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TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

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WillSantaComeAgain · 02/04/2013 13:49

Welcome aboard ladies (though obviously sorry you have to be here). We're a friendly bunch so come in and plump up a cushion for POAS Fridays and lots of posifrickingtivity. With a few (gentle) fish slaps thrown in for good measure.

OP posts:
fod27 · 19/04/2013 19:27

Help me I've started symptom spotting already....nasty spots on chin, lots of thick discharge (tni I know) and cramping ....eeeeekkkk

Emki · 19/04/2013 19:42

Hello ladies well done to those with bfn for being so positive this morning
fod good luck with this months testing and lb well done with all the dtds
thunder so glad you're being treated better - tlc goes a long way
Good luck to saggy and chocolate and kater
lb those are the exact emotions I had when ttc inner wren my two mmc - what roller coaster!
aly you never know if you've timed it right don't beat yourself up about it

Fish slap to tins and good luck this month!

I'm still waiting for AF!!! 81/2 weeks!!!! Ggrrrrr!!!

Emki · 19/04/2013 19:44

I must proof read! Hope you can work out what I meant!

LittleBairn · 19/04/2013 20:20

I've got fairly painful cramping, if I didn't know better I would think I was coming on my period. It's almost putting me off DTD but there is no way DH would let me he's determined I'm getting pregnant this cycle.

emko wow that's a long cycle, I can see why you would get so fed up waiting.

ldt87 · 19/04/2013 20:25

Hey everyone, been away a bit, not really had anything positive to contribute for a few days.
I have got my ovulation tests today so need to get my head around them and wait for my period. We have been having regular sex, but I don't expect to fall pregnant that quickly. It took us ages the first time.

It's 3 weeks on Sunday that my miscarriage started. Not sure when to expect a period. I have seen people say count cycle day one as first day of proper bleeding, which was the Monday so I would be at day 18 at the moment.

I got a negative test by the Friday after my bleeding started. Not even a full week.

Hope everyone is good and if anyone has had good news then congratulations xx

Emki · 19/04/2013 20:32

ldt87 sorry you are here and hope you get some posifrickingtivity from the ladies here!

i had a mmc 8 weeks ago. Hope you are ok xx

ldt87 · 19/04/2013 21:24

Hi Emki, I'm not too bad now thank you. Just mega aware of the enormous amount of pregnant women and babies everywhere!

If you don't mind me asking, how did your cycles return after your loss? When did you get a period? Xx

Emki · 19/04/2013 21:36

I'm probably the wrong person to ask as I'm still waiting!!! Going into epau on Tuesday if still hasn't arrived ... I was 8 -9 wks pregnant - but there are ladies on this thread whose AF arrived much sooner x

I know what you mean - everyone i see either has a bump or a newborn!!! Xxx

LittleBairn · 19/04/2013 21:37

ltd I think the average is 4-6 weeks after MC. For me it was about 5 weeks even after having a late MC and weeks of post natal bleeding.

CamomileHoneyVanilla · 19/04/2013 22:35

hey ltd87, my AF was exactcly 6-weeks post first day of mc bleeding. But ovulated the next cycle if that helps and returned to normal cycle after.

ChocolateCremeEggBag · 20/04/2013 00:06

Ooh littleBairn - is the cramp more on one side? Could be ov pains? (Mittelsmerz?) keeping my fingers crossed for you

JBrd · 20/04/2013 07:51

Good morning, ladies, may I re-join you?
It wasn't meant to be - like last time, I made to almost 8 weeks, but then started spotting and bleeding. A scan on Thursday found no heartbeat Hmm

And now I'm doubled over with the most horrific back pain and stomach cramps, just took some paracetamol. Hoping that it will all be over soon.

This is my second mc in 4 months. Life is just sh** sometimes.

Bakingtins · 20/04/2013 08:00

Jbrd I'm so sorry to hear that. It's so shit that anyone should have to go through this even once, but multiple times is so cruel. Hope you are getting lots of hugs. Sad

LittleBairn · 20/04/2013 08:19

JBrd I'm so sorry that truly is shit.

