The Elderberry Pavlovas who occasionally sausage wang – a fabulous thread for 30+ ladies TTC #1 (Thread 8)

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Just popping in to say hello! Nowt much else to say!

Everything is crossed merkin!

hello from me also! not much going on here.

Merkin what OPK brand did you get this time? I'm CD9 today so starting to use my ICs, and hoping this month I read them properly instead of waiting for a super dark line for pos like the packet said.

SportsDirect has got to be the 9th circle of hell! I can't run to save my life, but last week started a pilates course, and am still sore! I might need a wheelchair by the end of it.

Grr to all the FB pregnancy announcements; there should be a 'hide for 9 months' button!

also meant to say fx merkin!

Please can someone slap me?

I am 11dpo. I have an extremely extremely small chance of conceiving due to bloods and lack of dtd this month and yet I'm freaking out! Desperately want to be pg, no hope of being, just want af to come so I can move on but she's not due til Fri or Sat. WAAAA!

It's crap, isn't it, the waiting. Would taking a test make you feel better?

Yeah it might do, as then a bfn might just kick me enough to realise that I really am out of the running. I have a FRER at home which I was saving for when I really thought I might be in with a chance....

thunder completely understandable. I'm here with you going crazy too if that makes you feel any better? AF due Friday for me as well as I'm losing the plot. AF cramps already started so I know it's on it's way but the crazy part of me is still hoping!

I understand completely. It's kind of like, you're desperate to know, but afraid in case it's neg, but then again if it's neg at least you can get your head around it, cry for a while and then get on with things - just a running list of pros & cons that can be paralyzing.

Last cycle, I decided to do it Merkin-style and do a test a few days before AF was due. Weirdly it actually made me feel more in control, and seeing the neg hurt (badly), it went down a little easier since I had had less time to build up the "OMG I think I'm pg this time" hopes. Up til then, every cycle I refused to test, bc the one time I was late and honestly expected a pos, it wasn't, and the disappointment was crushing.

I have a FRER I'm saving too, but the ICs were a godsend last time - just a thought. the 2ww can be brutal and anything that cuts the time down is a good thing, IMO

Thanks guys. merkin can I pop over and nick one of your ics?!

yorkie are you going to test early? I don't normally do it unless I'm going out boozing or something but am definitely going nuts this month. Not so much the whole of the 2ww but the last week is crap!

sidney you describe what I mean really well. Maybe it is time to find a stick and wee on it. In the morning. There's a pound stretcher in town- I wonder if they do cheapy tests...

I'm a chicken and won't do it until I'm late. I've only got a cb digital anyway so not sure how good that would be for testing early compared to a frer.

Actually I have to on Friday anyway as I've got my first acupuncture appointment that eve so I would need to know. I'm going in the next cycle with as much ammunition as possible (acupuncture, b6, epo, flax seed oil, opks, temping) tad obsessive maybe?!

If you want to thunder do it!

No I don't think digis are suitable for early testing actually, you're right.

It would be best to wait for Friday at least for me too but if I'm going to be freaking out this much I'll do it before. I have lost my cool! as if I ever had any

So, I tried to have a gentle chat with my teacher today. I went along the lines of, 'are you ok/feeling more positive after the holiday?' And then, 'what can I do to support you more?' And made a few suggestions about getting the laptops set up for him for ICT etc. He made noises about me tidying the classroom and keeping on top of that and said he'd come to the conclusion that he needs to care less in order to get through....I kinda think that's the problem
then proceeded to have an hour and 15 minute maths lesson that was spent playing times table bingo. Yes, the whole lesson was the starter. He cocked it up by letting them choose too many numbers and using 5 different times tables. There was no winner. He did tell them that he'd do it differently next time. God only knows what we were supposed to have done.
I'm going to attempt a chat every day this week, getting more and more pointed. Then give it a week to sink in. Then go to his boss.

merk glad you're feeling positive and made the decision about the tests.
yorkie I don't think you have to know whether or not you're pg for acu. My therapist said that nothing she does would be harmful anyway. Just in case you didn't want to test early and were only thinking of it due to that. Might be worth calling to check beforehand?
thunder and sid, I'm with you on the wanting to know thing. It makes life much easier in a lot of ways.

cats thanks for that. I have no idea about acupuncture or what to expect!

For all you ladies 35 yrs and under going for IVF there is a clinic advertising in the London metro offering free IVF treatment for egg donations. The clinic is called lister fertility clinic if you want to research it. Quote reference: Metro Life I've no idea how good the clinic is just thought I'd flag it up to anyone interested.

sorry I meant free IVF in exchange for egg donations. It sounds too good to be true doesn't it?

Wow that's one hell of an offer yorkie. I wonder how many eggs they take.

charming well done with your patience with that twat colleague.

I imagine they can't 'buy' eggs from women, yet they can charge those who need them, so they probably off set the cost of the IVF? Only a theory!

