The Elderberry Pavlovas, sausage bouquets, one giant sofa and the Gü pots of destiny! (thread 9)

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Come on ladies, this is the one! Time for some BFPs!

The smallprint- Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, must have a special pot, NO instadiffers)

charming and goose he had told me that the schedule revamp was ongoing, so I gave him the dates of ov weekend and asked him to make sure it wasn't traded away. He didn't bother to mention that he already had. What pisses me off is that he swore he'd take charge of this cycle, and the first thing he does is not bother to even ask when the 'good' dates were, much less bother to tell me that he'd already traded that weekend away, after I specifically told him the dates. So the fallout is that I'll be on SM duty rather than try to be in relaxed mode for shag week, and why? So that his ex wife can go on holiday. He gets credit for being flexible, and I get my peaceful shag weekend taken away. It is shit.

Thunder you must be feeling so much better physically since they got your TSH levels down, right? Progress! Thanks for letting me know that .75 is alright. My GP isn't that helpful.

Merkin I wish I could help, but I can't; I've never got that great at reading ICs. Last month's lines were fainter than the previous, not sure why.

Goose I think your friend is being really childish. When someone gently tells you you've hurt their feelings, the right response is never to lash out at them. Is staying away from her for a while an option?

Sid being a SM is so hard & only other SMs really ever get it. I'm lucky that we only have SS for half of the weekend & half the week but he's still the source of many of our arguments. It's noticeable on my charts that we don't DTD as much when he's around & it's nothing to do with bedtime or noise or anything like that just friction. I totally feel your pain that you feel that his current family is sabotaging your chances of your future one & it causes you to doubt his commitment to another child.

Oh sid, that is shit. I can really understand why you feel frustrated, well as much as possible without having that situation myself. Useless man, if be livid.

Tbh I've not had any symptoms with the thyroid problem, so it's just numbers to me.

Does anyone else here relish a good cry occasionally? DH is out and so I'm watching weepies and it's so cathartic letting it all out for once!

I love a good cry. Have been feeling overdue for one.
sid totally understand your anger. Has he tried to explain or apologise yet? So sorry about this new dimension to your situation.

Caved and looked on fb. Greeted by three new borns. All ones I was aware of, though. Two are from the same circle and there are pics of another childless friend with both babies and someone has posted 'when are you having one?'. Dear god! Logged off.

just a little jealous honest! Not as jealous as I was if the lemurs today though lol

boom I am so amazed at your ability to just deactivate your fb account, amazing!!
frog I believe that animal attentiveness can be a big sign of pg, so I'm even more certain the ICS are not lying. sounds very good
As for witchy hair, I don't have pcos but I have been tweezing hair from my chin and cheeks since I was a teen. Probably half the reason it's so bad now is that I started doing it so early but I can't stop now, it would look SO bad if I did!

tally have you tried laser therapy? I had erm another bodily area done and its fab. Need another go as there are some hairs there now but no where near as much as before. X

Sending hugs to Syd. Tbf you must b a special person to cope with a sc the rest of the time. It's not surprising that it winds you up every now and again! X

Oh and goosey, my cat says she's free to go and vom on your friends carpet anytime

In fact, anyone that' upsets us from now on gets the cat vom!!!!

Happy Sunday berries! I'm lying in bed hoping the croissant fairy AKA DH is going to arrive bearing decaf coffee and pastries... Probably won't happen but you never know.

kitty excellent, loyal pet you have there! I'd like to offer my dog's bum-to-carpet scooting services to perfectly complement the vom!

sid can understand your frustration. I don't know if I could be a big enough person to be a SM, can only imagine how much harder it must make everything ttc-related. Your DH is a dingus to not think these things through, hugs x

Thunder I do love a good cry! Although can't watch weepies mid-afternoon or I look like I've been lunched in both eye for the rest of the day!

just another thing to add to the list of things I can afford kitty I'd love to get it sorted!

and good morning everyone. enjoyi.g the sun eating breakfast before whirlwind cleaning for lunch BBQ. fog is unconscious in the sun

aaaaaah! dog not fog.

cd1 again here as predicted!
2 days early in a stupidly short 22 day cycle! one more go til our next fertility appointment in June.

Sorry she got you puppy. At least June is creeping a bit closer. When's your appt? Mine is 21st..

