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IVF

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Nerthus · 28/01/2004 00:57

Is anyone doing this at the moment/has done it recently?? I'm in the middle of my first go and finding it quite stressful...

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BeckiF · 02/02/2004 15:58

Well done! Lots of love and luck for the transfer! Remember to relax and think happy thoughts!

Blu · 02/02/2004 17:06

And Nerthus, join in some of the other threads as displacement activity while you're waiting!

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Nerthus · 02/02/2004 19:25

Thanks very much everyone for such kind thoughts! Had my transfer today and it was fine. Worst bit by far was waiting for it to happen while desperate for a wee. Not so easy to put 'em back when one has one's legs crossed... Now just lots of progesterone to encourage them to stay in there!! Will keep you posted.

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Quackers · 02/02/2004 19:42

Good luck for the next week or so Nerthus. I'm amazed at this!

MammyShirl · 02/02/2004 19:56

hello
lots of eluck sent to you!
my sil went through ivf last year and is due her twin boys in a few weeks!!!!!!!!!!!!:0
she was told she had a very very small chance as her body was menopausal. she also had a ovary removed. they only managed to get three eggs from her, two survived and thank god they decided to stay in mummy and will be here very shortly! it was her first go too! so stay positive and imagine a baby growing in there! thats what she would do. i will pray for you too. ivf is not easy, i di dnot know how painful it is. i feel for anyone that goes through it, you almost have pregnancy/labour twice! women are so strong - imagine men going through all that? hee hee GOOD LUCK AND HOPE TO HEAR YOUR GOOD NEWS SOON - KEEP US INFORMED! :0

OldieMum · 02/02/2004 23:47

I've just seen this thread. My dd was born after my 6th attempt at IVF, so I can imagine how you are feeling now. Try to take things easy. In my experience, the first week of waiting isn't too bad, but the second week is hard. If there is any way you can take a couple of days off just before the test, do so. You may get pre-period like cramps in the second week, but I had them both on the failed attempts and when it worked.
I'll be thinking of you - warmest thoughts.

Marina · 03/02/2004 13:50

Nerthus, BEST of luck over the next week...I know from two friends doing IVF at the moment that you had a very good result there, I really hope it works out for you!

kagsie · 09/02/2004 21:55

Nerthus, well done on clearing your first week. I hope all is OK. Keeping everything crossed for you.

motherinferior · 13/02/2004 13:24

Thinking of you, sweetheart. How are you? MIxxxxx

CookieMonster · 14/02/2004 16:22

Nerthus, you must be close to your pregnancy test now .... how are you doing? Do keep us posted. love CM

150percent · 16/02/2004 18:23

Any news yet? Thinking of you.

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Nerthus · 17/02/2004 23:45

Thank you for your thoughts - that's SO nice of you all! Well, I don't quite know what to think really. Yes they did the blood test on Monday, and said there was some HCG there but not very much, not as much as there should be, SO this could just mean it's a bit slow and it will improve and be fine, or it could mean the pregnancy isn't viable, for whatever reason. I have to go back next week for another one to see if there's been any change. So I'm in limbo. I had a tiny bit of spotting on Monday and thought oh hell this is it, it's going, but it stopped and there's no sign of any more since, which I guess is a good sign, but I'm baffled! Has anyone else been A Bit Pregnant??? Better than Not At All, but again, it could just be a case of so near and yet so far! Which is what happened to me a few years ago, that I lost it almost as soon as the test went positive.

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bunny2 · 17/02/2004 23:50

Much luck to you with this pregnancy. I really hope you strike it lucky.

aloha · 18/02/2004 01:53

I have everything crossed for you Nerthus. I really hope this baby is for keeps. Good luck to you - earth mother ( I googled Nerthus out of curiosity!)

Marina · 18/02/2004 13:11

Oh good luck Nerthus, I really hope it works out this time.

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Nerthus · 19/02/2004 00:23

Thank you again everyone for your lovely positive messages. Unfortunately, I've started getting cramps and more spotting as of this evening, so I have a horrible feeling everything's about to fall out. Am feeling none too brilliant I must say.

As for the name - yes Nerthus is an ancient British Earth/Fertility Goddess so, well, it's aspirational.

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kagsie · 19/02/2004 01:32

I truly hope that it is not what you think it is. I had spotting and was going to give up the medication but was persuaded not to by the unit nurse. It's so hard this part it so truly is in the lap of the gods and there is nothing that you can do, or should have done that will make any difference. I can't offer much encouragement - the first time it didn't work; the third time (with the same symptoms - including the cramps) it did... and the cramps carried on right through the first three months. I so sincerely hope it works for you. Thinking of you.

CookieMonster · 21/02/2004 15:03

Nerthus, my thoughts are with you at this difficult time .... I know exactly what you are going through. I really hope things work out this time, but if they don't you mustn't despair - there is still plenty of hope for you. Waiting to hear what the definite outcome is before offering advice on 'next time' etc. Big hugs from CM xx

Blu · 21/02/2004 15:08

How are you, Nerthus?

kizzie · 21/02/2004 15:45

Hi Nerthus - thinking of you.
Whatever the outcome dont give up hope. I was a 'second timer' and one of my friends was a 'third timer' plus neither of us had any eggs left over like you have.
I know thats no reassurance at all at the moment - but try and hold onto the hope.
Kizziex

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Nerthus · 22/02/2004 23:26

Thank you all for such nice supportive messages. It's lovely of you. Sadly however, I've lost it. I bled heavily all through the weekend, there's no way anything could still be in there.

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Kay1 · 22/02/2004 23:48

I'm so sorry it didn't work out for you Nerthus, thinking of you xxx

aloha · 23/02/2004 00:11

I'm very, very sorry. How sad and awful for you. Please look after yourself now.

maryz · 23/02/2004 01:20

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motherinferior · 23/02/2004 10:57

Oh darling. Take care, please. I'm so sorry. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx