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buzzybee123 ·
17/03/2013 13:01
afternoon ladies
sar I truly am so sorry that it didn't work, give yourself time to grieve first, in a little while you'll see things a bit clearer and you can make future plans. I think perhaps a trip to the GP for you both might just help you through this difficult stage.
lemon sorry that it was your month, its tough when everything seems to be pointing to one thing and you let yourself believe that this is your turn
madness sounds like a good plan, rest up and look after yourself. I ama great believer in a tidy house tidy mind 
critter yay to swishy hair, it is amazing how having your hair done can make you feel so much better.
euro have a safe trip hope you its not too exhausting for you
well I have barely been awake for an hour 
have just finished breakfast I got an annoying headache/migraine yesterday but feel a bit better today, just tired although the cough seems to be a bit better. I'll see how I feel tomorrow about going into work, should really go I suppose.
My boobs have been sore for about 23 days and counting spotting since cd19 a mixture of bright red and old stuff I know I'm not upduffed but not sure what is going on with my hormones and my moods. I did spend sometime looking on the adoption threads last night, lots of things I haven't really thought about to be honest, oh well it will soon be Easter
buzzybee123 ·
17/03/2013 13:15
x posts with gin hope your little fur baby gets well soon, mine just enjoys being a little monkey, when are you booked in for ET??
pout I did try the germolene sp? cream and she just licked it straight off although Barry did laugh at the t shirt idea. We do have one of those collars but think we are both a bit scared to try and put it on her. Will try cleaning the area again though, thanks for the advice, hope you are resting up
joy the clinic emailed me a prescription and a list of UK pharamcies that will take the prescription, when I emailed them, he emailed me back from his private email and on his day off, I called the pharmacy and they were really nice and helpful, they will post it out to me recorded delivery. A lady on the FF sight said one of the other pharmacies was going to charge £40 for postage, mine is just £8, they are in East London, the depot shot is costing me £85, I know I can have intralipids in Brno for 100 euros where as NLC charge £350 
.
So far it has been quite easy to organise and not really stressful
joycep ·
17/03/2013 13:15
Oh Sar i am so so sorry. I'm just so sad and gutted for you. You need to do what you feel is right at this moment to help you get through the next few weeks. I hope the small things like cooking and gardening help. It's totally none of my business but I just can't help but feel that some new eyes, a new perspective on your history would really help you and MrSar and to give you both new hope. It's when there is no hope that we feel just so lost and our worst. From a by standers position (albeit i'm being nosey), it just seems you're too young for this to be it especially when you consider the quality of your embryos. Repeated implantation should be something that is fixable - there has to be a reason for it. Perhaps you need aspirin and clexane or perhaps you do need to explore the immune route. I know this just opens up another can of worms and obviously there are financial considerations so forgive me for mentioning it all at this time. I just feel so sad and frustrated for you and wish I could help you both.
Lemon - oh bloody hell what an absolute head f^ck, How many dpo are you now? I just really hope that it's too early to test.
Critter - that's wonderful you have got your hair cut. I haven't had one in about a year and it looks a mess. You've inspired me. I haven't had highlights in 3 years because i didn't want the dye to mess with my fertility but I think it's time to realise that a few hightlights won't stop anything!
Madness - i'm glad you had a good clean of the house yesterday. It's surprising how much happier in can make you.
Well i survived baby day yesterday. I was fine whilst I was there but did feel incredibly low when I went home last night. When our gay friends said that it was amazing to have a baby after such a long long drawn out journey, we sat there and smiled and said 'yes, yes , we know'. It has taken them all of 18months from deciding to use a surrogate to having a baby in their arms. I think Roy and I had the same thoughts about that comment 
[lucky b^rstads] Anyway I just keep feeling slightly desperate about our situation. I know we are doing as much as we can but it's quite hard to deal with things when the feelings creep up. Home alone today so am trying to clean some cupboards to keep busy and avoid depressing thoughts. Oh the glamour!
buzzybee123 ·
17/03/2013 14:03
joy there are pros and cons for overseas, for us cost is a big factor, for DE IVF here ista around £7000 + to go to Brno it will cost us all up about £4500 including flights food sightseeing and accommodation for about 8 nights and treatment. We are making a bit of a holiday but some people fly out there and leave the sperm to be frozen then the woman goes when its near ET time stay about 48 hours and leave. There is another clinic there with a name like reprofit, sounds like car stuff to me that also has a good reputation, if you look on FF they have loads of boards about overseas IVF.
