TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

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Welcome aboard ladies (though obviously sorry you have to be here). We're a friendly bunch so come in and plump up a cushion for POAS Fridays and lots of posifrickingtivity. With a few (gentle) fish slaps thrown in for good measure.

Hugs to those with bfn's, 2014 sounds a great time to have a baby.

My positivfricking is if we get going next month, we will be at heavyset stage of pregnancy in cold winter so not to hot, and when we are starting to emerge from panic of newborn it will be spring!!!

I poas'd yesterday and bfn but as AF hasn't shown up yet since ERPC will carry on on a Friday till it does!! (I have lots of sticks:))

It sounds like there are some scary mc's going on out there - hope everyone comes through physically ok, so they can start to pick up the pieces.

God, One, that sounds terrifying! {{hug}}

I feel sick as a parrot right now! There is no justice in this world if this isn't MS! I'm also getting prickly boobage and my ovaries ache! AF due Tuesday. I'm not going to be happy if she shows up!

saggy I'm crossing everything for you too, sounds like you have good reason to be hopeful.

OneLittle That sounds horrific, hope you are OK now! Look after yourself, please tell me that you're not going to work next week!

Rock When I had my ERPC back in January, I didn't bleed at all afterwards, but then suddenly started again about a week afterwards. So it's still possible that yours is a delayed reaction.

Saggy Oooh, that sounds promising! How long are your going to resist poas?

So, after not being able to get out of bed this morning because of the horrendous pain, everything was fine again in the afternoon. Spent some very satisfactory hours hacking away at our overgrown rosebushes, very therapeutic, but not sure they will recover
But then, very unexpectedly, I passed what only can have been the embryonic sac earlier this evening (yes, I fished it out the toilet and examined it - I had to know!). And although I'm feeling sad, I'm so so relieved that at least the waiting for this is now over! I had been so worried that I'd have to wait weeks and weeks, like last time, and then still have the medical or surgical procedure. But now I at least know what stage I'm at with the physical process, which really helps (it was like that last time, too). So, hopefully, I can start drawing a line now and relax a bit.

Just saw this thread and wanted to post some posifrickitivity...I am lying in bed next to my beautiful 2 week old who was born a year to the day that I started to suffer my last miscarriage. I still cried some tears for my lost baby when I realised the date the day after labour, did get caught up on the actual day. So just to say it is possible and you will still be sad for lost babies but you will eventually get to hold your LO in your arms. I was discussing this with a friend (currently pregnant after suffering a missed miscarriage in August!) and we genuinely feel quite lucky to have suffered a loss as it really makes you appreciate the pregnancy and all the rubbish symptoms that go with it and without a loss you may just take it for granted, so definitely take some positivity in that, every day of your pregnancy it does make you more worried you will lose again of course but you will also cherish every day and every time you're sick as you know this time it is working!!

Best of luck to you all and happy 'trying'

OLTT that sounds v similar to what happened to me with first MC and it was v frightening. Hope you are coping ok. Please take some time off to recover even if you tell them you've got D&V or something.
Jbrd hope you got some sleep and are being looked after. Roses are tough, they'll be fine, people not so much and need some cosetting!
Essex congratulations on your new baby and thanks for posting, we need some encouragement to keep the faith at the moment.

God OLTT that sounds horrific, poor you. I'm glad your dp took you to a&e when he did. You're very brave not to have told work the truth, but make sued you take the time you need to recover and don't go back any sooner than that xxx

Jbrd I'm so very sorry for you too xxx

saggy fingers crossed. Have you done a test this morning?

Thanks Jbrd - it's faded to very light spotting now so I think you're right and its a delayed reaction - hopefully that means I can start counting down to AF/BFP soon :) Glad the gardening was therapeutic, baking tends to work for me but sadly not so good when trying to lose weight!

Saggy fingers crossed for you.

OLTT so glad you went to A&E when you did - take it easy hun, you need to let your body recover.

MrsExcited I like that logic! My DS is a March baby and it worked perfectly like that, so hoping we all have lovely winter/spring babas.

jbrd I'm planning to go back to work on monday. But I have a desk job so definitely nothing strenuous. I'm with you about feel relieved that it's all over. It's a sort of closure for me. Btw, how did you know it's a embryonic sac? The doctors described the clot as liver like, which is pretty accurate. And they say the sac is totally different.

