keeping my fingers crossed for you!

barking how's your hangover? I think that situation would drive most berries to drink!

boom sorry dildocam was confusing

yorkie I'm feeling much better today thanks, finished work yesterday for a week and half so that's made me feel a lot better lol. Sorry to hear your results saga is ongoing, my hubby still hasn't booked himself in for third attempt grrrrrr

kitty those blooming babies are everywhere!!!

Talking of babies, my colleagues wife is about to give birth so I can't escape it at work and tonight I will be seeing my friend due with number 4, think this may drive me to drink and if she says something insensitive I may just lunch her!

Goosey hope your apt goes well today. Let us know how you get on.

Boom your apt sounds like you got a lot of info to take in. Hopefully when you see the doc in June he has lots of positive steps forward.

scone hi [waves and dives on a scone, yum]

Well AF arrived today which means I had a luteal phase of around 10 days which I take it means I'm in the short camp. I'm going to go back to the doctor but try someone else (after my own doctor made me feel like I was 21, had tried to conceive for like a month and was wasting her time) I'm 38 ffs!! Anyway on the positive side I'm going to have a big glass of wine tonight & eat nuts I'm also out with work colleagues next weekend so I can go mad and have a few drinks then too!
Am off to read my new Mindfulness book and become totally chilled.

Wow, so much to catch up on!! Thanks to everyone who has said they understand this weekend being difficult, I was feeling like I was being silly, as you say cats I deal with kids all day every day and it isn't this difficult, but when it's all the couples talking about their children and you are the only childless couple (I hate that word) it irks.

yorkie I'd also go for the blunt approach. I've also done the 'we are trying but it isn't happening' but that doesn't always shut people up, they then try and be 'helpful' like suggesting that we should try having sex every other way through the month as you don't necessarily know when you're ovulating. Thanks, actually you'd be surprised how much I can tell you about my cycle. Or the sympathy 'it took us 4 months, it will happen when it's right you just need to be patient'
I'd now tend to go with the 'be careful asking things like that when you don't know what could be happening' as you can make it not necessarily about yourself.

Hey all, just back from hols, not yet caught up. Everyone ok? I'm in the 2ww with nothing to wait for as epic
failure on the sex at the right time front this month