I liked the look of Care and they have clinics in the north, our closest would be Northampton so we would still be travelling, they did do egg sharing of DE. I know Serum in Greece is about the same price as Reprofit
ThatWayMadnessLies ·
17/03/2013 17:28
Don't worry sweet I'm sure that no one was offended or upset. Sorry that your cycle is mucking you about. Surely the tests can be repeated with just a quick visit and you won't have to wait too long?
free so sorry that your glimmer of hope has faded. You did well to go for the visit with the new baby. Go easy on yourself. I still look forward to getting to have a cuddle with my friend's babies but can be caught out.
buzzy I love the sound of your ivf holiday 
. I wish that I could go sightseeing after treatments instead of trying to squeeze them in at 8am and still get to work before the children turn up 
. That said, my boss is really understanding so I will be fine to take the time for EC and ET. Just wish that they could tell me now when things will be happening so that I can let people know and plan ahead. I don't do well with the last minute stuff...
Sounds like we were both tackling cupboards today joy. The Tupperware is now all organised and matched with lids. I wonder how long that will last . I hope that you're feeling a bit brighter. The wait is all relative isn't it? I remember feeling like 6 months was such a long time to be trying and that a year was disastrous. My perspective now is so different. I hope that if your friends knew what you were going through their perspective might change as well.
sar I hope the brisket is going well. I have made a huge veggie lasagna that shall do lunches for much of the week. It is one of my favourite comfort foods.
gin your cycle does sound über frustrating. I always had mid cycle bleeding but ovulation (according to opks) was always pretty regular. I have my fingers crossed that it will all settle down for you in the nick of time so that you can relax and get on with things.
buzzy I have also been chatting to friends who adopted and taking a peek at the adoption threads. I am a fair way off being ready to seriously consider it but it makes me feel so much better to know that I have a firm plan b if ivf doesn't work. And even if ivf does work (and we have no frosties to try) I would be happy to adopt a second in a few years. I have no intention of putting myself through a full round of ivf for a second child. I need to get my body back and step of the hormone rollercoaster.
Big waves to all the people that I've missed but must get back to rl for a bit!
lovesLemonDrizzleCake ·
17/03/2013 20:12
So sorry about that free. Well done on managing the visit!
Hurrah for the embie on board pout! And definitely stuff in the freezer too. Wow.
Also sar sorry I posted so selfishly immediately after you. I did as buzzy said believed this was it. A get out of jail free card that we'd chanced upon. Since the BFN I've done a bit of googling and cycles can get out of wack by as much as a week so we'll wait and see what comes. I decided that I might as well drink. But a bottle of wine in addition to lots of wailing has given me a sore head now. So it's back on herbal teas. Annoyingly my lying boobs still ache like mad and it ain't properly clear until the fat lady is here. joy it is either 17 dpo, probably not then, or about 10-ish. Sadly we'd stopped sechsing pretty much by then, as it was for fun and SB got busy at work.
Well done on the tidying joy and madness, very impressed. A fair bit of that will need to be done here this week as we have a friend staying over in our flat while we're away and SB did mention we shouldn't leave our tottering piles of paper. Thankfully she is a close friend, so I can leave my gonal-f pens in the fridge without much worry.
The Brno-IVF trip does sound like good value for money buzzy. And much better to do it with both of you. It won't be long now, right?!? How exciting.