I had a bad moment today. I've mentioned before that pg colleague doesn't get to me as much as she might as her size means it's not obvious she's pg. Not any more . She's now 6 months and the bump is obvious, but the first time I saw it was when she stood up at the back of assembly. I was stood at the front, leading the assembly, and it totally hit me . Really wasn't prepared for it and standing in front of 240 children and all the teachers is not the best time to start crying. No idea how I carried on cheerfully when I wanted to run to the toilets and bawl my eyes out. I suppose 11 years of teaching has given me enough experience to take a deep breathe and put on that happy face no matter how you feel inside.

And then I went to tescos and walked past a stupid car sticker saying 'best mum in the world on board'. I'd like to think a jury of berries would let me off if I had smashed the car window in....

Evening. My last boring pee stick update for this cycle. No lines this eve, and this mornings squinter line now looks grey like and evap. Think I'm out. Tomorrow I will book tests and no more pimping for me as no point. Would like opinions of which first set of tests I should be aiming for (and remember I get charged a consultant charge each visit so the more tests I cram in per consultation the cheaper it is!)
Off to do some tidying etc then will be back later to catch up. Hope you've all had a good day devoid of pregnant ladies

Sorry to hear that you had a tough day Barking. I definitely have days when I am fine with the situation and other days when I just want to hide from everyone and cry.

I have everything crossed for you Merkin that this is a sticky one.

Technically I am in the 2ww (or in my instance the 8 day wait). AF is due Friday but I did ovulate a bit later than normal so really hoping that it doesn't turn up before Sunday. My LP is already short enough

Unfortunately been having mild twinges for the past three days and seem to be getting worse so feel AF will be arriving Friday if not earlier. Does anyone else get mild twinges between OV and AF?

As DH was away when I was meant to OV this month, I really thought in my crazy TTC mind that it was meant to be my month when OV was delayed and we could DTD at the right time. Sadly I don't think it is going to be the case.

I think I fall into the same category as you Yorkie. I won't test until AF is late. I did in the first few months but found looking at blank tests so much harder than AF arriving.

Sorry Merkin I think we crossed posts. Sorry to hear that there is no line today. i think you are wise to wait now and see if AF shows. i have my fingers crossed that it won't though!

Ouch barking I hope you have some indulgence this evening after being whacked from a height too many times today.

merkin what do you think is actually going on there (if of course this isn't your bfp? Cps? it's bizarre. Sorry I don't know about tests as I failed the blood bit but I'm sure someone else will have some wisdom.

smooth yeah I get twinges between ov and af and they don't seem to mean imminent af arrival if that makes you feel any better. Doesn't stop me googling cramps plus bfp too though!

Thanks Thunder

I am forever googling symptoms for BFP and every month I think I have a new one. I remember reading once that needing the toilet regularly was a symptom so I spent the next few days downing litres of water trying to convince myself that my increased trips to the toilet were because I was pregnant and not just because I was drinking a ridiculous amount.

Sadly the only symptom I have this month are the mild twinges and they are always what I link to AF. That said, I guess it is not over until she reliably turns up on CD26.

No it's not over til she comes. The month I got my bfp (ended in mc) I had no symptoms until 2 days before af due when my boobs got so sore. Had to clutch myself to walk down stairs!

Bah barking. Never good when you're pootling along managing well and suddenly you get stealth-bumped. Might I suggest and or is that not currently an option?

Have a hug sorry to hear it's not looking good this cycle . It's a pretty cruel trick your body's playing on you. Which blood tests does the private consultant offer? I have a friend who went through private IVF and I remember her saying there are some tests that the NHS didn't even bother with and that she'd never have her daughter now if she'd not had them privately, but I can't remember the name of them...I'll check for you.

charming your colleague sounds like a plonker. Here's hoping your chats can knock some sense into him although it sounds like a lost cause

yorkie I have acu and she's said she won't do any harm if there's an unexpected pregnancy. I love her, my second session was today and she was so positive, she gives me hope where the doctors only give me utter black despair the brush-off. (Also she shares my opinion that GPs are rubbish at dealing sensitively with ttc-ers). I'm going back on Fri, because she's determined to stimulate ov before cd35 this time! Cd6 at the mo, so here's hoping for a normal cycle...!

Am feeling godly because I've just been for a waddle run with the dog. Hopefully it will offset the bag of depression-fudge I ate last night Had a heart-to-heart with DH last night about how upset I am about the whole ttc thing, and ended up having a really good chat about how it's all tied up with my weight and eating issues as well, in as much as I feel guilty about not being perfect with regards to wine/puddings/stuff I shouldn't be eating when ttc, and it makes me feel like it's my fault we're not getting knocked up because I should just be drinking spinach juice and doing tai chi. Long and short of it, he's bloody marvellous, made me feel a lot better and is helping me train for the 10k I overoptimistically signed up for next month. So feeling good! Off to gobble homemade chilli and read my new Zita West 'how to get knocked up' handbook