Mummytothearkbuilder · 20/04/2013 08:33

Jbird - I am so sorry hun - bakins is right, once is awful but multiple times must be just truly deveatating. I hope you are getting lots of love, care and support xxx

Fod - re the cramping - I ovulated this week and also got some quite strong cramping but have read that ovulation pain can be quite strong - fingers crossed!! Xx

alyant79 · 20/04/2013 09:40

JBrd I'm so sorry Flowers
Nature is so cruel sometimes

Thundercatsarego · 20/04/2013 09:44

Hi everybody.

jbrd I am so sorry. Absolutely gutted for you. There just aren't words to describe how unfair it is. A big hug for you- take the drugs and then do whatever you can to be kind to yourself.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 20/04/2013 11:00

JBrd I'm so sorry. That is absolutely fucking shite! {{hug}}

GuffSmuggler · 20/04/2013 11:42

Hi all,

Sorry to see you here jbrd, I haven't been here long but as lovely as these ladies are it must be awful to return Sad I hope you can get through the physical side asap, I'm so sorry.

Sorry also for the BFNs but glad to see such positive attitudes here. There seem to be quite a few in the tortuous waiting zone so let's hope for some BFPs soon!

Right, I've FINALLY had a couple of clear days with no bleeding since the ERPC so I might dare to DTD this weekend I guess that's a good place to start on a TTC thread Grin

Rockchick1984 · 20/04/2013 12:22

So sorry Jbrd

Guff how long ago did you have your ERPC? Mine was 10 days ago, didn't bleed after so we tried DTD after 5 days but it hurt Sad I think I was just tense as I was nervous, so the following night I had a bottle glass of wine and it was fine, not painful but I got quite emotional afterwards.

Typically I've now started bleeding. It was quite heavy last night and this morning, but have rang the hospital and they said probably just my body decided to have a delayed reaction Confused as there is no funny smell so hoping desperately I've not got an infection!

GuffSmuggler · 20/04/2013 13:24

Hi rock it was over 3 weeks ago, I bled for ages so annoying Angry

It might be your AF you never know? 10 days seems a long time for a delayed reaction to the ERPC!

Rockchick1984 · 20/04/2013 16:33

Didn't think of that Blush I presumed it would be about a month until AF arrived! Did a pregnancy test this morning and it was the faintest line ever so think I can safely say I'm back to negative on them - have been testing every couple of days. Was strangely very upsetting to see, obviously I knew it would be happening but felt horrible to see.

Good luck with DTD Guff!

OneLittleToddleTerror · 20/04/2013 19:42

Evening. DH dragged me to A&E after he took DD to nursery. We had a little incident in the hospital car park where an idiot told us off for parking our car where we parked it. We saw the car park through another row of cars. He was parked a long way off in the row where the space was, but obviously oblivious to the space available. Maybe some other nicer people would have gone out of their car and tell him there is a space available further ahead?

Anyway luckily we didnt, because just after I left the car, I could feel a whole gush of blood came out, and my leggings were soaked through! I touched my bum and I could see blood on my hands. If we had given up our park, I would have soaked my car seat. At A&E we were seen by the triage nurse immediately and then got put straight through. I guess having a blood stained bum helped you get noticed in A&E. (I was left waiting for 4-5 hours with my last mc and that was why I was reluctant to go). Long story short, the tried to clear my cervix twice but the bleeding didn't stop. So I ended up with in ERPC in theatre in the evening and stayed overnight.

I'm all ok now except having to take iron tablets for two weeks. I'm glad it's all over.

fod I know what you mean by not wanting to tell work. I am on a permanent contract but even that I just told work I was sick yesterday. I didn't tell them it's a mc. I took annual leave for all my scans and appointments. If they know I'm ttc, I'm sure they will think I will be off to maternity anytime soon. I hope they are right but we know things aren't that easy. It will take away any chance I have for promotion or pay rise if they think I'm going to take a year off anytime soon.

jbrd I'm so sorry you didn't get a happy ending this time. Maybe 2014 will be our lucky year. And yes, year of the horse is a lot better than year of the snake isn't it?

OneLittleToddleTerror · 20/04/2013 19:48

rock I'm inclined to believe it is delayed reaction too. Otherwise isn't it stranger to have ovulated and than an AF in such a short period of time?

guff good luck on starting to ttc again. I might wait for a real AF to return, but maybe I couldn't wait that lomg!

LittleBairn · 20/04/2013 21:40

one (hug) that sounds like an awful experience.
I had a hemorage too it's a frightening experience, you may feel a bit shaky about it all for awhile be gentle with yourself.