Sorry your cycle is playing silly buggers too sweet. Hope it will settle soon. I so hate it when it does that :(
Waves and pets to all of you. Hope the week will improve for many of us!
buzzybee123 ·
18/03/2013 19:25
evening ladies
sar you are an organised lady, I felt a bit relieved when I was diagnosed with high nk cells as I felt i gave an explanation
free its probably best to get hings checked, I did have bleeding at the beginning of my second pregnancy and thought i was all over straight away. Not trying to give you false hope. Well done on seeing your friends baby
euro I hope you have managed to get some sleep and will be able to meet up with critter and her swishy hair
gin my 'symptoms' would be interesting but I don't trust my body which is a good thing as AF turned up his morning and yet still my boobs are really sore
pout how are doing??
Well AF has arrived 4 days early, I am waiting for the doctor to email me back with my final instructions. I do think its reasonable value for what we are getting. We have EC on the 6th May and ET either 3 or 5 days later. This is our first time to Brno and will probably be our overseas holiday for this year so best make the most of it
I have told some of the senior staff about IVF today as I hink its only fair hey have the heads up, also one is a nurse so thought she might be able o help wih any injections. A patient also gave me a thank you/birthday card and gift today which was nice, I have also ordered some new tops to try on as I feel I should have something nice and new for my upcoming big event
The adoption threads have just made me realise that there are alot of hings I should be thinking about, things they talked about were co sleeping and discipline. Two things I had not thought about. I suppose when you adopt youi miss those months of pregnancy and early development when you'd discuss things like that. I also hadn' thought much about TTC while adopting, some women said they were advised not to.
waves to all you lovely ladies
ThatWayMadnessLies ·
18/03/2013 20:37
Evening ladies. Quiet day on here today.
sar your organisational skills astound me! I have a fear of phone calls and ringing up new places especially. Well done you for getting so much moving so quickly. I agree that getting the wailing out of the way immediately is probably a good thing. When my best friend had her second baby (when we had been trying for a year) I completely fell apart. Cue hysterical tears and gulping sobs. I had been so utterly convinced that I would be pregnant before that baby was born that I couldn't cope with it. Once I'd had my epic breakdown I was able to move on. I've tried really hard not to set any deadlines for myself since then. I'm trying to just roll with the punches now. We'll see how I manage that with ivf looming....
Very jealous of euro and critter with their meet up. I sat in the clinic this morning wondering again about meeting some of you in rl. I am sure that my mental images are very different from what you all actually look like .
I'll be a week or so ahead of you buzzy. I am hoping for EC Around April 26th if all goes well. One upshot of taking these downregging drugs is I don't have to wait for a period to know when I can start. They have given me a date and I just hope that nothing comes along to derail us.
gin I get that panic too about our child free friends. There are so few left now and I think it's inevitable that the remaining few will be pg soon. We do have some single friends though so it is unlikely that they'll be pg in the near future - especially since most of them are men
lemon when are you off on holiday? I hope that you're doing alright.
Big waves to sweet, joy, mrsd, doll, pout and free as well as anyone else that I've missed xx
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rabbitonthemoon ·
18/03/2013 22:12
Flying on as busy busy on a countdown. I'll be heading east! Sar huge hugs to you, your plan sounds excellent. Lemon bums about spotting. High temps do seem to derail a cycle. Pout I've got everything crossed, including my Fallopian tubes Critter sorry mil has been nosing. Flish your shiny locks at her! Jel of the stateside meet up. Free sorry about the near miss. They are hard on the emotions. Madness, hold in there there is time for follicle action. Continued loves to joy and euro.
I remain feeling horribly barren and shrivelled. But I'm putting my thermometer and frets aside for a fortnight and just being. The next 6 months will bring new answers, some of them probably hard so I need proper head space. I've never properly has this in over 2 years so in hoping I can do it.
Huge loves to all 10 plussers wherever you are in the journey.
Cosmos I often think of you too. There is always a space for you here x
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