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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Nerthus · 28/01/2004 00:57

Is anyone doing this at the moment/has done it recently?? I'm in the middle of my first go and finding it quite stressful...

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BeckiF · 11/04/2004 17:52

Thanks Cookie I'm aware that it may never work and that we only get 2 free egg collections of the NHS, but I MUST be positive. And as I said, I'll be no less disappointed no matter what happens.

You said you had a number of goes Cookie. Can I ask if they knew why you had to try so long? Was it an age/health/weight issue or simply just 'one of those things'?

CookieMonster · 11/04/2004 18:14

Becki, certainly during the latter stages it was an age thing. I was 36 when I had my first attempt and produced about 15 eggs and it was 'just one of those things' that it didn't work, but by the time I had my 6th I was 40 and only produced 3! They told me before I started cycle no 6 that this had to be my last attempt because I was on the maximum dose of drugs - and, miracle of miracles, it worked!

miracleabie · 11/04/2004 20:37

hi becki
i was told to loose weight too, the same day that i found out i wouldn't be able to concieve naturally. Bit of a double blow, so i really sympathise with you. There are so many other factors however i always think it is a good thing not to just focus on one thing. I have tried really hard to just eat healthily- loads of fruit and stuff instead of concentrating on getting thinner.( I started buying the fancy ones which cost a lot , so it feels like a treat.)I am also trying to deal with diabetes which is a major factor in my ability to get pg and the Diabetes Dr. is obsessed with me doing other stuff, so I'm getting it from all sides.
Don't let passing comments get you down- people can be so thoughtless or are just doing their job I guess.Wish i could send you a big basket of blackberries.

bayleaf · 11/04/2004 23:17

Hi again,
Hello to Miracleabie - glad to hear you've got lots of follicles - I've learned over my several cycles never to take anything for granted! I can quite understand why you might have a sense of humour bypass though - the drugs don't really tend to improve one's frame of mind in that respect in my experience!
Often there honestly isn't a reason for ivf failure - by spending so much time on ivf dedicated boards I'm a bit of an expert, it really is just a lottery - but then if you don't 'play' you can't win - so we venture onwarsd adn upwards and keep buying the tickets so to speak. Good luck !
And Becki - I've only ever had sedation for my 4 egg collections and they have been absolutely fine - a bit of period pain like discomfort afterwards that you can take pain killers for - but I slept thru 2 of them !
I'm just starting Down reg - EC should be early May.

miracleabie · 11/04/2004 23:42

hi bayleaf, thanks for nice message. Hows the sniffing going? I got really bad hot flushes in the middle of the night.How about you? Lots and lots of luck anyway. It is only my second time , but I feel much better this time. sending lots of positive vibes

BeckiF · 12/04/2004 00:10

Thank you ladies We have to ring the unit next TUes/Weds to find out the Docs reccommendations, then we just pick a date I guess!!

miracleabie · 12/04/2004 18:30

oh no feeling vile today.Just been to pre conception clinic and Dr was very hard on me about blood sugar results ( which i thought were quite good considering). Feel totally cut to shreds and cross 'cos i hav been really trying hard. thought he could have been a bit more supportive. maybe I'm just being oversensitive.hate feeling negative like this as it has got to have repercussions.?

bayleaf · 13/04/2004 23:58

I don't understand Miracleabie - what do blood sugar results have to do with anything - am I being thick or is there somethign I don't know that everyone else does??? ( Sorry, haven't read whole thread- suppose I should have, am trying NOT to get too addicted to MUmsnet having 'cured' my previous (BAD) addiction and am only 'popping' back rather than spending HOURS here.
Whatever it's about -I'm sorry you're having such a hard time - you really don't need it right now!

miracleabie · 14/04/2004 17:54

no no - it is beacuse I am diabetic as well bayleaf- don't panic. my blood sugars are supposed to be perfect if i want to concieve on top of everything else. So sorry to panic you- I was just venting.

bayleaf · 14/04/2004 23:40

OH, I see - yes that makes perfect sense now - I was trying to think how blood sugar could be relevant to ttc from the hideous depths of my experience ( too many years spent hanging around on ttc threads ) and couldn't think of anything!
Had my first jab tonight so I feel like I'm really on the road now...

miracleabie · 17/04/2004 15:19

Hi bayleaf. how are the jabs going? I have another scan tomorrow should be the final one.Feel so bloated at the moment- can't fit any trousers at all.DH keeps referring to me as the sturgeon.
How much longer do you have to go? I started my jabs on 1st April which just seems like eons ago. I am on 'high'dose this time, but can't say I feel any different.
Hope you are OK.