Oh so sorry puppy I have been desperately willing another berry to share the good luck this cycle. Who's next to pimp?

charming it's like FB makes people lose all sensitivity. I once posted a pic of me with my friends baby & someone commented 'suits you' underneath. I wasn't TTC at the time but was single & thinking I was never going to meet anyone with whom id ever have babies so it still had the same effect as if I had been.

Hi Guys, hope you dont mind but I have been reading on here in bits and pieces, felt strange not to come on your page anymore when I wanted to see how you were all going.
Frog massive congrats- can come have a look here if you like -www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1721178-Pregnant-IVF-Worriers, for those whose journey has not been easy. I was realy lost for bit and they have helped.
last couple of weeks have beena right mix of poorlyness, panicing and even a really bad feint yesterday while I was out. but still ok I think. Should be amazingly happy and greatful but am just a nervous wreck alot of the time.
You have all been up to soo much since I was last on here I wont really comment, but just to say thanks for all your support

Also someone posted that after years of trying they tried this!!
(brace yourself):

1. got DH to jizz in a mooncup
2. added egg white (actual egg white)
3. microwaved it on a low heat
4. inserted it while sat on the loo
5. masturbated so her cervix would drop down and 'pick it all up' Put her BFP down to this -definatley the stragest thing I ever heard

Hello and congrats on your bfp. WTF! That is one of the craziest things I've ever read. Where on earth did she get the idea from?!

Foody nice to hear from you! That is mental. I'm not sure I'd want to get pregnant with an irradiated sperm omelette, surely you're asking for mutant DNA! However, watch this space, if I'm not knocked up in a year or so....

Thanks for your support, ladies. DH and I have had a long and frank talk and he's said he was completely in the wrong and has no excuse for not being up front about it. He's had a pattern of this sort of thing but something this time seems to have clicked with him. He hadn't thought of TTC in terms of a swap, but figured we still DTD when the kids are here so it wouldn't be that big a deal. Frog yes SM stuff is hard to explain w/o sounding like the kids are the problem - in my case they aren't, it's feeling like I'm the 'second wife'. The kids can be exhausting and yes I'd prefer to have DH to myself during that time of the month, but I can't abide by feeling like another woman has his ear more than I do. DH seems to get it this time and says it won't happen again. For everyone's sake I hope he means it.

Mooncup seems to be working out alright, although I did panic the first time I tried to take it out. It seems to form quite a tight seal up there, and I wondered if I do have some sort of undiagnosed tube blockage, if the mooncup suction would be enough to dislodge it!

For those of you who've been referred to a FC, how long was it between your GP requesting the referral and the FC assigning an appointment? DH & I've decided to request a ref after our 12th cycle (#11 just started), thinking it'll take a couple of months to be seen, possibly resulting in us being told to go private at that point, since he has kids & we won't qualify for NHS IVF. Previous GP said to come back at 14cycle mark; IMO it might be 14 cycles before a FC sees us anyway so why wait 2 extra mos for a referral?

Boom did the croissant fairy show up?

I'm so glad you & DH had a good chat sid. I get the second wife thing totally. The being mistaken for SS's mum still stings a bit for me too when TTC. I almost lunched DP the other day when he said he needed to tell the ex about the baby as soon as we were telling people but then he clarified that it was to tell SS at the same time.

The mooncup does get easier honest! I thought I was never going to get it out the first time!

As for the mooncup special omelette . Surely the microwave would kill swimmers?!

Thanks for the link foody I'll check you all out when I actually feel like it is happening. I just don't feel pg right now & feel AF is just going to turn up as usual. Tho I spent ages in Tesco looking longingly at red wine & soft cheeses.

I know how you feel frog i still feel like a bit of a fraud sometimes. good luck x x

Re mooncup omelette, aren't sperm proteins? Proteins denature (ie change shape) with heat rendering them useless.

Re mooncups in general, just how high do they sit?

Well there ain't much sun here in Thailand! :-( hoping for a better day tomorrow

having a grrrrrr moment, so pissed off at myself for missing last months reflexology appointment and wrecking my cycle! Looking at dates I will be OVing around Friday, if only it was 2/3 days earlier like it should have been and then all these weekend shags would be in with a chance! I bet that this week my DH will be too stressed/tired/achey and his mojo will leave the building

Rant over!

Hope your weekends are sunny too!

P.s. cooking sperm with egg is just creepy!!!