However, I'm taking full advantage of doing nothing at home though. DH went to get us a M&S meal deal last night - a chicken balti, some roasted veg, and profiteroles. It was really good. He's going to do the cooking today too. I'm just sitting on the sofa watching tv .

I saw my sac, OLTT, and it was unmistakably that. Pale in colour, right shape, with tiny cord sorry.

Hope you have a relaxing day x

Hope you don't mind me posting here still and checking up on you all.

essex I know you mean well and im pleased to hear of your happy outcome. But after what I've been through I will never feel 'lucky' for having lost my DS and all the truma it caused physically and emotionally.

Thanks for the finger crossing. I'm not POAnymoreSs until at least Tuesday, Friday if I can hold out. I did on Friday and ^possibly got the faintest line you could possibly imagine if it wasn't just the watermark, then yesterday and got nothing. It's really early, and I'm not going to torture myself because its pointless. I got really early BFP last time, but it was ectopic and that messes with your hormone levels. I'm also not going to get my hopes up.

LB I thought exactly the same, but I know Essex is only trying to help. Even having had a MC and then a rainbow baby I still wish I'd never lost the first one. Of course now I wouldn't be without DS2 but equally I would have loved the unique baby that I lost, and after 3 MC lucky is the last thing I feel.
Saggy keeping FX for you. Stay away, witch!

essex I really love hearing stories like yours.... It's like a shining beacon and the end of our deep dark tunnels, it gives you that "if they can do it we can" feeling. Thanks so much for sharing xxxxxx

Essex thanks for sharing your experience - I find it comforting to hear of people coming out the other side with a happy outcome.

We have had another busy weekend of birthday celebrations - turned 29 yesterday - last year of my 20s - where did that time go???? Currently 4dpo - stay away AF!!!! X

Hi everyone. CD1 here and I have a hangover. Feeling positive though- I have so much to be thankful for in my life so I'm going to eat chocolate and remind myself that there is plenty of good as well as all the shite.

I appreciate Essex's message, and her honesty. We are not all going to feel the same as we're all so different and have had such different experiences. It is good to hear of a happy story to keep our hope alive.

Fx saggy

thunder you have a hangover at 5 o'clock? Respect. I just couldn't do it anymore - too old for all that. I have a good feeling for you about this cycle - your thyroid levels are only going to need a tiny tweak in time for ov and a BFP is coming your way mid-May for a January baby.

Ahh thank you south tins. Yeah hopefully this month or next I'll be back on track. Ibthinkbthe reason why I still have the hangover at this time is my age!

When is your next appointment again? How are you doing?

Well we have DTD this weekend so I'm officially back on the 'am I, aren't I?' TTC rollercoaster

Just had someone from my original NCT group email to say she is expecting 2 days before what would have been my EDD. I know a few people expecting in Sept now as they are all just announcing it after good scans, it is so painful

Now stay away all you AFs, we need some BFPs round here!

I'm ok. Have had samples taken for all the tests but now have to wait until June for next appointment with consultant, it takes a long time to process some of them. Limbo city.

I thought you said June, tins, that is rather a long time. Do you feel better that you're in the system now or is it still horrible being in limbo as any time?

Well done guff, but stay away from the emails!

Really didn't mean offence baking and little, lucky is probably the wrong word, you are never lucky to lose a baby but I meant turning a horrible negative into a positive that it allows you to really appreciate the process of pregnancy and when you have your babies, which I'm sure you will and you have to believe you will to get you through this, the loss makes you truly cherish that you are in fact lucky with the end result. Sending you all messages for sticky beans very very soon!

None taken, Essex don't worry. We know what you are trying to say. Enjoy your new LO.

Hey thunder. It felt better initially to be "doing something" but now it's a long wait to see if there is anything comes of it. I'm not sure how I'll handle the most likely outcome which is "we can't find anything wrong so there is no specific help". If they do find something treatable that gives me more hope for next time, and if they find something that means we have no chance of a successful pregnancy then I'll deal with that. The in between is difficult to know how to handle.