Cll · 17/04/2004 22:59

Quick update on my friend and bad news. She didn't get pregnant. She has one more try in a couple of months (she paid for three goes for the price of two ie £7500 but with drugs and ICSI it's still an additional £2000 every time - a nightmare for anyone but she's single and broke). Anyway trying to stay positive but she's 42 in July....The getting pg on sixth cycle is encouraging but scary at the same time. Has anyone heard of some laser assisted fertility treatment - something to do with laser thinning of the embryo shell helping implantation? I read about it and was thinking of suggesting it if this next cycle didn't work - supposed to be good for older women? Feel a bit of a fraud getting so caught up in this as it's not me going through it, but she is my best best friend and it's almost as if I can't enjoy my children if she doesn't have one too. My heart goes out to all of you trying and I wish you all the very very best. Will no doubt be back for the next cycle..they say she has to wait at least two months....

bayleaf · 18/04/2004 20:24

HI Miracleabie - glad to hear you haven't got any hideous side effects from the higher dose - Dh's are such a comfort when we're feeling fat and stressed aren't they??? When do you estimate EC to be? I'm still miles off - down reg scan is 10 days away.
Cll sorry your friend had no luck...- look on CARE-ivf.com for the advice that you need on assisted hatching - I'm no expert ( I asked about it and was told I didn't need it so went no further )but plently of people on there are.

miracleabie · 18/04/2004 22:23

hi bayleaf, howsitgoing?.Scan was OK today, also good as there was nobody else there at all, so we had DR. all to ourselves. Seem to have lots of follicle so heres hoping for some decent eggs on Thursday morning. I think ET will be Sunday if good news. Dh has taken the week off and is making tea and doing sympathetic faces, so not too bad. Plan to clean the house from top to bottom tomorrow to stop myself going mad.Not looking forward to thurs and occyte removal as i found it really sore last time. Still hope its quick and at least the house will be spotless when i get home! Final Pregnyl injection tonight. Why is the bloody needle SO HUGE!!!!!

OldieMum · 19/04/2004 00:39

I've just booked a frozen embryo transfer for this cycle. I had dd after 6 attempts at IVF, but have had no success with the two frozen transfers I've been through in the last year. Wish me luck, please! Good luck and warm thoughts to all going through IVF at the moment.

CookieMonster · 19/04/2004 14:16

all my best wishes and positive vibes to miracleabie, bayleaf, oldiemum and anyone else currently in the throes of it all ... hugs CM xx

bayleaf · 19/04/2004 14:30

OH Good luck Oldiemum - it IS all just luck I'm convinced... When do you reckon the ET will take place? Mine should be early May.
Miracleabie - hope Ec isn't too bad for you - I have to say it's always been a non event for me apart from one time when I had cramps the next day ( and that was the time I got OHSS later on...) I can't remember my pregnyl needle being any different - but it certainly stings more than the rest!
Anyhow - I should be marking unit tests not gossiping on here - thank heaven the CARE-ivf site is 'down' or I'd not get anything done!

BeckiF · 19/04/2004 15:27

Found out we only have to wait 1 week for our drug appt so as soon as i lose some more weight we will be in our way too!

Cll · 19/04/2004 17:44

Thanks for the site bayleaf - I'll take a look.

Good luck one and all

OldieMum · 19/04/2004 17:48

I think the ET will be in early June, as I've only just booked in.

miracleabie · 20/04/2004 00:50

hi everyone.
Oldie mum, beckiF, Cm Cii thanks for all messages and masses of luck to you all at your various stages. just a waiting game now i guess for me.Just really glad to be off the meds at last. Bayleaf- i got it all mixed up and the needle wasn't that bad. They gave me a big one for mixing it up with so thank goodness.....
Off to bed now as I am exhausted and have to be at the clinic for 7am. think good thoughts.....

BeckiF · 20/04/2004 16:30

Well miracleabie how did it go? Are you a-ok? I hope it was good news ... come back to us when you've recovered!

CookieMonster · 21/04/2004 11:06

miracleabie, how are you doing today? Hope EC wasn't too bad for you - will be looking at tomorrow for ET? Best wishes CM x

miracleabie · 21/04/2004 13:34

Hi everyone. Feeling sore and knackered. Occyte removal was successful but really painful this time for some reason. Got 8 eggs and 6 are grade A this morning- so I guess the pain was worth it. Feel excited now and very pleased that bit is over. God it is such a roller coaster of emotion. I couldn't stop crying yesterday- a real rush of hormones, but today feel sore but emotionally OK. ET on Sunday morning. Thanks for all support- it really means a lot.

CookieMonster · 21/04/2004 13:53

miracleabie, 6 grade As - that's brilliant! I know exactly how you are feeling at the moment .. kind of excited and scared and worried all at the same time. I really wish I'd known about Mumsnet when I was going through it cos I felt very alone. Good luck for Sunday - how many embryos will you have put back? Big hugs CM xx